Jan 2008 - I´m 3 and I own the world

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

So she has 3 under 3 and a half Wow she is what one would term a "soldier" from where I am from.

Hi ladies... a small and shameles plug for my Great North Swim effort - see me on facebook or inbox me for more details. I have a JustGiving page but the address includes my "real" name. .cheery x

Have seen it Ange and waiting for pay day so I can donate. Good luck.

Good luck Ange!

Can some of you ladies with older ones reassure me. Sabela has just moved playgroup. I did it partly for funding issues and partly logistics, and partly because some of the boys were giving her nightmares. She's settled brilliantly into the new one, but is really missing her old one. A lot of it is centred around speaking Welsh, which she loves, so I had the bright idea of lookking some up on the internet tonight. When I couldn't find her favourties she welled up and said, 'I'm sorry mummy, I just miss Catrin' (her old keyworker). Tell me I haven't done something horrible and what is the best way to handle it. I just explained why she moved - or the bits that would mean soemthing to her - and gave lots of extra cuddles.

LaT - I had to move M to a new playgroup in Oct as it was just too much for me to walk 20mins to drop her off, then come home and go back out to get her then come back iyswim.

She got offered a place only 5mins away (in childrens centre within J's school, so easier to move her to the nursery school there this sept as they will integrate her iyswim)

Luckily I took her out at the right time as her old playgroup closed down 2mths later and there is now a massive waiting list for where she is now and a real shortage of playgroup spaces....

She still talks about her old playgroup and says she misses some of the kids/teachers there but I told her it was too far for mummy to walk and she accepted that reason for leaving. Did not tell her it has since closed down as I suspect that will go straight over her head

I think if you give them a simple reason as to why they had to leave (not even the truth, but something they will understand iyswim) that might help....

M also goes to a private nursery 3 mornings a wk (she gets her 15hrs there, I pay for the playgroup for the other 2mornings) and I have not yet told her she will be leaving in July. But tbh I am going to tell her she is too big (not strictly true as some parents don't send their kids to a nursery school but keep them at the private nursery) but that is nice and easy for her to understand and she will accept it

Simpsons advice sounds sound to me. I took E out of nursery last April but was easy to sell as he was going to be staying home with me or Shaz, but he did really miss children for ages. We would take him to the park and he would play for a few mins then sit down and want to go home because he said it was no fun on his own.

Will she be moving again soon with the 15 hr thing or school nursery or is this it till recpetion? If she isnt moving now until reception I would be tempted to say this is the big girls nursery if Simpsons suggestions dont work.

E hasnt even started using his free time yet. Lots of Camden nurseries have funding for full time places so he will be going 9.00-3.20 but isnt starting until September. Although he is aware he needs to be out of nappies before then ]

Love to all and Madmouse, congrats on the Confirmation.

Thanks. She'll be staying there until she goes to proper school (which is next door) in September next year. We did pass it off as school as lots of children at her old nursery had just moved up to school and she was envious.

She loves it. She walks straight in without saying bye and gets stuck into everything apparently. I've asked them to speak Welsh to her and she likes that.

Our other problem is that she is so tired afterwards she's not good for much playing. Lots of TV. IS this normal? She's going for four hours every morning, which isn't actually more time than the old one but more days IYSWIM. She slept until 9.15 today. Took her in at 10 as they are very relaxed there and she wanted to go.

p.s. Daniel is (almost) walking (ie. leaving the furniture and going for a couple of metres waving his hands in the air grinning his head off)! How different is that to S!?

Any tips on two sharing your attention? DS won't let me play any games alone with DD - he's always joining in and is very physical; DD won't let DS play any games with us both. Managing it, but tips would be appreciated!

Oh God LaT - I remember those days with my two, I feel your pain!!

What worked with me was emphasising that J was the big boy and he had to "help" M learn things iyswim.

Tiredness I think is normal as she is probably mentally tired now iyswim. I know M is more tired when she has been at her private nursery rather than playgroup as playgroup more play lead and nursery more learning ie flashcards with numbers/letters etc....

Have just thought of something else that helped...

I think its very important that both DC know they have toys that the other is not allowed to take off them iyswim.

So if S is playing with her favourite toy (ATM for M its babies and dressing up) so J is not allowed to touch those

And for J he loves his marbles/marble run so M is not allowed to touch. So they feel they have some stuff sibling cannot snatch etc....

Harder with v young ones, I know!!

Thanks Simpson.

He's just so gung ho about evrything, he can't understand why DD doesn't want to play. He is roaring jelaous aswell though. Every time S and I cuddle he roars until we stop.

Hi, been a bit awol sorry.

DS1 got a new, shorter cast on his leg yesterday, looks much easier to move around although he's feeling a bit tentative about using it yet.
H is doing really well, chatting so much, and copying everything we say now (eek!). He's done 1 full day at his pre-sch, starts on 4 full days from Mon. House will be very quiet without him & i'm sure he'll be knackered. Hopefully the intense input will be worth it.

M is a star, she managed a 10-3 sleep last night so we're both feeling almost human. She's growing so quickly & piling on the pounds, have started putting her in 3-6month clothes & exchanging gifts that are less than that. 98th percentile

I'm quite happy with myself too, she's only 4wks old and i'm only 2 stone off my ideal weight. I had 3stone to lose when H was 6months old! Not that I'm doing anything about weight loss/dieting yet of course but it's nice to know i managed to behave myself better this pregnancy :)

Hi JKS - wow on the 4wks already

M had a hearing test on thursday as I have been a bit concerned about her hearing so asked HV to refer us for testing...

She definately has problems She cannot hear vowel sounds properly so they want to monitor her every 4mths but she may need grommits like J

J went on his first school trip on thursday (to Hampton CT) and got homesick He was in a group with 4 other kids and one of the kids mothers and he told her he wanted to go home, which is quite brave of him as he does not normally say things like this to strangers....

He was then moved to his teachers group (male teacher who J loves) so he was chuffed

J's teacher (we call him the rock star as all the kids totally love him and want to touch him whenever they can )

However, I mentioned the subject last night that J will have to say goodbye to him soon and he will get a new teacher as he will be in yr2 from Sept, cue massive sobbing attack He is very attached to this teacher as he is v hands on etc, and what with J not really seeing his dad I think he has got attached to his teacher instead iyswim Teacher is leaving at end of the yr to go back to Oz

Went to waggamumma's last night and M ate something which I think had soya in and she has reacted very badly today Hope it has not undone all the good work with dairy etc

Also my mum texted me today (she is in Italy visiting my youngest bro) and apparently ex MIL has invited herself to come over with H in June FFS I doooo not want this woman in my house

Oh Simpson, that's not a good day. Hope you managed to relax in the evening. Do you have to allow MIL (and H?) to stay in your house? Sorry if I'm forgetting something. It does seem beyond the call of duty.

Poor J. It's awful when they have to change.

ANd how is M's bottom today Was the gromets operation quite straightforward with J. Not nice, but he's been fine since?

Simpson you are well within your rights not to let this woman in your house. If you want to be fair on her (more so than she deserves) meet up with her in McD or the park or something. If you think it is in kids' interest that is...

what has annoyed me about it is that H texted my mother to ask if his mother could come Did not ask if I minded

TBH it might make things a bit easier as he is more lilkely to behave and not refuse to get plane back etc (which is our main worry)

I don't think its in kids best interests to see her tbh as she is quite nasty to them (esp. J) and H is more likely to ignore kids (he has not seen them since spt last yr ) if she is there too

However I do think this is the last time he will see kids really as the next time he fucks up (which he will, that will be it)

It would have been it this time too (when he rang pissed a few wks ago) excpet he had already booked flight and did not trust him not to come over if he had already got flight iyswim.

Good news today though M has got a morning place for the nursery school I want to send her to from sept

They are doing a home visit in July sometime....

Can I persuade you ladies to sign this, please?

Petition to restore funding for Breastfeeding Awareness Week

Has anymore happened, Simpson?

gah, lost post. summary:

simps - sympathies.

thrush, ouch.

JKS - hope it heals soon

Nothing to report here, H will call tom eve (supposedly ) so will "have words" then

J broke up for half term today (teacher training tom) and they have a lovely dentist appt to look forward to tomorrow If they are good, I might take them for a happy meal

Unfortunately when I picked M up from nursery yesterday her teacher had to have words with me as M had hit her and lain on the floor screaming for 20mins, all because she wanted to carry on playing and not do "learning" (ie flashcards)

Thanks Simps. Gosh M really is a determined little soul isn't she?
Must try your patience though but just think of the fabulous feisty & independent lady she'll become!

LaT - had also said (but lost the post) that i feel conflicted about that petition. Perhaps my local experience of the non-event that is BFAW has coloured things but i'm not sure it's the best way to spend money. Of course i have no idea where the money will go instead (probably not involved with BF, grr) and i do believe BF needs more support (financial & otherwise) just not sure that's the way to do it. Does any of that make sense?

M slept in her lying-down-rocking-chair-thingie from 9-12 :) then in bed with us until 2.30, faffed about until 3.30, then up at 5.30.
Woke H then, who woke T, grr, so she & DH are still in bed whilst me & the boys are downstairs.
I may go back to bed later though :)

I can understand that JKS. I'm not an enormous fan of some public health campaigns. I do feel that there is an unmeasurable cost benefit to the NHS in bf, due to the higher rates of illness in FF children, so a couple of hundred thousand in awareness raising is beneficial, particularly as awareness has been raised. Of course, alot of these things are unmeasurable. Also, formula companies seem to feel advertising (awareness raising) is beneficial, so I don't see why it wouldn't be for bf. I read once that each baby born in the UK has £24 worth of formula marketing directed towards them as opposed to 14p for a breastfed baby from govenrment. I find this something of an unfair fight, if there is a public health benefit and awareness raising works.

It's the new infant feeding survey that is said to show that awareness ahs been raised. Not published yet!

Did I persuade you? Or rant at you