Jan 2008 - I´m 3 and I own the world

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

Great news for J's parents evening.

So sorry to hear about your friends baby though. I expect after 4 months you feel the worst has passed.

Hello everyone.

I think we are all on FB so you all already know that Emir finally made an appearance - 13 days late. Brief birth story if you feel so inclined.

Went in for my induction and they checked me over and said I was abotu 1cm dilated, they gave me the gel at 1pm and left me to it. A few tightenings etc but no immediate labour as it was with DS2. Anyway 8pm the night shift come on and the MW gave me an exam, she did a horrendous sweep whilst she was there as she said she could just get to 2cm. Anyway after said sweep went for a walk about the hospital - Royal Free has sooooo many steps. Was contracting all the the time and getting stronger and havign to stop etc. Got back upstairs and asked for some pain killers. Got back to my bed and waters starting trickling and I had to lean over the head board to get through the contractions. I was trying really hard not to make too muh noise as it was the ante natal ward. MW came back to examine me and I was 4cm and ready to go to labour ward. Got there, got my gas and air and 1 hr 39 mins later Emir was born. It was a little stressed towards the end as his heartbeat dropped and there were four MWs and DH all holding my legs up yelling for me to push. He had the cord round his neck but all was well.

It was the most amazing experience..... I think because we have already decided that this was our last baby I really tried hard to embrace the experience. I instantly knew when his head was out and felt his shoulders come out and was so pleased that this time I didnt even touch the pethidine (although I did mention it at one point then talked myself out of it). Had a great team of MWs and just feel so blessed.

He is 4 days old now and we are doing quite well with the BF just taking each day as it comes. The boys absolutely adore him and S just stares at him for hours. I have been a bit teary yesterday and today and have cried loads.... I really forgot about all this emotion.

Sadly good news comes with bad news. My nan has been ill for about 2 years now and is now critical. She got moved to a hospice today so my mum is a bit of a mess.

Thanks so much for all of you thinking of me.

Nice to hear from you Lucky!

It sounds like you had a very good birth MM considering it was an induction! I love the pictures of all your boys. What a lovely family !

Simpson :( was it your friend or the baby? I am struggling somewhat with some bad news as well. I would find it really hard to post details on here, it would seem insensitive right now. It's not personal, it's a friend's bereavement, but I feel a bit haunted by it TBH and I know that one of my best friends also feels really affected by it too & I'm worried about her too. My boss gave me some advice once, not to take on other peoples' tragedies, but it's hard when you have seen joy turn to sorrow unfolding before your eyes as it has played out quite publicly on Facebook.

Oh, It's so easy to take our little ones for granted when really they are all so precious. Life is precious!

DS is quite good with numbers and can get quite absorbed in construction toys. Daytime naps are now a rarity.

Ange - it was the baby

funeral is on sat

M is not good at all at playing by herself, she is quite into her happyland school house, peppa pig figures and her toy kitchen but she has the attention span of a goldfish

Have had a few wee accidents the last couple of days as she says "I was too busy to go to the toilet"

Forgot to say well done MM

Glad BF is going well

Hey,

Sound like things are going well MM. You sound like you have got the right attitude to bf. Hope it's going well.

I put a recent pic of Danny on my profile if anyone's interested. Impossible to photograph that boy smiling! Every single picture of S has her smiling, but Danny, no.

Sounds lovely MM - a wonderful induction story after all the nightmare ones you hear. I'm glad you had a happy experience and good luck with the BFing.

Simps - we have that problem. I was too slow, I forgot. Generally ok but she's had a bug for a few days that OH has had and now seems to be passed onto me so I can forgive her for her accidents at the moment.

Nothing terribly exciting to report other than my own little happy accomplishments. I managed to BF to 1 year old, am just starting to wean her now. We've had 3 nights now where I've put her down without feeding her and she's just turned over and gone to sleep. She's TERRIBLY clingy tho which I think is my fault. I realised that I had such issues bonding with Ali that I pushed hard with Abi and now have a child who won't go to ANYONE else! lol

Oo. Sorry Mixedmama - it was a lovely birth story. I really enjoyed reading it. Looking forward to updates.

Lucky - don't beat yourself up. I swear they come from the womb with their little personailtites fully formed! Well done for the bf! AND for putting her down and he going to sleep. I dream about that - if I ever get the chance!

Don't worry I'm not beating myself up. I'm very pleased that I've done what I've done. Just came to the realisation a few days ago that she's clingy cos I'm clingy! lol

Congratulations again, MM and thanks for posting up the birth story - I didn't think FB was the place for it! I love the name Emir and the pics are really lovely- looking forward to a coffee with you (and him!!) fairly soon :)

Simpson - we had the 'oh, i forgot' thing with DS quite a bit when he first started nursery and got distracted by playing. I think its quite a normal stage, so don't worry. All (belated) congrats on the lovely feedback for J on parents evening :) :)

Lucky - well done!!! I'm very impressed by the 1 year bfing :) Mia is also super clingy (9 mo now) which is very wearing but hopefully will stop once she can control her own environment more....but I know what you mean! I'm trying to enjoy it anyway, as I definitely am not doing this again....

Tamara seems to be coming to the end of her 'easiest child in the family' period and has developed The World's Most Disgusting Whine (TM). Sigh. Still lovely in-between but the tantrums and whining are quite impressive Hey ho...we knew it wouldn't last :)

How is everyone? Quiet ATM.

Hope JKS is enjoying the last few weeks (sounds sacrky but that was actually the best bit for me. I hope it's the same for you!)

Mixedmama - sending calm baby vibes your way. Hope you're all doing well.

DD has chicken pox here. She is not ill AT ALL, or shows no signs of it. She just has about 15 spots so can't go to nursery and bags of energy. Fortunately lots of her friends have just had it, so we've got lots of playdates on. In fact, one friend and I are alternating days at each other's houses as both our DDs have it at the same time. It's nice. DD is a bloody ox though. Nothing of her but she's seemingly invincible.

Hi, I'm around, just very tired.
Not helped by sodding DH rolling in late last night having had too many to drink, then snoring like a, well i dunno what! I gave up and moved to the sofa at 4am. He has apologised but cuts no ice with me!!

H is poorly, again. Another simple cough & cold for the rest of use, major hassle with asthma for him. Been to docs today and left a message with the asthma nurse. Hoping calpol & max inhaler dose gets him through the night.

Oh and don't you just love clock change time?! boys still awake at nearly 8, though they are getting up later but makes school mornings a bit of a rush.

Roll on next week when everyone breaks up for the holidays & baby can come :)

agree on the clock change - this has been the worst yet for disrupting bedtimes.

are you all ready JKS? :) hope H has an OK night...

where did my post go?

Don't know! How are you?

Thanks H was ok-ish, up for inhaler once but then awake chatting for ages

Last night he was much better but up early
And I just couldn't sleep.

I think we're mostly ready but then i think of things in the middle of the night (like wrapping the little presents from the baby to its big brothers!).
I'm aiming mentally for next week when we have no school runs to worry about :)

MrsMc - i don't know either, how are you all doing?

Mixed - hope baby E is settling in well and his big brothers are happy with him.

Hoping to listen to a hypnobirthing CD later (& probably fall asleep lol), was leant it ages ago and not managed to listen to it yet.

Morning all.

EVerything going well. BF has fallen into disaster once again. I wont bore you with the details or the crazy emotional me, suffice to say tears a plenty.

Otherwise we are all well. Just so much form filling with a new baby (amongst other things), update this and that, birth certificates, passports, census forms, student finance forms.

Trying to get organised aswell, so have been having a look at the good housekeeping threads and Fly Lady trying to create some kind of schedule. Thinking about a bit of exercise, just my exercise bike for the minute I think, but cant wait to get started on my latin/ballroom dvds and so want to get a zumba dvd - looks like soooo much fun.

Planning the 5 mile walks with my cousin again although with E in sling this time, just not sure how happy he will be for 2-3 hours.

JKS - everythig crossed for you. Although I am not having anymore, should it ever happen I plan to state my due date to the world as 2 weeks past what they tell me.

Hey ladies, thinking of you JKS!!

MM - wooahh! Slow down! New baby, you need to rest! Sorry to hear that BFing is a bit stressful, anything we can do to help you? I follow the FlyLady and can honestly say that it has made a massive difference to me since I started in August.

Feeling a bit low. X was getting on really well at nursery and he loves it. He often comes home with scratches on his face and always says that they are from the same boy, who he really likes, I guess they play rough. Anyway DH asked me to collect X today because he couldn´t understand fully what the teacher was saying this morning. Bear in mind that I go in every two weeks or so to check that everything is ok. Anyway they told me today that they are worried about X´s attitude. That he is a real attention seeker and will do anything to get their attention, good or bad. Obviously this is an issue for them as they have 17 others to care for too. They asked what he was like at home and I told them that he could be like that when he was tired but that most of the time he is happy to play with A or with me or on his own. He has lots of make believe games. They suggested that he was maybe jealous of A and that she maybe got more attention. I refuted that. She has been around since he was 16m and he can´t remember a time without her and I would say that they get an equal share of attention. They had no advice for me and I am really upset tonight. What do you think? Any advice gratefully received :)

LaT - How is S getting on with the CP?

Oh MrsMcJnr that isnt nice that they made you feel that way. I do think that children can develop jealousy though at any point. S has started for example complaining that E1 gets to stay at home all day and he doesnt and has even faked the occasional stomach ache. Do you actually think that that is the problem or do you have any other ideas? Did they specify exactly what it is he is doing that is worrying them?

Mixed - i have really tried to avoid telling anyone my official EDD in RL, unless pressed for the exact date.
Hope BF is working out for you, do ask for help on the BF boards on here, there are loads of great advisors.

MrsMc - i'm not sure what's best re X. If you are confident he's not suffering some delayed jealous reaction to A, then I think you need to be firmer with the nursery. Say he is not jealous & he has loved nursery but has had some issues with another boy there (even if they think they are friends it's not nice to be hurt by another child) so perhaps he wants more attention from them to make them realise there's a problem?
Plus it seems weird to me to tell a parent of a 3 year old that he's attention-seeking, aren't all 3 year olds?! None of them have really learnt the art of selflessness!

Well I'm 38 weeks tomorrow, went into labour at 38+0 with DS1 so who knows?! Loads of painful BHs so not sure i'm going to know when it actually starts anyway

H is fine, changing his asthma meds as he's had 3 'attacks' with coughs/colds in the last 6ish weeks. FIngers crossed the new stuff works.

Hi all,

Mixedmama - have you got those newborn adreneline hormones by any chance . I remember coming home with D and doing seven loads of washing because DH had had a vomiting bug he hadn't told me about while I was in hospital. I was bouncing off the walls. Sounds like you are too

MrsMc - I was thinking along the same lines. If the problem is at nursery that doeasn't mean it is home that is causing it. If you really think there is no issue at home, go back to them. Certainly bring the issue with the other boy to their attention. S went through a phase of being both obssessed and terrified with naughty boys at nursery. When I bought it up with staff (after ages) they had absolutely no idea how scared / fascinated she was with them.

Thanks ladies, you have made some really good points here. I had a good think about what you said MM about jealousy being something that can develop at any time and it made me realise that normally I am really careful not to let X know too much about what A and I have been doing in the mornings because I don´t want him to feel that he´d been missing out on any fun but since my MIL has been here for the last 10 days, that rule slipped a bit so maybe he has been feeling a bit sidelined on the fun side of things. I was shocked by what they said because I really thought he was a pretty well adjusted, happy little boy and it was horrible to hear that they didn´t think so. It doesn´t sound as if any of his behaviour is actually worrying them, just annoying them because they have to keep telling him off! Only last week they were telling us how clever he was because he could unlock doors with keys ? well can´t most 3yr olds so why do they leave keys within their reach?
JKS ? Hope the BH lead to something soon and that H´s medication change helps. Thanks for your thoughts on the X situation. Good point about the whole ?Pablo? thing, maybe I really should make more of an issue of that with them. Perhaps he is suffering at his hand more than we thought. Plus, so true,I have never met a 3yr old who wasn´t looking for constant attention either.

LaT ? really interesting about S and the naughty boys. I think you may have a point there. Thanks!
Have a friend here who is a child psychologist. She just so happened to be at the same party as us today and observed X playing. She said she doesn´t think we have anything to worry about in terms of his behaviour with other children and that she didn´t like them labelling him with the tag ?bad attitude? as he is only just coming out of toddlerdom. We are meeting in the week over coffee to discuss what to do now.