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mixedmamameansbusiness · 03/03/2011 12:59

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

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simpson · 27/10/2011 20:17

there is no way Molly can watch a whole film, the family joke is that she has the attention span of a goldfish Hmm

She can watch a half hour mini film ie The gruffalo.

She can't even concentrate for her half hr dance class and you can see her interest dropping as the class goes on

latrucha · 27/10/2011 20:22

You see, I find that normal. Friends telling me that their three year old is riveted by watching Transformers, I doubt.

madmouse · 27/10/2011 21:02

Nathan will watch a whole film (or this morning a whole DVD of pingu episodes...sigh) - because he just loves screens and things that move. We took him to see Cars2 in the cinema and he was spellbound to the end of the credits...

latrucha · 27/10/2011 21:55

She will watch Pingu all day of I let her! Or many DVDs. And me too. I haven't really tried her with a film at home. I was wondering whether to get some for Christmas.

Actually, now I think of it she has done some short films in Spanish. Hmmm. I also feel it's nice to save lovely films for later when she's older. Maybe that's silly.

simpson · 27/10/2011 22:29

I took J to see the smurfs last wk and did not take M as there is no way she would sit through it all.

Madmouse - I doubt J could sit through cars2 spellbound so that is impressive!!

Having said that if it is live its a different matter. I took her to see lazy town & milkshake when she was just 2 and she was hooked.

Have booked tickets to take her to a panto so will see how she is Hmm J will miss out as he will be at school.

But he has a momentous occasion that ange will appreciate, J is going to his first footie match next wk. Ipswich Town V Doncaster Rovers. He is beside himself with excitement Grin

AngeChica · 28/10/2011 10:33

Yay Simps. I haven't been on for ages sorry. Hope all well & had good half term. x

simpson · 28/10/2011 22:41

J finished his football academy thing today (which was run by an external company that is employed by J's school, they do PE with them once a wk - so J knew the coaches etc)

Anyway, at the end of it they have a little awards ceremony (1 kid gets a trophy & one kid gets a medal out of maybe 15 kids)

I turned up a bit early to watch J play as I have not been able to for the last couple of days and saw awards ceremony and coach said why they got it before announcing name iyswim.

Anyway medal went to player of the wk because they had been a team player and looked after others, progressed massively in the wk, being exceptionally thoughtful, passes ball, v good tackler etc... and it was J!!! He was sooo proud (I had to take M to the loo to have a little sob Blush) He was so chuffed esp after all the bullying stuff. But it was soooo sweet because he thought he had to give the medal back (in the footie club he did in yr1, run by the same people they had the medal for a wk) so his face was a picture when he realised he could keep it forever

Think it will help his confidence no end and tbh it was hard for me not to cry on the bus home when he said "mummy I'm not weak now am I??" Which is what the bully had kept saying to him....

JKSLtd · 29/10/2011 14:35

Oh Simps, that made me cry too! YEY for him!!!

H has started a football thing that DH takes him to on a Sat morning, only been 4 times but actually getting into it now. His consultant in GOSH told us that group/social/activity stuff was the most helpful thing we could 'add' to school (as he's there 5 full days anyway) so we really wanted to do it but couldn't imagine how it would work.

Anyway he's in the 2.5-3.5 group so a little out of his age range & they aren't especially SN trained or anything but the guys are fab (says DH) and he loves it now. loves his football t-shirt Grin

latrucha · 29/10/2011 20:59

Lovely to her about them both. Smile

JKS -did anything happen with school?

Simps - how does J seem about going back after half term?

JKSLtd · 29/10/2011 21:40

Yes LaT - can't remember where we'd reached, but Dh spoke to the Head and T is moving to the parallel class. Who knows what the repercussions will be with the other parents and I am stressing about it a bit. Want him to get back so whatever is going to happen, happens IYKWIM?

simpson · 29/10/2011 23:06

Lat - J seems fine about going back to school, he is looking forward to seeing his friends.

There is a group of 3 boys who have been inseperable since nursery (the mums are best friends) and it has been quite Sad to see him try to get into their group over the last 2yrs or so as they have been nice to him but not friends iyswim.

Well, one of the boys is having a birthday tea on monday after school & is allowed to invite the other 2 boys round but has begged his mum to be able to have another child too and has chosen J!!! he is beside himself with excitement about it Grin

simpson · 29/10/2011 23:08

Forgot to say, community police are going into J's class some time next week to talk about bullying etc (over what happened to J) as the teacher said it was v serious etc which I am fine with as long as it is not mentioned they are in because of him iyswim and they keep it general (which I think they do anyway) and they do team building exercises and talk about how someone might feel who is bullied etc.

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mixedmamameansbusiness · 30/10/2011 11:18

Wisdom needed ladies.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1331803-Is-he-being-unsupportive-or-am-I-imagining-it

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madmouse · 30/10/2011 14:14

MM I don't like AIBU so I'd rather answer here. You do not sound unreasonable and he does sound very unsupportive. It sounds indeed like someone else said that he thinks you've jsut got yourself a very time consuming hobby.

Before this have you always done everything? Is it new to him to have to do his share of jobs? (well it still doesn't sound like a fair share tbh).

And I wonder if there is a cultural issue going on, is he uncomfortable being seen caring for the children or maybe downright feel he should not have to?

Well not sure that matters, fact is you have a 21st century Equal Ops partnership and he needs to pull his socks up.

latrucha · 30/10/2011 18:55

Mixedmama - Surprisingly, I think you're getting some good advice on AIBU, so I've not much to add. I would say that maybe their is an djustment yet to be made to you and your family's way of life that perhaps DH, or none of you fully realised when it was all theoretical. You do all have a lot on your plates and need to really work out who is responsible for what and why really thoroughly.

It took Dh and I a long time to work out a system that we are all happy enough with, and I'm not doing anything like a degree. In fact, the fact we are no longer struggling practically and emotionally is one of the reasons we may not go for a third child.

I do admire all you're achieving. It is alot and would take a lot of organisation.

latrucha · 30/10/2011 18:55

Sorry for typos.

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mixedmamameansbusiness · 31/10/2011 11:56

Thanks ladies.

We talked last night and I think we have ironed out the issues so to speak. He feels incapable of doing things seems to be the issue, i.e. he cannot make Em stop crying etc. We have worked out a way forward I think in terms of me feeling like I am not juggling everything and him not feeling like it is so hard for him.

Time will tell I guess.

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latrucha · 01/11/2011 20:19

Hi guys.

How's it going Mixedmama?

I'm just stopping in to say that if any of your children ever get into baby dolls, Baby Annabell version 5 (version 6, apparently, is rubbish - I have done my research) is AWESOME. She just arrived and I got her out of the box to check she worked and I want her!

Sabela is going to be beside herself.

Poor little lamb had a difficult day yesterday. I don't know if it is the same in England but we had INSET days on Monday and Tuesday, so S couldn't have her usual dinners. She was very upset at the idea of a packed lunch (really!) but I reassured her that everyone would have one, her best little friends etc. I walked in at 1 to pick her up and found her at a table with he rlonely sandwich box in front of her looking completely downcast The moment she looked at me tears poured down her cheeks.

Not only had she had to have a packed lunch, everyone else's mummy and daddy had forgotten and, having found out at drop off time, had to pick their child up early. Poor darling.

Packed lunches and all mention of them have been banned!

latrucha · 01/11/2011 20:20

Ooo also, I've just been given £50 worth of Argos vouchers and as I've got all the presents for the children already, I might just spend it on me Shock Any ideas?

It's enough for an ipod shuffle and i do want some sort of MP3 but really have no ideas what to go for.

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mixedmamameansbusiness · 02/11/2011 10:52

I have a shuffle. It is fine but I get bored really easily so even though it holds so much music in comparison to carrying around a CD I would prefer to get a better one. It is perfectly acceptable though, but I would put the £50 towards a better one.

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latrucha · 02/11/2011 12:10

Can I ask how easy it is to put music on it? Do you use Itunes? Can you put things from your own CDs on it? Could I get things from Amazon? I'm totally in the dark.

simpson · 02/11/2011 14:13

I have a sony musical player which my dad bought me last Xmas which was about £100 I think.

I did not get on with my i pod shuffle Blush Luckily I got mine free from sky.

Thy are easy enough to put music on though, although I tend to stick to my own CDs and save it on laptop then put it onto music player iyswim.

madmouse · 02/11/2011 20:39

LaT you download iTunes and that is what you use to put music on it. Only iTunes, nothing else. You can buy things from the iTunes store or use iTunes to rip your own cds onto it. My old shuffle was stolen last year and i recently bought a new one. I'm not that dead impressed. It is less stable than the old one and I find the revamped itunes software confusing and unhelpful. I would, if you intend to use it a lot, buy another brand.

simpson · 02/11/2011 22:37

have a look and see if they have a sony one as mine is fab, I love it. I use it every day!!!

latrucha · 03/11/2011 11:45

Thanks all.

I;m beginning to think touchscreen would be useful. Not sure I can afford it though. Had a fiddle witha friends one and scrolling through all the songs gets annoying, doesn't it?