Jan 2008 - I´m 3 and I own the world

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

having a bit of a nightmare with J, got a thread in bullying called my yr2 kid was punched in the head

Any advice welcome [hgrin]

Have replied - not helpfully! - on thread.

On a more trivial note, what do I do about this? Sabela's nursery is very keen on them going outside to play. They do so for a long tim every day if they possibly can. I'm all for this but they don't make the children put their coats on. They also have the heating on indoors. I've asked her to make sure she has her coat or ask someone to put it on, but of course she doesn't. I don't know how I can dress her for both indoors and outdoors if they don't make sure she has a coat.

Some of the kids were out yesterday with short sleeves on and it was very cold.

I have her wear a vest and jumper. Is this all I can do?

I'm trying to find lined trousers with an adjustible waist (because she is skinny) and roll up legs (because she is tall) but I can't find any. If any of you find them on your travels, can you let me know? Thanks!

Simps - read your thread. I think the advice received (somewhat harshly) is to go in and speak to the teachers and just keep an eye on the situation.

feeling a bit more positive today about situation re J.

J's teacher was not in today (she was on a training course) and they had another teacher who is the head of KS1 (so higher up iyswim)

Told TA briefly this morning what has been going on (and also a supply teacher who flits from classroom to classroom depending on where she is needed, she is very fond of Molly and I bumped into her whilst dropping off M and she commented that I did not seem myself so I told her, she was fuming and bless her went out of her way to make sure J was ok today at lunch)

Another mum of a classmate of J works at the school and knows the situation (told her at PTA meeting last night) and on the way to pick J up she said she has seen the 2 boys in question being kept in at lunch time and being spoken to by the KS1 leader.

I spoke to KS1 leader at pick up time and told her what has been going on but she was under the impression that it had happened yesterday for the first and only time so had to fill her in. One of the boys has admitted punching J and has been made to apologise, the other boy (main culprit IMO) said he did not hit J yesterday which he didn't but he has on many other occassions so KS1 leader is going to get the the bottom of it for me and seemed (fingers X) very on the ball saying what an asset to the school J is etc and she the will not tolerate this etc so guess all I can do is wait while she questions the boys to find out what has been going on.

Spoke to J today and said a teacher may ask him about it again and he has to tell the truth etc....

fingers X this is an end to it

(with apologies to Filly)

What do you thuink of this:

I went to the AGM of DDs playgroup with both kids today. Daniel practically took the place apart. I was so embarrassed. I had to keep hauling him away from things and he screamed every single time. He climbed chairs and rocked on them, pulled down signs, pulled something down from the ceiling (no idea how he got it); snatched scissors from a seven year old; went to town with the paints. In the end I made apologies and left.

I wouldn't have minded but it was the first time I've been. I don't think there was much more I could have done but so blush He's so physically confident for a child his age it's terrifying. Coupled with being one and so having very little sense of right and wrong and it was mortifying.

I'm taking him to a toddler group tomorrow. The boy needs to be socialised and fast!

Sorry SImpson. Forgot to say: sounds good. At least you've got support in school. Let's hope it works.

FFS Molly has com back with the nursery school bear for the whole of half term.

I have to take lots of pics of us looking "busy" with this bloody bear and because I don't have a digital camera or a printer go into town to develop some pics to stick the the book that comes with the bear

LaT - I don't want to generalise but tbh I think thats the difference between boys and girls. Boys seem to be a lot more physical, climbing on things, rougher play etc and girls just shriek & whinge M is constantly complaining about so & so not talking to her at nursery and this kids not her best friend because of XYZ.

Happy snapping Simpson

Lol Simps - poor you, sodding bear, who ever thought that idea up!
And glad you made some headway with school. I was so sad to read that about poor J, really hope there's no more of it.

LaT - yep boys can be crazy! Hope the toddler group helps.

Finally got DH to look at some castles online with me, turns out they have one at the Dads groups they go to that T loves, so we'll get that one, happens to be the ELC one which is one of the cheapest so that's handy. May look elsewhere for knights though as the reviews on the ELC ones are pretty bad.

H we'll get some football stuff as he goes on a Sat morning with DH and is starting to get more into it. The 2 guys who run the session are brilliant with H apparently which is a relief.

M will get a first doll from ELC i think and some clothes. Just need to get shopping so i can relax.
Did buy a tub of chocs and hid them from DH yesterday

Feeling a bit down at the moment, not coping when M doesn't go off for her nap easily, etc. She has woken in the night the last 2 nights and not gone off again until I fed her, haven't fed her at night for months so feels like a big backwards step.

Also PIL are here, brought T back from a week at theirs, lovely to see him again of course. but...one of her first comments was to tell me how well her other grandson (in Oz) is doing at school....he took some tests and got 99% in all of them. Oh i am so pleased to hear that
wtf? why tell me that? is she dense or what?!

(and, not being particularly nice about but...BIL & his wife (the one who doesn't talk to me) are not exactly the sharpest tools in the box, yet their son is so clever....grr x lots, and breathe.)

JKS - I feel for you but am probably too tired to give you a good answer.

But, it's got to be teeth with M, no? Try whatever remedy you like and see if it makes things easier, perhaps. All babies are going to have more difficult times, I guess. I hve fed D a couple fo times in the night recently, nd he hasn't really done it since he was 8 months or so. I was dreading it turning into a habit, butit doesn't seem to have. Can DH help out at all if it seems to get that way?

As for PIL, perhaps she's nto the sharpest tool in the box either.

Get the chocs out and have them now.

JKS - Grrr on the in laws, how insensitive

Had another meeting with J's school on friday after school and tbh they think the situation is so serious that they have called in the community police to come in and have an informal chat with the whole class about bullying, hurting peoples feelings and working as a team etc. So that is going to happen after half term

Having a few niggles with J at school work wise which tbh I think is probably to do with what has been going on etc ie he has not been able to concentrate etc.

Teacher said his reading is exceptionally good for his age but his comprehension/understanding is not keeping up with his reading level iyswim. Its hard because he is getting frustrated with the books being "too easy" but cannot answer all the comprehension questions about the story iyswim.

TBH I think they expect a lot from them in yr2 Roll on parents eve

Both DC were totally partied out today, J had 2 parties and M had one (with J) which was lively (but in a good way)

Taking J to the cinema just me and him tomorrow (the smurfs) which will be good for both of us, my brother is having M.

forgot to say have taken a few pics of said bear in bed with M and at the party today (was joint party friend of J with friend of M, so all the nursery children together)

One of M's best friends has her party next sat so will drag take it there too.

How's the bear Simps?

Cor bloody nora. I'd forgotten how full on Sabela is. She was up lots in the night I think she's got a tummmy bug or constipation - but she has not stopped one single second today, not one. I have enforced some quiet times today and she's done it just about but good lord, the girl is as strong as a rock.

She has always just wanted people, not toys, not anything else just people. If you're the only 'people' around its very difficult.

We survived though! More fun and games tomorrow.

bit of a WWYD???

I have a leap pad that I have bought for J for Xmas but tbh I don't think he will like it is you cannot play the games he wants for it (chess/checkers/card games etc)

Somebody suggested hanging onto it till nearer Xmas as I may be able to sell it for more than I paid for it. As they are the must have toy for this Xmas and seem to be sold out.

But I don't sell on ebay and not sure if its worth the hassle setting myself up to sell stuff just for this. Also it feels a bit dishonest but the money would come in handy Also I cannot afford to get J anything else till I have got rid of it

If you think he won't like it, sell it. Are you paid up to sell on here? It's £10. Ebay doesn't take that much trouble to set up. You do have to pay fees though.

no not set up to sell anything anywhere

He has a v tech smile and does not play with it much.

He saw an ad for leap pad on TV yesterday and really liked it (does not know I have bought it) but said he will not be able to play the games he wants etc...

Think he would like the camera aspect of it but not much more

Try local paper?

Preloved is another selling site I've used to buy things. It's just like an online Classifeds paper. It's only £5.00 to sign up.

Can you return it to the shop?

yes I have original receipt.

Just looking at reviews of it and am now confused

Think I need to sleep on it and decide what to do in the morning. J has always wanted a camera and tbh most cameras will cost more/the same as leappad.

Ahhhhh.

Wouldn't it be better to get him a goodish camera, though? My camera cost about the same as a Leappad and it's fab!

I'm beginning to think I'm a bit stingy when it comes to presents. Everyone seems to be spending way more than me. Oh well! I haven't got any more money anyway.

I'm mystified as to what Zoobles, squinkies, lalloopsies and all the rest are. I have no idea.

Does anyone have any ideas about a doll for Sabela. She has a few dolls, all of them small including a first baby annabell. She wants a new baby doll as I said before. I was thinking of a big annabelle but I think it will be too nig. Any ideas?

LaT - i don't know re dolls. I'm getting M a Cupcake from ELC but pretty sure that's too babyish for S.

Simps - i would sell it. I saw the ad for that earlier and was wondering for T maybe next year, birthday. Def get a proper camera, you can get a digital one that will take decent pics for the same price (or cheaper!). Always think that things designed to do more than one thing don't do any one thing well.

Well M slept through last night - think she muttered at 4am but nothing else. SO fingers crossed it was just a growth spurt and we are over it.
Also hoping that it may count as a dropped feed so i might even lose a pound or two

Ugh. 've got to push on with losing weight.

I can recommend the First Baby annabelle when she's old enough. It's great. Two yers and never changed the batteries! The noises aren't annoying wither.

yay on the sleeping through!!!

M not really into dolls that make noises etc. She wants a barbie and is very into Polly Pocket although Xmas budget is spent on her. Feel mean, have not got her much apart from hugglebuddy & barbie (from santa) and from me a vtech smile (been in attic for yonks and a fairy doll for 50p from charity shop)

One of her best friends who lives next door got a toy that poos (I kid you not) and it comes with sound effects too...think wet fart when poo comes out. And poo then can be stretched into various shapes etc

well after deciding last night to keep it, the leappad is going back!!!

I am going to get him a second hand DS (will pop into game tomorrow)

There is a game for it on amazon which has 40 top classic games (including chess, checkers etc) for #15 (sorry pound sign not working) so going to get that. Just hope it does not cost that much extra

Good call Simpson.

Can I ask how many of your three-year olds watch full-length films? Some of my friends claim their children wath all sorts of things and love them but if such a film is on, like 101 Dalmations when Sabela is around she quickly loses interest in the 'slow' bits. TBH the other children seem to aswellbut their paretns say it's becasue they've watchedn them so much. Are threenies too young for long films or does Sabela have the attention span of a gnat?

We re having a ball this half term (after the dodgy forst day I wrote about). I told Sabela today that I was going to keep her off school next week because I love being with her so much (mainly because I knw she'd liek the thought; I've no intention of doing it!) and she said, 'Mummy I love you too, but just a little bit of school?' I think we were both happy at that.