Jan 2008 - I´m 3 and I own the world

[mixedmamameansbusiness]

It was getting desperate and since MrsMCJnr suggestion came in last and I was being lazy I just went for that - hope that is ok.

Well, not that much time Filly! I'm 38 in two weeks and don't want to be sixty on my child's 20 birthday really. What I actually want is less time to think about it as it is all I seem to think about since D was born. Every morning I wake up thinking we should just go for it and cope, and at some time in the day I convince myself what a bad idea it is (it is). Then the next morning I wake up and start all over again.

One day I'll bore you all rigid and list the reasons it's a bad idea. There is only one positive reason: I want another!

LaT - I really do sympathise....it was all I could think about from the moment Tamara was born (literally - I was in the hospital after the birth from hell #2 thinking "actually, i'm not done yet") - despite always only wanting to have 2 and never having been remotely broody in my life. I then spent the next 18 months on countdown to when I could start trying again.....even though there were a zillion reasons against (some similar to yours, some maybe different) and only one for...On the plus side, Mia is brilliant and I feel it was the 'right' decision for me/us/our family, but on the other hand, the next 20 years would be so much easier and more affordable with 2....

This weather is hurting my brain! But on the plus side, a guy I work with has just swung some corporate hospitality tickets to see Glee at the O2 on Thursday night from one of our suppliers and has invited me and DH along I am so excited! Apparently we get the full VIP treatment, free bar all night and amazing seats....I'd be happy with freebie tickets for the back row so am made up :)

Can imagine you're miffed JKS - seems like once again you are invisible!
Do try to plough your own furrow as much as you can x

I would love a second dc but apart from a very early mc in Feb nothing is happening - mostly to do with dh.

Will be 37 soon and starting to be afraid it will not happen and feeling

On the other hand I fret about it - what if dc2 is a girl? How do I keep a girl safe? How do I juggle a pre-schooler who still needs carrying with a newborn?

But I just want to get preg really...

I agree with Filly on the 3 thing. I was the same, never really broody and only wanted 2. I will happilly tell you now that we cannot afford 3 children, every single month is a struggle and I am always conscious of time available to give to each of them (which I actually put above the money issue tbh). As Filly said the next 20 years would be fair less of a struggle with 2 and right now our life would really be easing up with a 3 and 5 year old, but it absolutely was te right choice for us. It means we wont buy a house for a few more years and we have to think things through but I needed no. 3 to really make me feel like I had become a mother.

I realise that is the most ridiculous statement and I cant even explain it.

Good luck to everyone trying/trying to convince Dhs. MM sorry to hear about your experience in Feb.

JKS - sorry you are having a hard time all round. I would just be tempted to stay at home. Is that a real option?

I would have loved to have had 3

Our plan before things went tits up with with H was to try for another (no3) when M was 6mths old and have two very close together.

But M proved too much of a handful with her intolerances (screaming literally all day etc) and obv. the problems with H happened too.....so that put an end to that

mixedmama he doesn't need convincing - it's depression and meds and stuff. He wants another baby..

Madmouse - sympathies, i know how i felt when i was on the ADs re H and had to wait to TTC.

Staying at home isn't really an option - would cause more stress I think. If i'd stuck to original plan of 'too difficult with a new baby' (despite them coming from Oz with 3DC) i might've got away with it, but they all knew i'd changed my mind. Hey ho, i am mightily miffed, but DH & I have agreed to try and get through it with as much grace as we can muster.
(He came home early from work last night as he knew i had had enough, so things are better there at least.)

More issues with school lot -
friend who is the head's wife came round; she did mention the issue to one of them; so at least they'll know now that i'm peed off. this is good.
What is not so good is apparently this mum 'suggested' doing a collection for us but...i never heard what the but was.

I have a fair idea though:

• i'm friends with the head & his wife
• i'm not a gossip so not 'useful' with above
• DH's job prob puts them off too if we're being honest

Hey ho; i have deleted all but the nice one from my FB, i will be civil at all times, i will keep friends close & the rest can sod off

More importantly...why can't H ever poo at school?????

JKS ...I thought you'd never get to the important stuff. H pooing at school...now that's definitely worth an AIBU :) :) :)

Hugs atcha - sounds like you are dealing with a load of crappy small-in-the-grand-scheme-of-things-but-actually-enormously-irritating stuff with enormous grace under pressure...keep at it x

I much prefer Nathan pooing at school

We've been working on getting T to wipe her own bum after poos....as much as I hate them all growing up too fast, I must admit I can't wait for the day when all 3 of my kids can sort out their own bottoms!! :)

Madmouse - sorry, didn't mean to ignore your earlier post - so sorry to hear about the mc in Feb, hope it all works out for you soon. And don't worry, girls are totally great too...:)

Ah, the joys.

Sabela insists on doing the whole process by herself, including emptying, rinsing and drying her potty (I don't allow her to use the toilet by herself as she nearly wrenches the seat off getting on) and at bedtime this includes teeth.
'I do it by my own'

And today I got my first bit of misdirected anger because ehr Papa is away. We're all tired and a bit run down and after dinner she told me to 'Go away Mama. I do't want you any more. I want Papa.' I managed to contain my poor weary self and put them to bed early. Nobody objected!

JKS - why would DH job put them off? [naive or brain like a sieve emoticon]

S still calls me to the toilet to wipe his bum (5) for some reason, even though he is reasonably capable although there does end up being random bits of toilet paper in the bath that float out of his bum when he does it. He also says that he doesnt poo at school, no real explanation, he just doesnt.

J very good at going to the loo, have not had to wipe his bum for ages

Think M will be a whole different story though.

Forgot to tell you guys about the poo smeared all down the stairs incident!!!

M not great at coming downstairs by herself because of her hypermobility so she tends to slide down on her bum. The other day she went upstairs to do a poo (she has potty downstairs but prefer her to poo in loo upstairs) she then needed me to wipe her bum so slid downstairs to tell me having not pulled her knickers up and smearing poo everywhere

TBH I am worried about her wiping her own bottom for when she starts nursery school in sept. Going to ask teacher next wk (we have home visit) if I can supply flushable wet wipes in her bag, just in case as her poos are truly horrid still esp as she is starting to eat very small amounts of dairy.

Kids very excited as its J's school fete tomorrow and his class teacher is in the stocks so he has been practicing his throwing

Simps - I might do that too. E has awful runny ones too and currently pulls up his trousers and pants to show me the potty (he calls it a surprise) but gets poo in his pants in the process.

I wanted to suggest some sort of meet up before all the DC are off to nursery full time (ish) so to speak.

I know this is not massively inclusive and will try to make anything else that may be suggested.

Anyway, on 4th Sept we are having a picnic on Hampstead Heath to celebrate my 30th and I thought we could (maybe) double it up as a MN meet as well. Well we will be there from about 12 noon on this day so if anyone fancies it please pop down.

Otherwise maybe an Oct half term perhaps a little more middle so Madmouse and Angechica could come?

I am up for a meet up

M got her pre school booster jab tomorrow, she is not happy about it!!!

We had a meet up with my other postnatal group today. Really nice was Em and 4 girls E came along too and was sooooo well behaved. So proud of him.

need your advice guys

Looked at J's school newsletter this eve and apparently its Multi-cultural arts wk at his school This would expain why he is suddenly obsessed with all things Japanese

Anyway, on thursday according to newsletter on each class has to represent their country iyswim. Kids are invited to come in to school dressed in something to do with that country, help!!!!

So his country is Japan?

Am tempted to say sumo wrestler

Karate kid? Headband and a borrowed suit (whatever they're called)

Ninja? Possibly minus sword. Possible to knock up with black leggings, tights on the head and an oversize black t?

possib;e to make minus helmut?

Might feel a bit girly but a kimono dressing gown with a big scarf belt?

That's nice Mixedmama

They do spring these things on you dont they. Really annoys me. I think the Karate thing is a good idea. I love all things Japanese. I long for the day I get invited to a fancy dress party and can take hours to ready myself as a Geisha.