FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief

Aw, that's very kind of you to say so, LBH - thanks for the hug!

I'm pretty much back to normal, now. I think having a mc affects people in very different ways. If I keep on having them, I suspect I will find it much harder to recover emotionally and stay positive, but right now I'm seeing it as a one-off (hopefully) and assuming that there is no reason why the next conception shouldn't result in a successful pregnancy, all being well.

Obviously, there are no guarantees, but I'm keen to keep a positive outlook on it - I think being positive can really help. It's not always easy when shit's happening to stay positive though, I totally accept that. But right now I feel fine about things.

I hope you're feeling better too - the tone of your last post sounded quite a lot perkier!

IC those are stunning pictures on you blog . Again, congratulations!

dd2 was unusually cross at bedtime and I quickly realised that she wanted her Papa. He'd came back a little later than usual from work and she didn't think a kiss, quick hello, and one minute hug was quite sufficient!!! So I put him in charge of her to look at a few more books (she stood in front of her shelf earlier saying 'Buch' (book) a few times... Awww, a new word) while I took dd1 downstairs to help me make pizza (and make a very big mess involving lots of four ).

Grrr, 'come' and 'flour' clearly. I should wear my glasses more.....

IC You seem such positive person and I think it is a fab outlook to have. I am sure that it is a one off.

I am feeling a bit more positive, suggested Relate to DP as there is a centre locally. He has said yes, although he thinks it is me that needs the councelling. Will phone them on Thursday. (when I have plucked up courage)

Flyingcloud and others thanks for your support too.

DD wont walk for the Childminder..just does it for mummy and daddy!
She is getting so smart, she has a jack in the box and she can turn the handle herself to make it play pop goes the weasel and when the bear pops up, looks very pleased with herself. She can also brush her hair when asked, with brush or just run her fingers through it! She also can build a tower of 5 stacking pots and dismantle them and put them inside each other in the correct order. She amazes us with what she knows.

BG the A on my keyboard keeps getting stuck...my excuse!

LBH mine's not using glasses... I like to ignore that I am blind as a bat without them...

BG I have to admit that I wondered what you did in the kitchen

LBH well done to get your DP to agree. He may realise during the sessions that he is part of the problem. Fingers crossed

IC good news on the settling for bedtime.

DS for the last few days hasn't been that bothered by his dinner. He'll eat half of it if I am lucky. I'm not really worried as he still eats well for breakfast and lunch but he used to clear his plate and at the present he closes his mouth, shakes his head in a no motion and doesn't want to hold his spoon.

Good night all

My excuse is I hate looking at what I write, so I don't

IC Just caught up on your blog. I don't think I would have had the courage to write that. If I did, I would have gone through a lot of anguish before pressing the post button. I like DHs post as well :)

I have put some lindt easter bunnies on the mantlepiece (have had them for years, rather than buy new ones every year). dh spotted immediately that as well as two large bunnies (dh and myself), a medium sized one (dd1) and a small one (dd2), there was a spare baby bunny... tehehe . Just wishful thinking on my part... Had a spare baby bunny on display when we only had dd1, and now we have dd2...

BG

Hi everybody! I am sorry to gatecrash this thread. I don't know if anyone will remember me - Jardins ? I had my third LO end of January but hung around the February thread for a while because it was so friendly. It's lovely to see Flyingcloud around as well as many others.

This message is especially for IC. I'm rather late in the day for this sympathetic message about your MMC, IC but I haven't been on Mumsnet for a while. I am yet another woman who has experienced a miscarriage (March 2009). I was left to miscarry naturally which, tbh, I was pleased about although, of course, the whole experience lasted for a good few days after which a doctor gave me the all clear and said I could ttc whenever I felt ready. I just wanted to let you know that I was pregnant a month later and had my DD after my 41st birthday. It was - and still is - a fantastic time.

I remember seeing my osteopath after my mmc and it was the best thing I could have done since it left me suffering from headaches a little.

You are so positive and philosophical and I think you are fab! (very cheesy!!!)

Bye everyone!

I love my bold message! It's too late in the evening for me!

jardins welcome back!
Thanks for your lovely message. Stories like yours are really heartening, thanks so much for sharing it. How are you doing?

Ah, cheers PA! I guess as a former diary writer, journo and now blogger "writing it out" comes fairly naturally to me. And in fact I found getting the account down very cathartic. Also, having looked online myself and only found one rather discouraging account of mmc and the medical procedure as experienced in Spain, I thought it would be helpful to offer another for any English-speaking women who find themselves in the same situation here.

Like the Easter bunnies, BG!

Hmm....it takes two to cause problems in a relationship, LBH, hopefully, as SB says your DP will examine his own attitude under the direction of the Relate counsellor....

Hey jardins - big wave. Good to see you around, was thinking about you the other day - are you still in France?

DD tower-building: The Evidence

IC Tried to get dd2 to build a tower at the weekend but she was much more interested in destroying mine . On the other hand, although she can't build things, her talking is coming on. She said 'Schuh' (shoe) just now to get me to help her put it back on...

PS. Showed dd2 the video and she looked suitably impressed... Those are nice chunky blocks you have; ours are the standard smaller ones with rectangles etc. Maybe that's why dd2 can't do towers yet [hopeful emoticon]

Hello jardins

No time to say something to everyone individually but thought I'd mark my spot, and say that I'm very jealous of all your LOs achievements. DD2 is lovely, but is not building towers, walking, growing teeth or really saying anything! She is, however, sleeping like an angel, so I'm not complaining.

My big thing this week is waiting to hear where DD1 will go to primary school. Anyone else in that camp?

I am lurking.

BG same here tiny wooden building blocks! no tower yet.

DH lost DD2's 1st shoes

dd2 asked for 'Wasser' (water) at lunch... See seems to suddenly have realised you can say things rather than just point and hope for the best . Now I'll have to get her to speak English though... . The only English she speaks at the moment is 'Good girl'

CS your dd is fine!!! Your two girls sound very much like mine, with dd1 an early talker etc and dd2 completely different.
As for schools, yes, dd1 is starting reception in September. We have a place at the school we put down (only put the one down which is just about okay, the rest aren't too good around here) but we are also still considering going private . She's at a private school nursery at the moment and it has done wonders for her confidence.

Schrodinger how did he do that??

I should be getting on with things.

IC love that video of Rosie. She can even stack the fourth block hardly looking! DH is fed up of me listing all the things other babies can do that DD can't.

BG likewise of the words. DD can still only say nana and still calls me Daddy She is trying to do the sign for bird, though.

Schro ???

Right must get on with name-changing stuff, I'll have been married 6 months in a few days time and am still Ms Maiden Name (am changing it to Ms Maiden Married name).

I am unreasonably upset about it. Still . They were lost in or on a taxi, the company didn't find them either.
I kept DD1's 1st shoes.
Not cheap either, here clothes are second hands or sales but shoes have to fit whatever the price. Hopefully DD2 has normal feet so much easier to shop for her.

IC that video is fab, as your blog.

I am typing with DD2 on me and she is sniffing my skin

have to go has she is now trying to post for me

I'm another who didn't bother with a name change upon getting married. There is a post-doc who changed his name to match his wife's as they found that was the least common surname.

Some impressive block building IC. We brought her some blocks at the weekend, but there are a lot of wonky ones in there. atm she likes to watch us build the towers and then she destroys them :)

At some point DD might learn I need more than 6 hours sleep, preferably unbroken. She can't be settled atm when she wakes, normally DH is able to get her to sleep for an hour until feeding time, but I think she was like this last time she had teething issues.

No words here, but she def. has favourite books.

Schro I have to admit I've very unsentimental about these things, I don't even know hat counts as first shoes, but I am sorry you are upset and hope you take solace in the fact that he didn't mean it.

dd2 just got herself extra time looking at books at bedtime because she kept saying 'Buch' so nicely, and looked out for owls in them so she could say 'Huhu' . Very cute but also hard to ignore, like when she started saying (shouting) Mama. I was quite happy to ignore her whining before but being adressed directly makes me attend to her a lot quicker
Oh, and IC, I found out in the kitchen just now that dd2 can't build towers with bricks but will happily stack tins!!! Looks like you have a budding architect on your hands and I have a shelf stacker . She is a strange child actually... can't walk but can hop on a trampoline and push herself forward on a toy car (but gets cross because it doesn't go fast enough )

Just checking in as I've been a bit distracted the last few days. I am green with envy at all the tower building/words etc. I'm ashamed to say that I don't think DD is very bright and am very disappointed because I come from a family that is ferociously intelligent and where intelligence is valued above all other qualities. DP tries to cheer me up by saying "perhaps she'll be creative or musical or athletic" but I'd rather she won a Nobel Prize for physics (well that, or played lead guitar in a band). Oh well....