FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief

Hey all. Thanks for the support. I meant it when I said I missed you all!

Well as for me and DP, I hope we can get through this patch. He is up for trying councelling as we really cannot see eye to eye at the moment. From his point of view I don't let anyone help and as far as DD goes, it is always the way I want things done.
I dont like going anywhere for fear of breaking her routine and she will only sleep in her cot and this is my fault for insisting that we are hope for her nap/s. I am an inflexible control freak I suppose. I just try to be consistant so that DD knows whats what and because she is a shite sleeper. And a lot of the time a was fussy feeder/then eater.

DD had a bout of nappy rash about a months ago, it seemed to be due to the number of poos she was having a day, 4-6 and teething. Bepanthen is definately the best cream by far. We also went back to Pampers extra dry ones. (DPs idea - best one he has ever had! )

DD has also walked across one side of the room to me today un aided, plus lots of little 3 steps and head first into mummy! She just tries to walk too quickly without getting her balance. She can stand on her own and does a little knee bend dance to Katy Perry's Firework!

Can recommend vaporiser plug in, she went down like a dream tonight and not started a coughing fit...yet!
SB Fruit advice...try the pouches, Cow and Gate and Ellas Kitchen? DD loves them as she can suck the pouches and less mess. Makes a change from bananas!

Off to bed shortly, headache from crying :(

BG Thanks for the FB post. :) Dont know why I even posted there. I cant face talking to my friends at the moment really.

LBH Please try to keep talking - it really helps! We are all here for you if you want to just let off steam. You are doing a great job, don't forget that! Having a baby, a relationship, and a job is very hard work! I remember only too well how hard I found things after dd1, and dh was quite supportive in his own way. So what you are going through is very very tough. Be kind to yourself and accept any offers of help, ok?

LBH I want to echo what BG said. I think me and DH went through our hardest patch when I had been back at work for 3 months. We were both just so tired and I hadn't told him how I was really feeling, in fact we hadn't properly talked for a while.

It's good that you do seem to be doing some talking and also thinking and that he up for counselling. I think that's a great way of opening up to each other with fear.

Hope you get some food sleep.

First proper day of summer time not going so well... Managed to get dd1 to nursery only a few minutes late (a miracle because I only woke at 8.20, dd2 slept to 8.45 (having entertained us with song from 5 to 6), and we had to be at nursery at 9.15...). Not a fan of having an hour stolen off me . dd2 wasn't too happy at my gentle suggestion she may like to have her lunchtime nap an hour early... Would have loved to keep her up but then it means having to wake her to collect dd1. Can't win.
I've just eaten two pecan plaits and feel like I need a lie down myself
I'm really enjoying dd2's quirky character. Today she would only eat lunch if her lion cub (plastic Schleich animal) got a taste of each spoonful first .

Ah, it's irritating when the routine's thrown out, isn't it BG?!

I think we've caught up with ourselves okay. Mind you, after a fab night's sleep on Sat, I found it really difficult to get off to sleep myself last night, don't think I got there until 01.00ish. And woke shortly after 05.00. I can't even blame DD, she slept through until 06.00.
Never mind, I'm not really complaining, especially after the previous night's luxury kippage.

So a two-nap day for DD, that's one handy thing about the 06.00 wake up, I don't have to agonise about fitting in sufficient naps.

DD has now started taking free steps between things, which is exciting. Nope, it doesn't count as walking, but I reckon she'll have it sussed within the next few weeks.

Only one nap today (abd yesterday) but DS seems to ve okay, except that he didn't really eat tonight as he was falling asleep in his highchair. Touching wood that he won't be hungry later on.

LBH come and talk/vent here or the FB group as much as you want. We'll be your pressure release.

IC good news on the sleep

Waves to everybody else as I need to go and cook a prawn risotto for dinner

Help, it's our 10th wedding anniversary this weekend and I guess I should get a present of some sort, not just a card... Any ideas?

IC Well done little Rosie on doing steps between things. dd2 does the same but much prefers crawling still.

Stan All okay? You've gone a bit quiet...

CS Did your girls look 'new' to you and dd2 much smaller than you remembered? I find that even when I am away for the day... . I was meant to be away for two days (one night) last week on a course but called the whole thing off when I got to the station and found there were no trains going anywhere due to a major points failure in the area (lasted until the afternoon by which point I no longer wanted to go..). Just being away an hour to the station and back in anticipation of being away from dd2 the first time, made me cuddle her a lot when I got back .

Have to go and try to clean the kitchen... dd2 kept sneezing at dinner while eating soup with very small star shaped noodles. I didn't find it half as funny as dd1 did!! It's gone everywhere

Ten years, BG - wow!

10 is tin - this website has a few ideas. If you Google "10th wedding anniversary" there are loads of sites with gift suggestions - hopefully you'll find something that will do the trick!

Our third wedding anniversary is tomorrow - it's leather....and EEK thank goodness you reminded me...

IC

Oh, and thanks for the link ... hadn't occured to me to google it. D'oh.

Think we may have another walker by the weekend! DD has done 8 steps from me to Dada! She has been lovely the last couple of days despite her bad cough and snotty green nose. Eating like a little horse, which I love to watch her. Breakfast alone was porridge, a fruit pouch and half slice of toast. Rewind a month, she was screaming at the sight of a spoon.

Her daytime naps have improved too.
She slept from 1pm to 3.30pm on Sat , 1.15pm to 3pm on Sun. On verge of cutting out a morning nap. She had only 15 min car snoozes at the weekend. Today I put her down in the cot for a sleep before baby group, bit of resistance but she had from 9.35am - 10.10am and slept 1.15pm to 2.45pm.

I am hoping that once her cough subsides, her night time sleep will improve. Maybe then I can have her looked after so I can go out. Fingers crossed.

Congrats on wedding anniversaries!!

Work tomorrow - yuk. Prays for a decent night!

Thanks for your support. DP seems to have thawed a bit tonight....

She was grumpy again on waking but wouldn't sleep. Got up at 6:30 finally got her back down at 9:30

DD is sporting a spectacular gash on her head along with a scraped knee. She's def. my daughter

Think I can also see a 3rd tooth trying to come through, so a few more rough nights and mornings yet I think.

We went to the park by the beach though and the sun is back with 20's expected all week :)

Hello everyone, had a bit of a manic time with work, but have been up since 4am (another bloody cold) so have been able to catch up...

LittleBear I really feel for you right now. I echo what others said, I found going back to work tough, but after two months back i was a wreck. I was so resentful of dh for not understanding, but I just needed to talk to him more. Its not a prescription just empathy, its so bloody hard sometimes, the worry, the stress, the illnesses, the lack of sleep, the demands on our time - that often the one thing that suffers is relationships with loved ones. Your DP needs to share the burden with you as much as possible.

Bethy hope your ds is ok and the results come back good.

Chesnut sorry to hear your dad hasn't been well, hope he's doing better.

Big wave to everyone, hope you are all doing ok. Sorry for crappy post and not getting round to everyone individually.

Teeth 15 and 16 are coming through, grrrr, hate teeth. No walking (1 solo step so far). Some kisses, if she feels we deserve them! And she says Thank You but not much else.

Waves again, potters off for more coffee...

Lovely weather, by the sounds of it PA! It's cheered up here too, with temps in the 20s expected. Splendid! I love the Spanish Spring...
Your poor old DD's been in the wars by the sounds of it....! Does being accident-prone have a genetic component, then?!

Nice to hear you sounding a bit more cheerful, LBH. Hopefully with enough determination on both sides, you and your DP can sort things out.
Very envious about the napping!

Oh, fc, rubbish to have a cold, I hope it passes quickly.

Well, DD woke about 04.20 this morning, but after a brief feed, went back in her cot and although she fidgeted for a while, she got herself back to sleep without my intervention. I dossed down in her room (I find creaking back out of her room is the quickest way to start her crying again, it's easier to stay put, at least until she's asleep again) and I think I fell asleep again before she did.
DD then woke for the day at 07.45, so that's a one-nap day today. Hopefully it will fit in okay with DH and my plans to go out for an anniversary lunch together (with DD - she's usually very good in restaurants).

Happy anniversary IC! Hope you have a lovely lunch with DH What substance is three years?

Happy anniversary to you for the weekend BG. Wonder what you'll get that is to do with tin...

DH and I were talking about our first weddding anniversary the other day and he seemed surprised that I expected a paper-related present Men! He knows now anyway!

No walking here either, DD is quite happy crusing round the place. No talking either and she still calls me Daddy . Actually she can say one word, nana for banana.

PA are you feeding DD when she wakes in the night? I had a bit of a lightbulb moment (a few weeks ago) when I realised that I had to stop feeding DD when I wanted her to be sleeping. Now she wakes on average once a night (on a good night that is!). Funny how I don't seem to be any less tired PA How is your supply holding up? Mine seemed to drop sharply at about week 5 but has stabilised, I'm hoping DD isn't going to wean just yet. (The number of comments I've had from family members telling me I "must" wean her because I'm pregnant. Mind your own fecking business!)

LBH really pleased to hear that DP is up for trying counselling. I'm a big believer in talking therapies.

of the weather in Madrid and CA. Although it has been better than the forecast here - yesterday was sunny and nice in fact - I'm so blimmin cold all the time, I'm bundled in three or four layers and still have cold feet.

Right I can hear DD cooing About one day in five she'll nap for an hour rather than 45mins, every day I hope it's that day. Not today though.

Three years is leather, scones. But we're not bothering with it - not because we are "too" vegetarian, but because neither of us can think of a suitably useful item in leather. DH had a new belt and wallet for Christmas. So we're going off-piste for anniversary number three... (number two is linen, btw....I got us a new duvet cover and sheet...!)

Yes, I try and settle DD without feeding where possible. If it's an evening wake up, it's usually not too difficult, although early morning is a different story. This morning's early call meant a bit of breast-nuzzling to relax her before she went back in the cot (I don't think she actually took much milk).

But despite no longer being pg, I'm still inclined to stick to my plan to wean her fairly soon anyway. Probably within the next two months. I've loved breastfeeding, but I want to move on and I also want DH to get some practice in at overnight resettles etc.

Happy Anniversary IC

Happy anniversary IC and (BG? or is yours later in the week)

She is not fed on every waking. For the past month, we have set times e.g. first one is 4 hours and any wakings before that DH deals with.

The idea was that once she sleep towards that then we'd work on increasing it.

Also I don't feed her before bed now as she has a early bedtime and it was always stressful getting in on time so I feed her around 8 now. Before this week she was having 3 meals of me over night (but also that is all she gets for milk, as no diary though does get some oat milk for breakfast)

DS is definitely on his way to walk. He lets go most of the time and does a few steps before reaching his goal or falling on his knees.

Happy anniversary IC

yay for more walking babies :)

Thanks everyone

Well, DD didn't approve of my one-nap plan and decided she would rather have two half hours instead. It kind of worked, though - she was fine the rest of the time, well-behaved in the restaurant (although was surprisingly dubious about the pizza we offered her - she's always loved it in the past!) and after chatting to herself for ten mins, went to sleep without a fuss at bedtime, so hoorah.

Here's wishing a restful night to everyone....

IC I have been catching up slowly on older posts and only just saw your sad news. I hope youre ok and want to give you big hug. You are so supportive of me and everyone else. (I dont know how you keep up the way you do!) Sorry for bringing the subject up again, just wanted you to know I care.