FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief

Stan you are so right about the perceived need to feel totally delighted about everything pregancy related in those having struggled to get there . It took me 8 years to have dd (with at least 5 mc on the way due to very wonky hormones and PCOS). I was then so overwhelmed with the whole thing that I slid not very gracefully into post natal depression. She was totally adorable and I did a more than perfect job of looking after her, but thought I was totally useless as a mum etc etc....
Wish I'd discovered mumsnet then and a supportive thread! I've only really recovered since having dd2 (and two more mc on the way) and finding everything delightful about her, and have had no depression.
Anyway...speak as you wish on this thread . I like your sense of humour and look forward to your posts

So many mcs, BG
That's really tough.
You always come across as a fantastic mum to me

You're a busy lot!

BG but very you have your two DDs and can enjoy it all now.

Stan at your deletion from the FF message board. Deleting your resignation post just sounds bizarre TBH.

IC I have thought about egg donation too and I don't know if I'll squeeze it in before my 35th birthday what with expecting to give birth this November (due Oct but it'll be late). I haven't investigated deeply but wonder if you can have all the injections etc while BF, which I fully expect to be for all of my 34th year. A shame the cut-off is so rigid when they are so short of donors.

IC I'm jealous that your DD can build block towers DD still hasn't placed one block on top of another. Is everyone else's LO building block towers? (I know, I know, they all develop at their own rate.)

DD has 7 teeth, I can't see any more on the way.

DD gets fairly bad nappy rash quite regularly. It has bled a few times. I'm afraid I've never thought of taking her to the doctor, just given her nappy-free time as much as possible (lots of wee on floors - tahnkfully no poo, yet) and changed her nappy as often as I can. The latest round has just cleared up. It can be really red, angry and even bleeding, and then the next day almost gone. Very strange.

CS glad to hear your dad is improving.

It would be lovely to hear from our quieter friends. Drop by if only to wave!

Aww, thanks IC and Scones . I feel quite blessed in a way but my two monsters can still drive me insane... And then there's me hinting rather aggressively to dh that I'd quite like a third!! (I know the 'recipe' now to make them more likely to stay!!) I think babies are pretty addictive once you get over the shock of having the first!

Meant to ask, how are you with two dc dealing with stairs? I encouraged dd2 to come down ours backwards to practice but then dd1 casually walked down past the baby and myself on the stairs and dd2 tried to copy her, stepping straight off the top step and into space... Of course I was there to catch her but let her 'fall' first for her to get the sensation of getting scared of the stairs! I think I may have to get dd1 to walk backwards down the stairs for a little while to teach dd2...

busy no just stuck in the X-ray room again yes!

scones I've ordered the tandem book so will let you know any good nuggets (although I've had cramping and some bleeding, but it is still in the normal range, so book might not yet apply).

PA oh no, hope you are ok

sending strong vibes to you bethylou

I'm ever so sorry, but I've forgotten what he's going in for. Let us know if we can do anything, even if it's keeping you company or posting you some bits.

BG I am so sorry to hear about your mcs. A friend of mine had 12 before she had twins 2 years ago - I saw how painful it was for her.

IC You're right - I love nosey questions. I also refuse to be embarrassed about something that I had no control over and am quite upfront about it to give hope to others in the same situation. You'd be amazed how many women have told me they have the same problem when I suddenly mention it. To my knowledge I have inspired at least 3 women to go the donor egg IVF route after I spoke to them - including the friend I mentioned in the para above. They never gave any reason for my early meno. It was also masked by my use of the contraceptive pill but I think it started in my early 30s and was finally diagnosed when I was 37 and trying to get pregnant - by which point I was actually post-menopausal.

Sorry - took ages to write post and so missed others.

bethy I too have forgotten what your son is going in for - but thinking of you and your family.

PA it must be very worrying - but that is all very common in the early stages (and indeed later).

scones I suspect you wouldn't be able to donate when bfing. I had to stop before I started my hormone treatment for the IVF and I take lower dosages than those that are producing their own eggs (which I believe is the same process as those donating).

Night all.

Bethy thinking about you.

I haven't have my periods for a while (may be 2 missed by now)! I am not pg as it would be immaculate conception . So I guess it is it! Had my 1st periods at 10, but I am sure that I saw somewhere that early periods didn't mean early menopause. 41 is not that early anyway, is it?
Have to go to the doc, I guess...
stan Funny I just talked to my mum, and all the other women seemed "ashamed" about menopause (like you can actually do something about it ). It is all about perceived loss of youth I guess

Good luck, bethy.

Fingers crossed, PA.

Scones stop worrying about your DD when we mention something ours are doing! I bet there are plenty of things she does that my DD can't manage yet - you're absolutely right, they're all different.

I think menopause is still a bit of a taboo subject with a lot of women, Shro. It was when I asked myself how I would feel if I had an early menopause that I realised I did want the chance to have children if possible...

Another nosy question, SG - do you know anything about your egg donors, or is it information you only get under special circumstances? I suspect in your position I would be curious about them...
Anyway, good for you for being open and giving other women the idea that they can try it too....

Yeah! IC very impress with the block building, obviously a genious .
scones DD2 can't build a tower (she is trying blunt force, how surprising? ) but as you say no need to compare. DD1 was advance in a lot of things, and now at 6 you can't really tell with children did what first in her class.
DD2 can stand on 1 leg, do steps and jump , she still can't drink on her own at all not even hold a bottle and she gets very cross with the shape sorter because the heart doesn't fit in the square .

No tower building here, nothing even close (nor attempted)

IC I was told their age, height, weight, eye and hair colour - in case I wanted to match it to mine - and their job and interests. A friend who went to a different clinic was told nothing other than age. I was only curious because I wanted my DC to at least look like they might be mine genetically - though I changed my mind on this and at one point was going to have a blue eyed blond haired donor (i am dark). As it was I chose slim women - probably showing a terrible prejudice there, but also wanting to give my DC a bit more of a genetic headstart than my tendency towards chubbiness.

Scro anything under 45 is classed as early menopause. Probably best to get checked out just so you know. Particularly if you want to have any more DC you'll need to act fast to move to IVF. Several of my friends managed to conceive and have DC when they were peri-menopausal with IVF. Just a quick comment on post-menopause stuff - it's great being without periods. Really great. But I had an extreme loss of energy, and loads of aches suddenly happened - it made me feel like I was 60. HRT was brilliant though and I take it when I'm not pregnant. Marvellous stuff.

Thanks for satisfying my nosiness curiosity SG

Yes, a friend had the menopause early - probably brought on by cancer treatment. She turned into a hormonal horror story until she was put on HRT. She swears by it too (although not as much as before she was on it...heh heh heh).

DD woke at just before 08.00 this morning (before anyone gets jealous, she had been awake for a good hour or so from 04.00 ) which meant a one-nap day. She woke at 12.45, with which result she zonked at bedtime and was asleep by 19.20, instead of fidgeting until 20.00 (which she did last night). An earlier start to my evening, ahhhh......

DD's current favourite activity is emptying out various drawers, especially Mummy's underwear drawers, the bottom kitchen drawer and the flannel drawer in the bathroom. Cutely, she also puts stuff back inside them as well. She must have taken lessons from your DD2, BG, because she likes handing me the flannels to put away and delicately replacing all the clippits and plastic tubs after she's satisfied they're the same as last time she audited them...

I went for a 5 mile run this morning :) but had forgotten morning runs son't agree with me so have spent 45mins of the last hour on the toilet :( I think I might go home as I know I will feel bluergghh for the next few hours (well while the boss is away)

IC I was cooking dinner yesterday and having to retrieve ingredients from under the sofa, the wrong cupboard and under her changing table

Hello all,
I can't even remember the last time I was on here... I think I'd had shellfish poisoning? It lasted for at least a week and I've still got a dodgy tummy.

Here goes a rambling sleep deprived post....

DD's sleep has gone to pot lately. She has been waking up two or three times a night and been up for the day at 5.30, I think her throat is sore as she is quite croaky. I'm really sleep deprived as DP is working, Pablo (sheep loving twit dog) has had surgery (again) and DD is very full on. She has tonnes of energy at the moment and is full of tricks. Her latest one is blowing raspberries on my tummy and giggling during feeding. She is also really fast up and down the stairs which is hilarious. She absolutely loves the dogs and goes up to them when they're in their beds and does a high pitched scream and waves. I caught her in a headlock with Henry, our Jack Russell the other day! She was giving his head a really big hug and he was looking mildly alarmed but to give him his due, he didn't do anything! She also grabs onto them when they walk past her but generally they get up and move out the way when she's coming towards them. They seem to understand that she is a baby, and they occasionally come over and give her a lick on the back of the head, she just loves them!

DD had her 12m booster injection today in her arm. I held on to her expecting her to scream her head off and when the needle went in, she didn't say a word! The nurse and I were in complete and utter shock. DD just smiled and waved "bye bye" to the nurse.

Good luck on Friday Bethy. My DH has his birthday on Thursday...

I watched One Born Every Minute last night Scones and cried every time a baby was born! I get so emotional... I have very bad PMS... unfortunately my shellfish poisoning coincided with ovulation and I was just too ill to shag.

I am going to bed now... I have been reading everyone's posts I just don't have the energy to answer people individually. I will see how tonight goes...

Mmm, I had a Wispa earlier and said to DH how one just isn't enough! Thanks Abs! Good to hear from you. Sorry to hear about the sleep problems. Sending you sleepy vibes. Brilliant about DD's jab though!

Well I can't believe I'm on MN after midnight, it is bringing back strong memories of late pg last time. We've just had an hour and a half on and off screaming session, no idea what is up with DD. She's had water and calpol and lots of loving resettles, plus some crying it out This is pretty out of character, I do hope it's not the start of some godforsaken regression. DH has just done another resettle while I've come down here to chill out, I'm ashamed to say my reaction has been verging on anger with her - I've given you 13 months, why won't you let me sleep?!?!?! I was lying awake anyway Blimmin pregnancy insomnia strikes again.

bethy best of luck with Friday. I'm looking forward to your list of ace-boy-things. I'm another girl-fancier here I'm afraid I'd be quite happy if we had DD2. DH would love a boy though.

PA I tried to order that book from ebay but it was out of stock. On Amazon it's £25!!! I think that's a bit steep. Not sure it'll apply to me anyway, my supply has decreased so much, I think DD will self-wean very soon. about it.

How is the cramping/bleeding, stopped I hope? I had cramps/fresh red blood at 7w, had a reassuring early scan at the hosp. Don't you have a scan due soon?

BG DD tries to launch herself down the stairs forwards on her tummy She is getting the hang of crawling backwards off our bed and the sofa (Cheers IC!) but really only wants to tackle the stairs forwards. So I'm carrying her down for the moment. When I turn her round to go down backwards, she just starts back up again.

Right I suppose I'd better try to get some sleep. Night night, and may we all sleep well.

Hi all! Insomnia moment here. Just managed to press "share" on facebook and post my friend with the poorly wife's latest update on my profile. Have no idea how to remove it. Bugger.

Abs hope sleep is sorted soon. My DD's has gone wonky tonight as well. Bloody typical as for the next few days I am single mumming it as DP is working in France (buying wine - don't even start me on how that's not a real job).

if you hover over it, does a cross appear to the right hand side of it?

those thin grey lines that separate posts, it should be just under the end of that