FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief

pa good luck with the rash! I would avoid steroids, it makes fungal infections worse (IME much worse pead.'s mistake )

stan good to hear your DD is better.
According to my mum boys are easier babies (more fragile though) but worse teenagers , my aunt prefers boys all the way (she also have one of each).
As for the activity and physical demands of boys being huge, I have yet to meet one who needs as much outside time and running as both DDs so every kids to its own . I do agree that they are more noisy, but many of them happily sit with cars or trains for a LONG time minding their own business whereas girls will follow you around constantly chatting (which can be hugely annoying too )

I feel a bit alone, nobody mentioned any tantrums tell me I am not the only one. DD2 has been throwing herself backward at the slightest contrariety (yelling of course) . I am ignoring or removing but I find it hard work. She also bully me around pulling my arms or pushing me. I need more and .
DH almost working 24/7, and then party getting slightly fed up with him too .

Scro - don't worry about tantrums, sounds like your LO is just very advanced. The terrible twos already! Mine was a bit noisy for a few weeks before she started nursery but it seems to have calmed her down a bit. She also can't bear being constrained - so being in the buggy isn't much fun - we just let her get out and roam wherever we are now - yesterday she had the freedom of the kids' floor in John Lewis Oxford Street. People comment on her a lot because she looks so young (about 9-10 months in my opinion) yet she is walking with confidence to the point of almost running - so she seems v v advanced. Anyway - tantrums are just them learning to control their environment and its limits. Not much consolation - but every parent will sympathise and understand when they throw a terrible strop. Mine pinches me so often and hard that i have to cover up my chest and wear lots of extra cover makeup on my face because I'm covered in bruises and scratches. Oh, I've just remembered another - DD has an absolute fit whenever we bathe her - literally screaming with tears rolling down her face and trying to climb out of the side. We only wash her 3 times a week but each one is a trial. If I didn't know better I'd be whisking her off to the GP's to check for rabies.

BC Get well soon.

PA how's that nappy rash coming along?

Stones 10 teeth! That's just greedy. DD only got her firs through a week or so before she turned one and now she seems to be sticking with 4 for now.

In other news - I have resigned in a strop from the other forum I use. They deleted my post! On here it would be a badge of honour but their po-faced, sanctimonius (I know I have incorrect spelling here but I'm in a rush) reason just wound me up and so I've left. Sad that that is the most exciting thing that has happened to me recently.

schrodinger and I thought I was the only one with a 13 mths old capable of quite impressive tantrums...

Stan they don't know what they are missing!!

DS throws a paddy when I try and get him off the swings. I'm afraid I've resorted to food bribery. When it's time to go I slip a biscuit or dried fruit bar into his hand to distract him. That way I don't get a screaming, back arching little boy who won't let me 'fold' him into his buggy.

Ah yes. Tantrums. Not too bad here so far, but DD will burst into a storm of indignant tears of protest if she's prevented from doing something she wants to do. She'll pull away from me holding her, but as yet no major violence. And she can usually be distracted out of the tizz fairly easily. Opening a book mostly does the job... so far....

it is just me then, it is constant!
I am doing the dishes, she wants to see something high, she wants to go out or go quicker, doesn't want nappy changed, stuffs things in my Tshirt and looses them , wants to fit between the wall and the side board to look at the back of the tv, doesn't want to go out of the bath, wants to eat toothpaste or , jumps or tip toes on chairs.... and more
distractions don't work

All made worse by the new teeth, don't really know if I can put a number without bragging

stan they don't know what they are missing

Schrodinger maybe you should go back to your old name mamaloco....
Go on, how many teeth? dd2 has 12 with another 4 (the canines) very very close to coming through.

I might even write it properly this time mamaloca?
13th! I can't check them anyway, she bites hard. I don't put my finger in there anymore (unless I fear she is eating something weird, again )

13? Sheesh, DD2 has just cut number 4!

PA sounds like your DDs nappy rash needs a combined steroid/antifungal/antibacterial cream, which will be prescription only. My only other thought is that it may be an allergy if you have started using anything new recently? One of my friends has a DD who is allergic to zinc oxide...

stan glad your DD is better. Which other forum was it that you got deleted from?

My dad has been diagnosed with a pulmonary embolism - not great, but much better than it could have been. He's fine, but is having various tests and will come out of hospital soon.

Thanks for all the concern, it is very nice that I can vent on here!

Mind you, yours hasn't eaten a slug yet, eh? (Feeling competitive today )
So far today dd2 has had a tantrum because she didn't manage to climb into the washing basket (tall thing with lid) and because I wouldn't let her use the phone (she has managed to phone my mum on speed dial before... now there is no stopping her!
Oh, and she has taken complete control of the remote control for the radio in the kitchen. She will flick through channels until she finds the music she fancies, and if there is nothing to her liking she will switch it off and throw the remote on the floor in disgust...
She's also keen on recycling and generally tidying up. I have to check every time I put bin bags or recycling bags outside, because she likes to add things. I am pretty sure we have accidentally recycled a few toys...

CS Glad your dad is on the mend

When I said DD was being mardy (back arching/ leg locking out/screaming) I guess I meant tantrums but thought it wasn't quite an appropriate word, but my word is it stressful.

She's fine when when out and about, nights are a little better.

Nappy rash is improving, she'll be having another naked day

pa i agree, stressful! I am cautious about the word tantrums too. One second she is standing the next lying on the floor, often banging her head in the process when the floor space is too short, trashing, yelling and kicking her heels onto the floor (the neighbour must love me even more now, she won't talk to me anymore ).
good about your dad CS

PA Is your DH having a treatment for his ulcer? is he feeling better?

CS I hope things continue to improve for your dad.

DH has been taking some meds ever since the first diagnosis got made. It seems the GI bleed had stopped before his scan and they confirmed that it was in the process of healing. He wasn't sedated as there was no-one to pick him up, but he's had it done before w/o sedation. The doctor said he would never dare to do it on an American and he's only done 4 times always on Europeans. He's got to continue with the meds for another month and if there is no more symptoms they'll stop. They've told him to never take ibuprofen or aspirin ever again. He has felt a lot better for the last time, just in time for DDs sleep to turn awful. I've realised he's been close to snapping with her (and he has a much higher threshold than me) so I kicked him out the house yesterday afternoon and kicked him out of bed for half the night as well.

We all went out to lunch yesterday and that was nice.

To be fair, you did ask after CS' dad, PA!!
I second that, CS - I hope he recovers well.

I realise I've got it easy with DD after hearing tales of your little terrors, Shro and BG
She's happily building towers with her blocks at the moment. Her current record is five before the tower gets too unsteady and collapses.

Eight teeth here, but the first premolar is almost through top left.

I hope your DH's ulcer continues to improve, PA. As an IBS sufferer, he has my full sympathy. GI stuff is - er - crap?!

DD and I took a trip to Baby Deli today and I managed to spend less than 50 Euros for a change. DD obligingly kipped on the walk back. I've now got a sun shield thingy for her buggy and it's pretty good. I got so fed up of damn parasols - they constantly need adjusting and they break far too easily. We're on our third and it doesn't work properly. The sun shield thingy is a lot less hassle.

I've just realised that kicking DH out the bed may sound harsh and not a break. In fact since DD is our room, it meant I dealt with all the wakings so he got some uninterrupted sleep.

It's never been confirmed but I think I have IBS as well, so understood his discomfort to some degree..

Well done IC on the not spending much. I've taken DD to the library session for the last two weeks and both time I had to resist the urge to buy her loads of stuff.

We've been trying to say no to her regarding the kitchen doors for two weeks and it doesn't seem like we're any closer to her understanding it. Mind you she doesn't eat a lot, but that's probably more due to lack of opportunity.

SB how is your DS's nappy rash coming along?

stan yes please, do spill about the deleted message

also has anyone messaged LBH lately. I hate to think that she's struggling again and that's why she's not here. Also waves to the other people we've not heard from lately ( abs fc etc.)

Can I sign on the tantrums? DS will lie on the floor rolling over as soon as I put him down or if something is not going his own way. This weekend my moto was: 'You can't get everything you want in life'.

Have you tried preparing your LO to the change of clocks? My resolution is to try to push bedtime by 15mn everyday. So today DS went to bed 15mn earlier than usual as he was chattered that will teach me!

PA glad to hear the nappy rash is improving. DS's is too, no bleeding for the last 36 hours.

IC I need to look at those sun shield as the umbrella is driving me nuts!

SB our clocks changed the week before last. We didn't do nothing. You get him up at 6:30/7:00 anyway don't you?

'Tis only an hour

We've had a sun shield type thing since last summer. Those umbrella things have always seemed pointless to me. Mind you yesterday we used it to stop the rain pouring into the buggy (no we don't have rain covers, not much need for them here)

Yes, I was thinking about LBH and wondering how she's doing. I hope she's just too busy with work and not feeling in need of extra support, hence no contact (although she did post something on the FB page a week or two back...)
I like to think she would come and talk to us if she was struggling. The last time she posted I seem to remember her saying her DD had been sleeping through consistently and I think a fair amount of LBH's difficulties were related to sleep deprivation, so hopefully she's OK...

This is the shade thingy we got, SB.

I'm glad to hear the nappy rash is improving!

Re: clocks. Last time I shifted bedtime forward by 15 mins for a few nights and DD adjusted fine. This time I think I will manage it by dropping DD's afternoon nap in Equinox day and putting her to bed at the earlier time instead. Hopefully that will sort it.

For those who asked/are interested...

The forum I was on was Fertility Friends. You may remember I am post-menopausal and only able to conceive using donor egg IVF - it's a very "nice" forum as you might expect as it caters to women going through all sorts of fertility problems. It's a bit like Netmums but with lots of IVF. Anyway - I was on their ante-natal thread for those due the same time as me and made reference to the fact I'm having a boy in a "oh God, what do i do with one of those" way and the mods deleted it as they said it might upset people. No one had complained - not to me, not to the boards. In fact several people had replied on the thread that it was really good to hear someone whinge about something for a change. One of my bug bears is that women who have experienced fertility problems do not feel that they are permitted to complain about pregnancy once they manage it and miss out out on the sheer relief of being able to moan about every back ache, heartburn, knackered feeling they have as they are meant to be so grateful. I am grateful - and of course I'm looking forward to having a boy - but I also want the right to experience pregnancy in the same moany way others who have not had the same difficult "journey" as I do. Anyway - not only did they delete my original post but they went on to delete my resignation post - which was even tempered and dignified I thought. I am even more outraged about that - particularly as I included an apology to anyone I had upset and well wishes to all those remaining on the board. Bastards.

that sounds a sad situation where people can't complain about the smallest pg things. Tell them all to get over the MN (or NM if you must)

Moderation gone mad, if you ask me SG.

You're right about the pressure to be wholly delighted by pregnancy for those who've had a hard time getting there. I also worry about new mums who then find motherhood really hard going to start with (as most of us do to a greater or lesser extent, I suspect) but feel an extra burden of guilt and pressure not to say anything because they worked so hard for it and wanted it so much.

Did anything in particular trigger your early menopause, SG? If it's too personal and you don't want to discuss it, fair enough. I just get the impression you're someone who can totally handle outrageously direct and nosy questions...

I was all fired up about donating some eggs, especially when I assumed I wouldn't be having children of my own (before I met DH - I was still with XP at the time) but was gutted when I then discovered at just turned 36 I was officially too old.

My mum is going through early menopause. I think it's often related to starting puberty early so my sister is also at risk (not that I daren't tell her that just yet seeing as she in only 17 and we're already worried she won't go to uni because she doesn't want to leave her lazy arsed bf). She started her periods when she was 10 and started menopause at 39.

Ooh, Bc, your thread made DoD again!!