FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief

SG wishing your dd a speedy recovery. Glad your GP acted so swiftly to send her to hospital. Better safe than sorry!

SG what a scare this must have been. Hopefully she'll be better soon. Good luck with your scan.

PA I had my first external scan at 6 weeks with DS and he was visible.

Another bad night here (and it doesn't happen often) DS was awake winghing/crying since 12.30 for 2 hours despites DH going in to settle him down. At the end I had to give him the dummy and he slept til 8am

PA agree that there is absolutely no reason to do an internal exam at all and scans can be done from 6 weeks

Stangirl sending your DD many get well wishes. That must have been a terribly frightening experience. at your twin mc.

My friend who was 7w and bleeding has lost her baby. Very for her especially as she seemed to get rough treatment from her MW during it.

bethy my goodness, you are superwoman!! I'm sending your energy back, you need it more than I do!

PA for sure they can do an external scan, you must be 11w or so? Are you excited? Very at being sent formula in the post. That would rile me. Do you feel pg yet?

I feel better today, thank goodness. I felt truly awful all day yesterday. Spoke to my mum early evening who told me to go to bed, erm I'm already in bed mum... She said "How are you going to cope?!" which didn't help my morale much.

DD has just woken up, which means I can't spend time contacting accountancy firms to see if they have any work for me. Good. They won't have, and it will be a waste of my time and very demoralising. But apparently I have to do it for my JSA.

for everyone.

Slightly embarrassing to phone the GP surgery and have the receptionist greet me by name (Well, I have asthma and have had two children, so plenty of appts over the years). Managed to get the last remaining appt this morning to have dd2 checked over. I don't like the sound of her cough and she is very unhappy this morning . I am a great one for toughing things out (myself included) but feel a bit more cautious with a 13 mths old.

How do babies/children do that? dd2 cried all morning despite cuddling up to me and having calpol. Then as soon as we went into the GP surgery she was calm and quite friendly to the GP ('Well, you know doctor, my mummy is a bit neurotic really. I'm quite alright, thanks for asking' ). She's fine (well, relative speaking, ie no chest infection.)I always feel like a complete mug that I present a child that has miraculously recovered just outside the surgery doors but appeared seriously ill at home... Mind you, I've done it the other way round, went to the GP feeling quite apologetic to waste his time, was diagnosed with pneumonia and partially collapsed lung, and narrowly avoided being hospitalised

Better safe than sorry, BG! I'm sure the GP would rather have his/her time wasted than you got there when things had become too serious to sort out easily...!

GPs don't mind children that are relatively OK, always better safe than sorry with them

I hurt loads today and think my knees are just one massive bruise, but the outdoor climbing was worth it (although it was a bit scary but that made it more fun). Also had DD yesterday morning which went a bit smoother than last week. DH had his scope and has been confirmed that it stomach ulcers and nothing more sinister so he feeling better.

DD on the other hand has been waking up screaming the last few nights and generally being quite mardy. Not really sure what's going on there, plus she has quite bad nappy rash again.

I've got my 2x12 hour days now so should be knackered. This has made working out pg related symptoms quite difficult as I'm blaming tiredness on work and DD not sleeping. That said, I don't generally feel pg apart from mild heartburn.

PA do you look pregnant yet? I started showing really early with dd2, sort of straight after conception . at being sent formula...
SG Hope you enjoy your scan despite your dh missing it. I loved scans (had loads in both pregnancies due to my history of multiple mc). How is Winter doing?
beth very impressed how organised you are! Hope you get the chance to sit down and have a

Hope the super moon tomorrow does not bring out our little werewolves

BG same here, the receptionist at my GP's always asked if it's me when I make an appointment! I always put it on the French accent and not on the fact that either me or DS are seeing the GP at least once a week

bethy that was well organised. When are your DSs due to have their checks done?

SG I hope your scan went well. Do you know the flavour? (I'm too curious I know )

I wonder how LBH is doing as we haven't heard from her for a while?

actually I'm not looking pregnant yet, not put on any weight either. My exercise regime is still ramping up, but now I'm getting paranoid.

PA don't worry you are just very much fitter than me (by about 100% I would say) . I did the lot (gymnastics, horse riding, cycling, skiing etc) until my late teens and then stopped when I came to uni in the UK...

PA I am not particularly fit (though I have just puffed and panted my way through a Davina workout DVD) and I didn't look preg the 2nd time until well after the 2nd scan.

sorry SG meant to say that I hope your dd is on the mend. It must have been very scary.

bethy migraines are the bane of my life. You have my sympathy. I drink full fat coke or a cup of sweet tea before I hit the drugs too!

DD is still in hospital but seeming much better. They can see from her bloods that she has got some kind of infection but the meningitis test doesn't come back till tomorrow (I don't think it was though). Most likely culprit is a UTI - so we are testing her pee tomorrow. They won't discharge her until they've done so - and she has one more dose of the anti-bs to go too.

Had a 23 weeks scan today and found out I'm having a boy. Someone reassure me that boys aren't as awful as I think they are! DP has already promised we can try for a third DC so I can try and have another girl. I hate boys. I can't even think of any good names for a boy.

lo SG

glad to hear DD is better and good luck with the test results.

at least with one of each, you will compare them less. Plus they can be even less disciplined and you can blame it all on the fact he's a boy.

DH is like you and doesn't want a DS, I'm banned from mentioning he could be having a son

thanks chinnok that is reassuring. I happened upon a pg thread last night which was all about how early being looked pg with their second so that combined with BGs comment just happened to throw me. I still hurt, but only have 4 and bit hours to go. It's due to rain here at the weekend, how rude!!! Don't they know this is CA? I need to rethink our Sunday plans

Hope all the poorlies are feeling better.

Poor DP (who covered the overnight shift in hospital) just phoned to say what a nightmare getting the urine sample is. Latest rubbish attempt ended up with DD slipping in her own pee and banging her head. At this rate we'll never get her home.

PA - thanks for the cheery up words about sons. I'm gonna need some convincing. I come from a matriarchal family and am now worried about everything from how I clean a poo encrusted willy to instilling good feminist values.

Stan I always though I would have a girl as everybody in DH and my family always had girls as 1st born. I was shocked when at 20 weeks scan we were told it was a boy. I thought that I didn't know what to do with a boy. Now I realise my fears were not needed. Boys are fun, cuddly and loves their mummy. I bet bethy can give you lots of reassurance about having boys.

I hope they managed to test your DD urine and that she'll be home soon.

I was also disappointed at first when I heard I was having a boy (at 12 weeks! - private scan at my fertility clinic) - I feel like such a cow for even feeling like that for a short time because he is the love of my life.

I'm the only daughter of an only daughter and had no experience of boys in my family at all (all my dad's family are in Italy).

Once they are there you don't want any other baby - they're yours and they are perfect.

You don't have to dress them in naff things covered with trains and footballs either. There are lovely clothes for little boys, you just have to look a bit harder (I reccomend Polarn O Pyret, Stella McCartney for Gap and Petit Bateau but then I spend a fortune on clothes for DS which is daft but I can't help it).

I'm sure the differences are more in evidence as they get older but boys aren't necessarily rough and nasty - they may be a bit more physical than girls but a lot of the bad behaviour you see is parents going "Oh he's a boy!" and letting them do unacceptable things without explaining to the child why they're wrong or being inappropriate role models themselves.

There are lots of lovely boys out there. I mean we all married or hooked up with one!

SG Also I am terribly sorry to hear about your DD - I hope she is home from hospital and fully recovered very soon. Poor thing banging her head as well .

IC Hope you are as ok as you can be in the circumstances. Sending the un-MN things.

SB I hope you had a better night last night.

PA Don't worry - I'm sure it's because you are young and super fit with amazing abdominal muscles. I'm shocked that they are allowed to market formula so aggressively in the states.

Thanks Bc. I'm feeling okay. Still philosophical and less sad with the passing days. Had a few tears yesterday morning and maybe feel a little "empty" at times, but on the whole I'm fine. Hugs are always lovely, though!

Sorry to hear your DD is still in hospital, SG I hope they'll decide she's well enough to come home soon.

Congrats on having a boy, SG! OK, I have some sympathy with your being a bit dubious as my inclination is to have another girl (but that's as much for economic reasons as anything - not having to buy new clothes...!!!) but I reckon you'll fall head over heels with him once he's with you.

A friend of mine who only wanted a girl had a boy for her second and told me later how amazed she was at how she fell for him "I can't take my eyes off him," she said, "I'm obsessed with him."

My DSis has 3DDs and 1DS - she loves them all equally but remembers that the only baby who made her heart physically turn over when she gazed at him the first night was her DS.

Another friend (2 DS) is dubious about single mums raising boys (she's been one herself) because mums are apt to fall so completely and uncritically in love with their sons and (she thinks) boys need someone to be a bit less gooey-eyed over them as they grow up.

And it sounds like boys are far more likely to tell their mums they love them and think they're beautiful than girls are.

I've lost track a bit so bear with me...

IC glad you are OK. I well remember the empty feeling after a MC, and think it is both physical and emotional. Allow yourself time to grieve and have lots of cuddles with Rosie.

stan glad your DD is doing OK. If it is a UTI, it is so straightforward to sort out, she'll be fine in no time at all. And congrats on finding out the flavour of DC2. As someone who has two DDs, I always feel like I have let down my ILs and DH by not having a DS (DH is one of two boys - I wanted girls but braced myself for boys), and sometimes feel like people look at me slightly awry when I say that I don't want any more DCs and I have even been asked if I am going to try for a son. Maybe it's because I'm Indian and people think that's what Indians want?

PA I'm sure all is well even if you don't look pg yet. I went into mat clothes at around 6-8 weeks with DD2, but I think that was more out of comfort rather than fit (I got very sensitive to waistbands). I did get bigger quicker with DD2, but think I didn't have your abdominals!

Having a funny time here. My dad is in hospital (again), this time with a suspected silent heart attack. So we're all a bit worried, though he seems OK. My sister is struggling a lot at the moment too (she lives near my parents, so cops it when something happens, whereas I live near my ILs and manage them) - she works in the public sector (as an ed psych), has been made redundant from one of her jobs and is really anxious about the other three or four jobs she holds (she is the main breadwinner in her family). She is superwoman most of the time (as well as her work, she has three DCs and a husband who has a long term condition, so she does pretty much everything) but this thing with my dad has knocked her a bit. She's the person I am closest to (and the most like - apart from the superwoman thing!) so it's horrible hearing her so down and knowing I can't do anything to help her.

I expect you help her just by being there for her and able to listen and understand her worries, CS.

Thanks for your kind words about the mmc too x

PS Hope your dad gets well soon.