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FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 24/02/2011 08:29

A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief Smile

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 10:13

Thanks for the sympathy fc!

I'm pretty certain they will do D&C - what I'm not sure is what kind of anaesthesia (sp?) they will use and how long I will have to be in for...

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StoneBaby · 15/03/2011 10:17
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StoneBaby · 15/03/2011 10:49

I hope it'll go well this afternoon IC All my thoughts to you, DH and DD

SchrodingersCatFliesToOz · 15/03/2011 13:49

Sorry IC Sad, take care of yourself.

Bearcrumble · 15/03/2011 14:04

Oh, IC I am so sorry. Sending loads of love and sympathy. Horrible thing to happen.

AbsB · 15/03/2011 14:32

Oh IC I am so sorry for you and DH. BG is right, I'm sure you will get pg again quickly. Good luck this afternoon... Sad

extremelychocolateymilkroll · 15/03/2011 14:45

Just browsing the thread and saw your sad news IC ? really sorry for you. Exactly the same happened to me before I had dd1. I couldn?t have a D&C because I had fibroids so had to wait for it to happen naturally. In the end I had to have some medication and miscarried the next day. During that time I read a really good book by Professor Lesley Regan Miscarriage and following the advice in the book had the foetus analysed which showed there was a chromosomal abnormality and I was statistically no more likely to have a miscarriage with another conception. As has already been said they?re surpisingly common ? but you only find that out once you?ve had one. And, the only ?good? thing about having one is that it shows you can conceive. Best of luck with your next appointment.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 15:07

Thanks all of you - it's really great having this support. Smile

Well, I'm still here. We decided to go in first thing tomorrow morning in the hope I might not have to stay overnight (although I think it's usual procedure to keep you in for one night's observation in Spain), but we'll see.

DD has been lovely and cheery, which has helped - despite being wide away for 2.5 hours overnight Hmm.
Oh, apart from when I chucked her on our bed - a game she usually loves - and she must have bitten down on the inside of her lip or something because suddenly we had a howling baby with a mouthful of blood and a guilty sobbing mummy (bit thinner skinned than usual).

I broke my No Daytime Breastfeeds rule and in fact, I think we both needed that.

I hope you're all okay - any more news of your friends, Shro?

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StoneBaby · 15/03/2011 15:11

IC rules are here to be broken (sometimes) and today is one of those. Grin

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 15:11

That's very kind of you to post your experience, ECMR, thank you.

I must admit, in general I feel philosophical about it. I've already carried one healthy baby successfully, so I know I can do it again. And I would much rather lose a pregnancy at this stage than later on or have a severely disabled child through chromosomal abnormality. Plus, I've got friends who've lost babies under much more traumatic circumstances, so I count myself lucky in some ways.

That's all firmly in my head. My heart, of course, needs to grieve a bit.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 15:13

Heh, thanks SB!

I must admit, I ate a bloody big chunk of brie to console myself - and later I'm going to drink some of my licorice drink, which has been languishing in the fridge since I got the BFP...

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StoneBaby · 15/03/2011 15:20

Heh, good girl! Brie and alcohol Grin

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 15:23

The licorice drink is non-alcoholic (I'm such a raver!!!) but I'm suddenly eying up the Port bottle...

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StoneBaby · 15/03/2011 15:24

Go for it girl, you know you want it!!!!

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 15:28
Wine The advantages of being a SAHM.... ( SB, you're a wicked woman!)
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StoneBaby · 15/03/2011 15:34

Cheers Grin

I'll have Wine later

PenguinArmy · 15/03/2011 16:26

IC I'm so sorry about your news, I hope you and your family get out together a lot in the next few weeks.

On a slightly inappropriate note (so feel free not to read) I thought abs was telling you to back in the saddle today so I lost quite a bit of tea.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 16:45
Grin I've just read the message back and I see what you mean!!
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ChestnutSoup · 15/03/2011 19:13

Oh, I'm sorry IC. As everyone else has said, it's good to know that you can fall pg easily. I had an early MC a few years ago and I fell apart completely so you are doing really well.

Good luck with the hospital appointment.

On a more "me" note (sorry), is anyone else's LO showing no signs of walking at all? DD2 isn't (a couple of weeks ago, she pulled up to standing on me a couple of times, but nothing since then), and nursery seem a bit concerned as if you prop her to standing on your lap, she gets most upset about it. Negligent mother that I am, I had put it down to her not being ready (and also being a very good crawler, so she has no need to explore walking until she wants to), but now I'm not sure.

All views welcome...

flyingcloud · 15/03/2011 19:31

Hi CS,

My dd stands and cruises, but as soon as I hold her up by the hands to simulate walking she plops down again.

She is making progress though, the other day she was walking with the child minder only holding one hand (she certainly wouldn't do it for me!)

I have no advice, but I wouldn't be worrying just yet, it's still fairly early days for walking.

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InmaculadaConcepcion · 15/03/2011 19:34

I suspect you're not a negligent mother at all, CS, but just accept that some babies are slower than others to get on their feet. Of course if you're worried about her legs, get her checked up. But if she's a proficient crawler, chances are she hasn't felt the need to get upright to move around.... I bet she's just fine Smile

Thanks for the sympathy. I feel a bit better now, but I guess there will be ups and downs. Now I want to be cleaned out and get through that as quickly as possible to I can move on and we can try again.

I hope that doesn't sound hard. I like to think that the embryo had a loving environment for its short life. Also it was probably going to be a terrible sleeper.
(Sorry, facetious I know, but thinking things like that help keep my spirits up... )

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ChestnutSoup · 15/03/2011 19:35

No standing, no pulling up, no cruising here, fc...

I keep telling myself that the average for walking is around 18 months, and that with DD1 being such an early walker, I'm due a late one! But nursery brought to the front of my head the irrational worry that I've been ignoring so I thought I'd air it on here to you lovely people...

ChestnutSoup · 15/03/2011 19:36

IC you are doing very well. I'm very fatalistic about such things and would be thinking that it just wasn't meant to be.

flyingcloud · 15/03/2011 19:44

CS sorry my post wasn't meant to sound smug, just slightly reassuring! I agrée with IC ré her crawling though, sounds like she doesn't need to walk.

BabyGiraffes · 15/03/2011 19:53

CS agree with the others... if she is a fast crawler there is unlikely to be anything wrong with her legs or back. You can always have her checked over if you have any doubts Smile. I do know of a baby who suddenly refused to put weight on her legs (I think she was previously walking though, can't remember) and she was found to have a broken leg, so it can happen.

IC my D&C was under GA which meant no food after 10pm the night before. Can you phone the hospital in the morning to check what they are likely to suggest, before you have breakfast? I was in and out and home in the afternoon.