FEB 2010 Tottering into our second year...!

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A few first birthdays left, then we're full tilt into walking/talking and a mountain of mischief

Sorry, I've been getting stuck in in the Feminism/Women's Rights section. It's giving my brain-cells a proper work-out!

Sorry sleep is shite for you PA and you Bc at the moment. Bloody 13moSR, I guess. It should pass soon...
(what is going on with all the bolding at the moment?!)

It's good to read everyone's reassurance about having DC2....thanks CS, BG and bethy! And for the moral support, SB.

We're still having intermittent sleep-throughs here, but they are happening more than they aren't on the whole, so that's good.

Also, I can feel DD's first two molars coming through at the top. Two little pointy bits right on the gum. She doesn't seem bothered by them so far, fingers crossed....

Feeling cross . Dh is grumpy on Friday nights because it takes him time to calm down after the working week. Then he is grumpy most of Sunday because he has to work again on Mondays... FFS! I used to work FT , too, and look after dd1. And now my enforced SAHM existence means I have NO TIME OFF ever! Do I go around feeling sorry for myself????
Sorry, rant over.

I sympathise BG we used to have exactly the same here. It got so bad we bought dp a pair of socks with 'grumpy' written on and would hand them to him when he was being an arse touchy. He did get the message. I also make a really big show of Saturday being his 'day off'. I do all activities with dd (ballet) and go to any parties, do the cooking etc. He thinks I am being all supportive but really I am saying that Sunday is NOT his day off too!

PA I am not sure what your post was as it was deleted by the time I had a look, but if you are worried about being an unmotivated SAHM, then don't. The great thing about being at home with dc, is that you are alone. No-one can see if you put your feet up while they run riot around you. Then when your dh comes home the mess can magically 'just have happened'.... Also I think you will surprise yourself, because I find that time goes much quicker if I get down on the floor and play with them or take them out.

Sorry to hear of all the sleep problems but I can finally come on here and post a sleep improvement. Ds now sleeps all night in his cot, and what's more he goes down awake and settles himself. About blooming time too! I sensed he was ready to have a go and he has been a star and there has been no hysterical crying. Not sleeping through yet but only one wake up last night. I can hardly believe I am typing this, hope I am not jinxing it.

Impressed with your brain work out IC. I love lurking on that board but am not brave enough to post. I am due back at work in 4 weeks and have exams to pass before they let me loose in charge of an aircraft. I just did my first practice exam and failed one section so I obviously need to do brain training too. I will find out in a week if I have been rostered a trip that takes me away for a night or two. Is it wrong that I am secretly hoping for a bit of 5 star luxury and a decent nights sleep?

chinook thanks I feel a bit better after having a rant...
Your job sounds exciting! I think I need a new career.... Realised today that I have probably about 25 years of work ahead of me, so a) a year or three as SAHM shouldn't matter and b) I'd better find something I like doing!

Thanks for asking. There is some survivors from the lab which is good news in a bad situation. It is the town of Kamaishi, you can see it on the news (boats and cars going under the bridge)

I have been looking through the web to find some info on bipolar with a very uncooperative DD2. My family has a hard time dealing with a diagnostic of mental disease, but I am the opposite, it is reassuring that he has been diagnosed rather than randomly committing suicide and attacking people, at least he will get help now. may be it is a generation thing or I am indeed a cold blooded scientist.
Apparently I am not allowed to sit ever DD2 climbs behind my back and pushes me out if I dare re .
I have a flu like cold, and I really want some peace.

BG I am with you. DH never switches off work and I need to find something to do after SAHM.

chinook I dare not post in the feminist forum either, some of them are really extreme; they seem to want more rights than men. I also found some of them extremely clever and articulate, so I am intimidated

Coo, chinook are you a pilot? How exciting! Great to hear from you.
BRILLIANT news on the sleep. It's clearly a developmental thing, isn't it? Some learn how to do it more quickly than others. For a lot of the babies on this thread, nowish seems to be a time when they're starting to "get" it.
Nice night from DD - not a peep until 06.30, marvellous.

Bipolar, Shro? What's all that about? Did I miss something?

Maybe your DH needs to think about changing jobs, BG if his is making him so miserable, even on his days off...?? I agree, it's not much fun for the rest of the family...

I kind of just waded in on the Feminism board. But it helps that I studied Feminism a bit at uni and I tend to sympathise/agree with a lot of the more vociferous posters' views.

Sorry IC, not for DD2 (that was a bit unclear ) one of my little cousin has been diagnosed recently. I am trying to help finding infos for them and support. So not much time to post as DD2 won't let me sit.
I need , pass some around

It's okay, Shro, I didn't think you meant DD2! That explains it, anyway.
Bi-polar is what they used to call "manic depression" wasn't it? My XP and I were fairly certain his dad was bi-polar, although it was undiagnosed. He exhibited a lot of the classic symptoms. But never violent or anything. He would spend part of the time very quiet, grumpy, moody and insular and the other part full of crazy energy, schemes and over-extravagant money-spending....
It was pretty trying for XP's mum to live with at times.

Just popping in for a me me me grumble. I had a right strop on yesterday and even packed my bag to leave DP and DD. Just can't be arsed taking care of a child when I'm pg and thought DP was nagging me all the time. Luckily I realised my pg hormones were getting the better of me so decided to stay (and in part because Colin Farrell was in Phone Booth on TV at 9pm). DP was very sweet and asked if i minded unpacking my bag as it made him nervous. I am so bloody bored at the moment that it's getting to me. This time last year I was looking forward to a festival in April we were going to and a whole Summer of music and holidays. I feel that my social life has really taken a tumble in the last 8 weeks and it is really upsetting me. Then I read the latest update from my friend about his wife's meningitis/pneumonia and I feel awful for getting in such a tizz about something so unimportant or I go into work and speak to families bereaved by murder and realise how fortunate I am. Damn pg hormones - they make me very very self-centred.

TTSP, stangirl - and quite soon in your case!
It's crappy, though, feeling that way. I hope the pg hormones give you a break soon.

How is your friend's wife doing?

And what is your job, out of interest?

Yes how is your friend's wife doing Stan?

Pg hormones make me totally self-centrered too. And whingeing, moany, dull, most of all so tiiiiiiiiiired I just can't even think. We had a lovely lunch at my mum's yesterday with my three sibs and step-GPs, and apparently I was in danger of spoiling the day by being so grumpy The thing is I was making a real effort to be cheerful. All I really wanted to do was snarl at everyone in sight and slope off for a very long nap.

I feel bad today as it's a friend's DD's birthday, and we were due to go to her birthday tea, but she lives about 5 miles away from us and the only way we can get there is on foot, and I just can't face it today. She says she understands but I feel I'm letting her down. Usually I'd be up for the walk, today I am going to find it hard to get off the couch.

Schro glad to hear there are some survivors. I must say it puts all our worries into perspective doesn't it. (When I stop moaning for just one second, to think about it.)

PA with you on the concern at how I'll be a SAHM with 2 DCs. At the moment I'm lalala-ing and trying to to think about it. Oh and at the moment I think you can be forgiven for doing nothing at home - you are working full time - I cannot imagine working FT this pg. It makes me want to cry thinking about it (pretty much everything makes me want to cry today though... ).

chinook wow what do you do?!

BG at grumpy DH.

Sympathies to all with sleep difficulties. DD is now waking an average of twice per night after doing a few nights of sleeping through. I knew not to get excited about it, but still

IC What does TTSP mean?

Friend's wife has begun to open eyes but isn't very responsive. They don't know if any brain damage has happened and continue to be worried about her catching Superbugs as her immune system is not very good at the moment. They've given her a trachaeotomy to give her a tube to ease her breathing. My friend has resigned himself to several months of being a lone parent whilst she recovers (and that is looking at a very positive prognosis) and is trying to balance his kids, job and hospital visits. He is being beyond amazing and even manages to include humour in his daily updates. His wife will be 37 on Friday.

I'm actually a civil servant (central policy type) but my current post is about improving the lot of victims in the criminal justice system.

TTSP "This Too Shall Pass"
The MN mantra on any child/pg-related phase.... chant it to yourself while you count to ten...!

Tough for your friend's wife, really tough. Keeping my fingers crossed for her and her family.

That's very interesting, Stangirl....do you deal with rape victims, out of interest? I've been doing some work on that area myself lately...

I meant to say bethy I am very impressed at your DS2's weeing in the potty. DD has taken to doing a wee as soon as she gets in the bath every day. We think it must be deliberate, she seems to concentrate and then looks rather pleased with herself once she's done it. So I've taken to sitting her on the potty before her bath every day but of course she has no idea what it is, and just wants to get off. How long has it taken for your DS to get the hang of it? And of course he has his older brother to copy, too. We are just saying "wee wee" excitedly as she wees and asking her to wee wee in her potty (as she tried to climb off it).

What a day, went to GP this morning because of my chest infection and ended up at A&E for a suspected pneumonia! I was discharged after 5 hours diagnosed just with a chest infection and a very low blood pressure.

DS on the other hand wasn't at nursery today as he had some temperature (a reaction of his mmr I guess) and he spent the day with his daddY. They apparently had lots of fun.

Hi to everyone. Too tired to comment individually.

Poor you, SB...
Very relieved to hear it wasn't pneumonia. I hope the infection improves soon.

Thanks IC it's more the low blood pressure which is annoying as I'm near to faint every time I stand up! No the easiest with an active 13 months old

Sending lots of chocolate (no emoticon for it yet?) to Stan, IC, PA and Scones and lots of positive coping with pregnancy and crazy toddler thoughts (and work where applicable). Also some for BG with grumpy DH.

Lots of love also to SB with the poorly chest. Glad it's not pneumonia. Look after yourself.

Schro Glad to hear there are some survivors. It looks horrific on the news.

Stan glad to hear that your friend is coping well at the mo. Hope his wife continues to make progress. Make him some dinner when you have some energy (or get DH to do it instead). My favourite gift when we were having a hard tme was a cooked dinner left on our doorstep.

Chinook I'm so desperate for a night off too so I definitely understand where you are coming from about some sleep and 5* star luxury. In fact, tonight you could offer me a tent on my own and I'd accept!

DS2 started weeing on the potty after about 10 days, but as you say, he has his older brother to watch and is sooo keen to be the same!

We narrowly avoided A and E tonight after that horrid call from nursery about DS1, saying, "DS1's had a bit of a bump and we're not sure whether he needs medical attention or not." He'd cut his lip and chin and had a bit of a gape going on. However, we decided to wait and see a bit as mouths heal so quickly and it seems to be knitting together by itself. The chin bit seems okay too. DS1 had never really seen blood before and kept standing in front of the mirror saying, "Look Mummy! I've got blood!" I felt awful not being there for him and have had to have uncharacrteristic weekday chocolate.

Hi everyone (big wave).

Sorry to hear about your chest infection SB, sounds horrible, chest infections can be so debilitating. Hope you manage to get some rest.

Sorry to hear about your dd's cut lip bethy, hope it is healing.

Shro, your poor little cousin diagnosed with bipolar, a worrying time.

All those who are suffering from pregnancy hormones tiredness etc, very sorry for you, but as dh and I have decided to tic (yay!) I am blocking my ears in a la la la kind of way.

Dd can now say thank you! It comes out as daaa du, but it is definitely Thank You! No walking yet.

I slept 12 hours and feel a bit better.

fc I am convinced DS can say au revoir his own way but also hiya. Just so cute.

bethy That must have been scary! Hopefully he'll heal quickly

Oh dear. Sad news here, I'm afraid. I've had an MMC - today's scan showed the foetus must have died a few weeks back, which would explain why I haven't been feeling any pregnancy symptoms lately (and I just thought I was getting away with it....ah well.)

We're going to head up to the hospital after DD's sleep and our lunch.

Feel a bit .

IC Huge hug heading your way! Been there so can imagine how you feel... It's incredibly common and there is no reason it won't work out fine next time, and the positive thing is you seem to get pregnant easily.(I know that's not what you want to hear but it's true . So so sorry for you!

Ah, bless you BG!
Actually, that's EXACTLY what I want to hear. I know it's a 1 in 5 chance etc. and last time it was first time lucky.
Did you have D&C? I'm not sure exactly what to expect when I get to the hospital....

Not sure what they do in Spain... I had a D&C many years ago (same situation as yours, little bean just stopped developing but stayed put). A friend of mine just got some tablets last year (same situation again) and was asked to wait for nature to take its course. (By the way I had slight concerns about your lack of symptoms... but I am cautious by nature). Oh and modern medical opinion is that you can try again as soon as you like

IC - hope it goes ok this afternoon. Am so :( for you.
Huge Hugs.

Bethy, sorry, I called your poor DS a DD!