Dec 08 Mums - Snot Beards, Farty Boos and Willy Milk (not how it sounds!) - let the fun continue!

[Beans33]

Here we are x

Don't worry - we were planning to do something but now we aren't so it's all cool. Car is having something replaced at the mo so DP has gone in on the bus this morning but it's only bulbs or something so should be fine to drive in tomorrow morn. Absolute worst case scenario - I think I can get a couple of buses there. But car should be fine.

X-posted with you Beans - that is bad. He is being selfish. You really, really need a break. Tomorrow afternoon HAS to be yours. No sleep is horrible. Be kind to yourself.

Thanks Deids - we're going away for the weekend to Sussex when he gets back to stay with some friends. It'll be lovely, but I'll be doing the majority of childcare again. I've told him that he's doing Sunday night with the monitor next to his ear - tough shit if he's tired for work on Monday. I've got to deal with the littles all day. Damn sight harder. And I think I'll go and sleep in the attic room so I can't hear anything. Just want a night of sleep. I can't wait til March!

Thanks Lady too.

PS I do love the DDs and I usually love spending time with them, but they are both v whingy today and I'm finding it hard to keep being nice to them! No enthusiasm.

lady, but is it open on Saturdays? So sorry it's going to be hassle again we all need

Beans, it's quite noticable that dh seems to go out all the time, yet you rarely get to go out without kiddies in tow, otherwise I'm sure you'd frequent our MN nights and have loads of with us You do need a break, I'd be pissed off too. Although hard to relate as I think my dh has been out twice that I can think of on his own (his own choice) he's always too knackered. And even one of those times he fell asleep on the train home and almost ended up at Penzance! having said that, my dh works LOADS so I do the single mum thing alot too, but it's kind of different I suppose he sleeps through crying too - heck he sleeps through ds driving his car over his FACE in bed for 20 mins!! You def need

Not surprising. I am dotty about mine but it doesn't mean that it isn't hard sometimes. Being that tired makes it hard to function. Am sure Spot feels similar. You will feel ok after a bit of sleep/respite.

Ah Beans I forgot you are going away.

Will DD1 watch a DVD? Have I ever mentioned the merits of Toy Story?

Seriously though noone can be enthusiastic all the time, you are just due a break. Can you ask DH to look after the girls tomorrow afternoon? Tell him your not moving when you get there.

I'm going to do my workout today. I've missed about 4 or 5 as the battery went on one of the sensors and I used that excuse not to turn it on. DH kindly found the batteries in the kitchen drawer it's gonna likk me. might have to do a couple to catch up. I've just had a big bowl of cabbage / Veggie soup. hey vag I meant to say. When I have it for dinner, one of the variations I often do is, because I'm usually cooking Veggie's to go with dh's dinner / tea / supper, I cook loads of extra, with a little garlic and tiny bit of olive oil, and throw them into my bowl of soup. makes for a very noice chunky soup which is still very low cal!

it's gonna likk me?? Kill me obviously.

I have asked DH to look after them next Sunday for the day. He is, surprise, surprise, off to Yorkshire on the Friday night and not back til late Saturday. Doing a run. Surprise surprise. Then on the Sunday, I am not lifting a finger. Will go out for the whole day. Oh yes.

Good Beans. And have loads of and then you will be

Beans: time for telly and sofa methinks. Sandwiches for tea. DH can sort himself out. Don't try to be an uber mum on no sleep. Def get DH to do a night (or 2 or 3). Can you get someone to have the girls for an afternoon next week so you can rest? Everything is so much harder after a broken night.

Lady and Rubes: I promised DS1 we could go to playgroup Mon am, may be able to make the afternoon but I'll see how the boys are. I may need to move DS2's appt forward so I can't be definite I'm afraid.

Stop press: for the first time in weeks DH is not working all weekend! I'm trying to talk him into a middle-class outing to Aldeburgh with the boys.

Spot: any more help from 'the gp? How's DS1's shoulder?

Oooh v impressed by the .

Are you guys definitely going to the RFH. I will speak to my friend, not sure I am brave enough to get the train all that way with 2, but possibly I am being silly as it should be fine. And DS would be thrilled to go on a train!

Funny you should say that about getting drunk with this friend of mine rubes, she is about my only remaining drinking partner , ching ching.

beans you need a break tell your DH at the v least you are lying in til 9:30 tomorrow and he has to go for a shorter run. AND that next available weekend you are having a morning off.

I need to do some exercise, only been for one run this week due to pukey bug and lack of time. Probably no chance today, due to going out, oh on that front, hurrah, I have lost another pound, I am now 9 13 hurrah, have lost 8lbs. DB what were you on about about doing rubbish with your dieting, you had lost 8lbs right? Well I think that is good and I am sticking to it!! And you have probably lost more by now.

lady balls to that cheeky posty. Bet he just didn't have the stuff with him.

Effie, you have my number so text me on th day if you are popping by. Aldeburgh reminds me of my sister, as they have a caravan in that neck of the woods and are always there. We always go to Snape Maltings and there is the most wonderful antiques centre there, if you like poking around such places (I do).

Oh, and not dissing caravans but the fact that my sister craves the countryside and likes nothing better than a quiet country weekend in her caravan, doing a spot of birdwatching in the flattest part of the UK where the skies are low and grey all the year round, gives you a small insight into how different we are.

Yes, SL, am cross with the postman. They always knock with a feather then run off if there is something to deliver, which is why I have taken to sticking bossy notes on the door. Yes, we are deffo going to RFH.

Hello everyone! Can I just say to the wonders of wireless broadband, DVDs and the occasional packet of biscuits (me and them!). Matthew has now all but given up his afternoon nap unless we are out in the buggy or the car, but happily will goggle at the box for hours. He's engrossed in "Fantastic Mr Fox" now with both DDs and DD1'S slightly rude pal. It's an INSET day here so childcare is a problem for many so we have acquired Iris. She is sweet but rude and very bossy. Still, took the lot of them to the new JohnL in Croydon this am as my kettle was knackered and I came as close to orgasming in there as I have for some time. It is brilliant - just homeware so no make up or anything but still heaven. Not very stimulating for the kids, but needs must.

I have been stewing over my job interview and have decided that I am going to complain. It is not bloody on to make your first question about my childcare arrangements. Outrageous. Am sure it won't change the outcome but at least I have identified a training need for the rude bitch.

Truly Sybs - I think that is the right thing to do. Like you say, it won't change the outcome but her card will be well and truly marked. And to Johnnie Lew.

Beans, did you get my text? I am frequently a work widow too and DH's job means he never gets to help with bed time unless he has a day off or it's the weekend. I cope by (a) drinking heavily, (b) having teenage babysitters who come at 7 so I've done the hard bit (teeth and bath) and all they have to do is stories and play and (c) telling DH that I am offski for an hour or so at the weekend. It never takes long for me to get my mothering mojo back but I do relish those runs, quick trips to Sainsbury's via the starbucks, or just going out for a mooch by myself. Your DH is very lucky in many ways, not least because he seems to please himself in terms of how much sport etc he does. When Andrew did a 90mile cycle race, he did about 3 months of training, during which time I had a face like a smacked arse pretty much constantly. There has to be give and take. Tell him that you need some time every weekend when he has the girls by himself. It is essential to leave the premises when he is in charge otherwise you get roped in. Big love honey XXXX. Oh and have a

Oooh I love John Lewis too Sybs. It find it rather distressing that there isn't one in Westfield. Why, why, why not? I am glad you are going to complain. People should not get away with that kind of behavior. When I told my old boss that I was preggers with DD1 his response was to say "You will now have to decide whether you are going to be a proper mother or a career woman." . Thankfully he retired soon after.

My stomach hurts in a way that reminds me of the time I had a stomach ulcer. Not good. Not good at all. Maybe its just a bug but with my feelings about stomach bugs that is also not good at all.

I am very sorry I can't make the meet up on MOnday as I am at panty old work. Rubes, we did mention a possible drink on the Thusday next week, but I don['t think we made a firm plan. Shall we make one for when you are back from your jaunt? I think the chances of me ever making a daytime meet are remote as I have to do a school run at 12 and another at 3.30pm but evenings are good for me.

Food in labour - I took packets of biscuits to eat afterwards in case the food was grim (it was). I tried the EPO up the fanny with DD1 but don't know if it worked as I had a section anyway. I can't believe it's so close, very exciting. And big love to you too JB, am keeping everything crossed that s/he stays put for a while yet.

SL, top news on the weightloss, well done. I need to kick off a stone but am struggling with motivation just now. And it's cold so I want stodge.

Bits - we have willies and fannies in our house. At nursery they talk very coyly about "private parts" and "personal areas" but I'd rather use recognised names. Warning, though, some people find fanny a bit crude, though I think it does the job splendidly.

I haven't quite decided on how to frame it, Avo, probably something along the lines of "I was very disappointed to be asked about...." rather than effing furious. I love disappointment in the work context. Thanks too to Invis for the support but what a terrible anecdote. My friend the dentist (with botox sideline) is Indian and was once asked where she was from originally. "Croydon" shut them up nicely.

Avo, are you still seeing someone about your phobia, BTW? I admire anyone hugely who can tackle a phobia as it's such a difficult thing to do. I hope it's going well, or that you are managing ok if your treatment has now finished.

Trace, I hope you are feeling well and I am glad that you got over the call with your manager. Sometimes I don't even achieve tea - toast and chopped up cheese all round. We all set such high standards for ourselves and generally achieve them, and having 2 lovely healthy kids is a huge achievement in itself.

My lovely Vag, so excited to hear of the move and the cats! Sorry you have been touched by illness though. A few Tom yum kais and bottles of will sort you out though.

Kids need attention. Back in a second.

Thanks for asking Sybs. I think the therapy is helping a bit but it is temporarily on hold as I can't get time off work for it. I do generally obsess less that I might be sick, but I still find it challenging when I start to feel ill.

I have temporarily changed back to my old name because for some reason that is what happened when I tried to upload a photo to my profile. I wanted to share this photo my friend just sent me of DD2. Don't you love what she is doing to my tights while I am not looking? No wonder I never look smart.

Gosh, it's sso difficult to slot everything in, isn't it? It must be such a disabling problem, esp with kids, but hats off to you for making steps to get rid. Will you have more time over the summer if you are super busy now?

There have been loads of articles about Miranda lately and I love the thought of you and she living in the same road. She always looks as though she finds life rather difficult though. Have ordered the box set of series one for nights when DH out, too tired to read and nowt on TV. I was supposed to do some work last night but was so ticked off I drank half a bottle of wine in front of Kirstie and then went to bed to watch SATC2 and google at all the frocks. Liza Minelli still has a top body, doesn't she? SJP looks more equine with each viewing.

I saw Miranda last night Sybs. She had a new posh handbag. I think it was a Mulberry. She also had make-up on. Given I only ever see her is a track-suit or jeans, usually paired with a beanie hat, I thought maybe all her recent prizes had given her a new zest.

Sadly I only have another 4 weeks to spy on her before we move. I doubt there will be any celebrities on my new street. John Humphreys lives on the street next to it but he will be less fun to stalk.