November 09, new skills are fun - look what I can do now, Mum!

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New thread for our little handfuls!

DWB and Juicy Hair straightening (or re-bonding as it is also known over here) is cheaper in Singapore and cost me $320 (about 160 pounds) I think it's double that in salons in the UK. It lasts for about 6 months and grows out like a perm would so in 6 months I would only need the re-growth done. I literally wash and leave it, it really is amazing! Also, because it is so humid out here normally my hair is frizzy, even when I straighten with irons it goes curly in minutes of being outside! Now my hair stays completely straight and frizz free, it's like magic!!

Glad some of the babies are sleeping better. Last night ds slept through again and Millie slept until 4.20am so I brought her into bed with me and she slept until 6am (when ds came in and woke us all up!)

MsInterpret Hope Rosa feels better soon and sleeps for you tonight!

MsInterpret hope Rosa is better today, after a better night for both of you.

Pavlov and Fruit I love your stories of siblings. Both DH and I have started to feel a bit awkward with the fact that Lucy's time with just the two of us devoting all to her is going to come to an end. It's very silly, as we both have very close relationships with our siblings and both know how wonderful it will be for her to have one too.

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I'm sorry I can't keep up.

Congrats Skorp. (I'm very jealous)

Things are stressful here. Work has dried up and money is worse than tight.

We have all had a nasty stomach bug.

Alfie has started having massive temper tantrums and I am not coping my best

Still I have now lost two of the three stone gained whilst pg so only one more to go.

I'm thinking of you all even if I don't appear here very often.

Hello all,
Wow Pav, you have done so well with the sleeping! For the 1 st week that hen slept I was convinced that it wouldn't last, we are now on week 3 (I think) and apart from the odd wake when poorly we are still doing ok, and I'm sure Roo will carry on too!

Skorpion Huge congratulations to you, I love hearing about people being pregnant and having babies, good luck with the mw on Thursday.

Things seem to be going along quickly with our move, the survey was done on our new place yesterday, the new owner of ours is a cash buyer and decided not to get a survey so I'm not sure what's next but we've been told we should be moved within the next 4 weeks! How on earth do I pack up 10 years worth of stuff with 3 children hanging around?

Thank you!

Ninja nice to see you, well done on the weight loss. I was hoping temper tantrums don't come into play for a while yet... Sorry to hear you are struggling.

Tigger wow, that is fast! Have you got family or friends around who can take the boys off you for a while? Last time we moved we hired a removal company, they packed everything, took the flat packed furniture apart and at our new home out it all back together. It was such a fantastic help. Worth considering perhaps?

I think Lucy's teething again and it might be some back teeth. High temp, really moany at night and this morning was the first morning I left her crying at the nursery . She was clinging to me and didn't want to let go... Poor chicken...

That should have been 'put it all back together', Tigger.

Ninja sorry to hear things are tight moneywise. Does anyone know if child tax credits/working tax credits would change their award in the middle of the year if you circumstances change? Might be worth looking into.

DWB yes they will update them at any time if circumstances change.

Hi all

Lurking here too ... glad to hear the sleep has improved for some and commiserations to any others in the same boat as me .. although I think it's teething that seems to be messing about with things here.
I too am used to babies that sleep through at about 9 months but the last two were formula fed so maybe that's something to do with it.

Jabs all round here today, Ioan had his Hib C booster we missed and I've had Dip/tetanus booster and then hep A and typhoid all in readiness for my trip. My arm is really sore so I feel for the babies!

Struggling with a teenager here too, fed up with the lack of help unless specifically asked and then it's with a begrudging harumph. Funny though how the attitude changes when there's something in it for her.

She also no longer wants to see her Dad as there was a bit of an incident there last time when he was drunk. He thought he'd gone into the bathroom but was in the lounge where she sleeps and peed on the floor. Think it scared her and was the final straw. I don't mind her not wanting to go, but now I will have to tell him that and deal with the fallout, which I'm not looking forward to at all.
She's only seen DH once since he moved out - neither one of them is putting in the effort, although he tells me he's been texting her but she doesn't reply and I can't see why he'd lie about it. I just don't know what to do about it all.
DH and I have started talking about things, probably more openly and honestly than we have for years and there is now a faint glimmer of hope that we might be able to find a way back from this mess. I worry about the effect on DD of the split itself and also if we did work things out, how she'd be given they've not kept in contact. It's just all so difficult. All DD seems to do is be on facebook too - surely that can't be healthy? Or am I just deluding myself and it's normal teenage behaviour?

ninja i am sorry to hear things are tough for you at the moment. Not helped i am sure by Alfie's tantrums. I really hope things pick up for you soon. Financial worries take over everything don't they? .

Roo had a tantrum today, wonder if it is an age thing? B never had a tantrum til she was about 2, and then only a half attempt, and then it was a copying type thing, i laughed quite hard until she did a full on one then I actually cried a lot but it was a while. So this time i did not know what to make of his behaviour! But he actually laid on his back, on my lap and wiggled his legs in the air, like a cartoon baby . I should not laugh as he has a temper this boy of mine, so I am anticipating this being a more regular occurance {dons hard hat}.

Another night. 7:15pm-4:50am. This time I fed and put him straight back to bed, he slept til 5:20, then went back to sleep til 5:50am then back in with us til 6:10am, but was awake and complianing the whole time he was with us. I am going to work on this period now, but can do it feeling calmer and with some sleep caught up on.

I just worked out how much sleep i need to catch up on. and, if I am being generous and allowing for me being say only 3 hours a night down, which is normal, but often less, but lets say 3 hours a night down. Ready...

...1277.5hours HOLY SHIT! I need a lot of lie-ins no wonder I am looking old!

Ninja I hope things start to improve for you. I can see difficult times ahead for us (no teaching jobs for DH) and it's horrible how much financial stress can get on top of you.

scarlotti OMG!! I thought stuff like that only happened on tv!! Lol. DD is maybe trying to show her loyalty to you by not making much effort with DH? Or maybe with the current situation it's just too much like hard work for your resident teenager? I think the constantly being online is fairly normal but like you, I'm not sure I'd be happy about it or know the right way to deal with it. Pleased to hear you and DH are communicating but make sure you take your time if you're thinking about trying again.

Ninja sorry, meant to say I hope you're ok. Do I remember correctly in that you had pnd after Alfie? I remember after DS1 it took a long time for me to feel that the post-pnd cloud had lifted. Be kind to yourself.

DWB I know I'd heard of these stories before but didn't have any real life examples. Poor DD. Maybe you're right with the effort thing, hadn't thought of that.
As for me and DH, if things work out, and it's a very big if, then it would have to be very slowly and we both have a lot to work on individually before we could ever think about being a married couple again.

If nothing else scarlotti, hopefully the communication now will allow you to stay on good terms in the future. It can only be positive.

That's what I'm thinking, and in the meantime I'm enjoying seeing the man I first met again. I hadn't realised how much I'd missed having him around.

scarlotti oh what a rollercoaster you are on! and not helped at all by a teenager in the house. I really hope you are able to work something out between you, but agree that time is what you need right now, and not to rush, you have been through so so much, and you have had so little support, right at a time when you needed it the most (with a newborn baby plus the rest of your family to care for) you need to be at peace with you and DH's decision now, for a little while at least. The future is a funny thing.

Talking of future. OMG what horrible times at work for so many people, i am sorry to hear how so many people are so up the air with job security or arsehole colleagues/bosses. In my work they appear to be handing out capability notices to people at the drop of the hat, it is immediately before compulsory redundancies are considered, so guessing those with those notices will b up first, they are being absolutely ruthless with it. I go to work every day wondering who is watching what I am doing, what are they clocking, and it is such a culture of fear right now, but at least it keeps my work to a good standard . I do not take my job for granted now, and we are considering our options should it all go pear shaped. a move to US is not out of the question, it won't necessarily be better there, but we will have family support to help us through poverty!

On the up side. I am so so loving being parent to two wonderful children. I guess I am sleeping more eh?! they adore each other so much. DD is coming on leaps and bounds at school she loves it, and is learning to read so fast it amazes me, a thirst for learning I am refreshed about as I have been so jaded. Roo wants to do and touch and be part of everything B is doing, sometimes annoys her, mostly she loves it. She feeds him, he lets her, she washes him, he lets her, she reads to him he tries to eat it. Roo is communicating with us all so well and has such a fun cheeky character, he loves his life and I just wish I was a child again, there is a lot of laughter here at the moment. Not sure if it is more sleep for me, but I feel like I am coming out of a bubble. Maybe it has always been like this and I am only just noticing? (best not think that, will make me sad!).

Pav Good to have you back!!

lol you mean my epic posts

i am however not going to take it all for granted and stay up til stupid oclock for the second night in a row. I didn't go to bed til 11pm last night due to doing a software update, so tonight, should be in bed by 10pm! Really that is a record in recent times.

No I mean your posts about enjoying parenthood! They've been missing a while, but you have such a way with words & really capture the joy & love you feel for your family. Nice to have a happy pav once more, long may it continue!

I am not counting my eggs, he has green snot, and red gums...

You should be in bed by now!

Ethan has snot as well - when do they learn to blow their nose?!

DH just bumped into our neighbour while walking the dogs, the wife's waters have gone but no contractions yet. DH is v excited for them! They are just over a week early & apparently their house is a mess. I remember that well. My labour started 2 days early and I was packing my hospital bag between contractions. Will be better organised this time. Says she who hasn't bought a thing for DS2 yet...

Annabelle is very coldy here too. am amazed at how many words she can say now. In the past week she has picked up the words 'sausage' 'stairs' 'star-chart' 'shoes' and she can kind of say 'dragon' more like 'dragda' so a lot od 's' words!. Am too enjoying having two children. The get on really well at the moment playing together and hugging, laughing at one another all the time its lovely to watch. I was worried that him having a sister was going to upset him, as I still remember how his face dropped as he watched as we strapped the baby into the car to go home from the hospital as he came to the realisation that the baby was actually coming to live with us. So am happy that they love each other so much.

Is it o'clock yet?

All day is for you on Fridays isn't it wook?

DD just literally took herself off for a nap in the pushchair so it would kind of seem rude not to.... No? Ok. You're right. I'll have a cup of tea.

I wish it was MsI I have to work first, til 10 but am not feeling great. would much rather have an early night. ah well I shall look forward to my week off next week.

Annabelle has just had a three hour nap! I think this is because of her cold though.

Oh dear Juicy. Hope you get through your shift ok. 3 hours nap sounds like the stuff of dreams. Rosa currently in bath with DH and she is waaayyy overtired. We've got into a nasty cycle of her being knackered, so going to bed early, so waking up early (gah!), so being knackered, so...you get the picture.