July 2010: old-skool, the worm, commando and shuffling on the bum: that's the way crawling's done

[CakeandRoses]

Well that gives them all of about 14 day's worth of chat to get crawling then

I'll do a book group as long as we don't read crap by anyone called james pattison or however you spell his last name (hopefully I got it wrong so it won't be googled )

DH, mlic and cake are soooo right!

chulita funnily enough, i was just pondering all this and came to the conclusion that having a cleaner does help massively as i feel like 'my job' at the mo is looking after the children (which I see as being one of the most important things i've ever done) as opposed to being here to clean the house.

it's also very precious time as it's not long before i'll go back to work (albeit part-time) to a demanding job when i'll be torn between work and home again

i always seem to have a 'project' on the go which keeps me busy - eg evening course or renovating the house.

I read loads too but having trouble getting thru books as quickly as i used too at the mo. i read every day tho might just be the sunday times mag.

tsc book groups a great idea but i've just joined one in RL so i'll have to see how i get on with reading that one first.

dh and i watch tons of films - maybe 3 a week plus we work our way thru box sets (just finished dexter season1 and just ordered season 2).

we always seem to have tons to talk about - but its often his work He likes to get my advice on dealing with stuff which I have more experience in. Keeps my brain ticking over anyway.

cakes me and DH often talk about his work, or more the gossip at his work, although now he's changed jobs there isn't as much.

I can't wait to go back to work, I really miss it, but worry about leaving Jacob at home.

i agree with the others dh i dont know how you find the time to shag so much and dont know how some of you have time to do so many baby groups i plan on going to one a week once my support group ends, i clean, look after my nan on a monday and work one day a week for 12 hours and play and take L out for a walk everyday.
i used to love reading esp travel books but have a biography from xmas i havent read and a book for my birthday, i would love to do a book group tsc it would make me pull my finger out, i dont even read the paper much anymore dont see the point i dont see anyone to discuss thr news with, would love to meet with people to discuss stuff with spoke to my mum earlier and it was L crawled backwards today and ate more than me at teatime, ooh do you want to bingo tomorrow, fucking bingo!!!! i never went bingo before i was pg now i like to go!! shoot me pleeeeeease!!!

I've never had a proper career-type job. We got married the week after I finished uni, I job-hunted for 8 months while teaching french/spanish in after-school clubs then we decided to start a family cos I just couldn't get a proper job (bad area for languages really). I've done lots of classic jobs: lifeguard/shop assistant/temp worker etc but nothing 'proper' so sometimes I wish I had but then I suppose I don't know what I'm missing either. I also love being home with the children and truth be told I wouldn't want to be doing anything else (at the moment).
I've asked DH several times if we can get a cleaner in once we have #3 but we'll see, tbh most of the time I live in a very dusty/cluttered house. I always say I make a better wife/mum than housekeeper. I do hate it though when housework gets in the way of playtime...

tsc if you know you don't want the job perhaps it'd be better not to do the 3rd interview but if you're not sure I say go for it and see how you feel once you're through it.

dh I saw that bf monkeys thing too not sure I'd do it...in fact I'm sure I wouldn't!

mlic any more ideas of a business you could do? I'd love to work from home, I just can't think what I'd do!

mlic that's how our conversations go, but then after five minutes of silence I find myself going 'What are you thinking?' like a really irritating teenage girl.

mlic our tea conversation was a bit like that but him to me
you have a good day?
yes
have you got the councellor tomorrow?
yes

the end

i am so fecking fed up i could cry! Dp and i had a huge row now i dont want to speak to him. All i wanted was a break when he got in from work as i have earache, a headache and generally shit. Now its nearly time for R to go down and no break for me. All because the poxy toilet blocked and breathe

I'd love to do a book club, i adore reading. Great idea tsc.

The extent of my social life sometimes entails the school run and the shops lol. I love being a mum but agree with you that it would be nice to be me sometimes whoever me is

wil catch up re brook group later - about to watch 'eat, love and pray' which has just come out on dvd. I loved the book but the reviews aren't great for the film so dh will be moaning shortly....

stac hope R goes down well for you so you can chill out

mlic i also batch cook for L and for us, make meals for my grandparents, bake, clean the house daily, because of my blood disorder im at the docs or hospital 2-3 times a week, i now iron!!! i suppose if i think about it i would have a bit of me time to read but with everything going on i struggle to relax and get into a book like i used to, hopefully when the pnd is sorted i will be able to do it, playgroups and baby groups i would have to travel into city for all of them bar 1 which is at same time of support group i go to so cant do that

tsc your dp's text sounds very grown up i get ones like'its going to be a late day...pooooooooooooo'

tsc i clean my toilet, bathroom and kitchen daily, as its only me using kitchen i tend to clean as i go as with main bathroom L and I ae the only ones who use it, dh cleans his shower. i do my kitchen floor every other day and sweep it daily and dh hoovers once a week never used to be like it and i doubt it will last once my head is sorted i will probably spend my summer sitting in garden reading and polishing my bike while i put L in his ball pit!!!

Oh god i really am struggling to feel like 'me' anymore too. And like that the conversation be's a bit dull too. I do my bit of hairdressing at home but not enough to feel really motivated or productive. There's a lot to he said for working in a salom environment. So hence the change of career thing. Still not written in stone that i'm going back to college but should know soon. Even im my style i wasn't feeling like myself as i always had something different or funky done with my hair and clothes but have startef buyin 'me' clothes again and got a big thick stylish side fringe in my hair yesterday and it really boosted me no end.
I love reading too. Would have always read a book every 2 or 3 days pre baby whereas my last book took me a month! always have a book with me though in case i get a minute to read again. So i'd definately be on for a book group. What does everybody read? i love a nice easy read and get very into a book to the point where it affects my mood! i'm reading sinful deceptions at the minute. Haven't got fully into it yet but seems ok so far

aw thanks chulita he settled R for bed which was great.

I'm like that with books kk. Get pics on of the new hair please. Love getting my hair done.

I have to say i am not houseproud. The house is clean but not always tidy, well the bedrooms. Always do bathroom, kitche and livingroom. I do all the cooking and dp will do dishes some nights. We both do the ferrying about to jacks clubs. I deal with all the bills, corresponence and stuff. It may be the control freak in me lol.

right, brook group. last month the book was The Road which i failed dismally at reading, mainly because i'd watched the film and it was good but depressing and i was too busy with other stuff to motivate myself to fit in something depressing!

This month it's My Sister's Keeper. I was a bit disappointed at the 'lowbrowness' of it but i think it was chosen because all the members are mothers so it should provoke a good discussion. Haven't started it yet tho...

There's no reason we couldn't do the same book and then have a group on here too. I guess it depends on what you/I think of the selection going forward.

mlic i know i'm lucky to have the cleaner. It always been the non-essential item at the top of my list whenever i could afford one, even when i've lived alone in small places.

tsc i always do the laundry and cook and dh 'does the kitchen', i.e. loads/unloads dishwasher, wipes down. he also sorts out bins and recycling. i tend to do the chores such as cleaning the fridge or decluttering cupboards or anything else the cleaner doesn't do. i also do the finances, paying bills etc - not sure why, i think i just like my 'systems' for doing stuff like that. i do most of the diy and decoration (aside from stuff we pay someone else to do - and i arrange that too).

my fascinating text to dh today read "There's a film" - and that was it (i got distracted and send it too soon). He replied "and?" but didn't get clarification for about 2 hours when i looked at my phone again by which point he'd been driven mad trying to understand what i was referring to (i had meant to say i wanted to get eat, love and pray out from block busters)

Umm...housework, we kind of do the minimum we can get away with really . I do the majority of it though. I do all the washing. Don't iron (apart from work shirts for dh). I do general keeping-the-kitchen-clean-as-I-go-along. I hoover when it's starting to look a bit scuzzy (we have wooden floors everywhere except 2 bedrooms so sometimes a quick sweep in kitchen/living room is quicker than getting the hoover out). Big mop maybe once a week? (All the house except those 2 bedrooms with carpet)

Bathrooms, I have a spray bottle of bleach and water with which I spray sink and shower and toilet, usually once a day, seems to keep it clean, gets a proper clean about once a week.

Dh loves to cook (I don't) so quite often on the weekends he does lots of cooking, him and A do it together, she gets up on a big chair next to him and "helps". During the week either of us will cook but quite often we don't really cook a big meal, just have sandwiches or leftovers or whatever.

I do all the "admin", bills etc, dh wouldn't have a clue about what gets paid when.

I don't really have a routine, just kind of do what looks like it needs doing.

I do make sure every weekend I go off by myself for a bit, well at the moment I take G because of feeding her, but she just sits in the pram happily. Before she was born I would make sure it was by myself - I just go somewhere like cafe, library, shops, for a few hours just to be out of the house and doing something for myself. When G is older I'll leave her too and maybe go swimming or whatever. I meet up with friends for coffee too at the weekends, my old work friends, none of whom have kids, it's nice to escape the kid thing completely for an hour or two.

Oh and dh does lots of the "outdoor" stuff, mows the lawn, does DIY stuff, things in the garden etc. And he's meant to take the bins out but I have to remind him about a zillion times so sometimes I just do it myself instead.