October 2005 Babies.....

[nervousmum]

....thought i'd better start a thread as there are currently 4 of us, with several more to follow!

Joey is now 4 days old (where did the time go?!?), and is doing really well. He actually managed to sleep through with just one feed last night, though i must confess i cheated and had him in bed with me (at my MW's recommendation!) as he was so fretful the night before.

Looking forward in the coming days and weeks to welcoming the other members of the Oct 05 antenatal group to this post-natal club, so i won't feel like Billy No-Mates, talking to myself

Awww, just got Evie dressed as we're going to a Pixie Photo shoot today (the vouchers were free in the bounty pack). I've tried her in some 3-6 month clothes and they fit!!!! She's lying on the bed at the mo in a gorgeous outfit which my mum brought a week after Evie was born and she looks soooooo cute and grown up!!!

elf - jessi and becky have their bounty photos tomorrow - just undecided what to dress them in! Becky is also in 3-6 month clothes now - my newborn isnt so much a newborn anymore!

Just had ruby weighed, she's exactly 3 months today (13 weeks) and weighs a whopping 15lb11oz She's way over that line thingy she's supposed to follow, but she's happy and healthy so that's the main thing. HV said her weight will start to even out when she gets more mobile but also told me there is no way she will wait until 6 mths to be weaned and was even asking if I'd started already! Well, i'm hoping to hold off for as long as possible (def wouldn't start yet) but it will be great to finally get a decent nights sleep once she's not so hungry all the time.

I really feel for you who have to return to work and are trying to find child care. I returned briefly after dd1 was born and it was hard leaving her. It isn't worth it financially for me as I don't earn enough to justify paying for childcare so it was a decision I haven't had to make. On the other hand my dd1 is quite a shy child having never been left for any length of time (up until her first day at preschool yesterday) maybe she would be a bit more outgoing had she been in nursery.

So annoyed, my car wont start! So no Pixie photoes for me today. Will have to get DH to sort out the car for tomorrow so I can go then, though they're there til Saturday. They're here and there all over the place in my town every few weeks, so if I miss this one, I dont have too long to wait.

I cant believe Evie is fitting in the 3-6 month clothes, esp as it was about a month and a half before she didn't look swamped in the 0-3 clothes! J&RM you're right... not such a "newborn" anymore!

sorry about your car elf

I havent even picked up my bounty pack yet will have to get letter out of the drawer.

bbb my hv came to weigh Cameron on Tuesday he was 12lb 7oz and had fell below his line as he had been in hospital, she asked me how many onces he was taking and I told her betwee 6/7 and she asked me if this was enough for him and right away I said yes because the way it sounded was as if she was insinuatiing weaning - I know I'll prob not wait to 6mnths with him as didnt with dd - it was recommende 4 months not 6 then, I was a bit shocked

sorry about your car elf

I havent even picked up my bounty pack yet will have to get letter out of the drawer.

bbb my hv came to weigh Cameron on Tuesday he was 12lb 7oz and had fell below his line as he had been in hospital, she asked me how many onces he was taking and I told her betwee 6/7 and she asked me if this was enough for him and right away I said yes because the way it sounded was as if she was insinuatiing weaning - I know I'll prob not wait to 6mnths with him as didnt with dd - it was recommende 4 months not 6 then, I was a bit shocked

It's odd isn't it? I thought it was the hv's that recommended 6 mths but they seem in a hurry to start the process. My sil was recommended to start with her baby at 3 and a half months. At the moment Ruby seems satisfied with her milk as she settles ok after her feeds(which I've always thought was more filling than baby rice anyway) so I'm sticking with that for as long as possible.

I was at the clinic in Dec and there was a baby four weeks older than Evie (so would have been 16 weeks old) and they were telling the woman to start the baby on solids.
I think the reccomendation is six months for breastfed babies and less than that for formula fed babies. My friend formula feeds her baby (born on the 31st August) and she started weaning her at the beginning of December.

i will be weaning between 4 and 5 months i think.... rebecca loves her milk, but still doesnt drink all that much, so want to get a bit more into her to build her up a bit x

OMG don't mention weaning before 6 months or the "Weaning Police" will get you!!!

I can't believe how 'upset' people get about this subjrct. FGS mums know their own babies!!! DS1 & DS2 were weaned early, they were screaming hungry and for ds2 any more than 6ozand he's sick it up. Now wee dd is totally differnt I can't see mee weaning her for much before 6 months as\she is such a tiny wee thing.

Sorry rant over, but another on this subject got mr really wound up.

BBB my ds2 is quite shy - he hasn't had the same experience as his brother and sister, who attended nursery while I worked. He's been at home with his Nana. I am not sure if it is his character or the different circumstances but he is due to start nursery 5 half days a week. I am dreading it! We tried a playgroup in the autumn but abandoned it as he was so miserable. Hoping this one works out - he is that little bit older too and has had more time to get used to the baby.

Back to baby stuff - not had Sophie weighed for a bit, but reckon she is around 11-12lb at 3 months. But she was only 6lb 9oz to begin with. People keep saying how dainty she is - not when you're carrying her around all day she isn't - feels like a great heavy lump. My back's killing me .

Good luck to all sorting out work issues etc.

Hi All, no time to catch up on all recent posts, but Joey started waking at 4am every morning, despite having previously slept through. When i saw my health visitor about it she said Joey was hungry given he's a big boy, and to start introducing solids rather than my breastfeeding him 24/7! So, we took her advice, and armed with Annabell Karmell's (?sp) book, Joey is now having a puree meal a day at lunchtime alongside his breastfeed, for the time being, and he's happily back to sleeping through again The whole 'weaning at 6 months' thing is an 'ideal', but every baby is different!

PS. Joey is 4 days off being 4 months old. Take care all, NM x

NM - if it helps - do it.

Rebecca has started waking about the same time, but she is only 11 weeks so not gonig anywhere near solids just yet.

Just read my 'weaning' rant, , sorry about that, but as I was trying to say, is that another thread had wound me up......so that's another subject I shall avoid reading along with working mother threads and Breast V bottle threads!!!

RTL - Why the rant? Has somebody being bothering you... we'll get the boys round to sort em out!
Wean when they need it is my motto! I dont want to do it when she isn't ready, so as soon as she shows signs, its down the hatch with the baby rice!

Elf, did you read MP & my posts re:nurserys?

I was cheesed of because of this can't believe it bothered me

Think it's more to do with me stopping breasfeeding and PMT returning. IFYWIM

I think it also bothered me, because I'm thinking of going down the childminder route and this completely and utterly put me off!!!

RTL - yes, I read the posts. I looked at the Ofstead reports for the nurseries I am looking at, they seem fairly decent. But I'm going with my gut instinct and trying to ignore the voice in my head that screams "go on the dole and stay at home!!"

RE weaning - I think I suggested that somebody speak to their HV about weaning their baby as their baby was waking a lot in the night (just a suggestion!) and somebody cut me short. In our area, its recommended earlier than six months.

As for childminders, I know a few and they're the nicest people I know. TBH you may get a child minder who is a bit snooty, but then you get some mothers and MIL's like that too! Just stick on your rose coloured glasses, adopt the "I'm listneing" post and "hmmmm, yes, you must be right" in the pauses.

elf-yes I can ignore MILs etc but if a childminder cannot accept that I know my child best, or does not respect the way I choose to raise my kid. Well that's different, I mean those childminders on that thread were calling it negligence that the baby was being weaned at 17 weeks.FGS. That's why I prefer nurserys,you're not reliant on one person and their opinions to look after your child.

OMG off I go ranting again, bloody hormones

Let the hormones get out via ranting. Good for you!
Have you started looking for a childminder yet? Do you have any friends that use childminders who could recommend a good one? Have you used the childcare link
You can search on there for childminders.
I've been toying with the idea of a childminder as opposed to nursery. Firstly, my SIL works at a nursery and the horror stories she tells me scares the life out of me, and secondly, I think the personal care from a childminder may be better (less kids to focus on etc). Will see what my gut reaction is to the nurseries I'm looking at, and then look at some childminders.

Evie is not going to sleep tonight. She's just BIT me!! Okay, gummed I'm giving her five mins to chill out before I prepare myself for round two of feeding.

Oh and MIL's - my step MIL refuses to believe that Evie can do anything if she does it before her daughters daughter did it. So, when I said she smiled, the reply was "oh no, x didn't smile til x weeks so she cant possibly be smiling"!!

Elf at MIL. That must break your heart, my PILs are a pain in the bum, but they dote on my ds2 and dd. Luckily enough as my mums dead and my dad had been too busy to meet his only granddaughter

hey girls. didn't mean to neglect you - we just had a rough time. from a week before xmas till a week ago all 4 of us had bronchitis - including little caitlin she was very poorly!! - but she is feeding for the kingdom now and smiling and giggling and laughing all the time
she seems to be a very clever one - she doesn't cry for attention; she smiles for it - how could you resist that

re childcare: with 2 under 2 i couldn't afford any type of childminder so i am staying home.

re weaning: agreed! if you think your child is ready, go for it! i weaned ds with 15 weeks and i don't think i'll wait till 6 months with caitlin - but the 'push out reflex' is still fully engaged

weight: hv came around 2 days ago - to do my 'postnatal depression test'
got caitlin weighed the same time. 14 weeks and 13lb 1,5 oz

elf: what a shame with your car and a beautifully dressed dd - hope you can get the pics soon

Susis about you all being ill.
Caitlin sounds gorgeous

What's the postnatal depression test?

Hi ladies. Johnny is 12 weeks now, and my HV has made no mention of weaning yet. I am not going to mention it at all and see what she comes out with! His feeding has settled down dramatically and now we are trying to get him to sleep a bit more during the day. He doesn't want to sleep as there are so many things to look at! I never knew that the lining of a pram was so interesting....

I have started the mammoth task of cleaning my kitchen (and then the rest of the house) and childproofing it all in preparation for becoming a childminder (not for around another 3 months or so, but there is so much to do). I will etch on my memory not to interfere after reading the thread that you were ranting about RTL.

DH was made redundant from his job just before Christmas, but luckily he got another (more interesting) job straight away. He doesn't actually start until Feb 1st as he just took all his holiday entitlement from the old job so it is great to have another pair of hands around the house.

Not a lot else doing really. You all know how it is - nappies, feeding, crying and a million loads of washing.....

MB