July 2010: Better child-proof the home, it won't be long now 'til our babes start to roam!

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As you were

oh needle, poor you. On Friday night when J just would not feed despite screaming with hunger and desperately trying to latch onto my chin I'm afraid I lost it and SCREAMED at him "JUST FUCKING FEED!". Then I burst into tears and cried and cried with J in my arms crying and crying. we were a slobbery mess! luckily DH then arrived home with Chinese and cheered us all up.

cake I'm planning to breastfeed for the foreseeable future - I think it looks like a fab tool to have in your armoury with a toddler who is teething/coldy/upset. I will be back at work when he's a year old but plan to continue mornings and evenings basically as long as he wants to. Mind you this depends on getting through this horrible fussy phase... Most of my friends with babies the same age are still BFing. One is winding down now. Several others planned to stop at 6 months but their babies won't take bottles or they are finding they're not ready to stop yet so are keeping going. I can't see the point of stopping at 6 months if all is going well - I'd like to feed for a year at least so as not to have to worry about making up formula!

Last Friday was the first time we'd had sex since B was concieved that sounds really bad dosn't it? In our defence I had really bad hyperemesis and spd all throughout the pregnancy and now with two kids to look after and the hours that dh is working we're both just compleatly knackered. Hopefully when B goes into her own room and the gritting season finishes we'll get back into the swing of it.

I plan to continue bf for as long as possible (obviously not until I wave her off to uni or such like but you know what I mean) I fed D until he was 9 months I only stopped because I got put onto anti depressants and didn't feel happy with the fact he would get some through my milk so I would like to feed B for longer.
I'm starting work again in April and no matter how hard we try she just will not take a bottle so an crapping myself about that.

Hope everyone has a good night tonight x

i posted a big post a while ago and its not bloody here!
i'll come back later and write another when i've a glass or 2 of wine

I'm hoping to stop breastfeeding at around 9 months. We gave Gwen her first baby rice tonight. It was received with disdain that would make AA Gill wince.

Mlic, the pimlico group seems nice, i've not been regularly enough to make friends, but i'm going to persevere. It's always in someone's house, which is really nice because you're not sitting in a draughty church hall. The house has been driving me mad because the work on the tea house has started, so our house is full of crap again. I'm so desperate for a nice home- we've been living out of boxes for such a long time, and are still stuck in the kitchen. I feel so selfish, my husband is amazing and so patient with me and I just seem to spend all my time feeling miserable.

kk another one here who's become a nervous passeenger since having children. I used to be a really mad confident driver and blase passenger whereas now I'm a cautious driver and a bloody annoyingly paranoid passenger despite dh being a pretty safe driver.

woodlands poor you. There's something that goes to the core of a mother when it comes to her baby not feeding. A's done it a couple of times due to trapped wind or reflux and I cried too. Could it be wind or reflux in J's case?

tsc I'm sure he can't look that bad - most babies are covered in scratches now (ps try that pure potion I recommended). Take him, I'm sure it'll be ok but if not we can all come to your rescue/defence thelma and louise and erin brok meets mumsnets style.

dylthan was it worth the wait? ;-)

needle sorry, just realised I didn't reply to you. Babies... Just as you think you've cracked it, they go thru another bad stage. I've come to see good phases as not the norm but a thing of wonder and joy. Your expressed milk sounds plenty to me but neither of mine took much in the evening so I might not be the best judge.

Feeling a tad grumpy here as dh's just asked permission informed me that he'll be out (for work stuff) two evening this week and an evening/overnight then just after bedtime the next night (grrr) over the next fortnight. Agghhh! All my holiday chillness has gone straight out of the window. I've repaired to a very deep bath (it's a huge rolltop so it's drownable levels) with a lush bath bomb, and left him jiggling a farty aurelia. Hah!

Sorry everyone seems to have had a bad day. Ours has been fairly good. Dh and I went out for a curry with friends for one of their birthdays so had a really late night (for us) but both children slept late (7.30 dd woke and cane for a cuddle. When she wanted tv on I sent to speak to dh in spare room where he disappears to when ds wakes for a feed. Ds woke at 8 ish and for a change only woke once in the night. Back to reality in the morning though.

Re pnd, not taking antidepressants, but theoretically seeing hv regularly. She's coming on Tuesday but will be 1st time seen her since October I think. It is difficult to know if pnd or just being knocked from lack of sleep. Do feel like a rubbish mum because of it but can't be doing too bad a job as ds v smiley.

Not surprisingly I have no libido either. Haven't done it since b4 Christmas (but have all been ill) and that was a disaster as dd woke as we were both getting in to it.

Ds is now bum shuffling/bouncing. Was kinda hoping for one that wldn't move much or early, but he's doing exactly the same as his big sister & at the same age bizarrely.

What are nd beads and where can I get some?. Going to try feeding under a cover as dd doesn't like being abandoned/left on her own either. Fed dd for 17 mths so want to keep going for a year if possible then see how I feel.

Hope u all have a good night

Sorry - I corrected the sentence and actually made it nonsense. All those evenings (and overnighter) are this week and next.

Bf beads even! I hate this phone. It keeps changing what I write. Some stupid predictive text thing... aargh!

Ds suffers badly with wind too. So awful seeing them in pain and not able to feed. No wonded cures here yet, but will let u know if I find one. Cutting out cheese seems to help though. Yesterdays curry however does not.

melissa they're a baby-safe necklace with colours, small bells etc which they play with whilst bf. It helps with keeping them focused and also sometime sometime them tearing your chest to bits. I'll post a link when I'm back on mac as to annoying to find on bb.

I'm so surprised that they are so many 'extended' bf (9-12months+) on this thread. Don't know one in rl so how did you all end up here?!

Re libido - mine's here, quietly crying in the corner but no-one notices over the noise and cosy sleeping arrangements (4 in the bed inc the cat and A next to us) but I'm hopeful libido will get a hearing once our bedroom has been evacuated by the under 30s in the next month or so.

No worries, knew what you meant! Note: they could be a bit on the lentil-weavery side. Possibly. < Remembers bells > Definitely.

Note to the dirty-minded amongst you: 'libido getting a hearing' is NOT code for aural sex

;-)

Cake re bfing - rates of bf are much higher here in NZ, I think everyone I've known who has bf has carried on past 6 months. I mainly do it because I can't be arsed to make up bottles. They have this "Breastfeeding-friendly" thing in hospitals here where they give you loads of leaflets and advice about bfing, there are instructions about it all over the baby's cot in hosp. Even have bf adverts on TV!

wow wss bf adverts?!

what's the view there on bf in public?

melissa here's the one i have (i think). i only wore it for bf but there's other prettier ones that are designed to be worn all the time, like this one but i don't know how effective these are.

Bf in public seen as completely normal here as far as I can tell. Never had any probs feeding anywhere - actually had little old ladies coming up to congratulate me

The ads are kind of encouraging supporting someone who is bf e.g. the dad takes the older kids off to the park so the mum can concentrate on establishing bfing with her newborn, that kind of thing.

xposted you tsc

who said 6months? (did i?) i said 9-12months+ kinda meaning anything past 6m seems unusual as 6m is the 'natural' cut-off point what with weaning onto solids then.

i'm not really sure when feels right to stop for me as i think i only stopped bf F at 14m as i was pg with A. as that won't be the case this time, i'll be able to go on longer if i/she wants. Not saying I will as i stopped feeding F literally just before he started walking and seemed right in an odd way (I'm not judging others who go on longer btw).

am very pleased i've managed a domestic goddess guise on here

that's lovely of your dp to say that. not sure dh even notices i bf half the time.

Thanks cakes. Will have a look at those when on pc.

Re Bf I found after dd that most people stopped at 6 mth or earlier and many introduced formula earlier. felt like a freek for continuing. Had no support from family to continue which didn't help. Mum just kept telling me that she fed my brother for 6 months then he went straight on to cows milk from a cup.

Dh thinks I should think about stopping Bf sooner this time so that I can wear what i like. What he means is dresses! My boobs are currently 34h/i (didn't go down after bfing dd and grown again with ds). Where does he think I am going to be able to buy dresses that fit I have no idea! Ok bravissimo, but nowhere else.

Better go as ds trying to help me type! Night night

cakes have a similar necklace but haven't used it much. L rather likes it for Bear so the few times I've worn it I get whinged at til I hand it over. (I think the bell shaped like a rubber duck is what wins her over)
I'm planning on bfing S til one then switching him straight onto cow's milk although the dairy intolerance will most likely scupper that plan. I just don't want to be bfing and trying for the next one. I'd like my body to be mine for at least a week before moving onto the next one.
tsc better to take him than not, everyone knows babies do all sorts to themselves.
Right, I'm not ignoring you all, I'm just feeling rubbish. Every joint aches and I've got the shakes, S was up all night last night too and I was swinging between being ice-cold and literally dripping with sweat (nice). Just when I need a good few hours in a row he decides to be up for 5 hours overnight

Winter sounds like you guys are suffering. Hope u all feel better soon.

tsc if your concerned I wld tale ds to docs, or at least phone them and speak to a nurse or doc. Hope he's a little better this morning.

Ive always said Ill bf to a year but if D wants to stop before then he is very welcome but I cant see that happening, he is def a boob man.
I dont really want to bf past a year though, its not exactly necessary like it is at this age and I just know Ill get funny looks.
Even my grandma is weird about it, saying I should stop when he gets teeth, keeps telling me to give him a bottle etc.

He had a good night again last night, woke at 2 and 7 (although I managed to get him back to sleep til 7:40!)

gosh its hard to keep up with you guys!
I was actually cleaning poo off D's shoulders this morning!! Always a good way to start the day
Can't remember who was worrying about going back to work and bottles? I got a tommee tippee cup (you know the ones with the pop up spout) he seemed to get on with it much better than with the bottle, less frustrating for him and tbh probably more like feeding from me, I have a very fast let down. I'm going back on Feb 14th - feel sick at the thought of leaving him, but really looking forward to being back at work..

I bf dd until she was about 22months - when I fell pregnant with ds. Don't know what I'll do this time, she was a very committed feeder, and by the end we were only feeding at bedtime and nap time - on days when she is overtired and refusing to go to sleep I wish I was still feeding her. Was nice to have my body back for a bit though. Will be weird when I stop, I've been pregnant or breastfeeding for soo long now.

We aren't having much sex, just so tired, must get round to de-fuzzing my legs soon, make a bit of an effort for my long-suffering husband.

wonder lol at cleaning poo from D's shoulders - thats pretty much how my morning started yesterday! Still don't know how it happened. Guess the joys of them learning to sit up. Ended up taking L into the shower - was so much easier. That's great that he's taking milk from a cup.

Can't believe people are going back to work already. One of my nct group went back at beginning of december where her ds was 6 mth. I'm hoping to stay home until July.

tsc glad to hear you weren't serious, Hope he is ok though