March 2010. A lesson for much of life: Shut the door. Find the corkscrew.

[Arcadie]

Happy Christmas MMMs. This is my gift to you!

dontry, I'm sorry you're so upset, I hope DH realises his mistake and apologieses. But men.. a lot of them just don't get it, and probably never will. Is it possible that you might be feeling over-sensitive about the issue of leaving her though?

If it makes you feel better I shouted at my DH last weekend and slammed a door because, when I told him how much formula to make, he said something about me "arbitrarily making up the volumes two days ago". Umm, no, I've been at home and feeding Isobel for almost 10 months now and I know how much she drinks

Pixie we have a wheelybug, I just think they're the cutest things. I bought mine in a local shop (actually cheaper than JL!), but afaik Amazon have then even cheaper. I got it months ago, when Isobel was far too young to use it, but I'd unexpectedly come into a bit of cash and I'd had my eye on them since before she was even born. She's big enough to sit on it now and be pushed around, but not big enough to move around on it by herself.

Rinders, lovely to see you, please do pop in whenever you can. I'm sorry things are still difficult, I really hope DH's health picks up soon.

scooby nice to see you too, and glad to hear you sounding positive. And Mexico, sounds fab, you definitely deserve a break. Very of the sunshine though.

Wheelybugs are The Best Ride-on Toy Ever - in the History of the World !
Word of warning: on hard flooring with a competent 2-4 year old child on them, they are very very fast indeed (we have a looooong hall). They are great for indoor exercise for the labs boys. The best toy investment we ever made. Honest. Bar none.

Love to Rinders and donttry

Sorry donttry, I mis-typed your name. And I hope my suggestion that you're feeling sensitive wasn't patronising and ridiculous. I think I'd be feeling sensitive if it were me. I didn't mean to suggest that you're not right to be upset though, I hope it didn't come across that way.

Thanks very much my lovely mnnetters! I have tears rolling down my face now.

I think I have been over-sensitive, and yes it was insulting to him to say he was a secondary carer. It's just that DD is always a little clingy with me after she's been with him, even though she really loves being with him, and I don't know what she'd do if I went away for so long all in one block.

I will talk to him when I feel better.

Just a thought: if DD's clingy with you after being with DH for a whole day, it might actually be good for her to spend a few days with him. Not the two weeks at once necessarily, but if you're feeling wibbly about the KIT days, it might help you to think of it as a bit of a bonding experience for your DH and DD.

hello ladies,

rinders lovely yo hear from you, sorry to hear things are still hard, hope your dh is doing well

donttry i hope u and your dh have a good chat and sort it all out,

Elliott has the pox! the babies who attended the xmas party i hosted have all come down with it over the lasst 3 days! glad he had tbh at least its out the way and over with, the other two have already had it!

pixie love the labdy bug ride ons very cute

hi to everyone else x

donttry definitely talk to him. I'm sure you'll find a nice balance. [hugs]

rinders all the best luck for 2011!

Sarah I love your optimist!

I had a really nice chat with DH :) things are much better now! thank you for your words.

Back to work
x

bkmarking.
Hoping to be back for a witter later.

IWCAS- oh that's soo crap and sincerely bad form- sounds like your boss knew fine well what he was doing. Even if he didn't plan to pay you he should have made it clear so you could plan whilst then fighting it out. He doesn't work in uniform in the north does he? Sounds like a trick my lot would play. Hmmm.

That Mookie looks fabbby. Never heard of it bit looks a good candidate for DS bday too. I like physical toys.

Good luck for tomorrow xx

Ooh, yes, mookie looks great, IWCAS - and good on you for winning the competition. But sorry to hear your employer is being such a twonk.

We have the ladybird wheelybug - it was our Christmas present to DD. she seems to like it - and DS absolutely loves it. PD is quite right about the speed that a two-something can get up to on it (especially on wooden floors).

Hope you're feeling more chipper donttry. I know where you were coming from. I don't think you can spend 9 months, pretty much day in and day out, with your baby and not regard yourself as her primary carer and not worry about how she'll be when left with someone else, even if that someone else is her Dad who, doubtless, loves her every bit as much as you do.

And re KIT days, I'm also supposed to be doing a couple before I go back in mid-Feb. Can't say I'm wildly enthusiastic and don't much see the point this close to my return. But may be worth it to keep work sweet. Just hope they pay me; it will cost £60 per day to travel into London in peak hours (no season ticket yet).

BMI, I wish I could say that my "close to the bone" quip was an intentional pun but, sadly, I'm not that witty.

Rinders, good to "see" you but very sorry to hear that things are still hard. I just hope they are hard as an inevitable part of getting through the horrible situation you found yourselves in last year and not because of any further bad news. Hope that makes sense! Anyway, best wishes to you all as always.

Sarah - you sound impressively calm about E's chicken pox. Ihope he's not too spotty and itchy.

to everyone I've missed out in this, no doubt, very disjointed post.

Congrats on the comp IWCAS. You are entitled to accrue A/L in your mat leave as you know. Maybe you could print something off from directgov website or something to show your boss to speed up the process? Very poor show.

Had a chat with DH and turns out that the wise pixie was right with all she said. We're all grand again. To tell the truth I have a terrible temper, and obviously low self esteem too. I'm always threatening to leave (and meaning it) for far less. BMI yes it would be good for them spend a few days together without me. They spend a lot of time together as it is but she just sometimes has the separation anxiety so when she sees me she actually cuddles me for a change (which NEVER happens usually!!) even though she's had a great time with him.

Sariska are you Southern Trains? Last year I managed to get £20 tickets for travel anytime, though had to buy £100 worth and buy in advance. here.

Sorry about the pox Sarah. Does it affect his sleeping (can you tell I'm obsessed with sleep or rather non-sleep?!)

Evening pixie.... could be worse..... Coal or dare i say marmite?

I'm soooooo tired. At work on nights. Been up since 6am Friday morning and it'll be at least 7.40am til bed. I tried to sleep at lunch when DS did to no avail x

hi ya

Rough night here, Elliott very unsettles, pox are miltiplying by the hour!

and to cap it off i have tonsilitis, and on more anti biotics! :(

never mind eh TTSP

ICWAS< well done on the comw min, Ds's gift lookds fab!
Sorry your boss is messing you about:) hope the return to waork was ok though and R was ok with the childminder

Glad u and dh have sorted things out DOntty,

Pixie i am so glad you clarified.. craving ladies is a bit worrying! enjoy ur munch bunch!

right off to ger my house tidy whilst the dcs eat breakfast!

Pregnancy brain's kicked in then Pixie?

Not directly at you, pixie just... 'tis funny

Sorry last night was bad, sarah - mine was awful too, although I can't work out why, exactly. James woke at midnight and decided to be awake until 2am, then was just...restless all night, constantly latching on (but not really feeding so was simply usuing me to get back off to sleep )

Hi, guys, I am still around, lurking more than posting as it is much easier to look for a minute or 2 than it is to get my thoughts together AND typed down.

donttry, I am glad that you and your DH have kissed and made up: I really felt for you when you first posted all upset, but could kind of see your DH's POV too... What is it with men that they always have to be all practical about things when all we need is a bit of TLC??

Pixie, teehee about the lady-craving. WRT pregnancy related craving: it could be a whole lot worse than MunchBunch, thank your lucky stars...

IWCAS, grr on your behalf at your boss' behaviour. I have no idea in these things, but: can he DO that?? Seems totally unreasonable to me... I hope you get something sorted out. How is R's doing? And his weight??
I was talking to the gran of a petite 14 months of patient recently who insisted that as her weight had gone from 17lbs 9oz to 18lbs 4oz she had 'clearly lost a lot of weight' - I was confused . She had gained weight, you loon (the gran, not you ), not much for 3 months, granted, but she HAD gained which I thought was ok as she had been v ill for a lot of that time. Anyhoo, my point is, although the gran clearly only spoke out of concern for her GC, she did NOTHING to make her daughter feel less distraught/guilty/upset about how her little girl was doing.

sarah, hope things are improving for you and PoxBoy. And sleep... What's sleep?? I only have a v distant memory of something that went on for 8 uninterrupted hours...

Manda, how are you doing, chuck? Jetlag coming east is always soooo much worse IME. Hope you are all doing ok incl. MandaBean .

Joe is growing up by the minute - it is quite shocking. He will now no longer sit (sitting is for babies, apparently) - one stands. It is almost impossible to change a nappy as he has not time to just lie there which makes for interesting wrestling matches . He has suddenly started babbling a lot and is generally v sweet. Not sleeping, but sweet .

We are in the throws of potty training DS3 - it is most amusing, v v v exciting (for DS3 which makes it so fun to watch) and going really well . This morning he shuffled into the kitchen with his pants and PJ bottoms around his ankles, the actual potty insert of his big 'throne'-like potty in his hand - complete with perfectly formed poo : he was so v proud that it seemed only right to do nothing but praise him and v-e-r-y gently as to not upset him (which makes him throw things) take the potty off him for disinfection cleaning purposes. It hadn't been the first success, but the first one he did on his own and without announcing first what he was doing .

Sorry if all of this is TMI and if I have turned into one of these annoying people who can go on about their DC's bodily functions for hours on end ... It's not even like I had not done the whole potty training thing before, it is just his enthusiasm that is so endearing and funny and sweet...

So howdihow everybody else, hope you are all doing swimmingly well.

hey all,

still up with a very unsettled boy! these pox are really driving him insane now the itching had began! giving calpol and applying calamine lotion as often as i can.... tried to get piriton but he has to be over 1....pd can he have it? or anything else?

pd i know what u mean about them growing up too fast but they are super cute,

WD to ds 3 on the poo!he must have been so proud of himself!

right alls quiet i am going to close my eyes! i have told dh i will sufffer til 4 am then he needs to take over as i am suffering terrible with tonsilitis, abs are slowing kicking in now though

night all

Hi all

Apparently it took me quite a while to come back for some witterance.

DH goes back to work proper after the Christmas break tomorrow so all my late starting mornings are numbered.
RKD: "Oh but darling I was up for at least an hour in the night, please can I lie in?"
RKD DH: "Yes my sweet precious of course you can. I would be honoured to get the kids up and breakfasted and dressed for the 4th day in a row"
Or something like that..... Anyhoo - it's been a lovely long and protracted Christmas holiday.

Simeon is finally being trained out of his swaddle I know it's ridiculous to have still been swaddling a 9 month old but he just wouldn't sleep otherwise. Oh and he's crawling too. ( Did I already say that?)

PD Splendidly well done to DS3 for his potty training - gracious me what a clever little boy.

IWCAS Cheeky sod of a boss - right out of order. But well done on the competition.

Donttry Glad you and DH made up. Hope the KIT days work out and that DH really bonds brilliantly with DD as a result.

sarah Eurrrgh on the pox. Loathesome illness. Well done on keeping cheery.

Rinders Huge good wishes for you and DH for this year. Hope he's recovering and that DDs continue to be a delight.

Manda and Pixie on the joy of being pg again. Don't want another but I do miss being pregnant. Hope the MS abates asap. Keep up all the preg brain comments. tehy make me

Scooby my respect to you for being able to do the hours you do. Rest well.

Melk Hey there - miss your silliness on here. Stop doing real life and get back onto MN.

Boobgate No one notices whether I have big small or tiny boobs as they're too busy gazing at my post-baby post-waaaaay too much chocoalte pot belly. But the tick chart has started. i've done 3 Davina DVDs and been running. i WIll. Get. Fit. And. Slim.

4 more sleeps til DS1 starts school. I well up every time I think of it. This is not good.