June 2009 - terrible twos here we come

[bigcar]

Here we are ladies

mine has gone all over the place since F. somewhere between 21 days and 27 days. i got freaked out that this meant menopause imminent, but read this can go on for 10 years!!! still obvious when i'm fertile. if you have read the fertility friend pages, or can tell when you are fertile, then you should be absolutely fine. good idea to keep a record of discharge (and peak) so you can see loosely what the pattern is.

thanks venetian, menopause wow that did not cross my mind, I'm going to try and ask a friend of mine today who is a gp. where csn i find the fertility friends pages, is that on mn?

just had breakfast out with dh, thanks juners for giving me the idea!! it was really lovely and yesterday evening he gave me some very nice (classy) underwear for valentines, for the first time in yeaaaaaars. last year i got a last minute plastic candle from the pound shop.

to be fair i sent him my measurements by text last week, i don't think you can give a heavier hint that that... :) very pleased with his choice, i am so glad he didn't get me crotchless red knickers!!!

gauchita how's work with dh going?
snow how are you doing with the snacking etc?
bigcar, did you celebrate this weekend?
allsheep, how is it going?

where's mrsmc, ineed, whenskies?

happy valentines juners :)

Afternoon all!

June, aw so nice you got to have breakfast out with DH today. How was the babysitter? How did DH feel? Hope this is the first step towards a dinner date And yay for getting a lovely pressie as well
I remember my period being all over the place before getting PG, remember I came here in October thinking I had miscarried as my period came 10 days early? It ended up just being that, an irregular period but it was like that for some months, yes.
Work with DH is going well. Having my own space to do things separated from him helps. And I also try not to ask him things constantly or be around too much and it works! He ends up coming round to say hello every now and again

Vene, hope F's tonsillitis has cleared now and he's all better. Back to nursery this week? Hope you can get soaked up in work again this week

Bigcar, how were the celebrations this weekend?I see the icon has changed already since the weekend Well done E for calling a cat by its name, M's word for dog/perro is its sound "guau guau" But then again, "perro" is a particularly difficult word in Spanish for children because of the rolling "r", they end up saying "pedo", which is "fart" It brings up lots of laughter until they get it right.

Snow, how's Z's reflux? Meds making any difference?

A bit of a failed weekend over here. I booked a room in a nice hotel for Saturday night, right opposite where DH works, so that he wouldn't have to drive home late, etc, only for M to get some sort of tummy bug and throw up from 8 till 4am. I spent a long time in the bathroom as I didn't want her to be sick on the carpet again

Poor her she evidently felt horrible as she herself took me there when she felt it coming We ended up at an out-of-hours surgery as she wasn't even tolerating water, and then checked out of the hotel and went home. We spent Sunday in bed catching up on sleep and hydrating M v v v slowly. She seems better but is still off her food.

11+3 today, counting the days till week 12 Next Monday we have the first scan

Waves!

hi girls,just a quick post as Z has just gone to sleep and I need to get my head down.
june Sooo pleased you got out with DH and a lovely present too
gauchita What a shame about the hotel. I hope M is ok now
Au pair would be great, but no room in our flat.
venetian is F on the mend?
bigcar thanks for the support, much appreciated.

Z a little better on the days she doesn't spit out the medication . A hasn't bitten her for a week . She is lovely , lots of smiles and starting to coo.

Hope you all ok and had good Valentine's day.
DH bought me some lovely chocolates from the kids. I was still pissed off with some of his behaviour on the weekend so I didn't bother to write his card. We need to sort things out. Argue constantly and don't argue like adults. Lots of hurtful things being said. Been like this for some time. Maybe we need to go to relate and learn to speak to each other again. ..

Thank you, yesterday was F's last day on antibiotics and although his nose is still streaming (aren't they all!) the pain has gone and he is sleeping better. He is back at nursery tomorrow (God willing!!!!) however it's half term so not a lot is going to get done this week. DD is going to friend's to play tomorrow morning and I can put her in front of a movie after lunch, so I can get a few things done tomorrow.

Next week is more realistic.

Snowwombat* our relationship hit rock bottom after no.2 was born. It's much better now. Tough time. And my no. 1 was 3yr + 3m when F was born. I find it so hard to advise others about relationships when you have a baby in the household - do what you feel is best. There is just so much stress exacerbated by ridiculous levels of tiredness.

june - I am 44 so naturally my mind leaps to thoughts of menopause (for getting really familiar with cycle - www.fertilityfriend.com). Some women have irregular periods their whole life. Congrats on having a coffee out. Now take the plunge and have an evening out!

gaucita - poor you honey. That's so unfortunate. You must have had a hideous night. We've given up on staying nights anywhere other than home, because being up half the night somewhere unfamiliar is hard work, and F has been so sick in past 5 months.

I insisted dp didn't buy flowers and I was instead going to ask for family membership to National Trust so I could see lots of flowers for free this summer, but he bought 12 red roses and so I can't really ask for the other. Thing is, I don't care less about roses, but how can you tell a guy that!!!

hey gauchita, sorry to hear about your dreadful night :( how's M now?
C. was at nursery when we went out so no babysitter involved.
venetian, i'm 34, but i actually have no idea when menopause typically happens. i asked a friend of mine who is a gp and she said not to worry about running out of eggs early. i will carry on monitoring AF though.

snow sorry to hear about how hardwork your relationship with dh is at the moment. it's harder with 1 already, i can't imagine with 2, and i second what venetian said, sleep deprivation makes everyting so much worse :( i find from time to time we're not on the same wavelength and we re-adjust. it is important to talk to eachother, express your feelings. you do have a newborn though, that takes a lot of energy, take it easy.
i practically had to peel dh off his laptop to get a cuddle last night... doesn't do anything for my confidence. sometimes i think i could walk around naked in the house and he wouldn't notice.

i shouldn't drink, only had 3 glasses last night and felt awful all day.

bigcar

better get to sleep now, work tomorrow.
take care!

ooh, how is everyone, the thread has gone quiet

evening all

been a bit busy, rl has gotten in the way was also sick over the weekend and it's really wiped me out. I normally avoid all the pukey things they bring home from school but this one got past my normal defences! It also managed to make my spd even worse and I could barely move, oh well, kept dh busy with the dcs.

hope you're all well, waves to all

Evening all!

Bigcar, sorry to hear you were poorly, same here I hate bugs! Ouch, hope the SPD calms down a bit for you.

June, M's a bit better now, fortunately. The following day she got some sort of conjunctivitis and then I got it as well (and still have it!) Taking advantage of C being at nursery was a good idea especially as it was the first "outing" on your own Cheering here for a date next! I've arranged with my translator friend to leave M with her when we go for our massage I visited the link Venetian posted the other day and bought a massage and facial treatment for 2! We have 6 months to use it so hopefully we'll go soon.

Vene, again, thanks for the link I'm glad I decided to go for it. Hope F's all better now and you've managed to do some work.

Snow, so sorry to hear you're going through a rough patch with DH. As others have said, it's not easy with a newborn. Exhaustion is a killer and even the best moods turn foul. DH and I have had our rough patches in the past, and I agree, communication is key. The thing is when tempers are heated and partners are tired/stressed/etc, it can be so hard to communicate and listen to each other. Even when one thinks they're listening, they might not be, I've been guilty of that one If you think relate will help, then why not give it a try? You have to go for whatever feels right for you two. Every relationship is different and different approaches don't work for every single couple. I hope things get better soon (((((hug)))))

I was SO lucky I caught M's bug. Fortunately no vomiting, but the nausea became 20 times worse than with MS I'm a bit better today but yesterday I spent the afternoon curled up in a ball on the sofa with M.

Following June's advice I'm getting a cleaner. Only on a demand basis (is that an expression?), she works at DH's work so I can call her when things get bad I can't help but feel awfully at needing one, though, as we live in a flat! A two bedroom flat, and these days I can't keep on top of things I think it's the Monica in me who just feels embarrassed of now behaving this way Oh well...

Off to bed now, hope everyone has a nice weekend!

Oh my... it's snowing!

Hi Everyone,

Half term is finally here so I have a teeny bit of me time to catch up with the Juners.

Gauchita - glad to hear pg going well other than MS that is. Hope M is ok after her vomiting bug and that you are recovering. N and I had that at Christmas, luckily I was bfing as that was all she would take other than water and in between her feeding/vomiting I was running to the loo myself, very wearing.

Bigcar - These vomiting bugs seem to be doing the rounds, my niece has been off three times this term as she gets rid of one, goes back in to school and catches it again. Hope you are feeling a bit better and the SPD is calming down now.

Vene - hope F's return to nursery went well, being a working mum is not easy especially when they are ill, luckily I have DH who looks after N, but when she is sick she just wants her mum so although I manage to get into work I do it on very little sleep and DH gets a moany N all day. Seems nowadays that understanding is lacking (particularly with employers) with regard to illness and convalescence time when my Gran was young they would pack you off to the country for a couple of weeks to get fresh air and recover.

Snow - Sleep deprivation really makes things tough and everyone snappy. You need to tell DH how much you miss him, he is probably feeling the same. Being the working parent can be stressful in a different way to being a SAHP, maybe if he had some 'bloke' time away he would reflect on his behaviour and come back in a better frame of mind. Although I work so my situation is reversed because DH is SAHD, I take N out on certain days so DH can play computer games at home with his brother or he goes out to watch football. He always comes back in a better mood after he has had this time. Then he can do the same for you so that you can go and get a nice massage or go for a swim, whatever will help you relax.

June - glad you managed to make time for a with DH. Haven't been out with DH alone since I was pregnant.

We were just discussing going out one night next week as I have half term, luckily our neighbour is a childminder and N loves her so we could leave N with her. Only problem is having thought she would give teething a rest until she was at least 2, she is now pushing through her back molars so she is being really clingy. Also this week is the final weaning week, have decided to stop bfing altogether now as I am just too drained, have had a bad chesty cough for two months now and never seem to get enough sleep as she wants to wake more in the night again. So this week it is time to get tough, water only after milk at bedtime.

Wish me luck!

Whenskies, MrsMc, INeed hope you are all well :)

evening all

gauchita, yay for the cleaner, I'd love one, don't feel guilty How's the snow, we didn't get any, well, we got the rain but thankfully no snow! Hope you're feeling better now, good luck with the scan on monday, is dh going with you?

allsheep, lovely to see you back, you must be well and truely settled into the new job now? Good luck with cutting the bf and hope the teething is over quickly, poor thing, it's not nice is it!

snow, hope you can sort things with dh, new baby times are hard, you have my sympathies. How did the work trip go, must have been a wrench to leave them both?

june, fab news on getting dh out now you just have to convince him that it's no different to going out for a meal in the evening, at least C will be in her own home in her own bed. Just don't over do the wine

half term here too [yay] no manic morning school runs for a week

waves to all

hi girls,
where is the time going at the moment? Happy half term week, unfortunately for us it means no playgroups this week.
gauchita how was your scan? have been thinking of you and hoping the ms eases
bigcar yay to no school run. Hope the kids not running you ragged. Am away next week but only two days. Z coming with, as is my very best friend who arrives from oz on thurs. I have her to myself for ten whole days, I cannot wait.
june am so pleased you got out for . Great progress. Any more planned? Me and food- well, not great. Some days good others dreadful
allsheep so pleased new job going well. Good luck with the weaning. I hope you get a chance to rest and maybe get out,just you and DH?
venetian roses,lovely!We did national trust membership as an anniversary present, when is yours?

well, not much change here.Z v unsettled and either screaming or vomiting. Not much happy chilled out time. Has to be upright all the time, thank god for slings.

A great, lots of chatting away and much more gentle with his little sis. Things w D?H not changed as we just tag team the kids and never talk to each other. Thanks for all the good advice, am sure we will get there eventually.

Morning all!

Snow, sorry to hear Z is still unsettled. I guess the medication is not helping her too much, is it? Glad to hear you've found your sling useful to make her comfortable. Oh, great news on the A+Z front

Bigcar, very odd, we woke up and it was snowing quite heavily, and it was settling! I was But that was that, after a few hours it stopped, and the next day it wasn't there anymore Hope you're enjoying your school run free week

Allsheep, good luck with night weaning M still asks for a bottle most nights. Oooh, hope you and DH get a night out soon How great you have a neighbour that is a childminder! Glad to hear things are going well at work.

June, how are things?

Scan on Monday went well It was an NT scan so they measured the nuchal fold, and that came out OK. Baby was very active and then got the hiccups so we managed to see him jump up and down M kept saying (very loudly) "bebé, bebé, bebé" it was very sweet. They took some bloods afterwards as well to test for DS, I'll get the results in a couple of weeks.

It was very nice to see him for the first time and we got two pictures as well

Our cleaner came yesterday for the first time. Wow is the flat tidy and clean! I'm VERY tempted to do this once a week

Waves to all!

Hello everyone. Sorry I have been absent for the last few months - Not sure what happened, but I think life got in the way, then it was too long since I posted, if you know what I mean.

Congratulations Snow on Z's arrival! Lovely name. Hope you're coping with the sleep okay.

Gauchita - Congratulations on your BFP. Sorry to hear the MS is really bad. Had that with DS and it was miserable.

Well all is good here. E is chatting away now and well onto sentences. DS was a very early talker, so was expecting her to be a chatty thing too. Unfortunately, her first sentence was 'Where's the remote?' which is a bit embarrassing!

She tells me when she's pooing, or has done a poo. She greeted me at 6am this morning with 'done a poo, there it is' pointing at her nappy. She's no where near potty training stage yet though. I made the mistake of starting that before DS was ready and it was 18 months of nightmare. I probably won't start much before 3, unless she does it herself. DS is still in Pullups at night as he still poos in his sleep! I'm not ready to clean shitty sheets in the middle of the night yet!

Applied for DS's schools over Christmas, now it's just a nail-biting wait 'til the end of April to see if we got the ones we want. It's a horrible process and makes me feel sick if I think about it too much!

DH is still doing his masters in between work and being at home. The whole of half term has been devoted to it so I'm a bit fed up. Still, we're off for a kid-free trip to Dublin on Friday 'til SUnday. The first child free holiday we've had since I was pregnant with DS 5 years ago. I'm even looking forward to the flight, stupid as that sounds. I'll get to read a book and talk to DH without interruption. What's the bet we get sat next to a load of screaming kids now!

Anyway, must put E up for her nap. Off to see Kate Adie talk tonight about her time as a war reporter. Should be interesting...

Hugs to all, and sorry again for the absence. x

afternoon all

snow, how lovely, enjoy your time with your friend. Are Zs meds not working, can you try something else?

gauchita, so pleased the scan went well, M sounds so excited I think you should use the cleaner every week if you want to, nothing to feel guilty about, it'll give you a few less jobs, time to put your feet up!

alloverit, lovely to see you back We're waiting on 1st March to find out what high school ds1 has got, it's not much fun is it? Of course you don't know if you've made the right decision until they've been there a while Enjoy your seekend away, sounds fab

have a few spare minutes while dcs all off doing their own things upstairs and I'm watching escape to the country [sigh] some beautiful houses today, oh well, when I win the lottery! Have agreed to have the loft extended [nervous] have plans now, should be able to start after the easter hols, couldn't be doing it all with the dcs home. Am starting to have a bit of a panic, it's major money, not spent that sort of amount so quickly before [argh] Will be worth it for the dcs to each have their own room, apart from dd1 as she's so rarely here now.

dd1 is back for a few days from uni (staying with her bf), took ds1 and dd2 to the cinema yesterday, ds1 managed to lock himself in the toilet afterwards I know, there's always one, but why does it always have to be one of mine

waves to all

haha bigcar I locked myself in the toilets of a pub a few years ago and had to climb up the door to get out, and then had to explain it all to the barmaid as my bag was still stuck in there. I still don't know how I managed to get myself over the door It's 6 foot high!!
Did you ever manage to celebrate the news for dd3's school after you got sick?

alloverit nice to see you again, how is it going, do you still manage to fit in some running? C is a right chatterbox as well, she's very good at remembering people's names which is funny. She says sentences as well but I don't think she realises they're sentences iyswim, just repeats them from what she heard at nursery. (ie when she is eating she says "do you like it?" which I would imagine is what the keyworkers tell her).

She has started little tantrums, she wants grapes but she wants them whole and off the stalk, as I still insist on cutting them up for her she refuses them and then starts crying and throwing herself on the floor, I just ignore it.
We bought her some clothes the other day and she refused to wear them, she was just saying "no thank you" everytime we tried to put one of the new t-shirts on her .

snow I feel for you, it's horrible when the baby can't tell you what's wrong and you don't know how to make it better. Don't know what to suggest, you probably have tried all the things that come to mind. and .
I see my friend who has a month old baby and she is adjusting slowly, her stitches came undone which really makes everything even more difficult as well.

gauchita Good to hear the scan went well. Do you know whether it is a boy or a girl yet?
There really is no shame in having a cleaner once a week :) We've had someone one for years. (dh is particularly messy though, think teenager who leaves the milk out of the fridge and wet towels on the bed).

I'd better go get the table ready, take away tonight.
Catch up soon!

Hey ladies, sorry it has been so long!! How are you all?? Life has gone back to crazy no sleep existence recently with Aaliyah and it affects us all in so many different ways. We moved her to her bed on Sunday night (she climbed and fell out of her cot) and I have cut out all night feeds but it is taking it´s toll on poor DH who is having to go into her instead of me. We´d love a 3rd but only got my 1st AF last month (first since DS was conceived in April 2007!) and don´t think mind, body or soul can handle it yet! Many, many congrats to Gauchita, lovely news!!

morning all

june, yes, managed a tipple or three eventually, still quite nervous we won't get funding, one hurdle at a time eh?! How did you get over that door I got stuck in a car park lift with my mum and ds1 once, got rescued by some lovely firemen [sigh] Hope the take away was good

MrsMcJnr, lovely to see you again How's ds getting on at nursery? Hopefully A will settle soon, is she teething at the moment? Es been teething again so we've had a few broken nights, although he's generally really good so I've found it hard getting up in the night again

ds1 has managed to excel himself this morning, he threw a ball in the sitting room and has smashed the glass light fitting I have grounded him for life Of course he's so apologetic, he's upstairs fighting with dd2 [sigh] oh well, roll on monday!

waves to all

Oh dear Bigcar, not a good start to the day!! X has settled into nursery well now thanks, is pleased to go and is full of tales when he comes home, it is so different from when he started and I am so delighted that he likes it. His behaviour with me in particular is pretty bad at the mo though. He won´t do a thing I ask and plays up as much as he can. I am sure it is an attention thing as A is so demanding and thinks I am her personal property. My Mum is taking her for a few hours this afternoon so that he and I can spend some quality time together, looking forward to it. A´s sleeping is still awful, she was wide awake from 1.30 ? 5.30 last night, I don´t know how she does it. Sadly no excuse like teething, just a horror!!

Evening all!

Mrsmc, so glad to "see" you again! Sorry to hear A's sleep is a bit all over the place atm. We have the same issues on and off all the time. Some weeks are better, then after a few weeks mayhem again. Glad to hear X is enjoying nursery

Alloverit, also glad to hear from you Hope you're having a marvellous time in Dublin Enjoy!!!

Bigcar, oh dear, sorry to hear about the "ball accident". Hope you managed to find what you needed to replace what was broken. I bet DS felt sorry (and gutted to be grounded for life ) Oh the joys of boys! Good news on the loft front Don't over-stress, you'll love the end product Although I hear you on the money, builders all over the place, momentary chaos front

June, how DID you get out of there?! I don't remember ever getting trapped in a loo cubicle... I've been trapped with no loo roll, on the other hand Thank GOD for a woman's bag and all the crap we have inside Re. the baby's sex we'll have to wait for our next scan to know, can't wait! I'm embracing the cleaner idea DH was particularly pleased surprised that I said we should/could have her once a week. He was jolly happy, though, as that means no cleaning =-scrubbing obligations-- on weekends for him I must say it's so much easier to do some superficial cleaning during the week and leave the deep clean for her

Allsheep, how's the weaning going?

Working at the moment on an assignment for delivery next Thursday so keeping myself entertained

I realised M's too heavy now for my back, last night I picked her up in a rush and I earned a lower backache that is still with me She's almost 13kg now, well, last time we checked

DH is going on a business trip for the day tomorrow (boo bleddy hoo) so I decided to take M out for lunch, just the two of us and have some girly time in Leeds I also ordered a bag online from Zara and is ready for pick-up, yay.

Hope you're all having a nice weekend.

Waves!

Anyone out there???

gauchita, hope you enjoyed your time with M, girly shopping trip sounds good. E has taken to pointing randomly in the hope he'll get something because he basically thinks everything in a shop is there for him! The light has had it, need a new one, it's too old to get spares for and Im not keen on it anyway its not zombie proof although haven't yet found anything that I really like, this could take some time.

MrsMcJnr, good to hear ds has settled at nursery, I was really hoping A would have settled for you by now. I can't believe they're fast approaching 2 doesn't seem 5 minutes since they were born!

ds1 got his school place we wanted yesterday [yay] one less thing to stress about! He's happy, will find out later how many of his class will be going too, think it'll be a quite a few which will be good for him.

just trying to sort out paperwork that seems to be piling up at an alarming rate at the moment. So much for a paperless society, there seems to be more, not less, you can't move a muscle these days without filling a form in about your experience.

waves to all

Looks like AF is on her way, hey ho no Baby 3 this cycle but it is almost a relief, I have had such bad PMT, I never had that in the past but I have been positively evil the last few days! We are now down to just the morning feed which I am hoping to drop this weekend. I just feel that my body can´t move on until I have finished BFing. I think Aaliyah might sleep better when milk stops being a focus too. Wishful thinking maybe.
Gauchita ? how exciting about the new baby hon, what do you think the sex is? Always fun to have a guess! Have you heard of the Flylady? (Flylady.com) It´s a house hold management system. I have been using it since August and am so much more organised, the house is so much cleaner and I am much happier. Not that having a cleaner wouldn´t make me happier still but even with one it´s worth a little look. Knowing you (sounds funny that when I have never met you!) you´d like it too. Hope you enjoyed your girls´day!
Aaliyah weighs 13kgs now too. Amazing isn´t it? She seems to be really catching up with her brother he is 1m tall and weighs 17.7kgs and she is 87cms tall!

Bigcar ? LOL love the stage notes!! Great news on the school place! Lovely that he will have his friends with him. I am hoping for that with Xavier. I have to apply for Xavier´s school place this month (they start at 3 here) and for Aaliyah´s nursery place next month for September, bureaucratic nightmare!!

hey, guilty of not checking in either, work has been hectic and stressfull, dh distant because of it all and me tired and on my periods two weeks in a row :s i have a smear test to look forward to (not), i absolutely dread them, i always tense up and TMI end up bleeding for the rest of the day.
been good otherwise, training is keeping sane, back to the weight i was on at my wedding, really happy about that, maybe one more stone to go, then some extra toning, i don't think my belly will ever be the same, will it.
i fit in some old clothes which feels great, i can wear pretty much all of my skirts now, but dh say some of them are a bit too short now I'm a mum!!!

mrsmc are you tring for number 3? sorry to hear A's sleep is still not good, C had a good phase of sleeping through i think, but for the past few months it's been awful. she wakes up around three times, asking for milk at least once, it's so tiring!
has the weather started to look good in spain already? it's freezing here this week!! good luck eith the paperwork for school and nursery! does it help that X is in there now for A later at all?

hey bigcar great news about the school choice, hope you're doing well and the school run is as good as can be. it sounds like a nightmare getting all these children ready to go at the same time. i used to have 3 to get to school&uni when i was an au-pair and it used to drive me bonkers :)

gauchita how was your day without dh, did you get what you wanted from shopping? hope your pregnancy is going well, i saw you announced it on facebook:) how is your sis' and her baby?

gotta go for now but will be back later, take care