Dec 2007 - Little People, Large Strops

[strandedatseasonsgreetings]

Will this do everyone?

thanks BT

Hang on a minute - I've seen it on fb but you haven't told us on here yet - aren't you having a GIRL?!!! Massive massive congrats and how wonderful that you got what you wanted

My friend just had a vaginal breech delivery against all medical advice and all went perfectly - healthy baby girl

Buzzy I probably would tell him, but then I am generally in the laying myself open camp...(and am also probably not the person you would want to take advice from!).

No news, haven't even seen him since though have heard from him pretty much every day (in a friendly way). Don't even know if he is still staying down the road...have forced myself not to look and see if I can see his car at night Do know he hasn't stayed there the nights he had his kids but don't know if he stayed at his ex's (she works the nights he has them) or at gf's. And am not asking! I know if I start thinking there could be anything more between us my head will get all messed up so I'm not letting myself and I figure he will tell me what he's decided once he works it out.

Skid my sis wore smart officey stuff (not a suit) for her fellowship interviews (and got offered all of them), good luck with yours

Skidd yes I am having a girl!

Hiya all! DD and DS2's birthdays are out the way now so have some free time again . Strangely I am finding it far harder that DS2 is 8 now than I did when DS1 turned 10! I still see him as my baby boy DD had a bit of a backwards thing with her potty training and was holding it for as long as she could each day, I was a bit worried she had an infection but once she decided to use the potty again (instead of the toilet) she was fine. She doesn't like poohing at all but I think we're getting there, I get plenty of warning and can plonk her on the potty or toilet just in time if I am keeping an eye on her! She also decided last night that she wouldn't wear a nappy in bed, thankfully dry this morning - hope it continues [fingers crossed emoction]

Buzzy, glad the op went well! I think you are very brave and I am more than a little envious! I personally think you should tell your potential new man the truth, I'm sure he'd understand better now why you fibbed than he would in the future if things became more serious with you. Also, sometimes a spark is not necessary for a great relationship, IME if you get on really well in other respects then the rest comes eventually. Sometimes a 'natural' spark can fade leaving you with someone you don't have anything in common with! I seriously worry what DH and I will have in common once the children are grown up, we have changed loads since we got together and don't really like many of the same things

Clairey, and at WC stuff! I didn't see your deleted post (serve me right for not even lurking for the last 2 weeks) but I get the gist of it from your other posts, does sound complicated! Sorry you didn't get shortlisted for the job, it certainly doesn't make you look like a Jeremy-Kyle-watchinig-scrounger if you are at home alone for a few hours a week while DS is at playschool though!

Clara, I have not met any MNetters, I would like to but am too scared! Not good with people I don't know although I think I'd be okay with you guys. I have had dreams of meeting you all too although most often Cazzy as I know she lives near to me (only an hour away). I think everyone else is probably too far away

Skid, well done for being shortlisted! Your outfit plan sounds a good one, smart but not over-smart. Something that shows a little personality but not too much maybe would be good? (does that make sense?)

BT, congrats on your pink one , they are lovely but IME very different to blue ones

Ooh, all your talk of swimming cossies, I don't think I look pleasant in one at all since having DD (although DH loves it, he seems to fancy me more since having children than he did before - shame I'm always so knackered!). I had come to terms with the stretch marks and veins on my legs after having DS1 but could still wear a bikini, pregnancy with DD wrecked that, too much spare skin now! I have a tankini thing with padded bits so I look like I have boobs too

Ok I now have an update... he has moved back to gf's. They had a big make or break conversation on Saturday which turned into a massive argument but he says they both said everything they wanted to say and it really cleared the air. Not convinced tbh as he said thing are "fine for the minute but only time will tell". Maybe he's just being cautious though? Or maybe because he was talking to me?

Anyway I'm ok I think, kind of knew that was what was going to happen...think he was a bit scared to tell me but he does know me well enough to know that I wasn't taking one shag to mean we were going to get together.

Only thing I am a bit about is thta although he obviously likes me and cares about me (or wouldn't have spent so much time with me over the past 10 months) he doesn't like me enough but I think that's more my shit self esteem than exclusive to him iyswim

Oh I wrote a really long message a couple of days ago which covered all the things that others have been saying about Clairey's WC dilemna, Buzzy's tummy tuck issue, Skid's clothing crisis and the fact that BT was having a girl (had also spotted that on FB) but the message was lost into cyberspace and I didn't have time to write it all out again. Since then we have had all our stuff delivered at last so the house is full of half unpacked boxes and is a total mess. Which I hate but it's so hard to get much done with dd2 at home with me that it's going to have to happen very slowly! She goes to playgroup tomorrow morning but I have booked myself a haircut so the boxes will have to wait...

...anyway as she is currently occupied with the paints I have just unpacked I have come on to try and catch up.

Clairey - it's like a soap opera! I can't believe their relationship is going to last from everything you have said but he's an idiot to treat you like he is. What you need is to find someone else - that would piss him off as I suspect he thinks you'll be there waiting for him if/when it goes wrong with gf.

Buzzy - my instinct would be to tell the new man about the surgery. After all you haven't done anything wrong. And keeping up the pretence will be difficult. Either that or tell him you actually had a c-section for a suprise pregnancy - then when you tell him the truth he'll be so relieved he won't care!

Skid - what you describe (to wear) sounds ideal. When is the interview? Good luck!

Beckle - I have a tankini too. It's so depressing and I am just piling on the weight since coming home as there is so much delicious food to eat!

FO so for you.
I have to be honest I think you need to cut ties to this man, he is messing you about :(

Stranded - yey more unpacking to do!! Are the girls settling down okay? Are you getting re-accustomed to our balmy British weather - I keep imagining you wandering around the house in <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=static.bigstockphoto.com/thumbs/9/2/1/large/1294280.jpg&imgrefurl=www.bigstockphoto.com/photo/view/1294280&usg=__xBiQUMgphJNIdRZHpK5XwrC9SIU=&h=246&w=370&sz=16&hl=en&start=0&sig2=8q7zl96LRydfLG96Qz4Ghw&zoom=1&tbnid=3isk7aJrMRhotM:&tbnh=148&tbnw=197&ei=swNATbObEcmwhQfLy-jgCA&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dwoman%2Bski%2Bgear%26hl%3Den%26biw%3D1366%26bih%3D649%26gbv%3D2%26tbs%3Disch:10,400&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=347&vpy=61&dur=12&hovh=183&hovw=275&tx=169&ty=157&oei=qANATfrwMo2xhQeE2rGvAw&esq=4&page=1&ndsp=18&ved=1t:429,r:13,s:0&biw=1366&bih=649" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this

Clara/BT you could be right, he came round with a present for me yesterday, maybe trying to keep me hanging on (or hoping I will carry on shagging him despite the gf?).

The finding someone else idea all well and good but where do I meet someone?? I don't tend to encounter many men in my life

Glad you've got all your stuff now Clara, hope you find a window to unpack in!

Clairey - I know, I can't imagine where or how I would meet someone else if I was single again. The internet? Isn't that how Buzzy met her new beau? If I knew any single men I would send them your way but I only really meet mums through the school and then their other halves....might not be a good idea to send you one of those men as it might not be looked upon very kindly on the school run....

Yes Clara I think it is best to steer clear of the school dads

Need to sort my life out first anyway...

Although I am going on a girls night on Sat so could always have a look at what's out there then

No doesn't sound good clairey - fingers crossed you meet a lovely handsome clever man during your pissed up girls night!!! I guess the odds aren't great but as my DD loves to tell me you NEVER KNOW.

Interview tomorrow [terrified] but at least then it'll be over. Have had a horrid week, with 3 ill children, DH away trying to make our house up north inhabitable after our tenants trashed it, with their crazy rabbit who was allowed to run free, eating carpet and sh*tting all over the house - had to repaint the entire house, replce worktop, shower, bath taps, cupboard, kitchen cabinet, carpet - and then they had the cheek to get cross because they'd lost their deposit of £400!!!! And then all the stress of my interview - not good

how are you buzzy? Has the pain subsided?

clara - how's the unpacking?

Oh blimey Skidd, that is awful :(
Didn't the letting agents do any periodic inspections?
Seems to me you should be charging them more than the £400 deposit!

Oh Skid - how terrible for you. I hated leaving our house when we were overseas but we did have good agents who kept a close eye on it. When I was young my parents let out our house to some appalling people who let their dogs shit everywhere. It's not nice. Good luck with the interview - what are you wearing?

Unpacking is a nightmare. Slowly slowly slowly but hard to hget much done with the dd's around. Managed to get a lot done this morning as dd2 at playgroup but much of it is simply unpacking a box and dumping it on my bed! Trying to have a really good clear out as I go along as we have loads of stuff we don't need anymore.

BT do you need any girls clothes? Unfortunantely we don't have any of the baby stuff anymore but quite a few bits from around 18months - 2 yrs. Also bedding! Oh and toddler beds if anyone wants one, we have two from IKEA which we don't want as have bought them a bunkbed to save on space....

BT - we didn't use an agent as the tenant was our friend's brother - we should have known better I reckon it's going to cost us £1500 in total so we will bill them for some of it but I guess all we can bank on is their deposit. Could we take them to court? Probably not worth it... we've learned our lesson now though - under full management of an agent.

clara - we also had experiences like yours when we lived abroad when I was a child - came back to all sorts. I just can't believe people live like that.

Poor you with the unpacking - getting rid of stuff is a good idea. I would love two toddler beds as I don't like our bunk beds (make the room really dark or something, not sure what it is but they just look ugly) but DH wouldn't let me...

My mentor has just told me my talk for tomorrow is way too long and complicated - how can she tell me that at this stage?? I have sent the power point slides already so can;t change them roll on tomorrow when this is all over! (oh and wearing black skirt, blue blouse, black jacket - sounds dull but looks quite nice, plus I even went out today and bought some make-up for the first time since I was about 12!)

Some friend, Skidd

You probably could take them to court but I imagine it will cost a lot to do so, did you have any legal cover with the house insurance on that house?

Skidd, that's just awful. And worse even because you were probably relieved to let to someone you kind of knew. I've heard so many horror tales...

GOOD LUCK for tomorrow. You'll be great

Clara, I don't envy you the unpacking with children around....

BT, yay for Daniel and double yay for a baby girl! On reflection I'm glad DD2 didn't get far with potty training in Dec as I couldn't have coped after surgery. She's making small steps herself now - tells me often when she's done wees in her pull-up etc. So will wait til I think she's truly ready then try again.

Clairey, while intellectually I agree with the others I completely get where you're at emotionally. For the last 3 years I've had a very superficial relationship with someone which was never going anywhere (mostly conducted by text ) as he lived out of town 5 days a week. But I was reluctant to give it up just because it made me feel like someone out there liked me. Its taken meeting this new person to force me to break that off completely and realise how stupid I was to keep it going so long.

Not that anything much has happened with new man!! I've only seen him once since 5 Jan what with summer holidays here then surgery. Maybe this weekend. I've decided I will tell him that I'd like to share a secret with him that only he knows - hopefully make him feel special about being told rather than angry that I wasn't truthful to start with

DD1 starts year 5 at school tomorrow!

Some horrible news - one of my work colleagues lost her twin boys at 30 weeks last weekend

Buzzy - awww your baby is growing up, I hope she has a lovely day at school - is she very excited?
DD2 will get there with the potty training we are still doing baby steps with Daniel, he sat on the potty again yesterday evening, will try again this evening. Nursery are going to encourage him as well.
And if he is a keeper, he will understand about the op

FO - there will be someone out there for you, I know it!

Oh no skid for you. Don't understand how people can do that.

Hope the dc are better now too.

And GOOD LUCK!

Buzzy very sad about your friend's twins . Can't imagine how that must feel.

Hope dd1 enjoys her first day in year 5.

BT I also have a big bag of baby girl clothes, so if you do want anything please say

Oh Buzzy, your poor colleague such a late stage and how awful to lose them both. I hope Dd enjoys her first day in year 5!

Skid, good luck for today, I hope you managed to cut your presentation down a bit and that all went well! at your tennants, I'm shocked that they could treat someone elses property that way, as if they asked for their deposit back, did they not notice how much damage they'd made?

Clairey, I would he tempted to keep my distance from WC a bit at the moment until he sorts things one way or another with his GF, if not you are in danger of becoming the OW.

Clara, unpacking with small children sounds fun! good chance for a good clearout like you said though!

Not much happening here, just ordinary day to day stuff, DS1 is in the process of losing his first molars and just has one left to come out, he pulled 2 out over te weekend and is working on the last one - he wants to buy a scooter and is hoping the tooth fairy will help him out with the last couple of £s so-and-so...

I only just saw your last sentene Buzzy, how heartbreaking for your colleague

Skidd - how did you get one, I hope you blew them away!

FO - awww that is awfully kind of you!

But I think you are a very long way from me!

How was it skidd?? Did you get any sense from them?

DD1's first day back at school seemed to go well :)

Forgot to also say Skidd that I'm feeling loads better thanks. Luckily I have a very short term memory for pain. Swelling has gone down loads, it still feels quite tight but a bit like being pregnant! There is one big stitch above my new belly button that pulls quite a lot and I still have to sleep on my back but in general I'm almost back to being able to do everything which is great. Have been a big wuss about looking at the scar though....I'm still wearing a corset type thing.

so can you tell if it looks very different - are you pleased?

Glad DD1's first day went well

and also for your friends. A friend of mine lost one twin at 26 weeks, but both can't even imagine

well interview was ok-ish I think apart from a few really wierd questions such as - how would you fund you salary (surely THEY wil fund my salary???) and whether I would teach medical students . I'll be surprised if I am offered it, and haven;t heard anything yet which isn't a good sign... (did look pretty sh*t hot in all my get up though )

didn't get the job nice feedback though so trying to hold onto that and not think about the fact that I may be unemployed in 7 months....

Oh Skid I'm sorry - have you got any other interviews or applications in the pipeline?