Dec 2007 - Little People, Large Strops

[strandedatseasonsgreetings]

Will this do everyone?

clairey re job but agree with clara - now is a bad time and you should keep your chin up and keep trying - you will get something eventually

clara - eek that sounds a bit scary about other mums at school - DD's school is very laidback and there is none of that - not sure what i would do... I guess you just have to pretend not to notice and be massively friendly? Great they had a good first day though and of course it will be a bit overwhelming for them at first. No crying is very impressive

DS1 had his first settling in session yesterday - he was so shy but all the children were lovely and looked after him, stroking his face an asking him what he wanted to play with - sooo cute. Session 2 today with DH

Ben and Holly - yes we are addicted to that in our house - not a patch on Peppa Pig though, is it?

Awww FO don't be disheartened - it may be that they were swamped with applicants. Something will come up!

School gate mum/bullies!!

Clairey, I bet they got hundreds of applications. Don't let it get you down. And enjoy the free time in the meantime!!

Very strange to me that all your LOs are starting nursery, such a completely different system to what we have here.

[minor hijack alert - warning!]

Clara, I completely get what you mean about no spark. But the problem is that when I look back at previous doomed relationships it was quite obvious from the beginning that there was an issue that wasn't going to resolve itself. This time I really can't pinpoint anything I don't like about him and when I'm with him I really enjoy it - just start to have doubts when we're apart.

I'm actually having surgery on Monday [whispers - having a tummy tuck - please don't judge me!!!] and I think that's a big part of the issue as I haven't admitted that to him and TBH hadn't planned on telling anyone - my line to my Mum even is that i'm having "women's surgery" (I have endo).

So no we haven't "done" anything other than cuddles so far and we won't be able to for a while! So do you think it's me and not him??

Buzzy - am about your tummy tuck.

DO you think if I have a c-section they could do mine at the same time (joke!!!!)

Buzzy - do you feel comfortable with this man? Do you look forward to spending time with him? Then if you do go for it! Doesn't have to be about sparks

ooh buzzy I'm too - perfect excuse to wait a while and see how you feel once you've recovered. If you're feeling gorgeous and sexy then things might seem very different..

It all sounds very promising to me - you have a lovely time with him, enjoy his company, can't think of anything you don;t like about him... no need to rush anything and just see what happens sounds like a good plan to me.

Good luck for Monday, hope the recovery is ok

BT are you going to find out the sex? Is that soon?

Buzzy - it sounds like you are enjoying him, and that's the main thing. As long as you are both happy to "live in the moment" (if that isn't too American an expression) and not worry about what might happen, you don't need to make any decisions about him. And like Skid said, having the op (and I'm certainly not judging - will be interested if it works, I would love to get rid of this extra layer of fat round my middle that seems to have appeared since having dd2)sounds like a good excuse not to be forced into anything too quickly.

Martha started ballet yesterday. She bearly joined in and looked like I was putting her through torture but has talked about nothing else since! I forked out a fortune for her outfit so she'd better like it.

DrSkid I have my anomoly scan a week on Friday, hope to find out then. However being cautious, somebody on my AN thread has a friend who has just given birth - she was told it was a girl at the anomoly scan and it was a boy

Clara, I have to say I'm getting increasingly nervous about the op on monday, waking up worried about what happens if it goes wrong. Never had these worries with other ops - but then they were necessary.

I have quite a bit of loose skin around the waste - put on far too much weight with DD1. Will be sure to post next week afterwards to let you know.

All the best with the scan BT. With girls I think they usually hedge their bets when making pronouncements - boys tend to be easier!

Ballet seems to be one of those things some girls adore and others despise. DD1 is mad on horses - much more expensive!

Buzzy sounds as though it's worth hanging on a while to see what happens with him. But don't feel bad or guilty if it doesn't come to anything.

Hope the op goes well, I seem to have suddenly aquired the ability to put on weight, used to listen to friends moaning about chocolate etc making them fat and would think 'oh ffs one mars bar isn't going to make a difference' but now everything 'bad' I eat seems to add an inch to my belly so I'm a bit more sympathetic! Must try some exercise to see if I can tone up a bit... (yeah right!)

Good luck for scan BT

DS cried going into preschool this morning I know he enjoys it and is fine once he's there though so have to force myself to be a bit hard on him. Good for me too really cos I do tend to baby him, he seems so much younger at 3 than dd did at 2, probably just because he's my youngest and I don't want him to grow up because then I won't have a baby

Clairey - dd2 seems so much younger than dd1 did at this age. We were in Pakistan when dd1 turned 3 and she seemed so grown up. Sorry he cried this morning, I think it is VERY normal and only means he is playing on your guilt letting you know how much he loves you and wants to stay with you. As long as he isn't crying the whole time he is there I wouldn't worry.

Buzzy - I am sure the op will be fine. I have had 2 c-sections and actually the recovery from both was remarkably easy. Or maybe that's because having a crying baby to distract you is the perfect way to forget you've just been sliced open?

BT - oooh good luck with the scan! I will be very excited to hear what you are having....

Yes Clara he went quite willingly with his keyworker, he just wants me to stay as well. And he is very good at the guilt, whenever I go away/he goes to his dads (not that that has happened recently )he clings to me and wails 'don't leave me mummy'

Think he is also coming to terms with it being a regular thing, he said he did want to go back but just not today!

clairey - if it's any consolation I am EXACTLY the same about my DS1 (and I HAVE another baby!!!) - I still think he's my baby, he seems FAR too young to be at pre-school, and DD was a hundred times more grown up than he is. My DS1 hasn;t cried yet but he does have his hands permanently down his pants which is what he does for comfort!

Good luck buzzy - I'm sure you will be fine but it is always nervewracking leading up to these things - just think of the lovely flat tummy you are going to have

how exciting BT for next Fri - make sure you come STRAIGHT on here and tell us the verdict! Do you havea (secret) preference? You're allowed to fess up here because we're not real

Well started 'sleep training' last night with DS2 still alive and sane today so will keep going...

LOL @ Skid not being real. I am hoping for a girl.

FO - DS still does that sometime. Cries he does't want to go t school and doesn't want me to leave him

Buzzy - fingers cross the op goes smoothily, I am sure you will be fine but it is understandable to feel worried and nervous!

Back home and feeling very sore but according to surgeon went well!

Good news buzzy Hope the soreness eases soon.

Erm news here is that wc and gf have split up (well actually it's more of a break...) andIshaggedhim but

Have to go out now but will give more info later if anyone wants to know...

clairey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

TELL US MORE!

glad it went well buzzy - was thinking about you yesterday and hoping all was well take it easy and take as much pain relief as possible!

clairey Yes we want details!!! Blimey, how did you leave it? When you say "break" does the fact that he shagged you mean it sounds more like a proper split? Ooh err.

Buzzy - take it easy and let me know what it all looks like when the bruising, swelling etc is gone. I tried on a swim suit today and was horrified by what I looked like. Not sure if I have put on loads of weight or it's because my tan has faded. Or the lights were particulalry harsh in the changing rooms. Or perhaps this is just what happens when you are in your 40's?

stranded - isn't it just our genetic destiny? I am an absolute state and wouldn't even dare try on a swimming costume. Am also sticking my head in the sand about going on holiday this summer with two other families, and both of the other mums are size 6/8 supermodel types. Luckily for me my lovely DH is blinded by his rose tinted glasses and thinks I still look like I did when we met)- well that's what he tells me anyway ...

PS where are you clairey - spill!!!

Perhaps she and WC are all cuddled up together in bed ?

and [ah bless emotion]

Sorry been out all day! (alas not cuddled up in bed with wc)

Well he is staying down the road again for a bit while they work out whether or not to split properly.

I think they will try again tbh but there are some major issues that I'm not sure they'll resolve so I think it's unlikely to last. But what do I know??

But he came over yesterday while ds was at preschool and one thing led to another and it was VERY good

I was slightly worried that he might have a tiny one after I had built him up so much in my head but definitely no complaints there-that did mean I got the giggles out of relief once it got to that stage in the proceedings though...poor bloke was like "what????"

Just felt really comfortable with him, no worries about being naked in front of him etc so that was also a relief, had been a bit scared about ever having sex again. He said afterwards he'd been really nervous though.

We didn't really discuss what would happen now tbh, I told him I hoped he worked it all out soon (whichever way it went) because I didn't like seeing him unhappy and he said he thought things had gone too wrong with gf for them to be happy together but that he didn't want to fail again.

Feel a bit guilty for jumping straight in there but having thought about it it's better it happened now when the timing was a bit wrong than if they had definitely split for good because if they had we'd probably just have drifted into something and although he is very attractive (with a big willy) and we get on really really well honestly I don't think we are meant to be together...At least this way it was just a shag and I'm not hoping for anything more. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone else?

WRT swimming costumes I don't even take my dc swimming because it would mean wearing a swimming costume in public [issues]

Well. I don't know what to say! Apart from good for you! I can't imagine ever having sex with anyone apart from my dh again - he knows all my wobbly bits so I've given up worrying but I would fret in front of anyone else! Anyway at least you enjoyed it, I just hope you don't get too upset if he does get back with his gf. Oh and (stern emoticon) that you used birth control! Anyway let us know what happens, I have a feeling that won't be the last we hear from him...

Oh and also if you ever fancy meeting at Slimbridge during the week let me know as we re-joined it the other day. It's a good place to take dd2 while dd1 is at school. Not sure how easy it would be for you to get there though as if I recall you don't drive?

In the meantime who is this Skidd who has infiltrated our board? And is she related to DrSkidaddle?

I am almost certain he will gte back with gf...at the moment I'm ok with it but obviously will be upset to some extent...

BUT having heard him talk about their issues (not yesterday but last week) I know I wouldn't want to be in that relationship so if I focus on that it might keep the jealousy at bay. And stop me wanting to be with him maybe?