Dec 2007 - Little People, Large Strops

[strandedatseasonsgreetings]

Will this do everyone?

mmmm, betty crocker chocolate fudge icing...

would it be wrong to go and buy some so i can have some on my toast?

Ha ha, we hear nothing from Dundee for months on end and then we manage to flush her out with talk of chocolate fudge icing! No, not wrong at all - aren't you pregnant??? (Sorry if I've got that wrong!).

Skid - is "oh" ds1? If so, I'm glad he's got a referral, I still think you are doing the right thing. As everyone says, better to sort it out now than spend the next few months worrying about it.

i've been lurking.

am indeed pregnant, sporting alarmingly vast bump for only 14.5 weeks. i blame betty crocker.

Have had a fucking awful afternoon. Was looking after my friends ds and we went to the toddler group we normally go to. I was keeping a close eye on him because he is going through a bit of an aggresive stage (has just turned 2), looked away to deal with ds for less than a minute then saw he was squeezing another little boy. Rushed over there to tell him off but the little boys dad roared, started yelling at friends ds calling him a horrible little boy and then started yelling at me saying "Can't you keep an eye on him or something, he always does this, he shouldn't be allowed to come, you should have been watching him etc etc" I said sorry I was just dealing with ds for a second but he kept on and on in front of everyone. I gave friends ds a time out and then he said sorry but the dad and one of his cronies kept giving me evils and muttering about me. At the time I dealt with it ok and ignored it but since then I've kept on shaking and bursting into tears.

Only positive thing is that everyone else including the group leader has said he totally overreacted and shouldn't have shouted at me and that they know I was watching hime etc but I think it's the shock or something, I just feel really upset by it and am unable to brush it off like everyone thinks I should-now I've started crying I can't stop.

oh clairey how awful. He sounds like he has serious anger management problems. I also get like that when someone is agreesive towards me - find it really traumatic. Your poor thing. As soon as DC are in bed, ring someone (sis?) and tell them all about it, have a big glass of wine, and hopefully you will start to feel better. It is hard to process things like that when you are having to look after DC.

Will come and check on you later hugs and a sobering

Oh gosh Clairey that sounds awful and TOTALLY out of proportion - how on earth did he think he was going to help by shouting at you, especially as he isn't even your dc! It sounds like you are in shock and I second what Skid says about talking to someone, you don't want to let it go round in your head. I hope you don't let it get to you - he was obviously being a twat. I hate aggressiveness, it's really scary.
x

Oh Clairey, that sounds [awful], I agree with your leader, massive overreaction. Hope you are okay.

Congrats Dundee, you are 10 weeks behind me

Skidd - that is good news about the referral, hopefully the paed will be able to help.

There is rubella, hand, foot and mouth AND nits at DS's nursery, they thought DS had nits, but I have checked and all I found was some cradle cap! Washing his hair tonight with neem & propolis shampoo (which is supposed to repel nits) and have bought some headlice treatment but am relunctant to use it until I see he definitely has them.

Thanks guys Feel better for letting it out anyway. Got extra pissed off when I was putting dc to bed because ds told dd that "x's daddy shouted at mummy and it was really scary" so I was fuming that he had affected ds. Especially as dd then said "was he shouting at you like daddy?"

Erm have also realised that crying is probably long overdue as haven't properly cried since aug 09 when things went massively wrong with H so now I've started I may not stop for weeks He's probably done me a favour releasing all that repressed emotion

Awwwwww have an unMNy hug {{{{{{hugs}}}}}

and a lovely mug of hot chocolate

Now can catch up

Hello dundee Hope everything is going well.

Skid glad ds is being seen, obviously hope there is nothing 'wrong' but if there is at least you will then be able to help him in the appropriate way.

Am interested to see what you would write about me on my profile on a dating site...

BT that sounds a nightmare situation, hope ds doesn't catch any of it.

And thank you for the hug and hot choc

You're welcome :)

at your DD's comment and your crying but it sounds like you did need to have a good cry. Maybe that twunt's appalling behaviour was what you needed - hmm yes maybe you should go up and thank him next week . You sound a lot better so hopefully the shock has worn off a bit, or the crying has helped. Another and some (double) chocolate chip cookies to go with it xx

beckle - have just seen your pics of DD on fb - they are AMAZING - you absolutely MUIST become a photographer!

(hello dundee - forgot to greet you amidst all the psycho dad at playgroup angst!)

NZ is in a state of shock today after a second devastating earthquake in Christchurch. This time during the day so many more people in the centre city where most of the damage is. Have a look here for coverage. www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10708043 They say 65 or more killed. I just hope my close friend and my cousin and their families are not injured or worse. All very sad.

Gish Buzzy I saw this on the news, was just going to have a proper look at BBC News. How awful. I visited Christchurch, it's such a beautiful area. I hope everyone you know is ok.

Have heard from my cousin and her family is fine. Haven't heard from my friend yet. Very hard not knowing.

Buzzy have just heard about this. Glad you are okay, hope your friend is as well.

Was thinking about you this morning when I heard it on the radio buzzy so pleased your cousin is OK and hope you hear from your friend soon. I have family (aunt and family) in ChristChurch too - still waiting to hear...

Buzzy, so glad you are okay, I have a few friends in NZ, at least one in the Christchurch area but all have checked in on FB so I know they're okay, I hope you hear news of your friend soon. How is DD1s nose now? for the flowers sent at work, thats very sweet! Also congrats on the new cat, we have 3 cats and 4 chickens so definitely outnumbered by animals! The cats are all male though so at least the hens make the boy/girl ratio equal! I'm glad your scar is beginning to heal, IKWYM about sleeping on your back, I had to sleep on my back and propped up for weeks and weeks after my thyroid op last year and I usually curl up on my side, strangely its a habit that's stuck as I find it more comfy now!

Skidd, you are not the only person who has said about shoe shops having dangerous stairs, I think perhaps it is the same countrywide?! I reckon its because they have the old lady shoes down stairs and they would sell any if the ladies had to traipse upstairs so thats why they put the children's ones there. Have you heard any news on a referral for DS2 yet? Thanks for your comments on my photographs, I would really love to do it properly but think I need a bit more technical knowledge first, we are remortgaging soon as we are hoping to extend the house so I may add the cost of a course onto that...

Clairey I also don't think it matters whether you have a job or a divorce before finding someone else, why would you think that? You deserve to have someone nice in youir life, I don't see any reason why you should wait to look for him! (I met DH, moved in, had DS1, got engaged and was pg with DS2 before my divorce from H1 () came through as he kept dragging his heels and 'losing' paperwork!)

at that man at Toddlers! I am so lucky my group I go to is lovely, I'm glad it all helped you to have a good cry though, sometimes you need it!

Hi Dundee!

BT, goodness that's a lot for a nursery to deal with in one go! Has DS picked any of it up or is he okay? WRT nits, I have never used a treatment on the DS's hair, I put conditioner on their hair and go through with a Nitty Gritty comb (about £10 but worth every penny), the conditioner makes it so the lice can't scuttle away and hide. Then I go through it again with the comb once clean and pick out anything the comb doesn't find (not much).

wow beckle - you were married before! Impressed at how busy you were between H1 and 2

Where is everyone?

Ah you shouldn't be impressed Skidd, I was very young when I married H1 and really shouldn't have (and nearly didn't in fact but didn't want to hurt him). I had a MC at 16 weeks and the whole thing fell apart from there really Not a time of my life where I'm proud of my actions. Anyway, I met DH during the time I was going through breakup with H1 and we got together a few months later. Fell pg pretty quickly despite docs telling me it was impossible without help (I'd had hormone treatment to fall pg with the one I lost) and the rest is history!

I was wondering where everyone had gone too! Half term maybe keeping people busy?

Hi - I am here but staying with my parents so not much time to post. Took the dd's to the "theatre" in Bath (children's production) on Thurs morning. dd1 loved it but it was too old for dd2. Still she enjoyed the train journey.
Today I had an interview for the NCT antenatal training and am pleased to say I have been accepted on the course so start my training at the end of March! Very excited about that.
Tomorrow night dh and I are going to a party for a friend who is off to Afghan for a year (army). I am looking forward to it but I am crap with alcohol and always have to retreat early at these events...

Buzzy - have you found out if all your friends are ok?

Skidd - have you got any further with the full-time job?

Beckle - how come you in disguise?

Stranded - yey! Great news about the course!

Beckle - that is not a very good disguise

Buzzy - hope your friends are okay. It is just soooo sad, broke my heart when they said one of the victims was only 5mo