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August 2010 - new thread ladies!

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Chulita · 28/11/2010 14:16

New thread cos we've nearly filled the last one!

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neenz · 01/12/2010 17:43

Alice can you feed him lying down? Can you put him in the middle of a spare bed and then leave him there after he has falled asleep or roll away from him and go to sleep yourself?

AliceandtheGinormousBaps · 01/12/2010 18:44

Hi neenz Smile, unfortunately no spare room here, but i bring him into our bed at 5am ish when he wakes and doze while he feeds. I am propped up with pillows. I think it is only due to a growth spurt coinciding with me being ill so failing to produce as much milk. Going to try to be a bit stricter wrt routine, as i am a bit of a slack lazy parent tbh.

Some days i really hate having two and a DH working stupid hours. Well, not hate, just find it hard and i hate the parent i become iyswim? DH has been out since 7am, and will be home between 9 and 10pm, and that is no commute, literally 2mins from home. DD has been messing around and F is tired and grumpy. Going to try to get them both bathed then both in bed so i can have some time watching trash on telly.

Hope you are all having good days

Chulita · 01/12/2010 18:52

alice it's no consolation but we're in the same boat. S hasn't slept for longer than 3 hours at a time - let's think... ever. I've got the lurgy now so it's a bit more fun than usual. Aiming for the 6 months cos things get a bit better then (don't they?) Do you do the whole 'not-up-longer-than-90-mins' thing? I find it helps to make S less grumpy if he's down for naps more often. I do let him cry it out sometimes though...
I have the serious munchies, had rice/chicken/peas for tea and still just polished off a bowl of bran flakes. I think it's the cold, I just want to eat and eat.
marzipan did your dh make it home through the snow?

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marzipananimal · 01/12/2010 19:03

Yes he did chulita :) so we went outside and took photos of J is his snowsuit. Very cute! Grin

sparkle101 · 01/12/2010 19:20

Hi katietulip no experience of more than one child here (don't think I can cope) but know some of the girls on here have been discussing a book about having more than one child. On previouc august thread, can't remember the name of it sorry.

Marzi hope you manage to get to your appt tomorrow, hoping the snow doesn't get too bad overnight!

Izzy had her last test today to work out whether her e-coli has scarred her kidneys. No one could tell us there and then we have to wait until January - great fun.

We have no snow here at all, really don't want any either! Still bloomin freezing here though.

I hope everyone gets a good night sleep tonight..... not nice to be up and cold!

Chulita · 01/12/2010 19:31

Hello katietulip sorry for not welcoming you sooner Blush My DS has silent reflux too and it's horrible. I found cutting out dairy has made a huge difference to him though. I'm not finding 2 as tricky as I thought but I think it's cos DD (2) is going through a really easy phase!

DD's eczema has really flared up. I thought I'd 'help' by putting her usual steroid stuff on it only to have her start crying about 2 minutes later and saying 'knee, knee'. I looked at her legs and they were 3 times as bad as before I bothered. I was mid-way through S's goodnight feed and had to dump him in his cot and rush her to the bath to wash it all off before it got any worse :( That was the last cream that did any good and she's reacted to it...what the frick can I do for her now? Her legs are weeping now cos I put that stuff on her, I could kick myself for putting on her but she's never reacted to it before. Soooo frustrated!

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sparkle101 · 01/12/2010 19:54

chulita if she's reacted to this cream now does that mean her reaction may be different to other ones you've tried in the past? Sorry can't help anymore, having not had experience. Don;t blame yourself ... blimey... how were you to know?

Chulita · 01/12/2010 19:57

I don't think so, her skin's so sensitive she reacts to pretty much everything. I know I couldn't have known but it feels so awful knowing that she's in pain cos I wiped stuff all over her...argh!

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AliceandtheGinormousBaps · 01/12/2010 20:27

Chulita Sad poor DD. My DD's eczema has flared up, all due to the heating i think. Last year when she had a huge flare up a friend suggested Unguentum M - it is like an aqueous cream but thicker and had miraculous results. It is expensive though, so Dr's don't prescribe it very often.

Katie the book is called Three shoes, one sock and no hairbrush. It is very good.

Sparkle fingers crossed it is good news. Do you know how/where she got e-coli? Very nasty, poor thing Sad

F is usually ok really, and does sleep, but because he was getting better and better, and then suddenly gone straight to up 4-5times a night it has completely floored me.

LCRLCR · 01/12/2010 21:12

Oh chulita and sparkle poor LOs! Hope they all feel better soon. Another tale of woe here, we're currently in Ireland visiting my parents but S & I are both poorly so I'm really keen to get home & into DH's arms but bloody snow looks to wreck everything with gatwick closed and trains to Brighton out if action too.

Poor DD, she had a sniffle last week that became a nasty chesty cough on Sunday but by yesterday I got worried, in a lot of pain, no interest in feeding and coughing until she catches her breath. Doc says she has an infected throat and tonsil and has been prescribed penecillin. Poor mite and I think I have the exact same lurgy and feel totally rotten. So fingers crossed to better LOs, well Mymmies and end of that blasted snow!!

Xx

ElusiveMoose · 01/12/2010 21:29

LCR poor you, hope you feel better soon and manage to make it home. We've got nearly a foot of snow here in Kent. It's nice in some ways because DH couldn't get to work today, but poor DS is desperate to go outside, and I just can't let him because he's still not well.

Sympathies on the eczema, too. I've never really had much problem with it - DS1 just gets little patches of it on the backs of his knees sometimes. Definitely a lot worse in the last few weeks, though, and I'm sure because of the central heating.

Hector you do make me laugh, you sound so much like me when DS1 was born (no dummies, only wooden toys etc). The good news is that weaning is usually an area where you can still feel quite judgey pants for a while; the bad news is that it doesn't last long. IME when they're just starting out on solids, they'll eat whatever you give them and in huge quantities - so you can do organic ice cube tray purees to your heart's content, plus they'll accept quite exotic things. I vividly remember having lunch at a pizza place when DS1 was about 9 months old, feeling super-smug because all the other mummies in there were feeding their kids Heinz jars, while DS was tucking into a little tub of organic guinea fowl au vin with roast vegetable mash (seriously Grin). Then, when they're around a year old, they imperceptibly begin to get more fussy and start to reject foods, because their appetites decrease, and they become more independent. But you don't worry, because it's a very slow process, and you just think 'Oh, it doesn't matter if he won't eat avocado, as long as he's still eating my scallop and quinoa salad'. And then, sometime in the second year, you wake up one morning to find that they'll only eat Laughing Cow sandwiches, with a bit of tomato ketchup and a few Pombears thrown in to achieve the five a day. From hubris to nemesis.

Oh, and by the way Hector, how's the weather with you? According to the BBC it's positively antarctic up there.

KatieTulip · 01/12/2010 22:26

Thanks for the friendly welcome :)

Have ordered the book on amazon tonight - sounds like just what I could do with

elusive agree re the little one being harder to entertain... Not impressed with being in his reclining chair in the kitchen while I do stuff, now have to carry him around in babybjorn for an hour or so each morning while I get jobs done. He loves that and maybe deep down under my mini muffin top, my stomach muscles might be benefitting?! Grin

What do you all reckon to the "core night method" ie once your baby has slept thru to a particular time for a week or so (eg 5am) then if he wakes before that time you try and settle him without feeding?? Have tried it with DS2 a bit last week (he's 16 weeks and had teased me with 10 days or so of sleeping thru till 6ish) - but it was hopeless! have resorted to smallish feed now when he wakes, which is now any time between 3 and 5... But am wondering if by feeding him at that time I am just perpetuating the wake-up time...

marzipananimal · 02/12/2010 07:25

Hello Katie :)
We've just started trying a bit of sleep training including the core night method. For the first 2 nights I thought it was working (fool!) but last night we let him cry himself to sleep for the first time :( and then I felt I had to feed and cuddle him the first time he woke up even though it was a bit earlier than he normally wakes.

I'm kind of not convinced by it in theory though cos I usually sleep through the night (well pre ds anyway) but I sometimes wake up thirsty and occasionally even hungry, so surely babies will do the same and not be consistent every night? Babies are a puzzle aren't they?!

Bubbabear · 02/12/2010 08:30

Hi Katie & welcome :) I think the core night theory (or at least in part) helped my ds drop his night feed, although I wasn't really aware that was what u was doing at the time! First time mum here just bimbling her way through & crossing her fingers things work!
I used to give him an extra ounce at his 10/11pm feed, he started going through until 4am instead of his usual 3am. I cut down on the amount of milk I gave him for his night feed until he was barely having any (sometimes just a quick cuddle) & after about a week or so he started going through 11-7 without a feed. I did also start swaddling him then tho which seems to have helped him learn that's when its time for a big sleep so I'm not really sure exactly what it was that worked, just happy something did!
Am going to have to stop swaddling soon though as his swaddle blankets r getting on the small side & want to avoid getting any bigger ones. Am dredding it as he still seems pretty content & usually grins at me when I snuggle him up at night. Is anyone else still swaddling?
Another boo for the snow here! I have to walk down to the garage to collect my car (abt half hour walk usually) that's been there since Monday. It was ready last night but by the time they phoned it was dark & even colder so I said I'll 'pop' down in the morning. Now we've woken up to snow today (I thought we'd pretty much avoided it here) so it'll take soooo much longer. Plus the bubbabear household all have the lurgy too. Do u think anyone will notice if I walk down the road with my furry hot water bottle tucked up under my coat?? Grin What is this thing that suddenly happens to you when u have a child that makes u not care what u look like? Is it the embarrassing parent gene thats beginning to surface?! At least dh is on leave at the mo so Aidan can stay snuggled up at home.

Wishing everyone a smiley day x

Chulita · 02/12/2010 09:04

Sorry sparkle I did read your post. I hope you get good news about Izzy and that it's worth the wait.

lcr that's rubbish, hope you both get better quickly and get home soon.

alice I might have to ask about that one, never heard of it. She's tried all the creams that they suggest, only one doesn't make her react but that's no good once she's flared up.

bubbabear so true! I often leave the house looking a right state, I'm just glad to have got all of us out at a decent time and with (hopefully) a couple of spare nappies! Hope you get over your lurgy soon!

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AliceandtheGinormousBaps · 02/12/2010 09:17

Chulita you can buy it over the counter but as i said it is expensive. Do you use Oilatum? Found an oilatum bath then the unguentum cream or steroid is a good combination. Only put the steroid on when nothing else works though, not surprised it can sting as it is quite harsh on the skin isn't it? How about antibiotic cream without steroids? Does your DD like to wear as few clothes as possible? DD will not wear a sweater inside ever, so lives in long sleeved pure cotton t shirts.

Bubba i treated myself to some ski salopettes this week for doing the horses in. Fan-bloody-tastic! Only £20 in my fav shop - Tkmaxx! Grin

LCR that is rubbish, but really best you are with your parents than stranded somewhere, fingers crossed things improve for you both.

At what age do you stop BF babies on demand? F was much better last night, sleep at 7.45pm, feed at 1am, then feed at 4am ish. But i do feel full of milk again, so sure that is something to do with it

bellygazing · 02/12/2010 11:42

Hi all, sorry to those feeling crap or having problems. Elodie has never 'slept through' although she does do 5 hours relatively often which is apparently sleeping through medically speaking. She has upped her night feeds of late but as she feeds really well at night (and at different times) I am pretty sure she is waking because she is genuinely hungry. She is more distracted feeding during the day so I think this is why she tanks up during the night.

bubbabear I think hot water bottles should be the new must have accessory!

We're leaving E to go out together on my own for the first time tonight - bit nervous tbh. It was my mum's 60th yesterday and we took E with us to a restaurant in the evening. Amazingly, she was v calm, then took 4oz expressed milk, then fell asleep in the (v noisy) restaurant until we left. She also did her first proper laughs for her grandmother which was a lovely birthday present.

sparkle101 · 02/12/2010 11:52

Well there was me being all smug about no snow and last night it lashed down and so we are stuck inside. Went for a walk to the shops with the pram but prams and snow don't really mix. Also had Izzy in her 3-6 coat and her arms only come half way up the sleeves!

Bubba still swaddling here, it seems to be the only way she can sleep. She is still only small but almost grown out of her swaddling blanket so invested in some cheap flanelette blankets for a cot and using thos instead (cut down to size). Am too scared to stop!

Alice no idea where the e-coli came from - they think it was just some bacteria in back passage which got into the wrong place and caused the damage - she's still on antibiotics until she gets the results but she's fine - probably wondering what all the fuss is about!

Chulita how is DD today?

Am trying very hard being stuck indoors to not eat the edible presents I have bought people for christmas. Surely it can be classified as sustinance?

AliceandtheGinormousBaps · 02/12/2010 12:01

Sparkle F is in his 6-9m snowsuit and his hands and feet are about 2inches from the ends, he is just so long in the body!

Soup for lunch i think (from a tin Xmas Grin)

Just been looking at christmas presents online. Need to get ordering!

ElusiveMoose · 02/12/2010 12:14

Well, I've got another sick child now. Was so worried about S last night, as he seemed to be coming down with DS1's chest infection (cough, noisy breathing, screaming with pain after feeds and generally irritable). Struggled through the foot and a half of snow (Shock) to the doctor's with him, and it turned out to be a nasty ear infection, which explains why he's been feeling so grizzly. So we now have antibiotics for both children; but at least I'm feeling better that it's not a chest infection (I was so worried about him stopping breathing last night that I didn't get any sleep at all, really).

Another one here who's about to dig out the 6-9m clothes - my little monster is bursting out of his 3-6m ones. He's only 15 weeks FFS!

Chulita · 02/12/2010 12:22

alice yep, dd won't wear a jumper at all, it's even a struggle to get one on in this weather. She's always trying to strip off too, must get her some long sleeved tops even though she hates them, I think carpet makes her skin worse. She's allergic to oilatum, we use epaderm.
sparkle She's a bit better thanks, her legs aren't so red and angry but she keeps scratching them which makes it a lot worse. We're waiting for a dermatology appt but these things take forever. We've been waiting since 1st week of October and they reckon we'll get seen end of Jan...
I need to get ordering too, ebay keeps reminding me how few days I have left and I'm still procrastinating!

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Woodlands · 02/12/2010 15:00

bubbabear you can use a normal blanket for swaddling, doesn't have to be a proper one. google for instructions. and i'm afraid thewaking more frequently at night is the 4 month sleep regression. we're in the midst of it but am hoping it might start to improve soon - j is 19.5 weeks.

had him weighed today, he's 8.16kg or 17lb15. nearly 91st centile! still just about in 3-6month clothes, though in his 6-9 month snowsuit.

thedogwalker · 02/12/2010 16:59

Hi all and welcome Katie.

Chulita, glad your LO is improving and I hope it all clears soon.

Ouch Elusive no fun in your household at the moment, sending lots of get well vibes your way Smile

Just been reading through the last couple of days as been busy, on to the weaning debate already. I think I'm going to do BLW, I;ve got the book and DH has also read it and agrees with it in principle, so we'll just have to wait and see. I think it will be a messey job but then I think I've still got
2 1/2 months until he's 6 months so got a bit of time to prepare.

My boy is 15 weeks on saturday and he got weighed today at the baby clinic, weighing in at 15lb 3oz, he's over double his birth weight. I wasn't surprised as I still do on demand BF and he demands alot Xmas Grin

WHo is doing the shred, please keep us updated as to how its going, I fancy doing it but want some advice. I've lost 16lbs of the baby weight I put on, mainly cutting out the danish pastries etc that I indulged in, but want to lose more.

Sorry for long post but not been on all week. Take care xx

marzipananimal · 02/12/2010 17:45

woop woop! I had a breast ultrasound scan today as there has been a lumpiness there (blocked duct I thought) since my last bout of mastitis a month ago but there's nothing wrong with me! They said it's all normal breast tissue and will probably stay like that til i stop bf. So relieved! I was really worried I was going to get an abscess.

Sorry to all of you with poorly dc, winter sucks (although the snow is pretty Xmas Grin) Hope everyone's better soon x

Chulita · 02/12/2010 19:36

marzipan glad there was nothing wrong :)
alice wrt demand bf, I demand fed DD til about 10 mths when I started sleep training (such a stupid phrase). I'm going to try and convince S a bit earlier than that, but until then I'm going to keep going with demand. I have no idea how much he needs so may as well just offer it when he 'asks' Grin
Just did day 1 of the 30 day shred, wasn't as bad as I thought. Ask me tomorrow how much I hurt though...roped DH in to do it with me so we'll see if he's hobbling around tomoz too!

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