August 2010 - new thread ladies!

[Chulita]

New thread cos we've nearly filled the last one!

congratulations gya! wow I so can't imagine getting pg now but very happy for you :)

Glad you're doing well caz. Fingers crossed for your DH making a good recovery.

We spent the afternoon with friends today and I was worried how J would be as he only had a 10 minute nap in the morning but he fell asleep on my lap and stayed asleep when I put him down. That never happens!

oops - on a temporary namechange. i am marzi :)

Hi Caz yes I think it's early dec but last two were ten days early so could be November.
Boobs killing me and feeling but not being sick.
Need to get a doctors apt arranged asap as haven't been yet.

Sorry to hear about your Dh. Can't remember if I told you I have MS which does show up on MRI as lesions/plaques in the myelin.
It is a shock at first but I rarely even think about it now

Congratulations gya! When I got pg with S I went to the docs and he said 'why are you bothering to tell me?' I thought that's what one did when one got pg...

caz at least you know what it is, even if there's not much hope of change/improvement. Glad that everything's coming together for Belle's birthday!

S has slept on his front since 3 weeks. He won't sleep on his back now, he'll roll as soon as I put him down. He doesn't sleep particularly well so it's not a magic cure for us!

Chulita were you worried about him on his front from so young? I find it really hard to get cot death out of my mind even though I know the risk is very very low. I always worry. Dan can't roll over in bed cos of his sleeping bag but now when I put him down he throws himself onto his side trying to roll so I know he def likes it best on his front! Shocking night last night though, but that was mostly just me not being able to get back to sleep after about 3.30! Dan was unsettled at times tho too.

gya congratulations! What an inspiration you are having four kids in little more than 4 years and living with ms . hope all goes well with the pg. I would cry if I got pg again now!

Caz, hope your DH can get the recovery he deserves, it must have been so worrying to hear the words MS. Praying that your little bean sticks and makes your dreams come true!

Dan's baptism was great, I had a fab day, very enjoyable. The only problem is there are five or six cards/gifts 'missing' - I absolutely don't mind if people don't buy him a gift but if they did and it's gone missing and I don't thank them... how do you ask someone 'did you buy Daniel a gift?' This happened to us once after a baptism - the parents contacted us to say 'we didn't get your card'. In fact we hadn't given a card, only a present cos I didn't get chance to get a card, but it felt so mercenary that they were ringing round checking up on all the people who they thought didn't give them a present! The missing gifts/cards could be at the hall where we had the do - I have someone looking for me now. Fingers crossed

My parents had 2 die of SIDS so cot death is always on my mind. We have a movement monitor so I knew that he was breathing and he had such bad reflux he would choke on his back.
Glad you had a lovely day, fwiw some people at our wedding didn't give gifts which we had no problem with but the most noticeable was one of my aunts who asked about a year later what she'd given us and I didn't have the guts to tell her nothing so I mumbled something about not remembering what everyone had got us. I wish now I'd said something just to see her face

Yaaay gya!!! Congratulations :). I'll never get over this broodiness with you . I hope you have a peaceful and uneventful pregnancy :)

Caz - glad to hear things are going well with you, it's simply phenomenal what you're doing for Belle's birthday - you are an inspiration!! It's good that your dh has at least got a diagnosis now, time will tell now I suppose for you, that must be frustrating for you tho.

Neenz - really glad you had a lovely baptism, I bet D had a great time :). I know what you mean about 'missing' things tho. To this day I couldn't tell you who bought what for our wedding and who didn't bother!! Sufferer occasion I know but same kinda thing.

DS1 was a front sleeper too...he just would not sleep on his back past 3 weeks. Looking back he could have had reflux or something but I didn't even know about things like that until I joined here 2 yrs later! We never looked back after putting him down on his front.

Chulita - how awful for your parents, no wonder it's always on your mind :(
I went to the docs when I got my bfp for dd and he just gave me a blank look and told me to book in with the midwife.

We had an absolutely glorious weekend here, managed to get sunburnt!! We took our puppy out for her first official walk on Saturday around a lake called newmillerdam - beautiful place! Then we went for a picnic in the middle of Sandal castle ruins, it was really a perfect family day and it's only a 20 minute drive away from us. You'd have thought we were a world away :).

Yesterday we spent a productive half hour at our local park teaching dd and ds1 to ride their bikes without stabilisers (sp?) - they picked it up much quicker than me I expected, very proud if them :)

Sooooo.....how did everyone fare with 'Black Wednesday'?
We didn't do too bad, weekly tax credits have been cut by £12. After the cuts it actualy makes more financial sense for ne NOT to return to work

much love xx

Sorry neenz, I meant different occasion rather than 'sufferer'. Silly iPhone self corrected!!

So exciting GYA (although I do think you're a bit barking! :)) and Caz I'm so pleased that they're finally attributing your DH's condition to something. It must be a slight relief to face something specific and not have constant uncertainty. And fantastic about being 9+ weeks. Eating everything in sight? Sounds like a boy! :)

Well, the rain clattering against the window tells me that the beautiful weather is well and truly over. Hello, APRIL! Has been a rough couple of days here. E has had a high fever - hit 40 last night :( He's got tonsillitis, impetigo (how he got that, I do NOT know) and insect bites all over his feet. He has been beside himself and I'm run ragged. This all cooincides neatly with DH being away for a few nights for the first time since E was born. Thank god my mum is over from the States right now.

neez argh, I live in horror of forgetting thank you cards/seeming ungrateful for presents. Hope the missing cards show up.

soontobefatnat your poor little boy! Lots of cuddles in order and try and rest when you can.

caz I meant to say, definitely sounds like a boy. I was sick as a dog with L for 24 weeks whereas with S although I did throw up for a few weeks I ate like a horse! Working like a fiend now to get it all off!

Hey everyone, wow lots going on with you lot eh! Congrats Caz, I am so so happy for you and Jon, fantastic news! And massive congrats you too GYA, wow you are an inspiration! Hope E feels better soon Nat.

We are all well here in Brighton which is sublime in the sunshine. We're having S christened at home in Ireland on May 1 and I am desperate to lose that last bit of baby weight so I can squeeze into a dress I have already. Now that my SMP has run out, I don't really want to fork out on something new. In good news, work has agreed to my flexible working request which is 3 days a week in London (this is a 4 hour round trip for me - eeek!) and 1 day working from home. Happily I can add holiday accrued to my mat leave so I'm not actually back to work until August 31 which is a whopping 13 months leave! I'm not a hack unlike some of you other ladies but I work with plenty of them at News International (hacks not phone hackers )

S now has two teeth. We moved her into her own room last week and sleep has massively improved with 1-2 wake ups now (hope I haven't jinxed that now!!). So pleased with this as up until then, she was still feeding every 2-3 hours throughout the night which was exhausting.

Speaking of food, S is loving her food and eats LOTS. Consequently breastfeeding is suffering and she has about 5 very quick breast feeds a day (it used to be 12!). Are your babies the same? My boobs feel so small and empty now! I just wonder if this is ok as the advise is that solid food shouldn't replace milk at this stage yet but for S, it definitely is.

Not many of us knocking around this thread anymore? I read daily but don't post too often but am always here!

Oh and neez good on you on the breastfeeding role, like many of the other mummies on here, there is no way I would still be feeding today without the amazing help that I received, I am forever grateful

L x

lcr S has 4-5 feeds a day, 3 times in the day right before naps/bedtime and usually twice at night. Food has definitely taken over, he never wants a morning drink so it's straight into breakfast. I think tbh for a lot of babies around this age milk just isn't as interesting anymore! L self-weaned at 11 months so I might only get another 2.5 months of feeding S.

Daniel's not too interested in breastmilk now either. he has a little feed in the morn, maybe one mid-aft, one before bed and a dream feed. But my boobs feel really empty too and I have been trying to express this week cos will be away all day saturday at the FA cup semi-final (yay!) but I'm getting nothing out hardly even if it has been HOURS since I last fed him! I am not worried, the body makes what the baby needs, but he just obv is not demanding much now!

he slept through again last night so that's 4 of the last 6 nights .

Chulita that is heartbreaking about your parents . Those sensor monitors are good when you have history like that in your family. Babies always seem to sleep better on their tummies so I've heard. Glad you've had that reassurance.

LCR, what do you do at NI? lol at the phone hackers . 13m off is great - I'm going back in Sept too.

Most of the baptism gifts showed up - just 2 or 3 and 2 of them are family so should be able to get MIL to sound out what's gone on (I know these 2 would definitely have brought a gift so they must have gone missing somewhere!)

I think the cuts will force a lot of women out of the workplace and maybe that's what the Tories want (more jobs for unemployed men then). But glad you are happy Cherry. I'm not sure how we've been affected, we're not entitled to any benefits and DH doesn't earn enough to pay 50% tax and doesn't pay NI either cos he is self-employed, so perhaps no change atm.

neenz that's fantastic! S hasn't since his 5 day sleep-through a couple of weeks ago but he's not desperate for feeding at night so I might try him with water at the 2am feed. He's currently half-dropping the 10pm feed so I might encourage him to drop it completely rather than the odd one here and there and then work on the 2am feed in a few weeks.

I think tbh a lot of people are going to be forced out of work, both men and women. It's going to be a very tough few years ahead!

neenz did you watch the bf prog last night? I think it's important to get it out to ladies that bfing can really, really hurt like a bugger. People just think it'll be easy and natural but even the second time round it was agony til 24 weeks for me. It takes some by surprise just how much it hurts.

www.southwalesargus.co.uk/news/gwentnews/8970993.Stillbirth_parents_raise_funds_in_tot___s_memory/

We're in the paper!!!

Lovely piece in the paper, Caz. You're really doing Belle proud! I hope you hit your target and then some! I have no doubt you will.

Chulita what channel was that on? I completely agree about the pain thing. I found my La Leche guide to BFing so useful, but irritating in that it rather ignores the pain issue - as does most, if not all, pro-BFing literature. It's a shame, because it's important to be honest and women are stubborn as he'll if they want to BF, so I don't think it's a deterrent.

LCR totally agree about the boobs. E was definitely heading in that direction although his illness meant he went right off solids and upped his time on the boob again. We were doing great at not too much boobinh at night too, and that has really gone backwards. Ho hum! I need to finish off a batch of milk donation to our local hospital, so on the plus side, all this feeding should help me do that.

Still no teeth here, but a lot of shuffling about - looks like E is going to crawl from sitting, rather than from his tummy (he still HATES being on his tummy). It's a bit of a perilous method, however! Lots of head first lunges followed by shocked crying!

I'm going into work to meet my new boss next week to discuss my request for part-time hours. My old boss and my bosses boss lost their jobs due to redundancies. Have met my new boss for a total of 30 mins before this important meeting. Feel well dodgy about it. She doesn't know me or my work - how is this an informed decision? Sigh.

good luck Nat, hope it goes well.

I did a really long post earlier answering everyone and it has been swallowed by Mumsnet. Grrr.

Normally I would say E has about four BFs a day and one at night but she has been v snacky recently (think given a chance she would like me to lie on the floor topless so she could clamber all over me and latch at will). She is very random when it comes to breakfast, sometimes she will have no more than a few spoonfuls, other times she will guzzle it down and ask for more. Lunch is finger foods and more and more gets eaten, while dinner almost always gets finished, however much I prepare.

Still no crawling, no teeth.

Great article caz, I'm so impressed by what you're doing :)

I think J is about to crawl - hopefully anyway as he's getting very cross that he can't! He can get onto hands and knees and then sort of 'hops' both his knees forward together but doesn't really get anywhere and ends up back on his tummy

I hope the work meeting goes well nat

Good morning ladies,

I haven't been on for ages but have been lurking.

Congratulations to cazandbelle you are in my thoughts all the time and I hope it all goes okay for you, and to girls, think you are bonkers but admire you for doing it!

Izzy has been getting on well, but no teeth here yet and no crawling, although she does shuffle her way round the living room which is quite amusing! We have started on stage 2 food this week and it got off to a bad start, thankfully the last couple of days haven't been too bad. She is sleeping through most nights but there is the occasional night where she decides to be up for two hours!

I am back to work in three weeks and have managed to secure doing 4 days a week instead of five, am not looking forward to going back but unfortunately finances say I have to.

We have a hospital appt in a few weeks for Izzy's kidneys, it turns out she has a grade 4 kidney reflux which is what caused the e-coli and a couple of admissions to hospital, she will probably need an operation in a couple of years time but we are on anti biotics every day until then.

Thank you ladies for all your advice and support over the last 18 months, you have beena great source of support and whilst I will attempt to come back on, I'm not sure I'll be able to manage it when back at work!!!

Hiya fellow mummies, hope you're all well!!

Caz - thats a really lovely article, hope it spreads the word far and wide and enables you to smash your target!! :)

Neenz - fab news about the supporter role!! Absolutely worth their weight in gold, I would have quit at 4wks without them. :)

Chulita - Agree bf is not an easy road. I wasn't prepared for the pain and bleeding and especially pink spit-up :(. Amazing how different things are now.

Marzi - Sounds like he's well on his way! Exciting!

Sparkle - Glad they know now what's been causing I's problems, hopefully things will improve for her/you now. ((hugs))

I have a dilemma and hoping you lovely wise ladies can help.
Thread here, please help.

Still no crawling here, although Corey does now have 3 teeth with the other top tooth looking imminent!
WRT to breastfeeds...C has about 4 or 5 through the day, one immediately before bed and sometimes one through the night.

Much love to you all :)

Chulita, yeah I saw the bf programme, it was much better than I expected. I expected it to be BF-bashing and 'formula is just as good as BF and the BF mafia just want to make FF mums feel guilty'. Fantastic that they showed how important good support is. Can I ask, are there times eg like yours when it is painful for no apparent reason - I thought pain would always be a sign than something isn't right (the latch, thrush, tongue-tie etc)?

D had his 8m check yesterday - all well except he is not babbling. He makes some noises but nothing like dada and mama or baba. The HV said give it a few weeks - what is everyone's else's LO doing? He can wave now though and actually does it when you say 'wave, Daniel!' - you don't even have to do wave yourself to prompt him (which I think is quite brilliant! ).

Nat that is so crap about your job, I understand your worry. Hope you get what you want. I moan about my job but I get paid well and they let me do the hours I want so I shouldn't complain at all.

Caz I was so moved by your newspaper article, I suppose seeing a pic of you makes the whole thing even more real iyswim. I am just in a little FB discussion with a friend atm who commented on her status that it was good for SB and MC to be in the news today as it very misunderstood. I agree. I commented that I thought SB was so so much more devastating because when you give birth to that baby and have to have a funeral, a grave, a name, she is your daughter, your precious firstborn and will always be a part of your family. Some people didn't agree that the losses were much different - that 'it is a loss whenever it happens'. Of course I agree it is a loss whenever it happens but so much more devastating when it happens later in the pg. These were people who had suffered MC (which I have too and it was the worst thing that has ever happened to me). I think if they had gone through what you have gone through they would not think MC was the same. Sorry I am not sure why I am writing all this but I just thought of you when I was writing on the FB thread and was getting quite angry because I felt these women themselves do not understand SB as they have never gone through it, because I know how hard it has been for you and my experience of MC was nothingi in comparison and as upsetting as MC was for those other women I am sure it was nothing like what you are going through either.

Sparkle, good luck back at work. It's awful when you are forced to work if you really don;t want to, but hopefully you will find your routine and get your special times with Izzy and be happy with it. All my friends who work three or four days seem to be very happy with the balance - I think it depends how much you like your job (not much in my case!). Who will be doing the childcare for you? Hope she gets on Ok with her kidney and you get the outcome you want!

Hi all
been a bust time for me packing the house and sorting the move back to the UK. Finally move next week and I cannot wait.

GYA wow that is brilliant news, I am soooooo jealous. I cannot wait to start trying, roll on September, when DH and I strat trying in earnest.

CazandBelle Great newspaper article, I wish you all the bet for the events.

Sparkle I'm going back to work on 16th of May and I'm not looking forward to it either . I have no option but 5 days a week, no flexi time at my work. I can't imagine being away from Thomas. Arranged an au pair and for Thomas to go to creche once a week so he makes friends in the village.

Thomas's bf have most certainly dropped off since eating solids. He has a quick drink in a morning, then porridge, then a drink mid morning, a drink about 5pm and a drink before bed at 7.30pm. But he eats and eats and eats solid food all day long, he is a right grazer, but when I had him wieghed yesterday, he has just dropped under the 50th centile line, so he isn't really putting on as I thought he would with all the solids .

He has 2 teeth, can sit on his own, and call roll across the floor like lightening, but no crawling yet, he rolls so fast, he has no need for crawling yet.

Hope everyone is well. Take care xx

Cherry, so what was the result of you final test???? I've read your thread and I'm dying to know?????? Or are you still saving them up??