July 2010: Our babies are growing, they're grabbing their toys and soon they'll be throwing!

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new thread ladies xx

Feck! Chest infection going strong and not helped by the total minor meltdown and searching frenzy after dropping a painkiller on the kitchen floor and then it disappearing into thin air. Was envisaging F never being able to keep out of my way play with his toys whilst I'm cooking.

The stoopid thing was the tablet was white and the kitchen floor is natural quarry tiles, ie bright terracotta and the only thing with a gap underneath is a dresser, which it didn't appear to be under. So it should have been as obvious as if wearing a high-viz jacket.

Finally found the bloody thing hiding, yes hiding, crouched under a tiny gap under the back leg of the dresser.

Who does these things to mothers?

cakes the other one was ectopic so it was a miracle L survived unscathed it was waiting for the egg sac to dissperse took 3 weeks, it was the final scan when it disappeared if it hadnt gone they would have took my tube out meaning almost certain mc! my doc is useless part of me cant wait to move just to change doctors! i bet you were relieved when you found the tablet!!
right im going stir crazy in the bloody house, ive had a phone call from the hospital, they have found something on the MRI scan and i need to go for another one, mum and dh are too bloody busy to wail to down the phone, god i wish dh was home! so im in a very fragile pissed off state so im going over to my mums to dump drop off Lyndon tonight and go and have a few bottles of wine!! then stagger back to mums in readiness to take over mother duties when she goes work at 5.30

spirael my hair's falling out by the handful too, looks like a mouse died in the shower everytime I get in there!

nixter I'd tell them that if they make any comments like that again you'll report them. That kind of talk is damaging cos they'll be influencing their children's thinking, apart from being illegal.

tsc sympathy please, the ILs are coming for the weekend. While they're not as bad as your MIL, I don't get on with them particularly well and am dreading it - especially cos I'm still feeling grotty.

cakes lol @ force-feeding demons glad you found it though, I lost a sharp knife this morning and was terrified L would find it before me.

yeah mlic R is like M in that she doesnt have set feeding times, the cons said the upped dose of ranitadine should help.

nixster what assholes, would you call their kids milky bar kid? What ignorance? We spend all our time teaching the kids not to be like that. If your bro and sil cant be civil to your daughter dont let them near her.

Ffs memphis what is it going to take to get the help you need? There is a pnd website could you call them. Whens dh home? Thats crap bout mri do you have any idea whats up? Enjoy loads of wine. Oh and your sis is downright rude, bet shes eating her words with how gorgeous L is

cakes you must have been panicking, our dog stole a strip of painkillers from my bag we caught him just in time. Hope your better soon. X

that is such a load of crap memphis. its absolutley ridiculous that they are not doing their job. and poor little lyndon dropping weight. did they say anything about looking into things further with medication for him or anything?
has w improved with his feeding at all mlic?
nixter the more i think about what your brother says the more mad i get. definately explain to him how upsetting it is for you and more so how it would affect dreya as she starts to understand. im sure he wouldnt stand for people slagging off his children and the last person he'd expect it off is his sister so how can he justify it? imo i wouldnt say anything about his children because thats being hipocritical if your asking him to stop saying negative things about dreya.
so bloody tired today. such a bad night with ellie. dp done a huge sneeze at about half 5 this morn and she got such a fright that she woke up SCREAMING and didnt really sleep after that. we had to bring her into the bed and after that it was literally every 20 mins she was gurning.......

tsc and cake I'm not complaining about the nurse, she was only trying to be helpful, it just amused me!

i was visiting a friend in chapel allerton hospital - had to take a bus. would rather have taken a cab as the bus didn't go from the train station but somehow it didn't feel safe without a car seat. dunno why a bus should be safer!

had a bad night last night - tried to get j to bed at a reasonable time but it backfired and we got far less sleep than normal! oh well.

mlic I think I've been in denial about my chest! I didn't want to take antibiotics for A's sake and partly cos the thought of waiting for a late-running appointment (which they've all been lately) with a toddler and a baby whilst feeling ill was unbearable!

In the end, dh agreed to pop out of work to take F and A whilst I went to docs. I actually cried with relief!

Anyway, now have antibiotics which I do feel bad about re A but I couldn't manage any longer without them.

Penicillin's never tasted so good!

Guys thanks for your support and advice
Cakes Hope your chest infection clears up soon. my mum is pretty scared of my brother to be honest as he is a bully and generally speaks to most people like shit. It?s all done in a jokey sense and most people just put up with it. I?ve always told him to shut up or stop being an asshole but usually to no avail. My mum knows he?s an asshole but out of stupid loyalty or what I don?t know she always defends him which also does my head in.

Spirael I apprecate what your saying but I wouldn?t want to stoop to their level by insulting their kids and plus I love my nieces so much which is why the idea of not seeing them breaks my heart. I grew up with hardly any family just my mum and brother really and I want Dreya to know and love her cousins, aunt and uncle but not at the cost of thinking she?s not as good as them because she mixed race.
Memphis how awful of your sister to say you?d be a terrible mum & have a dopey kid! What a bitch!
Re pnd get an appt with your Dr and forget the hv. Tell him you need to either be referred for couselling or anti-depressants but you want a follow up for pnd as they have a duty of care for your wellbeing! I was on antidepressants for a year before I fled to St Lucia to get perspective on life and my hv is brilliant, altho she signed me off she calls to see how I?m doing as I was high risk of pnd.

Kk and mlic I plan on doing what you suggested once I have calmed down so probably tomorrow once I?ve stopped crying with pure rage over how insensitive they?re being. If they don?t stop with the stupid comments then they?ll never see me or Dreya again and can get fucked and die for all I care! She is my 1st priority and if my mum doesn?t like it then that?s her problem. As parents they should all understand that I want what is best for her and wont tolerate her coming to me asking what the N word is and why her uncle uses it.

Good luck with the inlaws chulita that?s one benefit I have of Dreya?s dad living overseas ? no in laws!

mlic my symptoms included loss of appetite (v unusual for me!) And also sudden sweating buckets (nice) tho don't seem to have a temperature which is usual. Of course toddlers lose their appetite at the drop of a hat but it might be worth taking him back to be checked again. God, I so wish we could all cover each for doc's visits etc! Sounds as tho you've got a lovely neighbour tho!

You're doing amazingly well keeping him on 50th percentile - all your hard work isn't fruitless!

Try not to worry about the solids stage - you might find that he's totally different with that.

nixter really hope you can address it with them but if not, as mlic, they're really not family worth having. Who knows you may meet others who become important figures in D's life and who fill the gap. We met a couple at ds's antenatal group and now 2 years on, he and their daughter are like siblings and we're like aunts/uncles to each other's children - more so than real family. Really hope you end up with people in your life that treasure your lovely daughter the way she should be.

morning ladies, thanks for everyones support its nice to know i can get it from somewhere!! well im a lot happier today, dh is due home before lunch, im extremly hungover was great to catch up with my mates, although when i got to the pub i had a nappy and a rattle in my bag which is rock and roll
mlic hes only lost 2oz in a week, but they said if he loses they will take action, now they are saying well hes happy so we wont do anything, if he was screaming it would be a different matter, great news on W's weight.
nixster your right my sister is a bitch, she has said some awful things over the past few months, then admitted to my mum its because i have friends and my IL's like me and dh loves me and she doesnt have any of that?!?!wtf!! i agree with cakes that others will become important figures in Dreyas life, Lyndon has about 4 extra aunties and uncles in the shape of dh's friends who absolutly adore him!
kk i dont think they will discuss meds with me as i take 34 tablets everyday some are very potent, and if you add things into the mix it could be fatel so if ever i get new meds i get reffered to hospital so rather than pull their finger out and refer me or risk overdosing me they are ignoring it!

I didnt mean anti depressants sorry of it came accross like that!! meant something for lyndon for his sickness. They just dont seem to want to get off their backsides and do anything for anyone. Makes me mad!
Mlic really hope you get answers after this appointment. Your coping with it all extremely well abd all the hard work is def paying off as he is a lovely happy looking cute and chubby boy! as cakes says he might be completely different when on solids. It may be the turning point for you

Morning all.

Shocking night but more due to my chest infection that than the babies - although they certainly joined in - DS in our bed kicking me and/or lying on a portion of my breast . I had a coughing fit where I couldn't breathe and woke everyone up including DD who then insisted on an unscheduled feed (4.30amish)

Thankfully, dh has taken ds out for most of the day so I can rest and let the antibiotics kick in. Later we have friends coming round with their 2yo DD for a little halloween celebration with DS (dress them up, carve pumpkins with them, give them a special dinner). In the evening, they'll put their DD to bed at ours and the plan is to get a takeaway and watch a scary film (but not too scary as my friend is a wimp!)

Any partially-scary film recommendations gladly received as we'll end up watching casper the friendly ghost at this rate.

Oh and DD is dressed up in a tutu-ish party dress, all pretty and angelic looking. What's the betting she'll have shat her way thru it before our friends even get here?

What have you all got planned this weekend?

mlic any improvement on feeds?

she was actually pooing as i was typing but think i've caught it in time!!

How about Hocus Pocus, Cake? :) It's a PG, but pretty family safe. Alternatively there's Nightmare Before Christmas (though that could be nightmare fuel for sensitive LOs) or Corpse Bride? Or the Scooby Doo Movies are a bit Hallowe'eny.

We're not doing much this weekend... DH is studying today so it feels just like a regular weekday with him out of the house. Tomorrow I escape the nest for a tabletop roleplay session in the afternoon and leave DH to look after M for five hours and to handle the early trick or treaters.

Could be fun... M's been a bit off colour since Thursday. I haven't worked out yet whether it's due to the vaccinations, or whether she's started teething earlier than I expected, or whether she's starting the infamous four month growth spurt.

cake i would suggest taking a probiotic to avoid thrush while you're on ABs. the best thing is meant to be acidophilus (something like that anyway) from the chemist.

woodlands good thinking! will def do that esp as A had a touch of oral thrush before which might still be hanging around in the wings

That does sound odd mlic. Def mention it at his appt.

Have they checked out his mouth before?