July 2010: Our babies are growing, they're grabbing their toys and soon they'll be throwing!

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new thread ladies xx

I agree about the age gap mlic altho it's hard work as both are still in nappies and ds1 can't understand everything, on the plus side there's very little jealousy, you're still in sleepless, buggy, baby-mode so it seems normal and hopefully it'll be easier to do the same things with both of them when they're older.

My friend and my step-mother have the same gap with theirs and they both said the first year is tough but after that it's great. My friend's two daughters go off and play together all the time.

Off to yucky soft play with a friend and her two the same age as mine later. I would prefer to meet in a cafe and have lunch or coffee then go for a walk but her toddler is not the sit still in a chair type.

ah sorry mlic , I'm lucky because my toddler is pretty manic the most of the time but has a strange ability to sit up at a table for AGES if he has something to eat, drink or play with. My friends all hate me for it!

I was just thinking about the age gap, I like it but it's full-on and I sometimes think it'd be nice if dd could do a little bit more for herself. Today I had the conveyor belt of nappies followed by the saga of getting dd to put some clothes on by which time she'd pooed and we had to start over again, all the while I'm rushing so I don't have to feed S again before we go or we'd never have got out. Even so, I still reckon we'll start ttc next June/July.

I was wondering if S had hit the 4-5 months sleep regression...not that he had much to regress from mind you, but the last 10 days he's been up every 2 hours, takes 30 mins to feed so I'm getting 90 mins sleep assuming I get to sleep straight away and dd doesn't wake up. How long is this going to last? I woke up this morning feeling really, really nauseous just from exhaustion I reckon. dh I feel your pain!

And lastly, why is everyone in RL pushing me to stop bfing and start weaning?? he's 4 months old you frickers, let him be little for a bit longer!

MIL for one cos she of course weaned at 4 months so it must be fine. And about 3 ladies at 2 different toddler groups have told me I should cos that'll help him sleep MIL helpfully said that if I get bored of being dairy-free the best thing would be to stick him on formula...yea, coz formula is made from fairydust not dairy right? She's always banging on about stopping bfing, not as badly as my Grandad though who asked why I was still 'nursing' dd at 8 weeks - what a fruit loop!

How did it go today mlic?

That's so annoying chulita. I haven't had grief about weaning either of mine but I am quite scary in RL so maybe it was said behind my back ;-)

I did feel a bit kinda on my own bf felix as I bf til 14months whereas everyone else I knew stopped way earlier. It wasn't really an issue it just meant I didn't have anyone to moan about the downsides of bf to!

I'm not sure when I'll when A off bf as the reason I weaned F was that I was pg. I think I'll just take it a month at a time.

Im with u there Chulita, My MIL also suggested we wean, Devon suffered(!) from really bad colic which some say is an imature digestive system so im defo not going to wean yet. My friend has weaned early and it was the right decision for her, but defo not right for every baby.
spireal Its difficult not having them around at the moment, however having said that im sometimes glad we have some space.
Im feeling loads better today although we didnt have a good evening yesterday. He woke at 8ish and would not go back flat in his cot and screamed every time i tried, i can only think it was a bad case of trapped wind.

OMG mylife I cant believe that, if its not stressfull enough living it now the stupid registrar cant seem to sort it, what the hell! It really does make u wonder, i feel so bad for u, it totally sucks. What about ur doctors cant they get involved? Lets hope the S&L lady can help.

Oh god mlic. How awful. The registrar sounds like an utter dick (putting it politely). But well done for standing up to them.

Speaking to the S and L therapist tomo sounds v sensible. The important things to understand are 1/ what extra information could the endoscopy give you over what you already have 2/ what are the possible things it could discover and 3/ how they could be treated. If there isn't meaningful answers to those then you're quite right to just say no.

Apols, I'm probably just saying stuff you already know but personally I find it helpful to get an unemotional view from someone else on something that I've got a lot of emotions tied up in.

Good luck with it.

what an arse mlic glad you stood up to him. Good luck tomorrow. No wonder your pissed off, could you just give his normal milk with the thickner?

soz mlic i thought you were giving him the thickner the same way r gets it. But i totally agree regarding the anesthetic i would not allow dd to be put through that either. Seems as though he thought telling you they would do this proceedure to appease you, bloody cheek

Thank you, I've just printed it out and will also pass it on to friends with babies

mlic just thinking about W. I'm sure this is a silly question but it's bugging me. why are they doing investigative procedures on his throat/oesophagus if his suck is poor - surely that means if there is a problem it is with his mouth not his throat.

thanks for the info mlic i'll also pass it on

Wtf - growth spurt at 3.3months?! Does that sound right? She's wanted feeding hourly today and I'm also up feeding her as we speak.

I can never really remember when the growth spurts are, they seem to vary a bit from baby to baby anyway.

As for the "4 month sleep regression" (hollow laughter) my dd has no good sleep habits to regress from!