September 2010 - we've met our little ones now!

[comixminx]

Or most of them at least - there are some late September ones still to come!

oh and i thought you guys might like to see a pic of skye&arlo

oh,that doesnt work,i'll try again later!

Dixie, shame your MIL couldn't come for a visit a bit later! My DP's parents were here last week (Aphra being 8 weeks old) and she was much more reliably smiley and ready to interact than at four weeks. That said - she wants to be alone with Arlo - why? I'd think that just being the oerson holding / a person with him at the time he's happy and smiling would be enough - exclusivity sound a bit excessive!

Had a really tiring weekend. Lucy slept most of the day saturday and was off her milk. when she finally had a feed she puked it back so I sat up with her till 1am so I could make sure she had stopped being sick.
Sunday her and dc3 had me up early and by time it was 9pm last night i was in bed.
she did look cute in her halloween outfit though. we got loads of gooodies for the trick or treaters and only 3 lots turned up. and the first 2 only took 1 sweet each. Dp finished most of the rest off.

Lucy is very windy as well, and they smell worse then her poos.

beaditali dc3 has just turned 2 and is only just sleeping through the night. She was waking for feeds up until 18 months. Lucy is sleeping through from 10-11pm till 6-7am which is bliss. I'm still waiting for her to wake up at 2-3 in the morning tho.

comix, tell me about it! Especially as daddy is out at work all week, and would like to enjoy time with him too!

Skye, that song is lovely, brought a tear to my eye!

I've uploaded a photo of Arlo to my profile from when we were still in hospital if you're interested. Looks a bit different now though, amazing how quick they change.

Morning.
Dixie Awh that's a brilliant photograph. Everyone who meets Jacob is always saying 'he looks like a proper little boy'. And by that they mean you can tell straight away he's a boy, cos alot of the time with babies you can't always tell. I think the same goes with Arlo.....can defo tell he is a boy, very handsome.

Well my pain has gone and i never really got it again, except for the 2 feeds i already mentioned. I did automatically press and rub it when it was hurting, skye and cinnamon, so maybe that helped. Thank god, cos the breastfeeding is going really well again and i know something else would de-rail me.

With regards to MIL. I am really really good friends with mine. I go out on nights out with her and her friends and i have been away for weekends with her. To the point that if me and DP split up, we would still be friends. (she is a very young 50, and was only 42 when i met her) But this can bring it's problems too. I find it almost impossible to tell her something that might cause tensions. We have never fell out or had a cross word. But I've already bit my tongue and their only 11 weeks-about her smoking (she did go outside) and then coming in and picking up Jacob. It might sound small i suppose to some issues people have with their MIL, but i could smell the smoke from 5 foot away and Jacob was hanging over her shoulder breathing it all in. Felt so bad for him and felt really guilty that i didn't have the guts to say something. Discussed it with DP and we decided for the amount of time she sees them, (not even once a week) it's not worth falling out over. Still makes me feel shit and weak though.

Hi ladies

Thanks for the advice about the painful nipple. It s gone again without me doing anything different!? I m going to gp on wed for ds 8 week check and vacc so i ll ask then about thrush.

I think families/in laws change when there are little ones involved! Sometimes they can be unreasonable without realising it. Overall my family/in laws don't mean any harm but I can see how things could get complicated........

Oh dixe he's so handsome!. I'll have to try and do that profile thingame tonight! We are in hampshire too,maybe Arlo is about to get popular around here! [Hmm]

As I have failed to upload photos here I will try to link to other photos here always nice to see babies!

I know what you mean sassy34264 my in laws smoke a lot and I hated visiting them when pregnant and when ds1 was small because I worried about the smoke but it was infrequently that I thought the benefits of spending time with grandparents outweighed the negatives of smoke inhalation. Sorry you didn't have the best time with your mil Dixiebell.

DS1 became ill yesterday and having been to the dr today he has tonsillitis again, so have stronger antibiotics. Was up most of last night with him so know how you feel Debs75!

Know how you feel Sassy I was too scared to tell my mil that I didn't like her smoking in my house. She coudl get through 3 cigs in 15 minutes whilst waiting to take dd1 out. It all came to a head when dc2 was tiny and I asked her not to smoke in the house as he had a chesty cough. She threw a fit and walked out, it was dd1's 3rd birthday at the time.
She doesn't smoke as much around them now and we only see her about twice a year, Lucy has seen her once and we only live 30 mins away.

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Thanks everyone, I think he is handsome too! And i know what you mean skye, you can definitely tell he's a boy. V.proud mummy . Don't know if hampshire's a hotspot for the name Arlo, but I stumbled across it and had never heard the name before, so definitely not influenced by anything externally. There were only 130 or so in the country as a whole in 2009, so think it's unlikely they will be in the same class at school!

Went to my first baby group today, was a bit anxious beforehand but it was great to meet some other new mummies locally, especially as we are new to the area, and compare babies and stories.

Sassy I know how you feel. my gran in law is a chain smoker. I absolutely hate going to see her. she doesn't smoke round the children but the air is thick with smoke & her clothes stink. We all have to go straight in the bath after seeing her because we all smell so bad. She holds Olly with his face in her clothes. I try not to think about what he's inhaling. My MILs ok but obviously because she's had 3 children & 8 grandchildren she knows what she's doing! It took her 1 1/2 hours to feed him 3oz cos she won't tap the bloody bottle!

Olly has started sucking his thumb. I don't want him to! how can I stop him? He won't have a dummy. After 9 weeks of trying I've finally accepted that but i want to avoid the thumb!

9wks in 4hrs 50mins!!!!!

I don't think you can bananastew! Could try a different shape of dummy if you want him to have one? Ds1 sucked his from 9 weeks old but just stopped one day when he was just over 3 and hasn't sucked it again since. We didn't want him to have a dummy so I accepted he might suck his thumb and it looks so cute even if it's not great for their teeth when they're older! One of the little girls I childmind sucks really loudly when she's going to sleep but with nothing in her mouth.

I just figure that you can get rid of a dummy, you can't get rid of a thumb! Tried all the dummys! Thumb sucker he is then!

Sorry sassy just realised was you who said the boy thing. Of course it is compounded by the fact he's doing a boxer's pose and showing his vest. He had a canula in his hand at the time for iv antibiotics so couldn't wear sleeve.

Hello everyone! Wow, lots of stories about MIL's! I must say, I can't really complain about mine as she means well (!!) but she does wind me up! She always looks at me like I am mad because I am trying to get Jessica into a routine. Plus she is adamant that because she came to our house last year for Christmas, we have to travel down to her this year - with a 10 week old baby. I know it sounds ungrateful, but she has a tiny house which means we will all be squashed in and Jessica will have to either sleep in a moses basket or if she is too long (which she may well be as she seems to be on the 95th percentile for weight, length etc!) a travel cot so she probably wont sleep well. Oh well, nothing i can do about it. On a positive note, Jess slept the last two nights from 11.30pm to 5.30am, had a feed and then went back to sleep until I woke her at 7.15am. Go Jess!
Am now only on one breast feed (night time one) a day, and I feel terrible about it, but having 2 other kids to entertain for a 2 week half term it was just too difficult. She will be completely on the bottle by the end of this week.
Why do I seem to be the only person to leave such long posts??!
xxx
4wks +4 days

oh, meant to say MIL lives 3 hours away.

none of my 4 have had dummies. dd1 was sick on one, ds1 refused and started to suck his bottom lip, he still does and he is 11. dc3 refused dummies and bottles so we aren't pushing one on Lucy, she likes her fist so will probably thumb suck

I haven't been on comp since last time i posted, and i went and bought dummies today. Sometimes it's so spooky how you all either mention something and one of mine has the ame problem the next day, or the other way round. I had a terrible night with mine last night. They would not sleep and where awake for over 6 hours crying intermitedly, but never sleeping. They were extremely windy. Put them in car seats in the bedroom at one point and they stopped crying. I fell asleep but was woken 15mins later by Jacob crying, got up and they were both just sat there in their carseats looking at me wide eyed! Said to my mum, it was like they'd taken coke or something. I on the other hand was a zombie. Anyway, the only way i have got Jacob to go to sleep the last 3 nights is by putting my little finger in his mouth.....so dummies it is. I did have them originally but had to chuck them after the thrush episode. I had decided not to buy them again but sod it!

Had more bad news on my twins thread to put it in perspective though. One of the ladies has been told on her 20 week scan that one twin has multiple problems and probably won't make it. Also very sad news about Lily Allen, so i know how lucky i am.

Sassy that is sad, and yes, very sad about Lily Allen.

Oliver threw up spectacularly at toddlers today. I'd just got him changed into his chrisening outfit because there was a photographer. I walked back into the hall & he brought up his entire 5oz bottle. All over me, him & my uggs!!!!! I just burst into tears as an army of mums swarmed round to mop us both clean & the floor!

We then went home for lunch with one of my friends. She's 50 & the boys surrogate nanna! She came in & asked if he was eating chocolate yet . I snorted & replied that he's only 9 weeks & she seemed suprised that I hadn't given him a taste & put the chocolate buttons away! Do people seriously give chocolate at that age??!!!

NO!!!!!! bananstew Although i did once see a tiny baby in one of those little car type seats on a supermarket trolley sucking a mars bar! Disgusting. I didn't give my DD anything bad for her until she could ask for it- that's my motto. She didn't even get to experience a heinz chocolate pud. :)
To this day though she's not mad keen on puddings and fizzy pop and a few other things i never gave her- that other kids love.
Even if you think kids should have these has treats, there is no way they should be getting them at that age....they could choke! Weaning starts around 6mths (earlier sometimes) and it starts with smooth food first and then you progress by making it a bit lumpy etc, before you give solid food.
Sorry about your uggs! I'd have cried too. :o

my mums always trying to feed my kids junk,my dd had her first taste of anything naughty at 22 months,so my mum was going mental by then!! she still brings it up all the time with Arlo though,its like she thinks im cruel for not feeding them crap!
i think it must be a generational thing!

I know what you mean skye my DP's auntie used to take him out to buy him sweets cos his mum (her sister) wouldn't let him have them and she used to think (and still does) that it was cruel! I'm not sure what age he was though.
I don't let my dd have sweets very often but she does have something crap every day. I say it might not be good for you nutritionally but it's good for the soul!

Hi ladies.

Glad to read everyone is enjoying their LO's.

I am having a bit of a nightmare. Harlyn still has aggressive wind that forcefully comes of an evening. He has been really miserable of an afternoon around 2 ish through to the evening 12am ish for the last few days and is still being sick a few times after every feed. The doctor has said due to the large amount he sicks up that it is likely to be reflux. We have been prescribed gaviscon. I'm not sure if it is reflux or if he is simply over eating at each feed resulting in him being sick and uncomfortably full. He cluster feeds in the morning (more or less every hour). The doctor also said to try and space out my feeds to every 3 hours but try telling that to a crying baby who will only settle on the boob. I really want to enjoy this precious time with him while he is so little but its so difficult when he is constantly miserable and upset when awake (apart from the 7-12 when he is lovely and alert). Really hoping this is just a short phase that will pass very soon.

I don't understand the desperate need to feed babies either! We went on holiday when ds1 was 4 months old and a lady in a sweet shop was visited asked if he could have some chocolate I said he'd never had anything except milk and she looked at me like I was crazy! He was a very big baby but couldn't sit so gives a rough idea. Doesn't always work that they are not keen on naughty things if you don't give them though skyeplusArlo, ds1 didn't have sweets until he was over 18 months- not sure exactly how old, and they ate still the first thing he asks for nearly every morning! There are a lot of things I waited a long time to give him but he knows what he likes even if he doesn't get them all the time

JodeyLea your lo sounds just like my ds1! He cried from 3pm until 9 or 10 so not quite as bad, was a total milk monster and piled on weight but just soooo colicy. I used baby massage which helped and he did improve around 12 weeks. He was sick loads too but was never diagnosed with reflux. In fact he was sick at least once a day until he started walking at 16 months! Never seemed to bother him, the actual vomitting, and gp said they don't get concerned until 18 months. It's is really miserable though, hope it improves soon for you.