September 2010 - we've met our little ones now!

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Or most of them at least - there are some late September ones still to come!

sorry to hear youre having a bad week bannana! nice to have a new laptop though!

Thankyou cinnamon, I really do forget how lovely she can be,must focus more on positives!

Arlo has tonnes of hair too! Its so cute! But I do feel like I should brush it more often! [Blush]

Welcome back Skye I feel I should brush ollys hair more often too but he looks cute all messy!

Welcome back skye! my boys are all tude these days too. DS2 reverted to physical behaviour and tantrums. I use the naughty step but for the most part just refuse to engage with him and tell him that no-one wants to play or talk to someone who behaves badly.while at the same time trying to highlight his good behaviour. Also have star chart for them with a prize (this week is visit to old castle ruin to play knights) and if behviour is very bad I take down a star which they HATE! I find focusing on the good behaviour more positive for you and easier for them. They are both full of energy at the mo too which is part of the prob and I just cant get them out as readily as before. Add that to me being knackered and it can get a bit tense. They are super boys tho I just have to rem that this is a major change to their little lives too. Isnt it all fun and games!!!
MIL came and minded all 3 for two hours this eve and DH and I went to a proper grown up restaurant! Even put on make up and did my hair! It was lovely but was also happy to come home to my little lady.

Phoebe 5w 2days

Hello skye wondered where you were!! Glad Arlo is doing well, sorry to hear Skye is struggling a bit hopefully it'll pass.

Kaesha has been pretty good so far but she's had lots of people around to give her attention, that is all going to change next week when it will just be the 3 of us for the first time so I'm bracing myself for more frustrations on her part then.

I'm so proud of her though she announced last week she didn't want to wear nappies anymore and has been doing brilliantly and is so proud of herself when she wees or poos in the potty!!

Flynn's sleep and feeding patterns really vary as well, about the longest he goes is 4 hours between feeds but at other times it is cluster feeds every 45mins to an hour.

5wks+2

Hello skyeplusarlo! My Arlo says hi to his namesake. I was asking before what reaction you get to the name? Most frequent response I get is 'where's that from?' I'm sticking with 'old english' at the mo! Also have you got the Arlo Guthrie connection pointed out? I have now downloaded Alice's Restaurant and Arlo and I listen while feeding sometimes :)

3+5

help! nipple very sore this morning when ds latched on. havent had any major probs bf so far

is it thrush :(

8 weeks today

Sassy34264 will be able to tell you chickieno1. I had it but it was diagnosed because the cracks in my nipples wouldn't heal and as I had huge holes in my nipples couldn't tell if the pain was from them or the thrush iyswim. Have a look in your lo's mouth, you are looking for white on the tongue (although they don't always get it) that lasts longer than just after their feed. Have a read here. Sorry you are suffering :(

Hi skyeplusarlo love the updated sign in!
chickieno1 I can't help but hope it clears up soon for you.
Can I ask how many of you give water throughout the day? A neighbour said mid conversation... "we'll he gets his water doesn't he" and I didn't say but I haven't been giving Jack water. She used a 6oz bottle throughout the day for all of her 3 children.
I did offer him water yesterday just before a feed. It was a good indicator of how hungry he really was but he didn't take much before he sussed out it wasn't milk.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
We've been having smiles since Monday! They don't come a lot at the moment but are definitely there!
A gorgeous day in Leeds today. Think the carrier is coming out so we can all trudge across the fields and maybe sprinkle a certain somebodies ashes along the way. Enjoy the sunshine everyone!

Sounds lovely beaditAli [hgrin]! Can't really help with when water is needed, I started offering ds1 water in a tommee tippee first beaker when he was 4 months but he was breastfed and I don't know if that makes a difference. Was told breastfed babies don't need water until they start weaning but I wanted him to get used to the beaker and it really took a while!!

Water, beaditAli? I thought they were supposed to get all they need from the milk - no need to give water I believe. Anyway I haven't been, and have no plans to.

(Belatedly) cinnamon, thanks for the clarification on expressing: when I was originally told to express it was specifically to boost my supply (the MW told me to express as often as possible for a few days). It's fine now and needs no further boosting, but I am still expressing a couple of times a day to get a good bottle full so that DP can give her a feed in the evening after her bath. I also live in hope of building up a stock for freezing so that I can use it if I want to skip a night of feeds at some point in the future, or similar.

Morning everyone. I have a new problem, last 2 feeds of Jacob- i've got pain in one specific place in my boob. It doesn't happen every suck and is completely random when it does happen, it even happens after i have finished feeding. The area it comes from isn't hot to touch. I've looked up mastitis but it doesn't sound like it. Anyone any ideas?

Bellabelly I have feed them both at the same time, but i don't like to. It isn't a nice feeling for me. It makes me irritated, like i want to itch my boobs!! Plus it is harder now they are bigger. The way i did it is, jacob lies across like you would do on a normal bfing position and Isobel would be around the side in the football position (i think it's called) Top of her head would be against his feet and her feet would be around my back. I did feed them together last week once because jacob was literally screaming the motar out the bricks! I was on my side with Isobel laying on the bed and i just lifted jacob up and hung him over my side (ribs) so that he was face down in my boob (the things you have do) He turned to the side a bit himself once he had latched on so his nostrils were free.

Bananastew She hasn't posted since her original post (obviously she'll be spending all her time in sbcu at the mo) but her sister-in-law is also on the thread and she posted on thurs with no mention of anything, so they must be ok so far.

Chickien01 Jacob had all white marks on his inner lips as well as a thick milky tongue (although having a milky tongue is normal, but not if it won't wipe off). The painful nipples can be a sign of not latching on, but i've had that pain and it goes beyond that. It makes your toes curl. I used to have to put my hand over my mouth and breath hard to stop m yself from screaming and i had to concentrate hard not to squeeze the babies as a reaction cos i caught myself doing it once. But the main give away is the sharp burning.stinging pain that comes after you have finished bfing. It can last up to an hour.

beaditall I've read that you don't need to give bf babies water, even if you're in a hot country, but ff babies would need extra water, but again only in summer. I may be wrong, but thats what i've read.

Dixiebell that is exactly the reaction I get,and exactly the answer I give!!! I do think its a bit of a marmite name though! Arlo waves at Arlo!x

Bf babies do not need water,everthing they need is in your milk,It is an old wifes tale! however i
have no idea about ff babys!

Thanks for all the welcomes! It feels good to chat to you all again!

Oh and sassy, it sounds like a blocked duct to me,i had one once with dd,not nice! you can try massaging the area,and expressing,although sometimes the baby will suck it out!! It will look really thick and sort of worm like!!! Sorry if tmi! Go to the doctor though if its not sorted in a day or two.x

Dixie,have you listened to goodnight sweet arlo,its lovely (actually not sure uf thats the title now I've typed ot!I'll check!)

Good afternoon ladies.

Does anyone elses LOs have major wind? I'm not talking burps but more from the bottom? Harlyn, over the last week, has started passing wind constantly. When he's asleep, awake, feeding, being changed etc and I think this is what's making him a little miserable. His wind is really loud and sounds just like a fully grown bloke rather than a little baby.

I never offered water to ds untill I started weaning & I'm intending on doing the same with Olly. Afaik they also get what they need from the formula after all its made up with water.

I agree sassy34264 it sounds like a blocked duct, does it feel a bit like pulling while they are feeding? You can try massage it if you can bear it- I found it made me feel a bit sick to touch it, putting something warm on it before you feed and changing feeding position (although from your previous post sounds like you're using all sorts!!). Keep a close eye on it if it is a blocked duct as it can very quickly become mastitis and that it horrible.

Hi everyone,

Ds (2.5 yrs) hasn´t been vaccinated neither. Have to say before being pregnant with DS I never even questioned vaccinations, Im vaccinated and have later paid for more (travel/work reasons). My reasons for not vaccinating the kids (v. quickly)are Im not convinced on the risk v benefits. Its not something that is closed case I continue to speak with the Dr and read up about it, in fact I recently went to see the dr about DS having the tetanus vaccine and she actually advised me not to bother as it can be given if he needs it (i.e. has a dirty deep wound). Its a very difficult thing to decide but I started reading up about it I started to question them and feel for the minute I don´t want to put the kids at risk of an adverse reaction. There have been studies showing problems/side effects for every vaccine with the MMR being the most recent high profile one. That´s about it in a nutshell.

Anyway back to more pleasant stuff, Maia has been rolling over onto her tummy . Its so cute.

Busy busy day! Put lil miss in a proper outfit today as there were a few special things going on - she looked adorable! Funny tho made her look bigger than she is?
My sister is leaving tomorrow to spend up to 6 months travelling around the world! Yippee for her - total bugger for me! Will miss her no end. I see her every day and we regularly head out for coffee etc. Will have no-one now. Trying very hard not to think about it but dreading next few weeks all the same. We live in a small town and I dont think she will settle back here (hopefully not for her) The boys will really miss her - she is the tickle monster. Still big adventure for her.
Enjoy all the antics today! have little pumpkin hat and matching bib for phoebe - too cute. Not sure if DS1 will dress up - he is so shy and impossible when its people he doesnt know. Its so funny cause he is loud and talkative and v assertive at home. So like me as a child its a bit freaky.

Always makes them look so grown up when they're in outfits MammyG! We went to a Halloween party yesterday and I got Luke a babygrow with a spider on it as I didn't want to put him in a costume. I ended up in years when I got home, I know the lady who's party is was pretty well but not the other mums and as hard as I tried to chat I was mostly ignored and really felt like an outcast :(. Ds1 had a great time though which was good an what it's all about really.

JodeyLea forgot to say earlier, Luke has started pooing less frequently (every 3-5days) and since then he is really windy but it doesn't seem to distress him at all, is just loud and smells worse than his poo!!

Had a really good night last night and with the extra hour as well I feel so much better. Won't last once I have to start getting up in te mornings again but nice to feel rested occasionally [hgrin]

6w+6

Awww, Cinnamon, sorry you felt ignored at the party - it's a horrible feeling isn't it? Some people are just a bit rude and ignorant, unfortunately. My girls are the same age as Luke and I'm tearing up a lot at the mo (for no particular reason) so I reckon our hormones are a bit all over the place which doesn't help!

Think the girls are going through big growth spurt right now, they are wanting a lot more milk and it's all I can do to keep them fed and happy. HV coming for a weigh-in on Tuesday so hoping to see some good results!

Thanks bellabelly, Luke has been the same the last week but slowed down a lot today so hoping the spurt is over!!

Oooo cinnamon what a shame about the party. There's just never an excuse not to be friendly especially having never met someone. You're obviously the better person..... ditto bella's comment.
Jack is also hungrier during the day though less needy during his night feeds so I'm hoping he's getting close to skipping these. No idea when he might sleep through....? Anyone fancy giving me hope and telling me it can happen at 6-7 weeks?

Had fun carving Jack his first pumkin. More of a largish orange size really so quite adequate for our little monster.
Happy Hallowe'en xxx

Skye, nope, I haven't heard that, can't find anything when I google..?

Got HV later today, looking forward to another weigh-in. Had MIL with us for weekend, her first time meeting the LO since we left the hospital. Should have been nice, but unfortunately she has guilt issues about living so far away from her children, which are now compounded by having a grandchild. And although she says she wants to be helpful when she stays, and do jobs around the house etc, her help usually requires a lot of input from us - she asks a lot of questions about where things go, how we like things done etc! She and DH rub each other up the wrong way, so it's not really that relaxing, and ended in tears. Also felt pressure to hVe Arlo 'perform' - she was desperate to have time with him alone 'with his eyes open'. Well, it's not often he's alert Nd happy, and frankly daddy and I would like to enjoy that time too while he's still so young!

Argh, families! I hope I get on better with Arlo when he's grown up!

4 weeks today.

dixie i also have an awkward mil,so sympathy vibes!

sorry to hear that cinnamon,that sort of c**p always happens to me