March 2010 - Six months in - will they ever sleep?

[Arcadie]

Welcome to the latest thread for mums of babies born in March ( and a few in Feb and one in April!).

Come on in. Find out who'll be pg next and who's weaning onto what.

Everyone' on good form tonight!

Dalrymps and Melk, I'm so with you on the impossible elder ones. And I'm embarrassed to admit I do shout at mine more frequently than I really should. I really frightened her today too, I saw her jump. It's hard to remember that, as Manda wisely advises, they don't really know why they're acting that way so applying any logic to it is just pointless .

If anyone feels like taking out their ire on a deserving candidate I would have suggested the manager of my local Domino's pizza who,this evening, failed to appreciate that delivering my waffle order with garlic and herb dip rather than the vital ordered chocolate and toffee dips was A REALLY BAD IDEA. I say would have suggested because I think I made his evening quite difficult enough. After the third irate phone call he'd got the message so loud and clear not only did I get the waffles but the whole order again...

Dizzi, fingers crossed on the interview. And you do work all hours, you just do two jobs in them not one!

well done! I was trying to do an advanced search but my goodness that woman posts a lot and I couldn't remember a month to narrow it down

pixie that's what I figure re ds1. His dad is having problems for the nth time and has finally started some counselling - cue him suggesting that ds1 neds one too. I replied I think his random outbursts of anger are probably connected to the surge of testosterone that accompanies onset of puberty and there's nothing wrong with him. Still makes it pretty hard to live with.

smac luckily I only had to feed him twice over the course of the day. The first time I got into the back of a friends car (a hummer, so huge!) undid the zip to the waist and folded the whole top half down. THank goodness for blacked out windows! The second time I only needed my wrap as it was the side that is 'strapless' so just unziped a little and popped it out, as it were. 'Twas totally worth it to feel like I still scrub up ok for a few hours Hmm, I have a few (unfortunately blurry) snaps taken that day on my comp - I'll try and upload one now. Oh! Perhaps I should wear it to the MMMM SE?

Stroganof baby was 'strong' wasn't it?

And I'm thinking timewarp even though I didn't check the video at the time.

Whoops, x posting - can't touch this! Indeed it was mc hammer?

And it was pixie who was wise, not I dear bluey!

There you go a snap added which is probably gonna be removed because it's rubbish!

Genus

Wow Manda you're very glamorous! What an attractive couple you make too! You look stunning in the dress

hi everybody,just popping in for a quick hug,have had a tough week,but its getting better,just found out my best friend has been on a warpath,and this from total strangers,apparently she went into the salon to have her hair done and she had fun with my former hair dresser,tearing me to pieces,this man was in the salon,heard everything,found me on fACEBOOK and told me everything,and this was not the first time my friend had betrayed me,i told her my fears about miscarrying when i was pregnant ans she told it to whomever cared to listen,then blamed an innocent woman for spreading rumours and i believed her,now two people sent me messages ,they want nothing from me,one of them comes from the same country as me and he said it tore him apart to hear this friend shredding me like that,

i haven't spoken to my friend,but each time i call her,i can feel her reluctance to talk to me,it feels like i am bothering her and phoning SA from Norway is not cheap,so i stopped calling,she does not reply to emails,she does not sms me to ask me how i am doing bcoz i am perfect,the fact that i moved to Norway means i don't have problems,i really did not expect this from this girl bcoz we went through so much together,what would you ladies do in this situation bcoz honestly,i am lost,my DH says to cut her off and not be friends anymore,can it be that easy?sorry for spilling cold water on a happy thread,

.......can you hear that...??......silence...... DH has taken BOTH DDs off for a few hours....emotions are ranging between blissful, content and a sort of tinging guilt that he has them on his own...which is STUPID because that is exactly what i do every day all day so frankly. melk's being a muppet... I'm also torn between hoping they behave themselves to, er....hoping they do their "normal" thing...the latter wouldn't help my guilt but would raise a wry smile
So, i toyed between sleeping and going shopping. I'm doing the latter because a) it's NEVER fun with a pram and b) as DH pointed out, if I didn't sleep i'd feel cheated

cakegate I know who my fairy is and it IS one of you!!!!!!! apart from the completely embarrassing crossed wire that was me thinking it was BMI for about a minute (cos she's a nice person) I finally applied facebook thumbscrews and out of the woodwork she popped!! And I'm very grateful and very very touched. You Sherlocks can don the hat and light the pipe...I'll throw some clues in as and when I find my cryptic switch.
Anyway how nice is MN.

pd forgot to say YES to being touched out, completely agree. and at the Wakefield jacket. On said dog walk yesterday I had a "I'm Actually 50" moment as I started thinking that a barbour hat is actually practical and stylish....(you can hear things and see your toddler dashing off into the distance chasing an imaginary monster - rather than crane your neck around desperately as your rubbish hood reduces your visibility down to about zero....)

manda sorry about the teenagerness, I have to admit to being an AWFUL teenager. My only insight into it is that I was horrid because I had no confidence and felt that no-one understood me. Not that I would have taken any olive branches from my parents but I definitely felt alone. Weird. however you aren't the only one being sworn at. Elk's favourite saying at the moment - and fbkers will have already seen this, sorry - is "f&king bugger" culminating this week in her smashing my scales in the kitchen, looking up at me and asking very sweetly "Mummy, do you think I can say f&king bugger now please?". I have NEVER used those words at least together with any intent in her presence so I'm putting it down to, er...her father.....
and also, Jeez you are very glamorous...... Bagsy sit the SickStain end of the table on Thursday then

Right, I do think I should go out now rather than MN - i love you all but I think you'd all agree it would be shameful to spend it here......

I love you cake fairy!!!!!

Manda, phoarr, v glam pictures - and the baby pictures...

TooBlessed, this person in not your friend - frankly I would stop contact.

MC Hammer-gate - it was I who made a flippant remark about the dance and then it turned out there was something on YouTube and Arcadie went paranoid suspected me of witchcraft or the Second Sight or summat - oh, innocent times

We had a spectacularly bad night: to bed at 8 after 1 hour trying to settle him (I had been aiming for an earlier bedtime ), feed @ 11pm, up really distressed and screaming from 2-5am incl feeding/pooing/changing/rocking/walking/humming etc etc. No idea what was wrong with him - although tooth no4 looks close to popping through... He was so agitated he did not even go on the boob and refused to go to bed with me. He had to be held/walked/rocked just so to even be quiet. Then another feed @ 6am and slept til 9.30am .

I am going for a loooooong shower to wake up properly.

sorry xposted

tooblessed ABSOLUTELY cut contact!! What a cow! I think in those sorts of situations you have to ask yourself what you are getting out of the relationship...?? I can't see that you are getting anything. How often do you go back to SA anyway? To have two complete strangers pick up on this and care enough to find you and tell you says everything. You don't need someone bringing you down. she sounds CRAZY. dump her.

Pd sorry you had an awful night hope hot shower helps....i LOVED Hammergate....surely a classic. where is rkd anyway? Are you ok lady?

Pacific too agitated to take the boob sounds like DD2 when she is teething or when she has a snotty nose and can't breathe very well Sorry it was such a bad night. My night was better than the previous one but DD1 woke me with the chant 'need a poo poo mummy' sadly you can't ignore that one .....
mummyelk hope you have a nice time shopping. You are so right shopping with a buggy is a pain, especially if you can be arsed to try anything on. I have to admit I rarely try stuff on now I usually purchase and take back but I would like a new pair of jeans and they really do need to be tried on.
Oh and go to a nice cafe and have a relaxing coffee/cake or lunch and revel in the pleasure that is NOT SHARING
Glad you got some new boots BMI and a happy birthday to you!
melk My Sherlock guess is IWCAS as she must have your address as she lent you a sling for your holiday which also indicates her generosity
Tooblessed your 'friend' sounds like she is no longer a friend. Has something happened to make her slag you off in this way or has she always been a bit flaky? So hard especially if you are a) a long way away from it all and relying on 2nd hand informationa and b) if you have been friends for a long time. Sounds like she has changed a bit lot since you were friends together in SA?
Miscarriage is a very inappropriate thing for her to be ranting away about to any old person. and for you.

Melk my guess is also iwcas for your cake fairy, same reasons as Smac, and also because she is lovely (that's not to say that everyone else isn't, of course).

Pacific sorry you had a bad night, hope you're feeling better after a shower.

TooBlessed a 'friend' who would treat you like that is no friend at all. You deserve better than that.

Thanks for the birthday wishes Smac. So far today I have been woken up at 5am and headbutted in the nose by a certain DD who shall remain nameless, have made breakfast for myself and DH, loaded the dishwasher and am about to make formula. So business as usual :) Did have a lovely (albeit rainy) day shopping yesterday though, and fab afternoon tea.

Happy birthday BMI!

Manda twas me asked for the pic. ta, you have sated my yearning for glitz and glamour now, and I feel aok slobbing around in my jammies! Your DS is a real little boy, he's lovely.

Everyone thinks my DD looks like a boy (well random people on the street) Even when she was wearing a pink dress and tights. Have posted a pic of her waiting for her dinner for your professional opinion!

melk glad you are feeling better. Sounded like a real pressure cooker situation and now you've blown off steam things are better. Bet it was IWCAS who sent the cake as you have done really sweet things for her too.

Tooblessed sometimes we hang on to people in our lives for the wrong reasons. I guess you could ask yourself whether you and your friend are getting positive things from this relationship. Even though you have a shared history, it certainly sounds like only negative damaging things remain. She sounds jealous and bitter tbh. These are issues that she needs to work out for herself.

Can anyone help on my amby thread please www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/1053568-Transition-from-Amby-Hammock-to-cotbed

Sorry, on-from-Amby-Hammock-to-cotbed here

Happy birthday, BMI

donttry your dd looks very sweet and beautiful and i don't think she looks like a boy . i've had the same problem with dd4 even when dressed in pink from head to toe including a dress . irritating as i have spent the last 3 1/2 years being told ds4 is a lovely little girl yes he has blond curly hair and blue eyes but that doesnt make him a grl !!!(see pictures on profile) .it really annoys when people get it wrong . it's not helped by the fact that many people pronounce gabriel as gabrielle even the chemist keeps putting miss on his prescriptions.(never considered that it might be a problem when we chose his name)
pd sorry joe had a bad night . hope you feel refeshed after your shower. dd sleep deteriorated when she first started solids but settled down again after a few weeks
happy birthday bmi enjoy your day

I think people always get the sex of babies wrong even if to us mums it's so obvious and you dress them in gender specific stuff. DD1 was in Tesco cafe with me and an old man insisted on saying that DD was such a wise looking boy he was bound to be prime minister she was wearing a denim pinafore and pink t-shirt and pink tights!
DD2 is Georgia and she gets Mr George XXXX on her prescriptions every single time. Hey ho !

Flies by on her way to pursuit of more sleep. Surprise early birth last night - amazing but am knackered after 2 in a week and still have amazing no sleeping baby. Have 6 weeks off though now unless the next one comes early...

Will check in properly tomorrow. Did I say I booked the smear for Thurs. Am irrationally scared.

Flying visit - PIL visiting from the States and no time to post (though am lurking). Am finding my MIL v irritating...but luckily DS thinks she's wonderful so that's good . Have had plenty of little trips out, from boring things like trips to Tesco's and Sainsburys to exciting things like meeting a friend for a coffee at Old Street, so overall am glad that PIL are here. But not much time to MN...

So, briefly:

Rebecca sorry to hear S isn't sleeping but v proud of you for facing the fear and booking the smear (see what I did there...am a poet etc etc).

Donttry your dd is a total cutie and looks utterly like a girl to me.

Melk I instantly thought IWCAS too, so glad to hear BMI and Smac think the same. Go on, reveal all! Glad to hear you're sounding better, it was worrying to hear you sound so down. PS Isn't Elk clever at knowing when to use that phrase

Tooblessed she sounds horrible. You do not need such a negative person in your life. I'd say your DH has it spot on in this situation.

BMI happy birthday!! And yay for boots and afternoon tea and general great times chez BMI.

Pixie hope you're having a good weekend - not long before your DH is back!

[fondly remembers "Hammertime!" era]

DS's third tooth is about to pop - I can actually feel it but can't quite see it yet - but he was in better form yesterday after being out of sorts all of yesterday. The good news is that he's started falling asleep himself in his cot after a feed (had been feeding him to sleep up to this point). Am sure I've jinxed it now but am going to enjoy it while we've got it...

PS Anna you came back! Please please come to the meet up on Thurs if you can! PS I was caitni...you may have already gone cold turkey when I name changed.

in better form today

[wanders off muttering about previewing before clicking "post"]

who needs a shrink when you this thread?:o

Ladies after a lot of thinking,i realised that this is not healthy for me,right now i need positive people in my corner or else its back to PND or some other crazy stress related thing,information from different sources say its sour grapes,it was ok while she felt superior over me,i didn't even see it that way,but when i moved from SA,she thought i was the superior one,i remember one day i was talking to her and saying how much i loved it in Norway,her boyfriend grabbed the phone from her and shouted to me,'did my girlfriend tell you i bought her a new car?,now i know why he said it,it feels like i am competing for something which i have no idea of,

I have written a note to the poor woman i gave a hard time to and she was kind enough to forgive me,as for my 'friend',i am getting more love from this thread that from her,we are done,if i had not found MN i would be chasing a dead horse,but MN has taught me a lot,and for that i am grateful,as for you ladies,you are all lovely and the support is amazing,i regret not finding you when i was pregnant,but i have you now,its not too late,

oh i almost forgot,smac,i think it all started when she asked me for 10 000 kroner,which is 1000pounds,i had just moved and a new wife,the idea of lending that much money which i didn't have was out of the question,i explained it to her that i couldn't and i think thats what killed the friendship,i could not do it and if that makes me a bad person in her eyes then i am very guilty,i would not do it even now,that money was to invest in a restaurant and the restaurant went bust,so i would have had a hard time explaining to DH that the money was not gonna be given back,,oh well,back to real life,

BMI,gratulerer med dagen
fantasia,my MIL irritates me as well but she loves DD so i forgive her
smacs,i went into a shop when DD was 4months,wearing a dress with a curly dark hair in the open,the man in there started playing with her,asked me if she was a boy,was irritated then saw the funny side of it and i burst out laughing,
pixie your DH is coming before you know it,have been thinking about you lately and how strong you are,,
rebecca am with you on the smear,my doc hasn't given me the date so will go in person on monday,the sooner i do it th e better
donttry,not sure if i am of any help but my baby can sleep well in her bed,i moved her when she was 2months and has slept there aver since,however during the day she will NOT sleep in it,if she does its for 10min then she is dome,during the day i dump her on my bed, and she can sleep there for hours,i don't know what it is but thats the way she does it,

BMI i am so sorry,i'm tired,what i meant to say was happy birthday,only i was thinking in norwegian,agh