October 2010 pregnancy thread - welcome to the other side....

[Hevster]

Well ladies, it's a bit in advance but here is the new thread, started especially early for Saartjie!

Hi Dilly, we have a similar night time problem at the moment, as DS will just not settle in his moses basket at night. he'll take naps anywhere during the day, but then come 8pm he simply won't be put down and we end up holding him all night. it's ever since we came out of hospital that he's been like this. before that he settled himself quite happily. we've tried baby whisperer patting and shushing too, but doesn't work at night. Good luck!

And if you're wondering why I'm posting at this time of themorning, I'm sitting in the kitchen expressing from the bad boob. It's such a nuisance.

Jacks you are not alone with the for a dummy, DD still has hers at night and I don't see anyway to get it off her at the moment.

patsy hope you are starting to feel better that sounds so sore.

hevster I think some kids just need dummies; DS really needs his he'd be so upset without it. Right now, if he wants it until he's 21, he can have it!

thanks so much all for tips! we are using infacol and gripe water (v. retro!) will try cranial osteopathy as birth was long (5 days being induced and contracting ending in emergency section) then we were back in hospital for another 5 days as he'd lost weight & I had high bp, so I was always more concerned with feeding him up than sleep.... wonder also if yr right about leaving him alone - he cries for half an hour easy though, even with patting or cuddles. He almost always feeds for a good 45 mins . will try everything whil waiting for the magical 12 weeks!!
patsy i meant to say so sorry about what happened, it must have been agony and yes, I think being in hospital really messes the baby's routine up. hope things improve!

How are you today dilly ? X

Boo hiss, my five week old now has a very snuffly cold and is making the most awful bunged up noises (like me) Eating less (so my boobs are full up, had to pump the excess this morning) and sleeping more (should be a benefit but I am too wound up to sleep much)

Send hubby to Asda pharmacy to get a better thermometer and a thing to extract the snot (!) so hopefully try that out this evening.

Anyone else had any problems with snotty colds?

KathMCB My 6 week old DS had a snotty nose last week - I tried to get medication, but the pharmacist told me that nothing was suitable for babies less than 3 months without a prescription .

I found having a really hot steamy shower/bath with DS in the bathroom with me helped, and also having Albas Oil soaked tissues nearby (but not too near as the fumes stung his eyes!). Fortunately we didn't have to resort to the snot sucker!

We seem to be coping at the moment, but would love DS to sleep longer than 3 hours between feeds at night, but having read what some of you are going through, I am grateful for the sleep that I do get!!

Hope you're all doing OK and not too stranded with the snow. xx

we are on snotty cold no 3! (the only downside of DD1 being at nursery) all I do is tilt her cot/moses basket at night so she can breathe more easily (put a blanket under one ond of the basket ot books under 1 end of the cot).

when they get to 3 months you can get a calpol night burner which is brilliant

Cold seems to be clearing up thank goodness. Am feeling a bit sorry for myself as had a tooth out today.

Off to do some Christmas shopping but online! Can't face the shops!

I always seem to write on here about something negative... But I need the advice! Tilly went to sleep at midnight after struggling to even take 2 oz of a 5oz bottle... She woke up at 7 and I tried to feed her again and she didn't even take half an ounce...

She carried on sleeping till midday when I woke her up (again and again!!) for her to again, struggle to take even half an ounce... She fell straight back to sleep and is still out now...

I called the doctor (overreaction??) and am waiting for a call back but I'm worried.

Any advice??

Thanks xxxx

Hi anything... did the doctor get back to you? Have you seen anyone yet / any improvement? FWIW if you haven't seen or spoken to anyone I would call NHS Direct 0845 4647.

Are u ok anything?

Hi, yes we're okay thanks...

She woke up shortly after I posted yesterday with a full on temperature and cold...

I've just got back from the doctors and it's all normal, just worrying and terrifying in a way life never was before Tilly!! Lol

Thanks for your reply though! Xxx

Poor you anything that must have been horrible. I think you did the right thing though. I panic if the wee one sleeps for longer than three hours - are you supposed to wake a sleeping baby? I kinda figure that is he is hungry he will wakw?

anything glad all ok, or at least nothing too terrible is wrong!

Kath AFAIK there's no set rule on waking babies but assuming no weight gain problems or health concerns I personally wouldn't wake after 3 hours (unless necessary to fit in with schedule e.g. DS's pre-school run etc).

Ok I am about to contradict myself totally I realise, but i am about to wake DD for a feed now so she will be hungry again by 11p.m. when I will wake her for another feed! What I mean is, I don't think you should feel you NEED to wake them IYSWIM.

Anything I hope your DD feels better soon, poor little thing.

Kath and Jacks I'm jealous that you're even talking about waking a baby after 3 hours!! My DS seems to have an internal alarm that goes off at least an hour before he's due a feed!!

Quick question for you all, esp. those who had stitches..... Have you attempted sex yet and if so, how did it go? DS is 6 1/2 weeks and I'm tempted to give it a go, but a bit about the whole thing.

Hi Jelly

I had a lot of stitches (forceps and vontouse) and am due my six week check up next week. Have not attempted sex yet (hardly crossed my mind to be honest!) but we are thinking about it after the check up.....need to sort out some pills first of all as I don't want another wee one just yet!

Stitches have just about healed I think but whole are seems a bit tender still but doen't want to leave it too long to get back on the horse as it were!

Have managed to get the wee one to sleep in his side cot all night and goes back to sleep a bit better at night which is good. Keeping the lights low and speaking very little seems to help a lot and we did that from the start.

Have ordered some black and white mobile shapes today as heard they were good.

Anyway, he has woken and wants a feed so better dash! (smile)

Hi girls, jelly we attempted sex after 4 weeks and it was fine down there, although I didn't have stitches I did have a graze.

kath please be careful about the pill your doctor puts you on. Mine put me on a pill called cerazette which is a progesterone only pill. We actually found out that it has a history of depression, amongst other things. We only found this out after I started taking it and gradually became more and more depressed. It was really quite severe until I came off it, and I'm only just starting to feel normal again now. If you do take it, just bear it in mind and get your DH to keep an eye on you.

Thanks Jazzie I was on the combined pill for 11 years and was fine but am not really very keen to go on the mini pill but don't like/trust condoms and not keen on the more long term ones such as coil...need to have a think but thank you for the advice. The last thing I want is any kind of depression

My HV cancelled for the third time today, would not have minded that much but I only got the message after I had dragged me and the wee one out of bed, showered, dressed and woke up after a terrible night (I think he is having a growth spurt - he just would not sleep, ended up having a cryathon and fell asleep on DH's chest all cried out) and I could have stayed in bed!!! Poor DH had to get up at 7am for a full days work and looked like death.

Anyway on the plus side I seem to have adapted to only haveing three hours sleep at a time. Am starting to wonder what I ever did with all my time before.

hello all-yes still around! Erin is 7 weeks exactly today and all seems well.

we haven't had our checks yet because of all the snow! but bf is going fine and shes certainly growing,

Welcome newbies-Kath I'm doing the same as you. going on the pill after my check, I'm slightly worried as I too had stiches after forceps.

We seem to be getting 5-6hrs sleep a night which isn't too bad compared to others!

hope everyone is well-hope your feeling better yummy x

Hey RooBear good to hear from you, glad all is going ok. x

Hi everyone!

Haven't posted for ages. All is well with me and my DD. I sympathise with those of you with snot issues. She got a cold at 13 days and only shifted it at just over 5 weeks.

She is just starting to take more with feeds and go for more like 4/5 hours (sometimes!). So difficult to know how much she is getting as she is BF, but we are approaching a stage I think where I may try to introduce some kind of routine. We'll see how that works!

She is just over 6 weeks now and is smiling lots which is totally wonderful.

Re sex: I had a 2nd degree tear and had internal stitches. We tested it out at 5 wks. It wasn't painful, but a little uncomfortable and I was aware of the scar. I have to say that the biggest issue is that I have no sex drive at all. It's frustrating really because I was v horny when massively pregnant and it was logistically pretty much impossible because my bump was so big. I just kept giggling. DH is being amazingly patient but I think he's a bit jealous of the attention DD is getting - not to mention that she's the only one who gets anywhere near my boobs!

Hope all is well with everyone. Sorry I haven't been on and have been a bit crap about reading up too.

So glad it has stopped snowing! Have been out for a very long walk :)

I agree about the pregnancy horn!!

So... I thought I would try and write something positive on here for a change :p

I can't wait for Tilly's first Christmas! We've bought her tiny pink ugg boots and soooo many toys and clothes! For some crazy reason we've decided to attempt a panto next week and have her on our laps! Shes quite agreeable in general and I'll give her a massive feed and the winding of her life before we go in... But still! Probably the wrong decision :p

What's everyones plans for Christmas with new little ones?

We're going to my parents house where there will be no fewer than 15 people!! I probably won't see Tilly all day what with her being passed around by all my relatives...

Oh, just to add... I had a c section and DH and I had sex a mere 14 days after... And it was fine (not earth shattering though!) lol

Xx