AUGUST 2010 - welcome to post-natal :o)

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I know I'm not around a great deal lately but we don't yet have a PN thread - so here we are.

Love to all xxx

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Hello hilda! I don't leave my children with MIL, especially after she left DD unattended in the bath just after I had S. She's put nappies on inside out and all sorts so much as I hate it, I don't leave them with her. Mind you, she'll be babysitting next weekend while I take DH out for a birthday meal but they'll both be asleep in bed so hopefully she won't have to do anything!

S has a really good sleeping pattern at the mo, in bed at 7ish, wake for feed somewhere between 1 and 3ish, wake for day between 6 and 7ish. Ok, so I've jinxed it now...I was feeling smug til a friend texted to say that her little girl who's a day older has been sleeping through for 2 weeks hey ho!

Hope you're all ok, this is a very quiet thread now :)

Chulita you've made me feel so much better - I thought I was just being a control freak! The only thing I've seen her do so far is feed him, and I just about managed to cope with that. I'm planning to ease my way into the MIL looking after him with a few hours next Sunday to go to the pub with my gf's. Problem is, I'm going to rely on her for childcare when I go back to work so I'm hoping I can 'train' her up!! People keep saying to me "but she's already brought one child up", but DH is 37 soon so it was a bloody long time ago!

Also, how old is S Chulita? My DS is 7 weeks and we feed him at 10.30pm (ish) for him to wake at 4.30 (ish) then again at around the 9am mark. I'm wondering how we make the leap to putting him down at 7ish upstairs? How did you all do it? Or will he self-regulate?

Sam is 13 weeks now, he's been going to bed at 7ish for the last 3 weeks. He sort of did it himself, just ended up being really tired and once down he didn't wake up til a lot later. I'd love him to have a 10pm feed then sleep for the night but when I've woken him he still ends up waking in the wee hours so I just leave him to it now! For the last 3 nights he's been in bed around 6pm but that's just the way his naptimes have worked out.

Oh my I just want to cry when I read your feeding schedules! S cluster feeds 6pm-midnight, wakes at 3 and then 5, at 5 she's usually awake until 8ish, maybe sleeps on and off until 1ish and them awake with 15 minute or so naps until midnight. This can't be normal?! I'm exhausted - when will it change?! She's 8 weeks,,,,

Pample Eli's movements are way more similar to that than the others. I feel your pain! He's eight weeks today... We try quite hard to get him to go down in the evenings, but nothing works.

pamplemousse DD was a lot like your little girl. Until she was about 4 months old she used to wake every hour during the night - I'd get about 30 mins between feeds. She cut her night feeds down to 3 a night eventually but each feed still lasted an hour or so. EVen then at 10 months she still had me up every 2-3 hours. I was a walking zombie, I felt the whole world had been drained of colour, couldn't concentrate, couldn't see an end to it and was sick to death of people assuming I was doing something wrong when it was just the way DD was. By 10 months I'd had enough and did CC to get her through the night and since then, although she still wakes regularly in the night, she just needs a cuddle/bear and she's off again. She probably sleeps through 5 nights in 7. S will grow out of it, some just take longer than others, (fwiw S was up from 4.30 this morning).

One thing we did with both of them (dd was going to bed quite early, she'd just wake up a lot) is when they go to bed around 6/7, I don't bring them downstairs/turn the light on until morning so even when DD was waking every hour I'd feed her in the dark/not talk to her etc. She never took the hint but I just treated it like night time.

pample and nat - Elodie doesn't sleep in the evening at all either, apart from sometimes falling asleep on me for about 45 minutes post one of the many, many feeds before she eventually drops off. On the plus side, she usually only wakes once when she does go to bed, so I guess she finishes feeding sometime between 10.30pm and midnight, then usually sleeps for about 5 hours and we get up at about 8am - 8.30am.

That said, last night she went to bed at just before 11.30pm and then woke to feed at 2am and 4am. I was not particuarly amused.

I have no idea how to make her sleep in the evening. I could put her down earlier, but then I would be constantly going to her to feed more... I figure the fact that she does sleep for quite a while once she is eventually down should be celebrated. But the cluster feeding means I haven't yet left her with my hubby in the evening because I just don't know how much milk she will need. Am hoping to escape tonight to go for a swim, and if that's not a disaster I really want to go to salsa on Thurs - which will mean most of the evening away....

Hello all, thank you very much for your votes. Am going to finish with a respectable mid-table finish by the looks of it, which is good enough for me [hwink]

I have the evening cluster feeding situation too. Erin starts really going for it at around 7pm and is on and off the boob until around 11.30ish. She does then sometimes sleep through until 6.30ish, but it's still tiring and means that I'm chained to the sofa or bed with her all evening.

I'm hoping that once she hits 12 weeks or so that it will calm down. I'm a great believer in treating the first 12 weeks as the fourth trimester. Rather tiring with DD1 to run around after as well though.

Sorry to all of those who are having an equally difficult time but yay that I'm not doing anything massively wrong: though I hope she doesn't carry on until ten months chulita xx

I think ds is finally doing a bit more now, he does a 10.30 ish feed, then goes until about 3 and then again at 6 ish. exhausting but I seem to remember with dd I slept, don't have time now!

I went to an osteopath with ds and it has so sorted his wind out it is unbelievable!

He is so much happier now, so much chirpier, rarely cries unless hungry and is all in all a happy little chap and very calm, thankfully as he was being a menace.

That is now dd's job.

ahhhhh (sigh of relief), finally a quiet house. PIL and SIL have been up since sat but have gone home now. It was nice to see them but 3 days is pushing the limits of my endurance. We did manage to have lunch out though and J slept through it all despite them taking ages to serve.
oh he's crying, gotta go

pamplem0usse - Poppy is like that. feeds from about 7pm to 11pm. No chance of going out!

Hi all

I managed to go out on a girlie night out last saturday. Had no idea how much milk DS needed, so managed to save up 19 fl oz of milk. My DH didn't need that much, I was only out 3 hours, but my DS had consumed 11 fl oz in less than the 3 hours, greedy monkey .

I think its hard when BF as you have no idea how much they are taking on board.

My DS is now 9 weeks old and I am just starting to get into an evening routine. He cluster feeds from about 5 pm to 8 pm. I then take him to the nursery, with dimmed lighting and he feeds for another hour. At 9 pm he goes to his moses basket, then me and DH can have one hour of each other's company. My LO has 5 fl oz at 10 pm, which is the only bottle feed he has (expressed milk) which my DH gives him. He drinks that in less than 15 mins. My DS is back in his moses basket by 1015 and he normally wakes for another feed between 4 am or 5 am.

Daytime is another matter, he doesn't sleep through the day and so I haven't quite got into a rountine yet, as DS is different everyday.

I'm a bit annoyed with my medical centre. Booked my DS's first jabs weeks ago, for some reason my centre doesn't do them at 8 weeks but at 9. DS supposed to have them this wednesday, except they phoned to cancel as they have run out of the immunisations!!!! Been delayed until next week, so DS will be 10 weeks old. I'm not too hapy about it as my little chap isn't protected. Should I be worried???

Hope everyone is well. Take care

Hi All, DP and I are taking our 11 week old baby down to London for the weekend on Thursday and I was wondering if anyone had any good suggestions of a baby friendly place to eat out, we are staying right by Marble arch so something within walking distance would be fab! Thanks

how pricey do you want - we went to one of Gordon Ramsay's restaurants and they were happy to have bambino's!

Would love to go to one of Gordon's places but we are going Christmas shopping too so think it is
already going to be an expensive weekend!!

quite a few places will let you take bambino's!

Dogwalker it is fine to wait a week, some people end up waiting quite a few, as long as you wait a full 4weeks til the next lot

We met the lovely Pample and baby S yesterday - such a lovely smiley baby (she is making it up about the crying ) Then went on to see another friend with her new baby. The only blips in an otherwise fantastic day was being hit by a car (very minor) and then later having to be rescued by the RAC(totally unrelated incidents)

DD went to bed late last night, and up early this morning and is already in the manic mood that comes with being very tired so is going to be horrible today

Hope everyone has a good day, sure i will be back having a scream later

was/were??

Hello everyone! Sorry to hear about your car-related problems Alice, doesn't sound like much fun at all! I keep up with everyone's post on my iphone and I'm glad to see we are all doing well (even if it doesn't always feel that way!) I for one still have post natal delight :) despite being totally sleep deprived and pulled in all directions.

Alex is 8 weeks today, very healthy and so smiley it is fantastic, I am loving every second with him. All my friends keep saying 'are you managing to keep away from work?' expecting me to say 'no I'm back in the office' (because its my own business) but I am enjoying being a mummy far too much to worry about boring old work! Good job I have DH to hold the fort for me! I am having to do the odd bit of accounts from home but that's all.

TMI alert but this is the only place I can really talk about it... DH and I attempted sex at the weekend. We had to stop after a minute or so because I was soooo sore inside where my stitches had been, I have read it could be to do with a lack of estrogen (due to BFing) or that you should use some KY Jelly. So I've bought some to try. It was so painful I was shocked :( I haven't felt like doing 'it' since around April and now I do want to - I can't! I said we'd give it another few tries and then go to the docs if it doesn't improve. Has anyone else had this problem at all?

Alice Sorry to hear about your car troubles and I hope DD has a long sleep later so that you can nap too

Vix My DS was 9 weeks last saturday and I thought that was long enough to have healed, but oh no I felt the same as you. I could feel where every stitch had been and it felt like where the stitches were it was being stretched too much too soon. Not pleasant at all.

I too hope it improves but we haven't tried again yet.

Hope everyone has a good day xx

dogwalker Sam still hasn't had his first jabs yet and he'll be 14 weeks at the end of this week...the only trouble is that the older they get the more they understand what's happening.

vix I still find it very painful to have sex but it's getting better. I didn't have stitches and had a cs so no reason to be sore but I am. We use lots of 'wet&wild' and take it slowly. You will get there in the end!

alice does your dd do naps? [hopeful]

Hello Vix lovely to hear you are getting on so well

We attempted sex at the weekend too. I had a cs but still found it uncomfortable, perhaps because of the bf too, or maybe because it has been so long. Who knows. Tbh, i have better things to do with any reserve energy

Car is fine, it was my key that fell apart lovely rac man put it all back together and has stuck a load of tape aroud it to stop it happening again

DD is eating paint painting and F is asleep in his swing, haven't completely lost it yet, but i have threatened to. I am being summoned.....

vix we've done the deed twice since E arrived and despite having a C-section it hurt. I think a lot of it is to do with BF and oestrogen so the advice is use lots of lube. From googling, sounds like it can last a long time... I haven't actually had a chance to do it since cos DH tends to fall asleep before E does during the marathon evening feeding...

Am [hshock} about 11 oz in 3 hours thedogwalker, am planning on going to salsa on Thursday evening and have no idea how much EBM DH will leave but I wouldn't have dreamt it would be that much...

darn, I meant [hshock]