May 2010 - Drooling, smiling, cooing and nearly sleeping through (and that's just the mummies!)

[rachelfruitloop]

Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already!

transfer to cot, mu mil's advice, worked for us: tilt the mattress by putting a sheet or something underneath, put a couple of pillows at her sides, after a few days take the pillows off, but leave the mattress tilted... good luck.

First1 - some people roll up a large towel and then arrange it around the baby sleeping so it encircles them. Could you try moving the same blankets from the Moses basket over so it smells the same? Good luck with it!

WLTK - hope you feel better soon.

Schipo - love baked potatoes :) Have managed 29lbs off so far, which makes me feel much better. Feeling pretty good on it really, not going hungry at all.

Kateyjane - congratulations on job!

ML - hope you're OK, been thinking of you.

hey all, thanks for your posts guys.

ML - so so sorry you are going through this. can't believe how strong you are though, in the last year you have coped with so much - remember that :)

Katey - congrats on the job!!

WLTK - hope you feel better soon.

Angel - hope warning from the police has done the job.

First - i would try what heffa says n use same sheets, or try lying her in it during the day so it becomes familiar?

hope all those with poorly babies get better soon

Good morning from one proud mummy! She slept in her cot from 7.30 - 4.30, quick cuddle and turned her mobile on, then back to sleep til 7. Just put her in it in her grobag asleep and she did it. Woop! Won't get too excited incase it doesn't happen again but will persevere.

Katey - congrats on the job!

Newmomma - where are you? Keep thinking of you, really hope you're doing ok. Please pop your head round the (virtual) door let us know how you're doing.

Heffa - 29lbs is a brilliant amount!!

ML - You're in my thoughts. You're such a brave woman.

Am seeing the consultant who is in charge of the team who butchered my stitching the first time round at birth for a debrief. Don't know what it's suppose to be for really, but I'm going to have to bite my tongue really hard to not lose it.

Londoners/Southeners...Coffee anyone?!

Have a lovely day all. Tesco beckons...

Oooh sorry - have been reading but not posting as exhausting week.

hi first1 - hope tesco was ok. I'm a committed online shopper myself. Fantastic sleeping from chloe. I'm not jealous - much!!! Molly is still awake at about 2am, absolutely ravenous and then feeds every 2-3 hours until her bath at 8pm. She feeds for a bit after her bath and then sleeps until 2am... I can't remember when dd1 started solids but was looking in her red book to see (dh feels we should start solids soon as I'm exhausted). Dd1 was feeding 3hourly by 3-4 weeks and sleeping 6-8 hours soon after.

Thinking about you ml I have been through similar with dh when he was ill with depression. He walked out a couple of times but we got through it with treatment and a great psychiatrist and time. I hope you work through things at least for the dcs even if your relationship cannot survive.

Hope your meeting with wee Brucie's parents went ok rachel and you're managing to get through to your dh. Relationships after children are such a challenge. It's a constant renegotiation but if you both realise that it can be sorted. We have written a sort of jobs around the house rota so that I don't feel I have to constantly remind dh and that's working even though he can't do some of it because of his broken hand. It's an issue otherwise getting him to do stuff without nagging as that causes resentment and makes the relationship that of a parent and child, not two adults iyswim.

hi tomlin glad your photos were good. I had some done with a local photographer and cried at the preview too!

carikube i enjoyed centerparcs when I went with my dcs a few years ago. But you can still go more exotic places with dcs - we went to Antigua for dh's 40th and it was fab.

hope you and oscar are over your cold wltk and your asthma isn't too bad by now. Crappy blooming illness. My dh did a psychology degree too. Really interesting in places but hard work.

heffa I used to get night terrors - ds and dd1 have avoided this so far as it can be horrid. Much sympathies. Well done on the weight loss. I've been so tired and hungry this past 10 days I've fallen off the wagon. Need to get back on track soon.

den26 fear of these things is definitely common. I regularly have to check Molls is still breathing. Late SIDS is usually an undiagnosed heart problem and because of Rian's impending surgery and paeds reviews it's very, very unlikely something could have been missed. So sorry for your friends.

cupcake hope the hols go well and same to you pamelat

hollyoaks - Grace is doing brilliantly. Well done to you both.

hi angel - sorry for all your hassles, hope dd3 is better soon

congrats on the job kateyjane - hope your mummy is doing well

sorry to those I've missed.

Hello all, back from a lovely sunny week in Majorca. Can thoroughly recommend Pollenca as child friendly, especially toddler. Was beautiful and the beaches were great.
First Had my first post birth period a few days before hols, was worried re applicator but all is well
Had been suffering with anxiety (separate thread) and even went to see GP but he says normal to be stressed and anxious and that time out and exercise should see me well, a week in Majorca has certainly helped. Rachel like you, I think its a case of me needing to actively ask for help and direct DH, he is really good but needs telling what to do. (But then of course I am nagging....)
On day one I fell out with my mum, she said I didn?t deserve to be a mum (we are really close and it really shocked me) so I told her to F* off (not very me!!) and stormed off, half an hour later we made up but it made me realise I need to chill, and to try to stop seeing everything as such a burden. Its just very hard (for me) with 2 kids.
Alex still waking at least twice at night but only feeds at one of the wakings. Recommenced weaning today at 20 weeks, he has tried carrot. First spoon, grimace, next spoon loved it, next spoons wolfed up and actively grabbing bowl. Bless him, my kids like to eat
cupcake hope you having lovely hols too. Nice to be around some help if nothing else
heff, cupcake and Millington My DD (2.8) had 2 recent night terrors, she was inconsolable and screamed and screamed, it was terrifying.

pigley Alex can also sit but am sure DD couldn?t do this until about 6 or 7 months?!! I don?t want him getting any ideas about crawling/moving
Re dtd, things improved in that area, only few times since birth but I am starting to feel more like me than ?just? a mum.
Den I recognise over whelmed feelings, think thats why I went to see GP and he says all normal when kids so young. My cousin died of cot death at 8 months (very unusual) a long long time ago and it freaks me out more than it should. Alex is still in our room to DH?s annoyance but I worry (probably unnecessarily about it) and I could sob at worrying about my kids losing grandparents, but I think its because I have lost mine in last 12 months and am still upset about that. Being a parent makes you an emotional wreck!!
ML sorry have been reading bottom to top and only just seen your post. Sounds awful and very stressful for you, not sure I could cope currently with having to support someone with depression. I hope you have support for yourself and friends about? You?ve both been under a lot of stress with the move.

Hi All

ML I'm so sorry to hear your news, it sounds like you have had lots of good advice but we are all hear if you need to vent. Big hugs to you and all the children.

Heffa - impressive weight loss, well done! I need to start thinking about losing some weight but just can't stop eating at the moment whilst I am still BFing.

Pamelat glad you had a good holiday, sounds like you needed the break!

We are off to center parcs on Friday for the weekend and really looking forward to taking DD swimming for the first time.

DSis is off to the hospital again tomorrow - her BP has stabilised but protein levels still rising. Feel desperately sorry for her, this is just meant to be such a happy time, preparing for the birth of your first child, and she had all these plans to finish work and then pack her bag etc, but it's all had to be done in a rush this weekend in case they need her to stay in hospital tomorrow when she goes in for a scan. Really sad that it hasn't worked out for her, but the most important thing is that her and the baby are well and get through it all safely. Might have a Dnephew or Dniece this time next week!

Went to a wedding yesterday and have danced like a lunatic with friends - my feet are killing me today!

Off to bed now, have DS's jabs tomorrow at 9.30am (some sort of boosters) - 3 injections! I hope I can hold him still and keep DD under control as well!

Hello Ladies,

Tomlin I hope your DSis is doing ok now with her pregnancy. Is it pre-eclampsia? So glad you loved your Venture photos! Yes, I have to allow 2 to 2.5 hours to get ready to go out as well!

First1 That is great that Chloe slep in her cot!!! I hope you have success tonight as well. I hope your debrief goes ok, and I'd say if you feel like it, tell them what you really think! I would love to meet up in London, let's do it! Mondays and Wednesdays are best for me as my DS1 is at preschool those days. Feel free to email me (anyone else who want to meet up as well) at blind_lisa at yahoo dot com. Have seen Newmomma a fair bit on FB lately and she seems to be doing well.

HBMummy and Tomlin thanks for your advice about speaking to my DS1 about death. I don't know if he really understands but he's coping with it ok. Brucie's parents did a really lovely thing with their DS1 who is 3. They told him that Brucie is sleeping now and that he's in heaven and is a star so he can look up in the sky and see him there. After Brucie's funeral, at the cemetery they took a star-shaped balloon and their DS1 let it go. My friend said it hovered low down diagonally and she thought it wasn't going to float up and then suddenly it lifted into the sky. I thought that was really beautiful.

My visit with Brucie's mum was good, but very very sad. She told me a lot more of the details of her experience and it just seems so cruel and unfair that this has happened to such lovely people. I see that her DS1 is quite protective of her as she started crying when talking about it and he wanted to know why she was upset and told her that he wanted her to not talk about upsetting things. She gave me a photo of her holding and kissing Brucie on the head right after they took him off the ventilator and I just can't bear to look at it without absolutely sobbing. I can't begin to imagine how she feels. I think she's holding up quite well considering. She said at least now she can talk about him a bit without immediately crying. I think we'll probably start meeting up more regularly again and maybe once more time passes and she feels even stronger I'll speak to her about possibly helping organise some sort of memorial fund - I think it would be great to do something to help other babies with CDH. In any case this first meeting with her was a relief as I was desperate to give her a big hug!

WLTK yes, I don't know why people sometimes make a thing of me being from somewhere else - I think in my mind I think I'm English because I'm so used to hearing my husband's and everyone else's accents and when it's pointed out to me that I'm not it shatters my illusions, or should I say delusions!

Carikube where in the States did you live? I'm very relieved to hear that I'm not the only one who has to tell DH what to do to help out as well! That's fab that you've booked Centerparcs for November!

Heffa so sorry about your boiler needing to be replaced! Eeek! I have sort of spoken to DH about needing more help, I've been trying to just specifically ask him to do things when they come up and I don't think he feels like I'm nagging him. We'll see how it goes in the next week or so.

Angel that sounds really intimidating that the woman who assaulted you started shouting at you, very glad you got the police involved! So sorry that things are up and down with your DH. I can only imagine how tough it must be, things are tough enough here with my DH and there hasn't even been any indiscretions. I hope that things get better for you soon.

ML I really am so sorry about your relationship trouble, not what you need on top of everything else. Big hugs to you. I hope your move is ok.

Pigley That's great about the soft play place! I can just imagine you leaving with your DD1 in full tantrum and the baby! That's your weightlifting for the day, who needs the gym!

Kateyjane congratulations on your new job, that is wonderful news!

Schipo I hope that you get a bit more help from DH after clearing the air. It is amazing how much a relationship changes with the arrival of a baby. I think it's easy to forget that just because they get paid for their job and we don't, we're working 24 hours a day and so they should be willing to give us a break now and again when they're not at work. It's their baby, too!

I am missing SK's posts, too!

WLTK I hope you're getting lots of rest!

Molly I like your idea of a rota, as it does seem like giving orders. Also, I can barely keep it straight in my head what I want to get done myself at any given moment, let alone what I can use help with. Sitting back and thinking of it methodically could be good. Though in the past, my DH has had a bad attitude towards a rota "it shouldn't come to that" is a phrase I seem to remember last time the subject came up. But that was then, this is now! I think if I get a chance tomorrow while DS1 is at preschool I'll have a go at drafting something.

Pamelat glad you had a nice holiday! I gave Eric some roasted carrot to suck on during dinner tonight and he loved it. Since he swiped my pizza crust the other night, I've just been giving him a taste of something we're eating and he seems to like that. I think my approach to weaning this time around is going to be a lot more casual than it was with DS1! I have been feeling very anxious about other things from time to time though, so glad to hear your GP said it was normal. I think the disturbed sleep doesn't help, I am with you!

I hope everyone has a good night!

hi all

glad to say oscar is truly over his cold, only bad thing it has changed his sleeping pattern back to 2 am to 9 am and then bits and pieces during the day.

i am feeling a bit better, must be the steroyds and antibiotics kicking in, spendt some time in the computer playing games and reading stupid threads... need some fun :)

i hope everyone is feeling ok, and tomlin send my love to your dsis, i had an scare like that at 30 weeks, taken to hospital at 30 weeks in suspected labour, no bag, no mat leave arrange, scared of having a child so early with a history of asthma in the family, luckily all went well, hope is the same for your dsis, just a scare...

i am not going to write a lot today cos i am being a bit melodramatic, and when i am that way i am best quiet.

Tomlin - hope your DSis is OK and that DS's jabs went OK.

Pamelat - glad you had a good holiday, sounds fab. at your mum, no wonder you stormed off!

Rachel - glad the meet-up with Brucie's mum went well. Just the thought of that photo makes me well-up :( A memorial fund sounds like a good idea.

WLTK - glad Oscar is better :)

Think I need to get DD to a doctor. Her cold cleared up a week ago but she still has a high temperature every day. Not sure if she's just teething (although she doesn't normally run a temperature then) or if there's something else bothering her. Her black-eye is settling down but there's a pea-sized bump still there so I want to get that checked out I think. I hate taking them to the doctor though.

Morning all

On fb which person is newmomma? I am lost on there.

rachel your posts are great, I tried yetserday and my post take about half an hour!!!

rachel re weaning. I am just doing the puree way but am finding it a phaff already on only day 2. Whats your way?
Sorry to be so quick, got to pick DD up from pre school in 20 mins!!

heffa 29lbs!!!!! wow, i am so impressed and so jealous? are you bf or ff? i would love to lose some weight but as we have had issues with virginias lack of weight gain i am terrified of rocking the boat now she is doing ok.

rachel, i was sobbing reading about you sobbing at looking at that photo. i am so glad the meeting went well.

rotas, well i have a nice list of jobs on my fridge, listed by day so for example mondays is emptying bins, washing and various other things, i have asked everyone to help out by doing things off there if i have been unable to do them as i was fed up of nagging, i now have to nag to get them to read the rota! i give up, if it gets done it gets done, if it doesnt, well, i will catch up and heaven help anyone who complains if they havent helped me...

i got round to digging up some of my potatoes this morning, they are HUGE! i am so chuffed.

dh has just ordered me a new baby carrier, the babybjorn comfort carrier which is a front carrier for 3 months to 2 years.well 6k-15k and virginia is not yet 6k but hey ho, it certainly looks good and i used to carry my older children in a back carrier til they were 2ish, this looks so much more stylish and as a bonus, no baby puke or toddler dribble in your hair and no hairpulling. will let you know how we get on with it.

Hi everyone - not posted for so very long and I haven't been lurking either so i'm not up to speed with everyone's news! I think I will just try to keep up from now on!

Oliver is nearly 19lbs now and I started weaning him last week as he was and still is having 6 to 7 oz every 2 1/2 to 3 hours! He's also gone from sleeping through to wanting a feed twice in the night - such a hungry baby! He cut his first front bottom tooth on the 26th of September and we found another on sunday! We were very surprised as his big sister didn't get her first tooth until she was 8 months old! He sailed through it though and apart from a red bottom, we wouldn't have even noticed! I just hope the rest come through as easily! How many more to go now - 18?

Finally get a chance to catch up...

ML- Sorry to hear your news :( Hope things with the move is going ok and your bearing up ok. hugs

Kateyjane- Congrats on the new job :) I was the SENCO when I work at the Nursery. I quite enjoyed doing all the IEP's etc.

Schipo- good to hear from you :)

First- I second the towels around them. DD1 wasnt keen on her moses basket at first so rolled 2 blankets into sausages and put them round her like a nest. it made her more secure and she took to it fine after that. But it would appear she cracked it anyway... did it continue?

Heffa- Fantastic weight loss! Whats your secret!? Hope DD's ok.

Molly- Hope DH's hand is improving

Pamlet- Hope you all enoyed your holiday.
Glad your feeling more relaxed. Im still 'just Mum'.

Tomlin- Enjoy Centreparcs :) Hope your Dsis is ok.

Rachel- Glad the meet with your friend went well. Was always going to be hard and emotional :(
Did your Image of me include the fake smile for the other mums :)

HBM- I always have odd job lists on the go and often point DH in the direction of it. He typically will chose the quickest and easiest jobs though.

30ish- Glad to hear your doing well. Theres a few of us Including me that are now up during the night again.

DD has been dry for over a week now and were really proud of her. We now have another hurdle though.. She takes her nappy off at night and wets the bed. Its great that she doesnt want to wear nappies but obviously cant manange it just yet. Been out today to buy bed mats trying to save her mattress!

Morning. A quick ovenight post during a feed. Dh's hand is a bit better but not for the want of him trying. He was doing the garden yesterday am - was meant to just do the lawn as he can push the mower one handed but he got a bit carried away and broke his cast. Had to go to the hospital and get it replaced. We have a surveyor coming out on Monday to value the house so we have a bit to do. Property values have pretty much crashed but we do need a decent value do we can consolidate a few loans/credit card etc and mean I can reduce my hours a bit this year. Fingers crossed.
Otherwise just ticking over here although ds is a constant challenge. He's not getting on with school at all. He's intelligent but can't get himself organised. We need to oversee everything from packing his schoolbag to homework and he still isn't getting things right. Tearing our hair out. He has his second detention of the year on Friday. He's 12. Also we've started a new regime of eating together every day, setting our menu in advance and cooking every day from scratch. No matter what we make he critcises it. He's so fussy. Last night it was too spicy. Or it's too sweet. He won't eat chicken. Aaarrgh. Dd1 is happy with almost everything and tries new stuff happily. Molls sits on her bumbo and watches us eat. She'll be grabbing stuff soon I think as she's really interested. I just don't want her copying her big brother.
I still haven't got back on my diet since dh's accident. Feeble excuse but I'm so tired with doing all the school runs and extra stuff. And just feel the need for crunchies.
Hope you're all sleeping. Will attempt personals tomorrow.

Homebirthmummy - I'm BFing so that helps. I'm doing WW plan (which includes extra points for BFing so I'm not running myself too low). I do have a lot to lose though. Congratulations on your potatoes :)

30ish - good that teething was such a breeze!

Pigley - well done with the potty training :) I'm due to start DD soon once we've got this visit to great-grandparents out of the way. She's very keen so fingers crossed it won't be a nightmare.

Molly - Hope the meeting with the surveyor goes well. Not a feeble excuse to eat if you're tired, that's normally when I pig out as well. Hope your DH's hand is still getting better.

Work coming round in half an hour for a "welfare visit", just a ticky box thing.

I have texted them with a time to leave by so that I can make baby swimming class may have to fib about why they have to go

I just got a huge telling off for my GP feeling really miserable :( He asked to weigh me and was gobsmacked that I've gone down to 111 pounds. I hadnt been paying attention to my weight at all. Tried to explain ive had so much on my plate of late, but he said he'd like to refer me to a dietician. I'm fine, but he's made me feel so insignificant :( Sorry for me moan.

First1..I think with everything youve had on your plate its no wonder youve lost weight..{{hugs}}

just a quick post..have moved house everything in boxes..dont know where to start!

DH is here because he has no where else to go..he wants ME to move out

Ive made a solicitors appt for next week and have to apply for legal aid..have to take 3 months bank statements,proof of id etc feel like a criminal

the kids have picked up on the atmosphere and are being vile...DS 1 has told me he hates me and wishes I was dead because its all my fault that DH is unhappy..I expected it..hes 16 and will stick up for his dad...DS2 is being un bearable..DH says the DC'S will live with him except Olivia...nice

he seems to have thought a lot of stuff through..DM told me NOT to leave the house..she said he should be the one to go

Trying to catch up...

Hope all those with colds/snuffly noses now feel better. This house has been remarkably snot-free for the last week or so - fingers crossed it continues!

kateyjane congrats on the new job!

TCH great news on the weight loss...I weigh less now than when I got pg with DD1 but I could still easily lose a stone and not notice it . I've been really porking out the last few days though so the weight has started creeping up again so I need to do something about it. I've been justifying it by saying I'm bf but I really don't think that's any excuse for putting weight on...

first1 hope the cot switch is still going well and that you are getting some sleep too.

pamelat glad you had a good holiday though a bit . I'm still getting v excited about Centerparcs even though we're not going for another 6 weeks. Though have just found out that most of the creche slots are booked so the 2 hours in the spa that I was hoping to have with DH might not happen

Rachel I lived in Appleton, Wisconsin, a small town about 3 hours north of Chicago. Never seen so much snow in my entire life!! I was seconded there with work for just over a year and it was quite an experience.
As for DH, he did start mentioning DC3 to me yesterday which is interesting given that he's been saying that 2 are a lot of work (not that he does most of it ). I'm still not even going to consider going back to work after my mat leave is finished unless I can get some indication from him that he is going to actually help share the work.

30ish welcome back! We had a phase of DD2 waking in the night again though touch wood the last couple of nights have been ok so I'm hoping it continues.

first1 don't let the GP make you feel bad, but do take this as a warning to make sure that you remember to take care of yourself too.

ML big {{hugs}} to you too whilst you get through this phase.

hi all
ml- big hugs, i have no good advice but hung in there, someone will have something good

first, not surprised you lost weight, must make an effort and look after yourself too.

30ish wellcome, we sleep through the night here but still in only bottles

nice holidays everyone, and keep the colds out

still on heavy medication here but getting better, just tired, thank goodness oscar is an angel and lets me rest a bit
i am not sure dh is gonna be impressed with my cooked dinner: garlic bread, don't have the energy...

ml, my ex did not want to move out either, it was VERY difficult, eventually his mum let him move in there. just remember it is YOUR home too, and no matter how uncomfortable he makes it you have evry right to be there and live your life..dont get letting him shove you into being invisible!
sorry to hear your boys are being difficult, im no psychologist but could it just be gender support rather than them really meaning what they say?
i eventually ended up with an amazing solicitor in neston, richard davies, he doesnt do legal aid but i was a single(obviously) very low paid mum when i went to him, as tjere were assets in the house he let me pay when all was sorted. i dont know your circumstances but if you need someone with a reccommendation he is great! got my exes barrister to say my ex was "a d**khead" for behaving the way he was to me!

First1 - :( that the dr made you feel bad. I'm not surprised you've lost weight with everything you've been through.

ML - :( you're having such a rough time. Don't leave your house, he should be the one to go. Hope your kids calm down soon.

Carikube - I'm the same wrt to losing a stone and barely noticing really. I think there's about 4 more stone to go although I've been lacking motivation this week - yet another week of having a cold and I just want some R&R!

MOlly- Hope the house price is good. We eat together everynight. We have got into this routine since we weaned DD1. We did BLW and part of it is eating together. We found it has really helped in DD's table manners and she is a dream when we go out for dinner. I also meal plan for the week. I got fed up looking in the cupboards and not having the right Ingredients to make anything with.

Lucy has started sitting in the highchair with us now at the table. Not starting weaning till 6mths but she was getting bored in the lounge whilst we ate. She loves the high view point and its a good introduction to when she does join us for dinners.

Pamlet- How did the work visit go?

First- Youre bound to lose weight with all that stress youve been through. Go scoff some cakes!- Dr's orders

ML- Hope the end packing isnt to stressful and you and DH manage to come to some sort of agreement.

Both Lucy and DD1 have now got a cold. Poor Lucy is streaming from both her nose and eyes and is struggling to drink as shes so bunged up :( Was up and down all night with both of them so im knackered and have a sore throat so hoping that doesnt develop into a full blown cold too.

DH has emailed me to say all the Senior Consultants have suddenly been called for a meeting at 2 today. DH says theres rumours of redundances going round. I thinks if its true then he should be ok but you never know do you. :( Will feel abit on edge untill I know.

Pigley - hope DH's job is OK and you can relax :) I love eating together as a family but we never get to do it except at weekends - DH doesn't get back until around 7 and both kids would be waaay too tired to eat then :( Meal planning is fab though. Hope your girls are feeling better soon, it's horrible when you're all ill.

Both of mine have been miserable today, DS sleeping loads but grumpy and hot when awake, and DD is in a terrible state, poor mite. Have sent DH out for fish and chips! Hopefully tomorrow will be an easier day.

Love to all.