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rachelfruitloop · 13/08/2010 08:23

Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind, I started a new thread as our first one was quite full! I can't believe we're a quarter-way through the first year already! Smile

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first1 · 01/09/2010 12:35

rachel - great news about Brucie!

hollyoaks - glad the girls are better, Grace sounds like she's doing really well. Lol bless your dd1 for wanting to strip off!

My best friend just phoned. She's been in Majorca for a month, got back on Monday to find she's been burgled. They broke through the back door. They left the TVs and all the technology, but took some foreign currency she had and her bf's car. What goes through the minds of these people? :(

Carikube · 01/09/2010 14:01

Heffa Grin I'll have to watch that as
DD1 likes to 'help' me when I'm on the pc..

Rachel great news about Bruce

first1 how horrible for your friend; I'm always a bit nervous when coming back from time away in case we find something unpleasant (burglary/water leak etc).

Been in a bad mood here for the past couple of days. DH made a comment yesterday about 'do you still want DC3?' when both DDs were kicking off and it got me thinking about life in general (always a bad idea!!) and I started to think that maybe I don't like the person I'm turning in to. I always swore I wouldn't be someone who nags etc but I find myself doing it more and more (though if DH did as he was asked and all that Wink). I also feel as though we're just good friends as opposed to a married couple atm; I finally ended up telling him how I feel at lunchtime, about how I'm fed up of just sitting on the sofa playing on the computer/watching tv in the evenings once the girls are in bed as we're not doing anything together anymore. Fortunately he agrees and is quite upset that I have been upset about it so we will hopefully start communicating more/doing things together in the evenings. Anyone got any ideas for ways to occupy our evenings?!

Also my niece who is nearly 20 had a back operation yesterday (she has scoliosis and had a major op a few years ago and this latest one is to try and resolve some left over issues) and it turns out they broke 5 ribs during the procedure Angry. Hope she recovers quickly as she's back to uni soon...

memorylapse · 01/09/2010 23:33

just marking my place until I have a moment to post

AnAngelWithin · 02/09/2010 09:40

hello all.

well just when you think things can't get any worse, we will find out today whether DH has still got a job or not. Sad he had a letter from work yesterday basically telling him he had done something he hasn't. He has got a meeting this morning. The letter basically TOLD him he has done this, not that they were investigating allegations etc. The are trying to push him out. God knows how we would manage without him working. I hate the thought of claiming benefits. Regardless of anything that is going on between us at home, I know that there is no way he could do what they are accusing him of. It's just not fair. Sad Will know by lunchtime anyway. I feel sick to the stomach....

dd3 had her 2nd jabs yesterday. Her one leg is very red this morning and shes very grumpy Sad

carikube I hope your neice makes a quick recovery

first1 how awful fr your friend. I hope they catch whoever did it.

rachel thats good news about bruce x

molly hope the thrush clears up quickly

TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 02/09/2010 09:43

Hollyoaks - glad Grace is doing well.

First1 - Shock about your friend, it must be horrible to be burgled.

Carikube - hope your niece is OK and recovers soon. DH and I find watching films together and then discussing them can be quite good. Also board games are quite good. We used to play online games like World of Warcraft together as well which was very good for staying close (will be playing again soon).

ML - hope you're Ok :)

My niece starts high school today, can't believe how grown up she is! Both DCs have caught my cold now so a nice wrapped up inside sofa day for us I think!

pigleychez · 02/09/2010 13:45

Both girlies asleep and (obvious) housework done so can catch up.

Rachel- Really hope you dont get a wasted trip!
I was born in New Zealand and was going to get my NZ passport but never quite got round to it. Doesnt seem much point now.

First- Brave is one word for it Grin I'll blame the hormones!

Stoopid HV.. We see different people each time I go to get Lucy weighed. Most of them are just assistants.
DD1 was seen by a HV as a baby then not seen again till her 2yr check, and even that was done by a Nursery Nurse not a HV. We must have a shortage!

Your poor friend :( Like Carikube, its always in the back of my mind when we return from being away.

Alex- Welcome back :) Hope your all doing well.

Hollyoaks- Glad the girls are better, KNow what you mean about tantrums. DD1 tend to have little bursts when they are constant then a break where shes an angel for a few weeks.
They are VERY draining so I feel your pain.
DD1's current thing is saying NO to absoluetly everything! and Todays latest is Oi! Little Monkey!
Good to hear Grace is doing well :)

Carikube- We too often find ourselves on the laptop/watching tv not really communicating. I think its just too easy to fall into isnt it.
DH is currently spending alot of time programming as hes planning to make his millions writing apps for the iphone Hmm so some times I feel like we just live together, not actually a couple.
We too need to try harder :(
The other night after clearing out the filing cupboard we spent an evening in the garden burning all the docs in the chiminea. It was nice to have that time with no Tech, to just chat together.
May have to get some marshmallows so we can do that more often and toast them :)

Angel- Oh No thats awful. Fingers crossed your DH can get his side across and keep his job :(

Annoyingly Lucy seems to have taken to waking for a feed during the night where she had been sleeping through for quite a while now :( I know i shouldnt moan really but its a shock when your not used to it.
DD1 had just started going through at about 3mths then again around this time was suddenly up loads at night and then didnt sleep through again till she was 9mths old. Really really hoping this is just a blip with Lucy and not going to be a repeat of DD1!

Got a call last night from the lady who I did the photos for of her son. Her Sister wants me to do some of her daughter and ive also been asked if I could come along to her mums surprise 60th birthday party next friday to do some family shots. Shock Apparently the family were in tears when they saw the photos I had done of their grandson.
Such a nice feeling that my pics have had such a good response :)

mollycuddles · 02/09/2010 16:56

hi all. Been off the thread for a few days as having nipple problems. Munched a bit inexpertly at 12 wk growth spurt, a small unhealing crack and then thrush. So painful. Have been bathing it in salt water and using Jack Newman's all purpose nipple ointment (the recipe is online in various places and got my gp to prescribe it). It's fantastic stuff and I'm healing but have been grumpy and sore. Posted for advice here and on a doctor's site I use. I can't take fluconazole which is recommended as I'm allergic so was looking for suggestions and some arse of a gp posted that the solution for painful breastfeeding was formula and that some women just can't breast feed. Tw@t. I get a bit defensive when people slag off doctors on MN for being useless with maternity, bf and children but ffs with people like him around the reputation is clearly warranted. Am embarassed by my profession today.

Other news is that in her grobag "Young Molly" (as DH calls her - cute :) ) is sleeping better. We had our best ever night last night. I went to a bf support group today and met some nice mummies and babies. I haven't been back at the gym as the chafing risk on the nipples with exercise would be a step too far right now but have been out walking every day for about an hour and apart from some medicinal calories on Monday when the pain was at its worst I've been very good diet wise.

heffa oops re the keyboard. When DS was 4 he rearranged all the desktop icons on our PC. Should have known then he was a computer geek in the making.

angel oh no re DH's job. That really is all you need. Hope it gets sorted easily and soon

first1 your poor friend. Always a worry I have when we're away too.

alex - hi. Nice to hear from you.

pigley well done you! Sounds fantastic.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

cupcakefairy · 02/09/2010 17:47

Hi ladies,sorry I've not posted! Been reading just never seem to have time to post properly.
12 week growth spurt has been a killer here too molly- constant feeding, ouchy nipples, fussing going down to bed and millions of night wakings :( we seem to be coming out the other end now but he has had jabs today so is v listless now & am expecting another bad night!

Been loving all the talk of anniversaries and the May 2011 thread being up already Shock Den I had a MC last year too so finding out we were expecting J almost a year ago was really special :)

carikube we've just been away camping and came back to the dreaded water leak! Radiator leaked all over lounge carpet :( oh well!
Also great that you and dh are communicating more... this is really geeky but dh & I absolutely love doing massive puzzles together. We did so many while waiting for J to arrive! Scour charity shops for good cheap ones as they're so expensive new. Or we buy a puzzler and do a little quiz/crossword together every now and then...haha, we really are total geeks! Grin

rachel thinking of Bruce. When I was in primary school my best friend's baby brother was born with diaphragmatic hernia and he pulled through; is now a strapping lad! But was so scary at the time :(

molly hope things are improving with dh. We still haven't even dtd since babycake was born Blush so you're doing better than us!!

ML and angel so sorry for all the crap you're both going through :( hope you're ok.

We've had second jabs today and my boy was so brave :) I'm very proud. He's gone a bit funny now though like last time and just screamed in dh's face when he came home Confused

homebirthmummy4 · 02/09/2010 20:50

oh angel how did it go? have been thinking of you all day.

any news on little brucie?

we had second jabs yesterday with no problems thankfully.

back to just me and virginia all day tomorrow, have plans that could fill the day twice.

cupcake nice to hear from you again, we do geek too

we also burn our sorted documents in the fire pit in the garden, with marshmallows and hot chocolate, last year we tore up the wooden floor in the kitchen, was burning it for months!

TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 02/09/2010 20:56

Oh Angel, cross-posted earlier - hope everything is OK with your DH's job, sounds v.stressful :(

Mollycuddles - sorry to hear of painful nipples, glad you found a solution. There are some twatty doctors but most I've come across are lovely so don't feel ashamed of your profession! My GP is awesome.

rachelfruitloop · 02/09/2010 22:23

Hi Ladies,

Angel that is just terrible about your DH's job! That's the last thing you need! I hope it's just a misunderstanding.

Molly that sounds really horrific having a cracked nipple and thrush. It must be so annoying to have to avoid the usual medicines for thrush because of your allergy. I hope it feels better soon. Like Heffa, my GP is awesome, so don't feel too ashamed, there are some good ones out there!

Alex great to read your post, glad things are going well for you!

ML I hope you're doing ok, I'm thinking of you.

Mooseymoo I will adopt "poonami" as the phrase to describe what happens nearly every day in Eric's nappy - he uses such force that if he's sat up and bent forward it shoots up to his armpits! I should own stocks in Vanish! Also, I now want to make sausage and lentil hotpot since you mentioned making it!

Pigley that is fab about the photos!! You could have yourself a nice little business there! How interesting that you were born in NZ! It seems an awful lot of paperwork and fees so if you already have a perfectly good passport I can see how getting another wouldn't be top priority. That's why I wanted to get my DSs set up as dual citizens right away, so they won't have to hassle with doing it all from the beginning on their own.

Hollyoaks glad to hear the girls are getting well. So sorry about the tantrums from your DD1, I know exactly what you mean about the slightest thing setting off a tantrum and how draining it is. Luckily things have calmed down over here lately so hopefully yours will settle soon too! That's so cute that she took her clothes off to be weighed. Smile

Pamelat I hope things are going ok for you with your DD. I've been thinking about you and her reaction to Alex sounds a lot like how my DS1 was with Eric initially, he was having a lot of anxiety dreams and waking in the night before he was able to talk about his feelings. He has no problems showing his feelings now! Hmm

Carikube I'm glad to hear that you were sad about not sleeping with DD in your bed anymore and now she's in her own room. I'll try to be strong! I know what you mean about the distance between you and DH. We have the same thing here, too. I think that once the babies get a bit older it will get easier in some ways and we should be able to relax a bit more. I hope! I was thinking of getting a jigsaw puzzle to do with DH here, but he's such a mulit-tasker I don't know if I could get him to focus on it for any length of time! Grin

Cupcake I am glad to hear that you know of someone with the diaphragmatic hernia that was fine, that's very reassuring.

The latest word on baby Brucie is that his kidneys aren't functioning properly so there is fluid collecting especially on the lungs and it's making his breathing more difficult. So having to rely on ventilator and medicines even more than before. My friend said her heart is in her mouth when she checks to see how he's doing every couple of hours. It must be torture. Please keep sending out the prayers and positive thoughts for the little guy!

Ages ago when we were talking about Plantar Fasciitis, someone asked about the insoles - the ones I have are Dr Scholls Orthaheel inserts. I got them at Boots and they're great. Pricey at £21, but I think they're worth it.

It really made me feel teary to know that there is a May 2011 ante natal group now! I wish I had been on the thread from the beginning, but I found it just when I needed it most - after my 20 week scan and I found out it was a boy and my big baby panic set in! We were TTC for nearly a year and it was funny that I fell pregnant at the same time I was with DS1 - their due dates were within a week of each other. I must be extra fertile this time of year! DH had been in Wales for a few days and I had come back to London to work, so when we reunited that's when the magic happened. Also I had decided that if I never got pregnant I'd be happy with just DS1 so I guess not worrying about it helped, too!

I'm glad so many have managed to continue posting to the thread. I wonder how MarquiseDeMerteuil is getting on and if her holiday to Canada has happened yet?

Well, Eric is in his cot and not a peep on the baby monitor! Don't want to jinx it but I'm feeling hopeful. He had about an hour long nap in it this morning as well so I'm hoping he's getting used to it. Whilst in the bed with me, he generally wants about 3 feeds during the night, so it will be interesting to see how it goes if he manages to stay in the cot all night.

Eric has been really grumpy with the teething as well - his 2 bottom front teeth have cut and are getting bigger and I can see the two top front ones are coming down but not near cutting yet so could have grumpiness for a while yet. I usually end up giving him some Calpol in the evening when he gets particularly grizzly. He won't take a dummy anymore now so it's my only defence!

Sassles I ended up hanging a piece of the blackout fabric I bought to make curtains for the nursery before Eric was born over the window today! Those curtains STILL aren't finished yet! I hope it goes ok getting Sam into his own room this weekend! If it doesn't go ok for us here I might just adopt SK's philosophy - they're only babies for such a short time!

DS1 was back at pre-school this afternoon! Bliss! I was able to clean and dust the dining room!

I'll be seeing my GP next week to check on this Mirena coil. I'm wondering if my depression is partially because of it as well. I think AF is here now but hard to tell because I've been spotting the whole 5 weeks I've had the coil. I'm not overly impressed by it so far but GP warned me that it wasn't usually a picnic in the first weeks of having it. I will speak to her about PND as well, though the counselling I received after having PND with DS1 was pretty hopeless and I definitely don't want to go to taking pills unless it gets worse so not sure what else can be done. I'm hoping that things will get better as we get into more of a routine.

We're off to Legoland tomorrow! Last time we went I had a big bump and couldn't go on any rides with DS so I'm looking forward to it.

Wow, that felt great being able to type loads! At an actual computer!! I'm sure I missed out a lot, but I hope that you're all well!

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pigleychez · 03/09/2010 09:44

Molly- Hope you heal soon :(

Cupcake- Glad things are settling down now.

Rachel- Poor little Brucie... Thinking of him and his family.

Wow at the teeth already.
Enjoy Legoland. :)

Lucy was up twice last night...Ive got soo used to her sleeping through its been a real shock. Im guessing it the 3mth growth spurt but she doesnt seem to be feed any extra during the day.. In fact she is more fussy with her milk.
Im feeling abit down about it actually ( silly I know) as DD1 went through this but it messed everything up for ages and we didnt get a full night till she was 9mths. Im dreading that happening again now, especially with a toddler to run around after as well. [yawn]

Off out for a picnic with friends today which shoud be nice.Make the most of the last of the sunshne. Thats if we can get out of the road!- Neighbours a few doors down are having a new kitchen fitted and the fitters vans are back and forth all day parking where they think fit. ie Over our driveway or just leaving the van in the middle of the road! Theres about 6 workmen and 3 vans!?
Its like picadilly circus here at the mo.

AnAngelWithin · 03/09/2010 11:21

Hello all. I'm trying to type through tears. Everythings getting a bit much! DH got on ok at meeting though it is now obvious that the boss wants him out. Though the boss above him diesn't so hopefully.... we are still waiting to hear the outcome as such. It was all rubbish!!

DD3s harness had cut into her leg and made it bleed so after a call this morning to the nurse, she thinks that a growth spurt means she needs a bigger harness so off to hospital AGAIN on monday. I got on the scales with her this morning and shes gone from 12.2lb to 14.8lb, though I guess thats not an entirely accurate way of doing it, but I can see how much shes grown lately!!

Kids have got worms AGAIN Hmm I feel so sick, makes you feel downright dirty even though all I seem to do is wash and clean! So all the bedding from 6 beds is off and being boiled, and the duvets, pillows, cushions, sofa throws are being washed too. I've got to scrub the house top to bottom, go out to the chemist, clean the matresses...

someone shoot me now please?!....

Carikube · 03/09/2010 13:10

Oh Angel poor you Sad It's all piling on top of you at the moment isn't it? At least it sounds as though your DH has got a supporter at work so hopefully his boss won't get his own way. And poor DD3 with her harness - I hope the next one fits for a bit longer.

Pigley don't get disheartened - DD2 had one night of 2 wake-ups, then a couple of nights waking up at around 6am but is now back in to waking after 7am having slept through so just because Lucy had one bad night doesn't mean it will continue. Hope she has a good night tonight.

moosey thanks for the suggestion of sausage and lentil hotpot as I made it the other night and it went down a storm.

I'm off out babysitting tonight so I need to get the girls to bed at a reasonable hour as I will need to feed DD2 before I go.

Also they have now taken my niece off her epidural and put her on morphine though she is complaining about her 'crunchy' ribs so let's hope they heal quickly...

first1 · 03/09/2010 19:44

carikube - great news about your niece, wishing her a speedy recovery

molly - i'm allergic to Canesten. Any of the fluconazole based creams external or internal bring me out in a huge rash. I can only swallow the oral capsule. Never had nipple thrush but have had thrush downstairs loads after antibiotics, and my GP prescribed Gynodaktarin which I know is specific to ladies bits, but may be worth having a google and seeing what the active ingredient is?

Had second followup with Consultant following my op today said I'm "anatomically perfect" now or will be once bruising is gone so pleased with that. Told her I'm terrified of the thought of ever having sex again even way in the future if/when I ever meet someone new as just feel so battered below. So she is referring me to a psychosexual counsellor and will continue seeing consultant a couple more times to reassure me.

first1 · 03/09/2010 19:45

molly - Just had a google for you myself, the active ingredient is Miconazole, perhaps there is a cream with that in you could use?

first1 · 03/09/2010 19:48

yup, it's called Daktarin, Molly :o ... okay off for dins now!

ande · 03/09/2010 21:04

Hi,just marking my place. Was diagnosed with severe pnd about 8 weeks ago.

Its good to read all your posts.
ande
x

mollycuddles · 03/09/2010 22:33

Oh ande. So sorry you have to deal with that. I had PND with ds. Only moderately but it was foul. Hope you're on the up soon. Have spent a lot of time at the coalface with severe depression (dh). It's bloody awful and you can't see it at the time but you suddenly waken up one day snd can feel again. Do glad you posted and if there's anything I can do please ask xxx

thanks first1 for the googling. Think it'd getting there. I was distracting myself from the pain when my wee lamb latched on by singing loudly a few days ago. Now I don't have to do that. Much to the relief of my family and the neighbours! Molly likes my singing. It makes her laugh. Crazy baby! I'm sure that now you will heal beautifully and when you meet someone amazing it will all be in working order.

Oh angel - tough times but I'm glad that dd3 id growing so well even if it's a bit inconvenient with the harness. We've had worms and nits and scabies over the past few years. Family life is so glamorous.

carikube. Hope your niece is recovering and thx babysitting goes well. Sounds brave!

Rachel hope you're feeling ok and legoland wasn't too taxing. Try and insist on some " me time" but if you need help re PND then don't deny it. I found antidepressants a really scary thought but an absolute miracle cure.

pigley try not to think too far ahead - different baby and different challenges. Hope the sleeping rights itself soon.

I'm going to bed now, feeling a bit bereft as Molls has been in her cot sleeping for over an hour. She doesn't need me any more. :(. Clearly I am insane as hoping she wakens soon so I can have a cuddle.

mollycuddles · 03/09/2010 22:39

schipo forgot to say. Molly very taken with her bumbo. I caught her smiling in it and took a snap which I put on fb. Gorgeous pic. My dad who teaches English as a foreign language at the Belfast bible college (he is actually retired but got bored so started a new career). He knows folk from all over the world and he has sent the pic of Molls in her bumbo to everyone he can think of from Russia to Korea. Famous baby!

schipo · 03/09/2010 23:48

ande - good to hear from you but sorry you're not having a better time. I have no experience of pnd but at least ends, right? Hope it doesn't last long.

Sorry that so many of us are having a hard time by the looks of things on fb etc.Sad

molly - thanks for answering re the bumbo. I found the pic on facebook and molly does look very jolly in it. We have to chose our moments very carefully, if not it looks like our baby feels really constrained and uncomfortable in it. He arches his back and shouts. Its a bit of a squeeze getting him in and out but he's about the same size as Molly by the looks of things Confused

angel - I can't believe your luck at the moment. Hope it improves soon!

first1 - Well done getting through the surgery - the counselling sounds great

rachel - Thanks for info on Dr Scholls Orthaheel - just ordered some from amazon, and, yes, where is mdm?

I went to breast clinic and bf group this week. The official verdict is that the problems I've been having are nothing more sinister than blocked ducts and nipple blebs. Nice to have that confirmed. It seems though I must have an over-supply (although I don't leak much so it had never occurred to me) and that in past times I might have been feeding the village(!). So I'm thinking about exploring about a future career as a wet nurse Grin. What a lovely job that would be.

It was suggested that I could donate milk, but I'm working part time already and can't imagine when I'd have the time to express. Memory, you were doing that for a while right? Has anyone else done it? How did it go?

I think its time to wake ds1 for a dreamfeed cuddle. Hope everyone has a good weekend

TwentiethCenturyHeffa · 04/09/2010 20:25

Ande - good to hear from you, sorry you're having such a rough time :( PND is terrible. I hope you have some help and people looking after you.

Angel - :( for you, you seem to be having to deal with so much rubbish atm. Hope you're OK.

Schipo - I'm interested in milk donation as well, but not sure how you do it.

First1 - glad the op was successful, hope the therapy is useful for you :)

DH is away on a stag weekend so have been on my own. I haven't slept here alone by myself before (and certainly not with 2 DCs) so was very nervous but seems to be going OK. My parents took us all out to a NT property today which was fab - DD got to have her first pony ride and loved it. Both children sleeping now so am enjoying a cup of tea and MN in peace!

homebirthmummy4 · 04/09/2010 20:41

schipo i am a donor but currently not donating as baby not gaining enugh weight so taking fenugreek and milk bank wont accept it,just waiting for a decent weight gain then will donate again. go to the milk bank website and it will put you in touch with a local bank, where are you in uk? they are mainly down south so north is desperate and will bite your hand off!

homebirthmummy4 · 04/09/2010 20:43

www.ukamb.org/donor.html
web site donor link for schipo

schipo · 04/09/2010 21:33

ah, thanks for that homebirthmummy
I think I will get in touch with them and see if they're interested