FEB 2010 Teeth, nosh and smelly bums - it's all go, six months on!!

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Where did the last half a year go??!

CC you're right I'll wait and see.

scones after rhis morning chores, I'm now able to rest and relax. So tomorrow I may go back to the cross stiching I started just before DS birth.

He is now able to go from seated to standing up by himself while holding to the coffee table or in the bath.

IC I also have a problem with DS 4pm nap. I can't remember which tactics you have tried but for us the only way (except driving around the island hoping he'll sleep) is to lie DS down (on in playmat or on the sofa) at that point, he'll start crying and I hold both his hands as he moves a lot and to give him reassurance and after a short fight he'll fall asleep.

I just thought I'll share this with you as winter will be there soon

Fly by due to DS2 teething..
Scones
Am I not right in thinking that companies can not make people on maternity leave pregnant without significant compensation or redeployment? My friend got a very attractive package as a result recently but I don't know much more than that. Maybe get some legal advice/post a thread on here?

Abs Enjoy..

GF get well. Asthma here too - watchful waiting with the boys. DS1 on inhalers but think it was related mostly to the reflux.

DS2: crawling, standing, starting to cruise, banging head, chewing slippers, stealing DS1's trains and eating everything we put in front of him - mayhem! Finally slept through for two nights but now DH is sleep talking/sitting up etc.. EVERY BLOODY NIGHT!!! I might put him on ebay. He does it during the long stretch (a whole 4 hours?!) of sleep that I usually get before DS1 or 2 wakes and i can't help but wake very cross with him in the mornings - much to his utter bemusement (when he says "That was a better night wasn't it?"!

Ah.. just realised my rather amusing mistake in the first bit above and must learn to reread before posting!! I think if companies did get employees pregnant then yes they should pay significant compensation!! What I meant was redundant!!

Morning all

We've been up since 6am.

bethy at ebaying DH. Good that your boys slept better. I like your 1st version of employer

Need to go for DS to walk

Good morning all - Bethylou really enjoyed the idea of companies getting employees pregnant... made my morning!... which started at uhum...... 5!

AbsB 5am ouch! I have to confess that I don't pick up my DS before 6am. It keep me sane!

Heh heh yes if they'd managed to get me pregnant I'd certainly expect significant compensation! I'd had a look at the directgov website and it seems that they can make someone on mat leave redundant, if it is a real redundancy (which this is - my job no longer exists, I'm well aware of that) and IF they can't find alternative employment within the organisation. Well, I think that is very doubtful, but we'll see what Mr HR Man says in the meeting.

Just having a cup of tea and (rather large ) slice of cake while DD has her third micro-nap of the day. They are getting shorter and shorter, and she is so tired. Better get the hoover out while I can.

Ah, micro-naps, scones, yes. DD does those in her cot. The only place we can get her to have macro-naps is in the moving pram. My jeans are getting very loose, though!!

DD woke at 05.30 this morning, which wasn't great, but 3/4 hr later and two resettle attempts she fell asleep again and didn't wake up until 07.50... Usually in that situation, she does these 20min naps until I give up and we get up, usually about 07.00.
I feel almost rested

at bethylou putting DH on ebay...

Is anyone else's DC with new teeth having accidental own-finger-biting situations?

Can I also sign in for the micro-naps? DS has 3 naps of 20mn each.

IC no self-bitting yet but my fingers have felt those 2 little teeth far too often

aaaaaaaargh??. interview tomorrow?. aaaaaaargh?.

hopefully catch up over the weekend, tho DH away in that london for a couple of days, so may not get chance! x

Good luck stoof

Go get 'em, stoof!

However, he's having his first evening winding session now! I'd rather he slept at night!

Don't be scared of us bethy {grin} I am actually use of DS only napping 20mn at the time. If he sleeps more (it rarely happens) he'll make a fuss at bedtime. I hope the night wasn't too bad for you.

Good luck with the interview, Stoof.

Scones - So sorry about the redundancy and crappy pay-off. I hope that it ends up being an opportunity to do something you enjoy more. I know so many people who ended up happier in the work they found (or businesses they started themselves) after being made redundant.

I've had two bad nights in a row after two good ones. I tried so hard to settle DS last night - he slept from 7 until 9 ok in his cot then he cried and cried even though one of us was sitting with him most of the time. We got him to sleep in the pram downstairs but I didn't want to encourage the habit of him sleeping the night in there so I took him up again and he woke and was upset so I put him in the pram again and then upstairs when he'd settled and he slept for about an hour. Then at 2am he wouldn't sleep even after a big feed so DH took him downstairs and they slept til 7.30.

I have no stamina. I really can't bear him crying for more than half an hour tops. I think I must just confuse him because I can't be consistent. Feel like a bit of a crap mum today.

Oh bc big hugs for you.

Having gone he road of semi CC, I know how hard it is, especially on us mums but in my case it did work, especially at 5am.

You're not a crap mum, you're just a tired one. Just repeat the motto: It is a phase, it will pass.

bc you are not a crap mum. They all have funny nights, and you're being a brilliant mum in trying to understand what he needs and responding to it (like getting him to sleep in the pram when he wouldn't settle in the cot). Those nights do seem to go on forever, but it will resolve and get better again, it really well. You're doing a fabulous job, don't doubt yourself.

stoof good luck with the interview.

It's Diwali today for those who are interested. I always have great expectations of Diwali but am always disappointed - being married to an atheist doesn't help, I guess! He does try, but is driving me mad today - he bought me some clothes (as is the tradition) but one thing looked awful and he went into a whole horrible defensive thing, so I had to justify why I thought it looked nasty, which only accentuated how I feel about my figure at the moment (not great, so a wrong length cardigan with a horisontal pattern was not ideal). He's had a right cob on for days now, I'm fed up of being talked to like a second-class citizen. And he's out tonight, so I'm putting the DDs to bed on my own for the fourth time in a row.

And DD2 is a bit hot and sleepy. She's been off her food the last couple of days too. I hope she's not getting something. Maybe she's finally sprouting a tooth?

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent! And Happy Diwali everyone!

watercress your DH deserves a good kick. Hopefully your DDs will behave for you tonight. Can you organise a girls night out and leave him to take care of them? It's pay back time...

I think my DS is teething too watercress. Hopefully this 3rd one will give him a rest.

Happy Diwali, watercress! At least, I hope it gets better for you. Tell your DH if he doesn't get his cob off (!) we'll 'ave 'im...

bc I SO know that feeling and also send hugs (of the unMumsnetty variety, of course) - it will get better. But it feels shit when you're in the middle of it, hey? I can't bear it when DD cries either - even when I'm holding her in my arms (but she's bawling because I'm not letting her feed) supposedly to soothe her...it's hateful.
Repeat after me: "I'm a great mum because I am trying to do what's best for my child..." (good one, watercress) and, as GF so rightly said,
THIS TOO SHALL PASS

Ace pic, GF!!

DD did her two wakes with one long resettle again last night, but slept until 08.00 again, so another lie-in, which made up for the hour or so of trying to get her back in her cot in the early hours.

Poor DH, who's been struggling with a cough for the last couple of weeks, now has a streaming cold. I'm feeling huge sympathy, but at the same time praying DD and/or me don't catch it from him. Echinacea time again.

Oh, and our washing machine just broke down. Bah. DD will have to be in disposables again for the time being.

Experienced mums - especially those who breastfed - what did you do about weaning off the breastmilk? Since DD's appetite for solids increased, she's only been taking small amounts of milk from me during the day (although she takes a reasonable amount during her night resettles). I'm kind of assuming she'll cut down feeding of her own accord (after all, I can't force her to take more than she wants) and eventually she'll more or less stop breastfeeding in her own time. I suspect she'll take some feeds overnight or at bedtime for a bit longer, but I'm just guessing. Tell me your BF weaning stories!
Also, did you start offering follow-on type milk in a cup or something? DD has water after every meal, but otherwise it's breastmilk, which I offer her four or five times a day.

Thank you! I've decided to have my own cob on to match DHs. I'm very mature like that.

DD2 has gone to bed already (6:30pm) after a day of sleeping or crying. I took her to the GP but apparently nothing is wrong, gave her ibuprofen against my better judgement and she promptly threw it up, along with what little dinner she'd eaten. At least I'd given it in the bath so didn't have too much to clean up! Now I'm hoping she sleeps it off. Poor little thing.

Oh me, me, me. I'm even boring myself.

watercress good luck with DD2. Hopefully she'll be better tomorrow.

DS has also gone to bed earlier than usual (6 instead of 6.30pm). I hope he won't wake up too early in the morning.

Rant alert!!
I'm starting to be fed up with my mum or DH telling me that something need to be done for DS to sleep later in the morning. 1stly because he goes to bed at 6.30pm because he is tired and if I was to wait later, he'll be overtired and grumpy. 2ndly he has to be up at 6.30am during the week anyway as we need to get prepare for nursery / work. 3rdly he sleeps an average of 11 hours a night.Of course, I would like him to sleep later during the weekend but as I know it won't happen I go to bed accordingly in the evening. And even if he goes to bed later (ie when we go out) he sleeps not as well and still wake up at 6 or even earlier.

Rant over

GF as you say, if he has to be up at 6:30 in the week, then it's unfair to change his routine at the weekend. Lovely pic btw :)

watercress maybe suggest that he offers you clothes vouchers next time, or he takes you out. You going to any events this evening?

We've had a odd few nights here, but I won't bore you with the details

IC since we try and limit her milk intake during the day, I let her have open house the rest of the time. She probably could be resettled sometimes in the night, but it's easier and requires me to be less awake if I just feed her. So to paraphrase, I'm no help. She is down to 2 feeds during the work day though

Moring all. Up since 5.45am this morning... I want my bed especially as I'm back to work tonight on a 7pm-3am shift. Lots of strong coffee me think

Have a good weekend

IC I just thought this thread in weaning and thought it may help with your question on weaning.

DS is having a big nap 40mn and I can't sleep as he is in the car!