Sept 08 - Our LO's are nearly 2, and they're hiding to do a poo (is it time for potty training, not until it stops this raining)

[ninja]

I started it!! (I'm going away to London with just DD1 tomorrow so I want to know where you all are when we get back.

3 toddler free days!!

DG my sister has a reluctant pooer and there are whole threads about it here - it might be worth trying to find some strategies to tackle it as it can grow into a bigger problem. Quite common tho' (apparantly I did this as a kid!) - tracking devise a good idea, or an alarm for if she goes through the gate

bec with your brother

nc soundls like my kind of child - I love reading and it's maths rather than engineering with me but ....

thanks ninja I actually started a thread about it a few months ago. Got some great advice, we cut down his milk and got him on lactulose as a result. We also give him prune juice everyday. He's sometimes fine and will go every day. But occasionally regresses and will hold it in for up to three days, by which point it really hurts him. GP didn't seem at all bothered and said anything up to a week is normal. But we know how much it affects his behaviour when he doesn't go so we're always aware of it. Expecting it to take a few more months to get over and we've got a giant bottle of Lactulose to keep things moving!

Gosh. Hi Everyone! It's lovely to see so many of you still hanging around.

Starlight x

starlight did I imagine it or did you say (weeks ago) that you were going to have a bash at potty training both your dc's at the same time? I was wondering how it went?

I'm going to try and potty train dd at the start of april at 2.6. I think she will be easier than ds who never cottoned onto it until he was 3.5. Starting in the spring means we have a fighting chance of success by the time the winter starts - can you tell I'm not too optimistic .

I bought a new handbag today (dotty p's 20% off day!). It has lots of pockets and is slightly trendy as it's 1970's satchel style. I am so over giant handbags, all my clutter just ends up in a pile at the bottom. Now I will be so organised I will forget what pocket I have stored my keys / phone / lipbalm in .

We are in the middle of potty training at the mo. Take C nappy off And ask 'whats next', his response 'potty'. Had no nappy on all day yesterday and only one accident, which he managed to stop and finish on the potty once I spotted him. Do you think I'm over optimistic to think we could be out of nappies by Christmas?

NC we did socatots for a bit which was great football skills. I really feel your pain over the baby comments, you can see why they say it but still, its so insensitive and of course they have no idea the heartache gonig on in your life.

Oh to have a child that would walk two miles! Admittedly I don't have the problem of DS being a runner, but he's not a walker either!

LOL at being into science v being normal!

meglet I'm totally with you on the April potty training. DD 3 1/2 and still bribing her to be dry...not a chance of her being out of nappies on a night. No intention of starting with DS. I think I would consider it if he was my only child and I could give it all my attention, or if DD was reliable!

DH is home which is great, but he's so tired from his trip, and I'm so tired from having the kids and entertaining my parents for the week. They have been incredibly helpful, but i've rushed around doing lots of other jobs since they've been here to oversee the kids.

A's new habit is waking at 5am, demanding his hippo/baby bear book be read to him, and going back to sleep for a couple hours. Given I can reel them off in 30 secs flat I think I'll go along with it for now...

He has no clue about poo/being wet and still looks surprised to see poo in his nappy and just doesn't get it when I say "Oh, you're pooing!" So I'm telling people that I'll worry about potty training in the spring. ("why aren't you potty training yet?" being about as frequent a question as "when are you having another one?" ... at some point I'm going to snap and tell them I'll just have to fuck MrNC more often or are they offering their husbands to help? (grrr...)

I think I find it a bit scary how like me A is - at least schools nowadays shouldn't ban him from reading if he's 'too young' but I don't want him picked on for being useless at physical stuff, even if at least teachers aren't allowed to call you a bloody spazz any more.

Time to stop thinking and just enjoy my two-year-old.

notcitrus C is just the same. She likes to run (alot - preferably in the direction of the nearest busy road (I am not joking either - thinks it's a game)) but she isn't very sturdy or physical. She's not a climber (still needs help getting into her babydan highchair) and whilst i trust her to go upstairs by herself, going down is another matter. She will walk down but only if i hold her hand but if she tries it alone, she tries too much and has slipped a few times (luckily we've always been there).

She has gone to nana's today - her toybag is full of books and one puzzle, no toys and she packed it. She would rather read or draw than anything and can now point to a written '1' and say 'one', without having seen it before (ie it's not memory of the words seen before IYSWIM).
I think it'll be lego for xmas, as she loves to build towers.

I was a book worm, still am, and not very good at games. I didn't get bullied though cos I sussed out the bullies would leave me alone if I helped them with their homework

C's also a clever devil - she was up at 4am today cos peppa Pig fell out of bed and she obviously knows I won't put Peppa Pig on TV that early, so she asked me to put the news on cos DP and I sometimes try to watch 5 mins before she realises! I suspect once the tv was on, she would have a go at getting the channel changed!

IMO toilet training is not a race. I think we'll have a go in a couple of weeks, just cos of what C says and does but if it doesn't go ahead, I'll leave it till spring. My neice wasn't dry till 3.5.

Star lovely to see you. Howe is everything?

Keep everyting crossed ladies, 11 DPO, had pale spotting 8DPO, high temps and feel queasy. 99% sure it's all in my head and AF will arrive but....... [MrsA thinks morning sickness doesn't arrive this early]

mrsa fingers crossed for you x

NC I am not even thinking about potty training til spring. Toby would quite happily sit in a dirty nappy all day. I know when he is pooing because he goes to one of his "poo places" around the house but if I ask "have you done a poo?" he always says "no". Ds1 always pooed in the same corner of the room...we called it Pooh corner!

Feel dreadful today...AF has arrived with a vengenance and I think the stress of the week with ds1 starting school and toby being ill has caught up with me

Got so much to do today too. sigh. some of it will have to get left undone.

I'm in no rush to potty train f at the mo, he will wee and pooh on the potty if we're at home tho which is a start.

Everything is crossed for you mras

oops mrsa

NC I don't think you have to worry about A being sporty by the time he starts school. I think it's a couple of years before they start to group into sporty and non sporty kids.
And I don't think boys will always get bullied for not being into sport. I can think of a few popular (and nice) boys I teach who aren't sporty.

And you're right about the reading. DS1 is in reception and is keen on reading. They got reading books for the 1st time at the start of last week and he's already on his 3rd and has gone up a stage. They are keen to let him go at whatever pace he wants to.

Potty training will not be done here until ds2 is well and truly ready. DS1 wasn't out of nappies until he was 3 and we had no accidents ever. I'm sure I could have tried it earlier but it would have involved more washing! I think years ago when we all wore disposables that took a lot of effort to wash there was more incentive to get us out of nappies before we were really ready.

Hi all,

I'm fine but pretty run down. One argument after another with the school and LA. You wouldn't believe it if I told you but we have been to hell and back. Still are but somehow ds is doing okay despite it all.

DD is just lovely. Enjoying her loads although her negotiating skills are to rival Del-boy.

She's not potty trained yet no, but she should be. I just couldn't get my act together in the summer with the impending tribunal etc.

I'm so pleased so many of you still hang out here. You feel like a pair of old socks

I look like a pair of bloody socks stark x

a pair of old socks thanks

Door's been well and truly locked today.

There'll be no potty training her until she begs me to (DD1 asked at 2.5 and was dry almost immediately)

Very proud Mum as M got het first swimming badge today - she didn't have to do much (float on her back, blow bubbles, jump in, splash etc) but she did what she was asked to do! I know I've just been got by the hype that is buy a badge .... but it's very sweet.

DD will certainly walk but doesn't like to be in her buggy unless she's really tired (and still doesn't sleep). She's an angel for the CM tho!

bookmarking...

Oh god oh god oh god

On three occasions in the last two days ds has shouted really loudly 'FUCK! Driving me mental!'

Now that is not one of my expressions. It's one of DH's. He's mortified. I'm wondering how we stop him from saying this. Do we just completely ignore and distract and not react to it at all? Or tell him off? My instinct is to ignore.

I think my 2 year old is fully programmed to cause maximum embarrassment.

digi Totally ignore I think. Can your DH swap 'fuck' for 'flapjacks' or 'fiddlesticks' . I swear like a squaddie when I'm not with the dc's (or at work) but have to use Mary Poppins words when I'm with them.

DS was meant to be going to a party this afternoon but he was poorly in the night (high temp) so he's sad that he can't go now .

Ignore.

I swear like a navvy when stressed (i.e. all the time lately!) and am trying to be more carful.

Any news mrsa....? Really hoping its a bfp for you this month!

Hi all. Still very up in the air here. 13 DPO (CD35)and temps remain high, but have dropped slightly in the last 2 days. My luteal phase is 10-12 days, so on the one hand I am hopeful but on the other, my body could be being mean.
Have mild cramps, no appetite and achy (not sore) boobs about once a day. Also got BFN today. Am convinced AF will arrive at any time BUT then with C, I didn't get BFP till CD 42 and zero symptoms till CD43/44.

Tbh, I'm scared as despite me telling myself it's early days, we can try again next month etc, deep down i know I'll be devastated if I'm not pg as I've had 28-30 day cycles ever since having C, so not only can we not get pg but my cycles are going haywire!

It's good to come on here and vent - there is no other thread i can do this on. I'm with star you lot are a comfy pair of slippers.

Oh and does anyone else's LO call daddy by their name? C has started called DP 'Dave'. He put her to bed last night and she called out 'Dave, oh dave, come here'.

And we have a real swimmer here. Went swimming today and she's always not really liked swimming as she got very frustrated at not being 'free' but she can finally doggy paddle on her own just wearing armnbands - and she was off. She swam the length of the kids splash pool today! She wouldn't get out and slept for 2 hours this afternoon. Was ace.

I'll keep you all up to date and let you know if I have any news.
(where is hopefully, i really miss her)

wow great swimming MrsA I remember the struggles you had with her at the pool when she was tiny too!

All this DPO and CD just goes right over my head, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed

I have no idea what most of that 1st paragraph meant either! Fingers crossed you'll get a bfp (I do know that one) sometime soon though.

"She wouldn't get out and slept for 2 hours this afternoon." I'm not sure sleeping in the swimming pool is a good idea really

I took ds2 last week for the 1st time since holiday in the summer I think. He wasn't a happy bunny at all to start with but decided he liked it eventually. So am going to make an effort to take him every week or 2 for a while to get him used to it again.

Oh and testing something [pom]

[pombear]

ah, got it