April 2004 Toddlers Part 2!

[Yorkiegirl]

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maybe he likes to copy all the other kiddies sitting round the table at tea time at nursery. ds gets lunch at nursery and he sometimes has not much at all and sometimes asks for seconds. So I reckon if he gets a decent home cooked lunch - I can get away with fish fingers for tea! I'm not too fussed yet that he only eats fish fingers, meatballs and savoury rice for tea - cos he always finishes it off with a lot of fruit and milk.
I'm fed up with trying him with 'grown up' food that we have - I always end up eating it myself!

dolbear - what time does he have tea at nursery and what time does he have tea at home? I find mealtimes most stressful when we end up eating quite late - I think it's when dd gets tired we have problems.

Chuffed - nice to hear from you!

HLD good thinking batnman we d have dinner @ 7 here and they must eat tea at about 4-4.30 I guess his bedtime has also got a bit earlier
from 10pm to 9-9.30 also he is missing his 3 o clock snooze and dozes off @ 5 pm rraahhh

How come he goes to bed so late Dolbear? ds is in bed asleep for 7.30pm - does he sleep really late in the mornings?
I used to give ds dinner at 6pm hoping he'd be starving and eat loads - but I think he's over hungry and tired by then. He eats more if I feed him at 5/5.30. But he does nap 1.30-3.30 and still wants back to bed for 7.30!

no , he gets up at about 6.30-7am every morning , if I put him to bed early before now he just gets up @ 4am , and I rather him up late than stupid early in the morning
I am hopeing that when he starts to go to regular scoll his sleep pattern will adjust
on nursary days now that he is in with the toddlers he is out for the count 7-7

Aarrgggh! Just wrote a really long message and it's disappeared...

Anyway, Dolbear - I was just saying (not very helpfully) - try not to stress re: mealtimes! Ds2's also doing the same thing sometimes - he's always been a champion eater but has recently started to really play up at tea time. We're trying not to force the issue and just let him leave the table and not have any tea - but also not have any 'treat', which he's used to having if he eats his tea - I think he's starting to get the message?! We really stressed with ds1 and 3 years later meal times are still sometimes a battle - I really wish we'd never tried to make him eat - it's such a control thing...

Hard though. We always let ds2 have his milk just before he goes to bed, and that in itself's really helped him sleep for much longer - he's a 7am waker now!!

Meanwhile I'm feeling guilty for teaching ds2 to say "I'm a terror!" whenever we say "What are you..?". Although I think he thinks being a terror is actually a very good thing..!

This thread seems to have died a death a bit, but in case anyone's still out there, has anyone else's April baby turned into a MONSTER???! ds has gone from being happy sunny gorgeous thing, so screamy, tantrumy thing, almost overnight, and is driving us bonkers... He's got this really high pitched scream that he uses throughout the day - no wonder I've just had my first migraine this weekend...

Hoping it's a very short phase. He's also decided not to eat anything ever again. Mealtimes have descended into hell - refusing to eat tea completely - screams if we make him sit at the table and screams if we let him down. Aarrggghhh!!

hi dot.

it's a short phase. only 2-3 years til they get more cooperative again.

dd3 isn't quite a monster yet but her favourite word lately is "no".

been all over the place lately. bulgaria (in Chuffed's footprints) and then Exeter. tried youth hostelling with the girls - really excellent, so child friendly. lots of corridors and playrooms and room to not worry about being too noisy or breaking things.

Hi Dot. Ds throws things at us when he's cross - little Chad Valley blocks for example, which are very painful!! Still not walking yet. We had to buy him walkign shoes at the weekend as his feet are too big for cruising shoes now

Hiya Dot - DS has stopped being 100% angelic and is now about 70% angelic - bit of a shock to the system!

He hits furniture or himself if he gets really cross - which is quite funny, but I never laugh!

He napped for three hours today though, so I had a sleep too - am really starting to feel tired now with this pg. Beginning to wonder how I'll manage with two...eek!

Hi HunkerMunker - dh has given us the go ahead for ttc!! Yippee Don't know if you remember but he was dead set on just the one so it is a bit of a breakthrough!!

oh, actually dd3 does hit us and her sisters. and sometimes lately throws food. she's not totally angelic any more.

Hunkermunker, you will manage fine with 2. i suggest you practise having lower standards.

though not as low as mine maybe. we had a halloween party yesterday. bought that fake cobweb stuff as decoration. was very disconcerted to find that it blended right in with all our existing cobwebs which i'd got so used to hadn't noticed they were there

maybe that came out wrong HM I didn't mean to imply you have anything wrong with your standards at present. just meant with 2 some things have to slide wherever your standards are now.

oh it's so tricky not saying things wrong on mumsnet sometimes

Fantastic news, LJ! Looking forward to hearing your pg announcement!

Mandrake, I don't think they could get much lower - lol! Don't worry, you've not offended me! LOL at the cobwebs - DS's favourite game is spider-spotting atm... If you ask him where the spider is, he looks at the ceiling

I always mean to do something about cobwebs, but I figure they're not doing anyone any harm, right?

yes LJ that's great news. what did you have to do to persuade DH?

Hi Girls - just back from a fabby long weekend in Glasgow. ds got to see all his cousins and got spoilt from gps.
We are aiming to move back home Feb next year. Dh has a new job which starts with some training in St Albans in Dec and then off home!! eekk - it was all good to dream of moving - but how will I cope with the reality!! New nursery , new house, looking for a new job!!
Plus I promised dh for No2 if we moved home - called his bluff and now I've got to put out!.
LJ - are you nervous about ttc??
House is on the market and trying to keep it tidy with ds is a nightmare.

Morning! persistent nagging worked with dh I am very nervous of tt. It took 3 months last time but I'm still a bit heavier than I was then and the thought of cutting out alcohol and coffee is not a pleasant one. Don't mind once I am pregnant but before it harder!! Also we don't actually have sex all the much (sorry if tmi - sometimes just a couple of times a month!!) so it is a lot of hard work

Well I'm about 2.5 stones over weight - if I got pg now - I'd be huge!!!
We also are about once or twice a month!

LucyJones - maybe too much information, so don't look for thoe of you easily offended.
Dh and I went out to the pub last week. We were taking advantage of the fact dd was staying with my mother for a few days. Tuesday nights the pub has a steak night, it's a quiet villagey pub and there weren't many people there. We just thought we'd taek the opportunity before we moved. We had drinks, a lovely bottle of wine with our steaks, although dh drank most of it. We toddled home. We didn't turn on the tele, we talked, tidied up put some music on and finally went to bed. Both of us feeling relaxed and happy. We had fabulous sex, despite my protuding bump. Twas lovely and dh was hummming on his way to work next day.
That maybe all it takes

Okay now, to the rest of you, you can take you heads of of the buckets now!!

on the TMI theme. try a fancy dress party. those kinky halloween costumes worked for us recently

dp made me really work hard for a 3rd baby. i had to promise all sorts of conditions. then after having the 3rd, he admitted he'd actually wanted a 3rd. then he even said he always knew we'd have 3. and recently he said he couldn't imagine us as anything but a 3 child family. grrr. he was just using it as a bargaining tool.

sneaky dh

Good idea MrsD - might give your idea of halloween costumes a miss though Mandrake!!

helo peeps - thanx for advice dot - have tried and it seems to b going better
have started to give him more grown up food like nursary and seems to b making a diff
i have nt been on a lot cos my ds has also turned into screaing nut job , comoplete with head on floor etc , but only @ home thank goodness - i think
am completely knackered bt the time dh gets home as ds does not always sleep in the day now nnnooooo !!
congrats on ttc !!! news in brief !!!
bf had a baby girl , other bf left her hubby !
oh and i agreed to leave my job as she wanted a strong charector , but not as strong as mine - great ! so I am unemployed again oh hum - maybe should have another baby instead mmmm

hi dolbear

sympathies re the boss. i am arguing with my boss this week too.

not sleeping in the day at this age - grim! does he if you take him for a walk in the afternoon? does he just take ages to wind down?

he is just completely mad !! his dad wass diagnosed as hyper-active as a child ! so I have no hope lucky he is not as bad but still just goes and goes like an ever - ready bunny I do have good support though and I have put his name on the list for more nursary sessions - for both of us we go swimming and soft play etc etc
if i don't take him out I am a zombie by the end of the day
just can not get the job situ right since ds was born - never had the prob b-4 never took longer than 3 wks 2 get a job !! i don't get it ! ah well something will turn up prob is I do not fit very well in secetery or recption and thats where all the p-time work seems 2 B - I am a sales/adnin/exporter type and those jobs r just not p/time