Dla and going on sick different benefits! Going On Sick was IB, which became ESA and is NOT EVER NEVER signed off by a GP. Nope, it's doine by someone with no medical quals whatsoever and a tick box, clearly better.
We're a working family, DH works, we'll lose much of the help we get for ds3 because ds1 is also disabled, it's unlikely I will continue to get Carer's Allowance despite being shattered all day and the only break we ever got- access to a playscheme every NT in the city gets has just been pulled due to a shortage of support staff. PIP criteria is written by idiots so that my will-never-work severely autistic son won't qualify but speech and language want to sign us off because we can understand 80% of what he says now- us his parents, not a teacher or employer. And he can't communicate pain, illness or at all when upset. I am on meds from exhaustion and a resultant breakdown, so much so I lost track today when shopping (fortunately Dh was with me as he ahd to pick up supplies), ended up losing an hour, Dh ahd Police out looking for me as a missing and apparently vulnerable person; never thought of myself as vulnerable before!
If we lose the house, our need for a 4 bed due to disability will see us in a B&B or temp Accom for a prolonged time as SW won;t sign off on a 3 bed (although we have one now) and there are very few here, that will mean the boys in foster care as they can't be in a B&B or temp accom; however that would eman DH lose his business and NOBODY can get HB for a 4 bed now, even when SW says they have to have it.....
Want to set up self employed but can't do it from home and no help available in my sector as my -ridiculously-high-unemloyment area was missed from the enterprise zones (questions were asked in the Assembly but no answers).
Can't move, reliant on 2 special needs units.
A few years ago, when we got the second DX of asd in a child within 6 months DH tried to kill himself; we're looking at a dx now in our youngest (and yes of COURSE last) and I am praying he will be OK this time. I think he will, it's easier now he has changed jobs, less work stress.
Anyone thinks my life sounds better than their job is a wanker who needs a serious look at themselves frankly. I am not unhappy- mainly the meds (!) but I adore my boys and like being their Mum, however it is not easy.
Yeah, I'm loving these times of cuts! Yip-fucking-ee!