I appreciate the effort everyone's putting into this debate. Thank you all.
Remarks like this 🔼 illustrate a little of the contempt Christians hold for others, whether they perceive that in themselves or not. It's a given that you see us all as sinners, misguided and ignorant. Your creed tells you so; it gives you a mission to offer us a chance to redeem ourselves by joining your faith.
You don't see a whole lot of atheists telling religious people they're fundamentally flawed, stupid and wrong. This is partly because atheism isn't an organised system projecting a set of defined beliefs. It's also because, interestingly, non-believers don't judge the whole person for their faith. We say things like "She's a truly lovely person, with some batshit ideas about superhumans and life after death", or "She honestly believes she's the embodiment of Good but is deliberately and consistently cruel" (cf: Mother Teresa).
We see the faith as one aspect of the whole person. Believers tend to see lack of faith - or a different faith - as definitive of the whole person.
A strong and enduring relationship with God that you build over your lifetime via prayer and study of scripture.
Most of us prefer a strong and enduring relationship with the natural world, with humanity and with ourselves. Religions mediate these relationships via a third party. Emotions, sensations, thoughts, opinions, actions are filtered and modified through the medium of a supernatural being whose viewpoint - reported at third hand by Iron Age men - overrides the viscerally lived and felt experience of being, here, now. This is why we're usually indulgent of strong faith in suffering: the detachment afforded by living through a filter may help endurance (just as hypnotherapy can). As an everyday mode of living, not so much.
That the 'self' comes second to doing God's work instead of living life purely for one's selfish ends.
This is so bloody insulting, it hardly needs a reply.