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Any secular Jewish mums--Hanukkah question

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Arabica · 13/10/2004 12:44

I'm from a Jewish background, my DH isn't. I was given a hideous, brainwash-style orthodox religious education which I hated every moment of from age 5. However, I know it doesn't have to be that way. I'd love to take DS to a Hannukah party or something similar where he can hear songs, see the candles, and maybe I can meet some like-minded parents, who see their cultural heritage as something to celebrate, even if they aren't believers and/or have married 'out'. I'm in N London.

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prettycandles · 04/11/2004 20:48

Is this definitely happening on Saturday? I need to finalise dates.

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Arabica · 04/11/2004 23:57

Yes, I think that was the date most people could do. The arrangement we made before was meeting Sat 11 December in front of Maccy Ds, then go have a look at the candles (which are going to be in front of the station) then walking or driving somewhere called Milk & Honey which doesn't sound too far away. Only thing we need to sort out is what time to meet. Have just checked the public menorah site which Kayleigh provided link for, but no timings up there yet. I'm really looking forward to meeting up.

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prettycandles · 05/11/2004 15:27

Thanks - see you there .

sleeplessmumof2 · 07/11/2004 16:37

hi gals, sorry i would love to come with my tribe but wont be able to make it unless its really early going to visit famiy, but would love to meet up another time anyway have a great time!!

lisalisa · 09/11/2004 12:04

Message withdrawn

Kayleigh · 09/11/2004 12:24

yup, we're still coming. Really looking forward to it. Haven't told dh yet though

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Arabica · 09/11/2004 17:17

Do you think your DH will be interested in coming too, Kayleigh? Mine's coming. He's an atheist but he does believe in Jewish food! Lisalisa, do still come, it was your great idea in the first place that got us to arrange this meet-up.

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Kayleigh · 10/11/2004 14:42

Arabica, yes dh will almost defintely come. He likes to join in the Jewish bits that I introduce to the boys so he knows about them too. And he's been to a couple of meet-ups with me so knows that I am a lunatic who meets up with people she has never met before. Think he finds the whole thing completely bizarre but oddly compelling

prettycandles · 10/11/2004 20:44

Ooo I'm glad that there are definitely other non-Jewish dp's coming! That will, I hope, encourage my rather shy dh. He's not terribly good at dealing with religiousness - any religion's religiousness!

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Arabica · 11/11/2004 20:05

PC and Kayleigh, it sounds like our DHs will get on famously. So that means they'll probably hate each other on sight!

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prettycandles · 12/11/2004 14:19

Don't anyone let on that I've said he's shy - he'd never forgive me!

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Arabica · 12/11/2004 22:57

Don't worry PC. Your secret's safe.
I showed DS a book about Hanukah in library today and he was completely indifferent. But I learned it's traditional to give Hanukah 'geldt' and to eat foods cooked in oil. So I might bring some chocolate coins with me and then binge on latkes.

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cori · 15/11/2004 20:39

Hi,
I have just seen this thread. I am not Jewish, but DH is. We dont have any family in this country to celebrate Jewish holidays with. Can we come to Hanukah gathering too?

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Arabica · 15/11/2004 22:50

Of course! If you scroll down a bit you'll see when and where we are meeting up. How old are your children and will this be their first experience of Hanukah? My DS is 3.5 and apart from a couple of concerts of klezmer music this will be his first experience of anything Jewish.

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Kayleigh · 16/11/2004 15:21

Have just rung for info as the website hasn't been updated. Apparently the menorah gets lit at 6:00 each night and at 7:00 on Saturdays. I know lisalisa din't want to be out too late as she has plans in the evening, and thinking about it starting to eat at 7:30 is going to be way too late for my boys.

Sp maybe we should meet up and eat first then go and watch the menorah ? Would probably be easier to meet in a restaurant anyway.

Kayleigh · 16/11/2004 15:26

and meant to say - hi cori, of course you can come, will be lovely to see you again.

yingers74 · 16/11/2004 15:30

Hello, am not jewish, my dh is and luckily for us they have been very accepting and there have been no probs on that front. Just wanted to say have a good hannukah gathering.

yingers74 · 16/11/2004 15:31

opps, 'they' means my in-laws who are lovely!

cori · 16/11/2004 17:28

Great, let me know what you decide in terms of where to meet. Eating before or after, either is fine by me. DS is 2.10. This will be his first experience of anything Jewish. Am looking forward to it.
Kayleigh, did we meet at one the watford meet up a couple of months ago?

Kayleigh · 16/11/2004 18:56

cori, yes. we met at the St Albans eve out I think.

Kayleigh · 17/11/2004 11:06

BUMP.... some more info - see my post Tuesday, 16 November, 2004 3:21:23

lisalisa · 17/11/2004 11:39

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Kayleigh · 17/11/2004 11:52

lisalisa that sounds perfect. Should we book ? If we can get a table for 5:30 that would probably work out just fine.

prettycandles · 17/11/2004 14:33

Excellent idea, I'll go along with that.

cori · 17/11/2004 20:49

Sounds fine to me. There will be 3 of us.

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