Any Witches Here? Part 7.

[speakout]

Or Wiccans. or Pagans? Or anyone who is interested in a magical path or feels some magical stirrings.

A place for support, learning, swapping ideas and magical inspiration

All welcome.

VioletCharlotte

Come share our warm blanket.
I too am in the midst of parenting young adults I know how it goes.
It is a time of transition, upheaval for both us and our children.

And new territory for both of us. Some conflict is inevitable, but resolution is where growth happens. We are human, even as parents we are fumbling along too. I know I am!

Please be gentle with yourself. You actions and words come from a loving place.

Speakout thank you. It's so hard isn't it? When they're little, we're there to dry their tears and pick them up when they fall. As they get older, the instinct to protect them is still the same, but we're not always so aware if what's what's going on in their lives. I adore DS1. He was never an easy child, he has many ASD characteristics, though not diagnosed. Despite, numerous issues at primary school, he did well at school and college. He stared at Uni in September, but decided to leave as he doesn't like the course. He's not sure what to do next, but is working two part time jobs. I'm desperate for him not to get stuck in a rut and want him to be happy and reach his potential, but on the surface he seems content just to drift. I instigated a conversation today about this, it was badly timed and I approached it in completely the wrong way and it ended in an argument and him saying he was a failure at everything. I've felt absolutely awful all day. We've talked tonight and I've told him how sorry I am and how much I love him and how I'll support him whatever.

He seems ok, but I still feel awful. Partly because I always vowed I wouldn't do to my children what my Mum did to me. And also, I think I'm finding this particularly difficult because it takes me back to a time in my life when I was desperately unhappy and alone, made lots of mistakes and did all sorts of stupid things. I think part of the reason I'm so worried about DS is I don't want him to feel like I did. He's not me, and he's doing so much better than I did, I need to stop projecting.

I thought, with all the self development work I've been doing, I would be in a better place than this, and better able to support DS. Looks like i've got a lot more to do. I can feel myself slipping down a black hole, so need to stop thinking, I'm going to go to bed I think.

Sorry this is so long, needed to get it off my chest x

Oh Violet,

It feels awful when that happens doesn’t it. I agree with speakout’s wise words as ever. Please be gentle with yourself, you’re doing your best and I think you’re doing a great job.

You’re not your mum and your words will not have the same impact as hers did on you.

One of the toughest things about parenting I think is that it triggers our wounds from our own childhood. In our determination not to repeat the patterns that wounded us we can mistake anything with a ‘flavour’ of that past with history repeating itself.

I found the best way to get round this was honesty; a view I think you share. I think it’s good for a children to see us a human. I think it was speakout who previously said that the most important thing isn’t the mistakes we make but how we go about putting them right. It sounds like you’ve done that already.

Sending love and hoping you can be gentle with yourself 💖

It’s been a busy week for me, as it has for many of us, peppered with some tense moments that I found hard to shake off.

I cancelled a family commitment today to give back to myself in preparation for the week ahead. I walked in my beloved woods and stood welly-deep in the river, ran my hands in the water, drinking in it’s cleansing energy. I took in the sunlight through the trees and admired how it sparkles on the water.

Enchanters I have a new found fascination for ferns and their fiddleheads such a lovely word! Today I noticed the different types and yesterday I stumbled across this article which included just what you were saying about their culinary uses!

www.growforagecookferment.com/what-to-forage-in-spring/?fbclid=IwAR3uD5HER3N0DauQDEW5b1duQtJOkkQRkOSFaLS_SzkiKW79riMpJFDrH3w

When synchronicity like this happens with a plant or animal, I like to look into the symbolism of it and see what meaning it has for me- so I’m about to happily fall down a fern symbolism wormhole!

For now, I’m relaxing after a soothing salt bath, re-watching ‘Julie and Julia’- nothing witchy about it but I enjoy it’s female centred fun and depiction of a woman following her dream- a refreshing change from the usual ‘formula’ we see in films.

Wishing everyone a peaceful evening ✨

YashmisCrone

Your photogtaphs are so inspiring. The ferns, monocots are amongst the most primeval of plant species, and so beautiful. The unfurling ferns display fractal mathematics and the geometric beauty of the spiral. A symbol of the divine.

Oh wow, thank you speakout. Powerful symbolism. I love the spirals and don’t know why I’ve never noticed them before- I love it that they’ve come to my attention now

Violet- I’m sure that your DS knows what you said came from a place of love and concern for him. We all want the world for our children and it can be hard to see them seemingly struggling with finding their path. However, it is his path to walk and whilst you can counsel and support him, you cannot force his direction. It seems that you have to deal with two sets of feelings here – the feelings caused by the conversation with DS and the feelings related to things that you experienced a long time ago. You are not that person anymore, and you are definitely not your mother. You will have grown in so many ways since then and have the insight to see how you might have approached the conversation with DS differently. There is no parenting manual and we all stuff up from time to time. The key thing is realising when you do and taking steps to put it straight, which is exactly what you appear to have done. Speakout and Yashmis are right – honest and open communication is the way to move forward. Be kind to yourself.

Good morning sisters.

It's a beautiful spring morning here, sunny, not a cloud in sight. no wind either so hoefully will stay this way all day.

Perfect for laundry!!

I am just about to take DS to work, then come come and make a batch of candles- today it is apple , cinnamon and gold - for abundance.
OPen our hearts to the good things around us.

Have a magical day everyone.

Good morning,

A lovely spring day here today too. I'm heading out for a walk before work, taking tea to enjoy by the river.

I had a wonderful deep sleep and can feel the spring energy in my clothes that were dried outside yesterday.

Those candles sound divine speakout what blessings you weave into your work.

Love to all and a wish for a sense of the renewal that spring can bring us 💫

Yashmis, Speakout and Misty thank you so much for taking the time to right such thoughtful replies. You'll never know how much you've helped me. 🙏💕

Today's a new day. The sun is shining. My intention is to focus on the positives, look at the little things I can do to support DS1 and not let this consume me.

Hope you all have a lovely day x

VioletCharlotte

Lovely to hear you will a positive energy today.
Like YashmisCrone I too feel the energy of renewal, and opportunities for growth, healing.

Love is the strongest vibrational energy. I have come out of some tough times with my DS in the past year or two.
And it was love that powered us through, and waht kept me going.
Love for him, but also love for myself- don't forget that one!

The bad times has deepened our relationship, we know each other better;, we have seen deeply into each other's souls.

VioletCharlotte these tough times will pass. soon it will be behind you. X

I'm also pleased to hear your positive outlook today Violet

Continuing to send love to you in hope that you can gently tend to the wounds that this has touched for you and that you're able to see what great love emits from your essence. We can feel that from here and I've no doubt your sons feel it too.

We're all human, what matters is your positive intention.

Be kind to you x

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Afternoon everyone

Violet I hope your day today is continuing to be a positive one. As someone said earlier your words came from a place of good intention and he will realise that some day, if not today.

I do enjoy seeing everyone's photos and I like the poem you shared, Speakout.

Yashmi those fern fronds are quite something, no wonder you're drawn to them all of a sudden. I love spirals in nature and will always start drawing spirals when I'm doodling in the corner of a notebook!

Spring has sprung here and the change of energy is so refreshing. I love this time of year, when Spring gets the upper hand. As soon as the sun shines it feels like anything is possible. All that internal, tightly-wound, reflective energy starts spiralling back out, reaching out to connect with the wider world once more.

Rather like those fern fronds!

I often feel the year has two distinct halves. And I'm just starting to understand a little better how that manifests in my own energy and character. Like a split personality almost! Does anyone else experience a similar pattern?

Hope you all have a little 'spring' in your step today.

I often feel the year has two distinct halves. And I'm just starting to understand a little better how that manifests in my own energy and character. Like a split personality almost! Does anyone else experience a similar pattern?

I do FitzsFool . Which is probably why I've already over-tired myself with the Spring Bounce and can't answer those lovely ladies upthread

I am loving all this spring talk, YashmisCrone that photograph is stunning, I love the way the sunlight is playing through the branches of the trees.

I have had butterflies in my garden today, I can't remember seeing them quite so early in the year.

enchanters and fitzsfool I feel like that too. In the summer I do all the things, am busy and making the most of the daylight hours. The winter, I am lethargic, and my energy for doing things is much lower.

I have meant to reply to so many posts in the last few days. It appears I haven't hit post on anything I have typed.

I am likely to have to postpone my weekend away. Just too much going on, and poor planning on my part. It is both disappointing but also a relief atm. FYI it is both mothering Sunday AND switch to BST this weekend...

Good morning everyone! Hobbling in to snuggle beside the aga and get some positive energy!
Violet I hope you are still feeling more positive today? I sympathise completely with how you were feeling my Dd1 is younger but we have had 2 days of awful meltdowns and really negative emotions and anxiety with her (dyslexia and ADD but mid diagnosis for ASD) and I don't feel I have handled it all as well as I would have liked. When she gets like that she blames her wee sister for ruining her life (basically for existing and not being a boy)and she hates us all. I broke a bit this time and showed her some videos of homelessness and children's homes and pointed out all the good things she has in her life and how much she is loved but I don't think it helped.
Yashmis I absolutely adore your pictures! Those ferns are stunning and the light in the trees warms my heart

Good morning,

I agree with a change in energy and approach with the seasons. I find the spring starts to give me a boost and I tend to achieve more ‘out in the world’ although I noticed that the introspection and retreat that the colder months engender have made me more productive at home since last autumn. Like Enchanters it’s a trick to balance my energy levels- it can be hard not to overdo it when I feel that springy boost!

I love the light through the trees too speakout I think that’s why I’m drawn to take the pictures, although they never fully capture the reality of it. I saw brimstone butterflies in the woods yesterday. A lovely dash of colour at the edge of my vision.

I hope you can get your weekend away soon Hills. Like with spell work, I think sometimes the planning and looking forward to it can be an important part of finding the vibe we’re seeking by doing the thing.

A long day for me today, the sky is blue and there’s promise of newness in the air.

I hope everyone has a good day 💫

Good morning to you all.

I am coming out of what has been a very difficult period for me. Even though I anticipated it, I have still struggled and had some very dark days indeed.

This morning the sun is glorious, there is just the right amount of breeze and so it's laundry magic for me today. I have stripped off our bed and when the machine finishes I am going to have the sheets out on the line. It is next to my greenhouse and I am going to be in there watching the sheets dance on the wind as I sew seeds for the coming season.
I feel absolutely electric this morning!!

Just checking in.

It's been a rough weekend - I've been thoroughly "outed" in front of my entire extended family. The fallout is considerable and not over yet.

I'm furious beyond words. Someone went poking around and unwrapped/uncovered quite a lot of very explicit objects. It's hard to explain a full horned ram skull on a pitchfork when asked about it in front of everyone.

Last time I'm hosting a family party for anyone.

Good morning everyone. and hoping those who are finding things tough are helped a little by the spring energy in the air

Elphame oh that sounds tough. Yoi know I wrestle with similar issues.

It's so awful to be vilified like that, especially by your own family.
They have no right to be poking around,.

People act from fear don't they, but we shouldnt have to sneaking around and covering up as if we have some dirty little secret.

This thread has given me confidence to "come out" to a number of people, but I have to be complicit in lies to protect some of my family.

It's not pleasant having to do so, but unfortunately the world is not an accepting place of pagan practice.

Elphame you have done nothing wrong, stand firm, your tribe here stands with you too.

Any suggestion of more pagan/wiccan/goddess uplifting music?
like to listen as I work, some of you have posted some amazing stuff a few weeks ago, and some have already become my favourites but I'm always on the lookout for rmore.

Suggestions readily accepted!

At least they didn't find the human skull..... ( it's actually a replica but a very good one)

I'm more angry at the breach of my privacy than anything. I'm not that secretive about who I am but it should be my choice about who I tell and what and to put me on the spot like that is beyond rude. Words will be said at some point - my father's big birthday party was not the time or place to call her on her behaviour.

Any way - pagan music. My tastes are more gothic rock but has anyone suggested Emerald Rose? This is a lovely little Goddess chant

oh Elphame I am so sorry you have had such an intrusion on your privacy.