Trouble integrating non christian siblings!

[artyjoe]

I have a few months before this becomes a huge problem but basically I am due to have my first child in January. My partner already has a daughter of 9. The childs mother is an athiest who believes anyone who belives in God/religion has been brainwashed. The problem...

I would like to take my child to church on a Sunday and as DP's DD is with us every other Sunday it is only practical that she comes with us. They have over 100 children who do various activities while the adults are in church, although obviously these will be based around Jesus I'm sure.

The child has gone home to her mum this weekend and said she has to start going to church and all hell has broken loose. My main issue is that I want to go to church as a family unit to create a sense of community for my child. I do not think our family unit should be split between those who do and don't go to church as DD is only 9 my DP would have to stay behind with her, and so my child will miss out.

Also, if her mother believes all christians are brainwashed then what impact is this likely to have on the relationship between DD and her brother/sister who will be brought up with christian values until they are old enough for themself to decide what religion, if any,they wish to follow.

Any ideas? Any advice?

Tell me about it- my poor stepchildren once had to pretend to their mother that we'd flown on holiday to Ireland instead of driving because she had decreed that we would get blown up by the IRA if we drove through (Southern) Ireland. For some reason flying to Dublin and hiring a car was acceptable, but getting the ferry (to the south coast) and then driving was not

At least I am not alone in coping with a horrible ex...we had wanted to take SDD to France this year as a nice holiday before new baby arrives. We ran this past the ex who, two weeks later, decides actually she is taking SDD to France! We are now going to stay in England and do lots of sights but are loathe to tell SDD that we want to take her to longleat as no doubt the Monkeys will be too much and Thorpe Park will be fraught with danger!

No, I should just lie low