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[Nikki76]

Any Muslim reverts out there

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Just thought i'd say hi, I am

salams,yep, am 25,muslim 9 yrs, married 1 year and 38 wks pregnant on ds,first child. Originally from Dublin, Ireland but living in Croydon, SW London.

Asaalmulikum. I think there are a couple of others around too :-) Me included! I'm 27 with DS 2.2yrs and currently 11 weeks pregnant. We used to have a revert group here in Huddersfield but it has filtered out although when I've more energy I'd like to persue that again inshAllah. Anyway JakahAllah my sisters :-)

Assalamualaikum
just thought i tell u a little more about me i'm 27 almost 28, married 3 yrs with a 24wk old son from Manchester .

Oh congrats (mubarak) on the pregnancies Hanifah and JuJuMoo

wa alaikum salam sisters, nice 2 hear frm u's and congrats on ur baby boys mashallah. We're expecting a boy ( i cudnt wait to find out,had d whole 3d scan thing done) We're gona call him Isa,inshallah, Isa Abdullah Hossain. Juju its a bit early for u to find out the sex but r u going to!? Did u guys before or are u patient enuf2wait to find out!?! Pity we're all so far from eachother, dont know many sisters here in London,esp not married/with kids. Where r ur hubbies frm by d way? My dh is bengali but raised here in Lon. Anyway salams and pls remember me in ur dua'a, i want this baby out soon lol inshallah

Ooohh

Salaam o'alikum

Great to have some responses! I'm 30, with a DS of 10mths and my husband is from Damascus, Syria..we live in Bristol at the moment and planning a trip to Syria in a few weeks time to introduce DS to DH's family

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Didn't find out sex of baby which drove hubby's family CRAZY!!!! Much delight from them when baby Yusuf was born as only boy in immediate family to carry on the family name - has done wonders for my prestige in the family!! lol

salams Nikki, haha me 2, my dh is first born and we're having the first grandchild inshallah on all sides of his fam (my older sis beat me to it in Oct with my gorgeous niece Sofia,mashallah)Mother inlaw thinks im great haha,we were only married a little over a month hehe and here was me worrying id never hav kids,lol. Yusuf is a lovly name mashallah,was gna go with Yusuf but agreed on Isa in end(Yusuf mite b next nshallah)hubby wanted "Ali" but Ali Hossain sounds a bit shifty to me. Hope u enjoy Syria, can u speak arabic? Hav u got ds circumcised yet?U cnt get it done on the nhs at birth can u? Inshallah i think we're planning on getn Isa done round 4/5 mths in a clinic,spose2b dis american technique were its not so painful or much blood,itfalls off gradually over few days like the cord..hmm we'll see

Hiya

I can speak basic Arabic and can read a little bit. The most important thing is that I can order food, so that's all I'm concerned about!! lol!!

You can't get circumcision done on NHS so hubby and I went to a Dr in Birmingham who is Chairman of the Birmingham Mosque - think its Mohammed Naseem - you can google him. He's done thousands of circumscisions and he was really good, provided cream and pain relief and had a follow up call a few hours later to see how Yusuf was getting on. I cried buckets as I'm not used to the whole circumsiscion in babies thing but now its done, I'm really pleased cos I found its a lot cleaner and Yusuf healed really well, Ill hamdu Illah.

One piece of advice I would give you is to get it done as early as poss as when they are younger, they are asleep a lot of the time so its easier on them whereas at 4/5months old, they are kicking more and could aggravate it etc.

I love the name Isa - so peaceful. We had picked out Yusuf when we first got married and it stuck with us all that time. We gave him the middle name of Nouredein as promised his mum would have middle name after DH's deceased dad if had a boy, so she was even more pleased with that!

If we had a girl, would have called her Sumayah Jeehan.....

Big congrats on being pregs within a month - very much saves the pressure of 'when are you going to have a baby' issue!! DH's family are already on at us to have a 2nd one!!! Eeek!!!

haha iud say u must be like NOT YET lol, yeah i heard d earlyr d better before walking r crawling..but I guess makes sense to get done even earlyr b4 so mobile. I sold hubby on the Isa name when I came up with Isa Abdullah (havent broke the abdullah part 2 my fam yet,will think im really rubbin it in lol)Nouredin is lovly2mashallah. If we hav girls inshallah i like Ayesha(mother nlaws name) or Asiyah or Jennah...Summayahs fab 2 but my mates'l think its after dem lol...oh yeah Sakinah,dats one we're agreed on 2. How did d breastfeeding go? Are u still doin? dont think ill last DAT long mayb 6 mths nshallah

Breastfeeding didn't go too good for me - Yusuf is very impatient and if the milk didn't come out fast enough, he would kick out in temper and cos I had an emergency c section, it killed! He would take a few sucks and go quiet, then pull off and scream and kick!! Little sod! lol

I b/f for four weeks and then just went cold turkey and put him onto formula as found it too painful. Hubby didn't take too kindly to it cos in the Mid East, they are all very much breast is best, so I just took out my boobs and showed him the scabs and the bleeding and he then shut up!! His mum didn't make too much of it when she came over but then I guess I wouldn't understand if she did whinge about it would I! lol

yeah my best mate is married to an algerian, preg with baby no6 and she breastfeeds up2 two years EEK i cudn handle dat,she just had to giv up bf her almost 2 yr old cos found out shes preg again, her hub would NOT b happy if she didnt...she says even wen she has2stop cos of pain hes like aww feed d poor child lol..she even fasts wen preg n breastfeeding. I didnt do Ramadan dis yr cos of preg, in laws thot im a bit weird but as far as im concerned we're exempt...not sure if I'll still b bf by next Ram...just gona giv it a go,have bottles and breastpump ready incase. How come u had section? How many wks were u? Dats y my sis didnt bf...so weak after section and d midwives not spose2b much help. Im dying for labor 2 start inshallah,started taking rasp leaf tea, babys head has been engaged since 33wks,more than a month ago...arghhh! My inlaws want us2stay wid dem after babys born but im thinkn oh no with breastfeeding/bleeding etc, dh has 2 bros and dad is super religious mashallah but might b bit awkward...esp seen as i think theres nothin wrong with winnie d pooh clothes,photographs and teddy bears lol

sorry 4 bombarding u with q's...but did u do the akikah? im a bit weird abt shaving babys head and seen as its only sunnah...

Hiya

I wouldn't stay with them...would be much better if just your MIL comes to stay with you - my mum stayed with me for two weeks after and it was such a help to have another woman around, advice, help with cooking etc. It sounds well harsh on the FIL doesn't it, but would be really hard with a man around, especially if you cover - even if you don't, you won't want to get your norks out in front of a bloke anyway! Plus your boobs leak etc - bit too much to take with lots of men around.

I had lots of visitors when I first came home and it was such a pain asking all the men to leave the room to b/f cos I was too sore to keep moving upstairs!

Went into labour 10days overdue and had a three day labour and wasn't progressing - apparently one side of womb had contracted but stayed contracted so wasn't pushing Yusuf out. They gave me a drip etc, but his heart rate dropped so in the end said we need to get him out and obviously I agreed as didn't want him in distress etc.

I didn't fast Ramadan when preg - preg and breastfeeding women are exempt. I think some people can take it too far - if I had fasted during preg or b/feeding I would have been ill!!

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Did Akikah via family in Syria and hubby sent them the money. Didn't shave the head though as couldn't bring myself to do it -Yusuf has such a gorge head of hair!! Plus its not obligatory. We just did the two goats thing as thats what the Prophet (PBUH) said to do.....

Am happy to answer any questions

me 2 had mad morning sickness, no way was gna fast. yeah i think ur rite abt inlaws, my mums comin to stay for 1-2 wks,well watever i ask her 2(might want rid haha) then i dnt knw after dat, m.i.l def wudnt come stay cos f.i.l wudn like it(who wud cook4im lol)We only live 15mins away in car so id prefer regular visits, Ive been thinking it sounds mean 2 but afterall its my baby so i think i shud have the say, feel bit bad cos theyve been very good to use and keep asking us 2 stay til babys born but not with my hormones and moodswings hehe. Sounds like u had tough going, inshallah u got lots of blessings for it. I do cover...kinda..but not infront of my inlaws(eventho i know bro nlaws arent mahram)im just a bit lax at mo...I wore hijab jilbab etc for few yrs and then i took it off, i think i was 2 harsh on myself 2soon...ive just started wearing scarf again last few mths...but not when my family come over from Dublin...i just cant stand d drama again yet as we get on well now and theyre great abt me bein muslim(cept hijab part), think i shud concentrate on my prayers etc first and being a better muslim but inshallah gona start covering properly soon

yeah im gna let f.i.l take care of meat in mosk r summit,def not doin the hair...im hopin inshallah Isa'l hav lotsa hair,then the heartburnl b worth it hehe

I don't cover either - get scared of standing out as a Muslim - its a really hard thing to do. Covered up in Dubai with no probs at all, but not here. Besides, my family don't like it! Mum doesn't look at me if have long hejab on for prayer as says makes me look ill....I don't exactly look attractive in it, but that's the whole point!!

Lol at FIL not having anyone to cook for him!!!

phew i thought u were gona giv me a lecture lol...wen i used to cover i looked like an old bag lady, no makeup no plucking eyebrows,jilbabs 5 times my size and granny scarves...now its a nice shayla with cute pin and normal clothes.was in dubai2 my sis used to teach in sharjah, i wore hijab there 2...must b sumtn 2 do with d local sleezes lol

What's a Shayla?

u know those flimsy wrap round scarves?a lot of young girls wear and esp in dubai, not like the triangle big scarves

Ahhh, I know what you mean...

It was quite daunting in Dubai - a lot of the women were covered so well but still looked really beautiful - eyelashes to die for and great complexions....very well suited to the hejab unlike me who got told by MIL to pencil some eyebrows in when she saw me in hejab!!!

hehe funny how kohl is halal but other makeup isnt...lucky arabs who dont need faketan lol