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spirit in my house frightening my DD...

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hollowhallows · 21/10/2013 03:41

I have NC for this.

OK, I know some people are going to think I am a crank, but here goes...

I have been aware of a spirit/s in my house since I moved in. In my family we are thought to have 'the sight' and it has been very real to me from the experiences I had growing up and experiences I continue to have. I'm not talking miracles or talking to the other side, just an ability to sense what others cannot, such as aura and spirits etc...

Because I was aware of spirits myself as a child from my own experiences, I was always aware that my children could experience the same thing. I have dealt with having 'the sight' (I don't know what else to call it, I know 'the sight' sounds cheesy) and as I have grown older it has bothered me less and I fear the things I sense a lot less. I hope this is all making sense, I usually keep this to myself Blush

Well now my DD has started to very obviously see something that is frightening her. It is starting to become more frequent and is really upsetting her. It is always in the same place in the lounge and she runs over to me upset, crying and pointing towards whatever it is she can see. She tries to tell me but her speech isn't good enough yet, but her actions and feelings are very clear. Tonight she was so upset by whatever it was that she started crying and covering her eyes so she couldn't see it. I tried to encourage her to show me what it was that was upsetting her in case it wasn't what I thought, but she refuses to even venture to that side of the lounge when this happens. This has been going on for about 6 months but is now becoming more obvious.

I am not religious, I am not overly superstitious, but this is the one thing I genuinely believe in because I have experienced it myself. I have read stories by other MN's about their children telling them they had seen peculiar things so I'm hoping to get some input on how to handle this (and not be mocked in the process). When I sense something myself, I just ignore it. I'm not sure how to handle my DD possibly seeing things that are upsetting her.

OP posts:
technodad · 26/10/2013 19:02

Advice

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/10/2013 19:25

There are no such things as ghosts.
How is that advice?Halloween Confused

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/10/2013 19:37

What were you advising the OP to do when you said this?Halloween Confused

technodad · 26/10/2013 19:41

To not tell her kids that ghosts exist - because it will scare her.

It isn't fucking rocket science.

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/10/2013 19:58

Firstly, belief in ghosts is a deeply held belief that the OP has. Do you expect her to ditch that just because you told her to?

And secondly, where did she say that she had told her DD that there were ghosts?

technodad · 26/10/2013 20:04

So, if a JW mum or dad posted on MN saying that their DC had Leukaemia, but was not going to give the DC any blood transfusions (resulting in the death of the child). Would everyone reply "bravo, you are right to stick to your deeply held belief"? If someone replied "I think you should give your DC a transfusion", would they really be out of order.

In any case. A belief in ghosts is not even a religion, it is more like a hobby.

curlew · 26/10/2013 20:28

For the sake of clarity- do I have to respect people's belief in horoscopes too?

Oh, and if the OP isn't telling her child that spirits are real, how is she going to explain the ghost banishing techniques being suggested?

Dogwalks · 26/10/2013 20:32

Friends of ours had a lady that only their young son could see, he wasn't scared just talked to her and about her so she spooked the parents out. They called in a local catholic priest even though they are atheists and the priest blessed the house. Their son unaware of what was going (3 years old)on was in the garden with his grandma as the priest blessed the house and he turned to his grandma and said "lady's gone" pointing. Take from this what you will.

technodad · 26/10/2013 20:54

Isn't it amazing how the people who get abducted by by UFOs are always slightly odd people who live in isolated place and smell of booze.

And our best ghost whiteness are three year olds.

Both very reliable sources of evidence!

headinhands · 26/10/2013 21:01

Why would atheists call in a priest on the strength of a three year old's testimony? My son goes through bouts of worrying about zombies coming up through the toilet. Have I considered calling in the local church. No. Because he's a child and has a fertile imagination.

technodad · 26/10/2013 21:04

Because there are stupid atheists too! Grin

bluebeardsbabe · 26/10/2013 21:11

Isn't it sad that these threads always get derailed and go off topic due to people making derogatory statements about people's personal beliefs and not actually answering the question.

It seems like some people like technodad relishes in coming on these threads and getting people all worked up so why even rise to the bait? Best to just ignore and keep the thread on topic.

Unfortunately it now appears that OP and people who wish to give advice in accordance to OP's belief have disappered.

Sigh.

Moxiegirl · 26/10/2013 21:16

My dd used to see and hear all sorts of things, until she was prescribed anti psychotics!

technodad · 26/10/2013 21:19

Moxie.

I hope she is doing better now.

All the best.

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/10/2013 21:22

Absolutely Head. That is why I would never suggest an Athiest seeking support contact a priest.

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/10/2013 21:34

Moxie Sad. That must be so worrying for you. How is she doing now?

CoteDAzur · 26/10/2013 21:51

"Do you do santa and the tooth fairy as well or is always real life"

Well, I come from a place where there was no Santa and no tooth fairy. Not everybody lies to their children, you know.

In fact, I'm a bit worried about how DC will take learning that Santa & tooth fairy don't exist because I have no experience of being told such stories as a child. And what will I reply when they ask "Did you lie to us all this time, then?".

AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 26/10/2013 22:01

Cote I feel sad you didn't have Santa!

DM has always told us that Father Christmas only comes if you believe in him, consequently we have never questioned his existence or accused her of lying Wink

Moxiegirl · 26/10/2013 22:01

Sorry, was a bit flippant really. She is being discharged from hospital to specialist residential school in a couple of weeks and is doing ok thanks Smile
I'm very sceptical of all woo things if you haven't gathered!!

technodad · 26/10/2013 22:08

I was asked about the santa and tooth fairy bit earlier, but didn't bother replying because there were other discussions taking focus.

I haven't had to decide on tooth fairy yet, and I am not sure whether I will bother. My DC have already said to me that it doesn't exist anyway, but they want the money, so they will go along with it! I am undecided as to whether I will pay up or not.

Regarding santa. Yeah, I have done the santa thing. But kids aren't stupid, and I won't lie to them (I want to reward them for not accepting things they are told without challenging them). My eldest said "there is no such thing, it is you and mummy" and all I reply is "if you can find me provable evidence one way or another, I will give you an extra present". They are yet to find the evidence, dispite trying to stay up all night, and setting up spying equipment throughout their bedroom. They even try to compare the bite marks in the carrot with my teeth shapes!

So, I don't lie to them, we have some fun, they learn about gathering data, and I get to eat another mince pie! All in all, a really good thing to do.

Moxiegirl · 26/10/2013 22:10

I do Santa in a very low level way, 'he' only does the small stocking stuff and we don't make a big deal of it really.

DioneTheDiabolist · 26/10/2013 22:11

Cote most kids go through a process regarding Santa & the tooth fairy. They tend to work it out. Say nothing for fear they will receive no money/pressies. Then many realize how much more fun it is (particularly Christmas) when they believed. So they chose to believe for another while, all the time knowing and accepting that it's their parents.

Very few (I personally know of none, nor have I read any threads here regarding it) blame their parents or accuse them of lying.[thlsmile)

Did you tell your DCs about Santa & the tooth fairy?Halloween Shock

AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 26/10/2013 22:16

Have posted this before but my very intelligent precocious cousin announced aged 7 that Santa didn't exist and he was setting a trap to catch the imposter.

He rigged up something elaborate involving taut wires and a balloon. Santa managed to get past his trap and left him a stocking of coal! Shock

Moxiegirl · 26/10/2013 22:18

I left a note out for the tooth fairy when I was about 7 offering to 'buy one' I really wanted my own fairy Confused

technodad · 26/10/2013 22:18

My DC slept in the stocking (like a sleeping bag) because "no one can get me out of this without waking me up"!

That didn't work either.