Sorry for being logical as I know it makes it almost impossible to deal with me...but....
Had this lady been the one to lose her baby then I think I would have buttoned my lip. However, this woman was talking about her friend. Also, her emphasis was on the current baby and not the one who died. I wanted to remind her that she needs to keep in mind the one who died when deciding whether prayer works or whether a god is responsible for how people die and when.
When people post controversial things on a public forum they have to anticipate opposition. You need to get used to the fact belief in god or even just prayer is controversial. For millenia, people who didn't like it were burnt at the stake. Before that, I suspect they were thrown into volcanoes. Now, of course, we are allowed to say what we want. The problem is, not many people feel able to say what they want to say due to the fear of ridicule, social ostracism and even physical violence. That makes talking on forums the only feasible option. That is not the fault of the 'spiteful' atheists.
Despite you not being keen on me speaking my mind, you seem to have back peddled and are now saying you're not sure if god exists or if prayer works. What this reveals is that I feel more comfortable speaking my mind than do you. You would prefer to bullshit rather than say it as it is. Your claim to want to shield the OP from my 'spitefulness' is a sham. The truth is, you want to shield yourself from the discussion because you find it too uncomfortable.
I don't want people reading online a one-sided version of a prayer experience along with raputurous applause from lots of people who, mostly, are just going along with it out of habit and fear of being true to themselves. That just spreads the supersticious mentality that keeps religions going.
Hopefully now more people are thinking hard about the conflict in prayer belief, which was my aim.