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Am fuming probably should be in aibu but

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 20:58

Next door caused that much fuss about our puppy last year climbing through the fence and doing his business in their garden and more to the point refusing to fix the shared fence so he couldn't do it, that we rehomed him.
It wasn't the only reason by far but if he'd been able to play in the garden plenty of other issues would have been easier to live with to say the least.
Well they have just informed me they are getting a new dog, not just that but one that grows to 68kg's and poo's like an elephant.
Am so cross they are either going to fix the fence when it suits them to have an animal or think that they are going to inflict the dog on us when our children had to loose theirs

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twinkerbell · 16/04/2010 22:55

wow this has the risk of becomming a bit abusive were all better than that girls. Lets agree to dissagree and talk about something fun Im gonna start a fun thread here goes.........

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 22:55

The mother was there when the child bounded up all excited about the puppy arriving, I'm sure it won't be an issue at first but quite frankly the size of the dog and the size of their house with their 4 DC's I don't believe they won't let it outside.
I know i'm worrying in advance but am dreading my children seeing/hearing the new dog.

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GypsyMoth · 16/04/2010 22:56

how old are their dc??

Missus84 · 16/04/2010 22:56

I think you need to wait and see if there actually is a problem before you start fuming about it.

Also very unreasonable for you to ask them to pay for the fence when it was you causing the problem. If my neighbours got a dog, let it shit in my garden and then wanted money from me I wouldn't be impressed.

Disenchanted3 · 16/04/2010 22:56

Lol twinker you sure are full of happy dust aint'cha?

sorry, I didn't realise they did it to your dog, but sdoesn't mean you should consider doing the same to theirs!

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 22:56

The same age as mine under 9 years and one just walking.

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Missus84 · 16/04/2010 22:59

It's not their fault you got rid of your dog either.

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 22:59

Well fine missus but then as I say it'll work both ways, we didn't ask them for the money, we told them we couldn't afford to fix it and so the dog went rather than upset them.

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scurryfunge · 16/04/2010 23:00

MMM....I hope it sorts itself out for you. Check the boundaries and see who is responsible....joint responsibility is not that common. You could always put a cheaper fencing option on your side,regardless of what your neighbours do. The important thing is not to not have friction....you have to live next to them dog or no dog.

Missus84 · 16/04/2010 23:01

Did you not consider the security of your garden before you got your dog?

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:01

Perhaps I'll give it a couple of weeks before I post the "next doors dog is shitting in my garden and terrorizing my kids what is the legal position" post, because it will happen.

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:08

scurryfunge I know and I guess this is why I'm getting wound up about it already, they went nuts when our puppy went into their garden, soaked him and my daughter with a hose, knocked the door and was quite forceful with DH, not threatening but assertive and in the end we felt we had no option but to rehome him.
But that doesn't apply to them apparently.

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MrsSawdust · 16/04/2010 23:12

It does not have to cost £2k to make a fence secure. You could have patched it up for peanuts.

It was your responsibility to keep your dog in your garden. You chose to get a dog. You chose to rehome the dog.

Your neighbours weren't at fault for your dog being rehomed. You were at fault for not ensuring the dog stayed in your garden.

Whatever happens when they get their dog hasn't happened yet.

(I truly hope you won't be posting about their dog terrorising your kids, really I do, but right now, YABVU)

Missus84 · 16/04/2010 23:13

Most people would be livid if the neighbours dog was shitting in their garden though! They shouldn't have turned the hose on, that was unreasonable too. It's a shame you decided to rehome your dog but not the neighbours fault.

In your OP you seem to suggest that fixing the fence is an option for them?

scurryfunge · 16/04/2010 23:13

They do sound unreasonable but you have to be the adult....just because they are irresponsible, you cannot retaliate. It is a shame for your children but it could escalate into something silly.

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:15

With respect we're not talking about a patch up job, it's my garden, I got the quotes it's £2k.

I'm sorry but I feel pissed off, especially when I now read on google that if their dog does shit in my garden there's very little I can actually do about it other than appeal to their better nature, if i'd have known that things might have turned out differently here.

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:19

It's certainly an option but I don't believe they'll do it, I guess I might be pleasantly surprised but that won't bring my dog back

I guess I'm annoyed because if they'd said literally only before Christmas, we're getting a dog, we'll share the cost I could have lived with keeping my dog inside for the winter but I felt it was wrong that the poor boy wouldn't ever be able to go in his garden and the kids couldn't be trusted to keep the doors shut.

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thisisyesterday · 16/04/2010 23:22

well in he OP you said that it was not the only reason by far that you;d had to rehome him, so obv there were other issues too

i agree with scurry. they WERE being unreasonable to hose the puppy, and be aggressive about it. But you chose to ahve a dog, and i am sorry, but it is your responsibilty to make sure that dog doesn't shit on their garden.

and yes, it sucks BIG TIME that you may now be in the reverse situation, ad they may NOT rehome their dog and you might have to live with itl

you did the right thing in a given situation. and if they don't then of course that's going to grate. but i don't think you can be angry with them, or blame them, for the fact that you no longer have your dog, even though i can understand why you are upset about it

MrsSawdust · 16/04/2010 23:25

I wouldn't turn a hose on you but I certainly hope I would be knocking on your door and speaking to you 'assertively' if your dog had shit in my garden too!

And I wouldn't take kindly to your suggestion that I pay £2k to secure a fence in order for you to be able to keep your dog in your garden either. Does that make me unreasonable?

Vallhala · 16/04/2010 23:26

Am I mistaken or are you speaking of the Labradoodle who, you said you "hate" and which, you also said, quote, "jumps fences to shit in the neighbours garden", was shedding fur and ruining your cream carpets, these being the main reasons you gave for wanting to rehome? The one who went to Barbara at the Labradoodle Trust and who you later said was rehomed to, iirr, some sort of a working environment as far as you were aware?

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:26

No it wasn't the only reason, but it was a big factor, if he could have played outside he wouldn't have needed walking so early (5.30am) when I was first pregnant and knackered things like that.

I just can't believe that having caused such a song and dance about ours they've a) got a dog b) got one that bloody big and c) am quite tempted to go and buy a Lion to keep theirs at bay.

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:28

Val I know exactly where he went to be rehomed and trust that he is in safe hands thank you and yes those things were very frustrating and a hell of a lot of them could have been avoided had he been able to go outside.

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Missus84 · 16/04/2010 23:31

If they can look after their dog then it doesn't really matter how big it is.

They caused a song and dance about your dog shitting in their garden - as anyone would. Don't see why that means they can't get a dog of their own.

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MillyMollyMoo · 16/04/2010 23:33

And as I've said several times that's fine as long as it doesn't then happen in my garden, we'll see i guess.
It'll be an interesting couple of weeks ahead.

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Vallhala · 16/04/2010 23:35

All I can say is that I'm glad he's safe and well. After you posted I spoke to Barbara to politely press her to help the little fella for you (it helps sometimes to have these rescue contacts and oils the wheels ). I was as sure as I could be that Barbara would do right by him and am delighted that my faith in her was well-founded. Nice dogs, Labradoodles, if a little demanding.

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