Dog I don’t want and never asked for that I’m scared of

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Basicallly I don’t know what to do with a dog that I’m scared of and don’t want in my house.
My partner got the dog without asking because his friends dog had puppies. I’ve never owned a dog in my life and first as it was young it was fine.

then the dog got older and it’s a large dog, I don’t want to say the breed, but it’s big. I’m more of a cat person although I don’t have cats atm.
anyway my partner works away. Often I’m alone with the dog and my 3 youngest kids.

My eldest boys don’t live away but they’re often out wirh friends especially at the weekend.
They do come home in the evening obviously as they’re only 14 and 12. But then home they do the dog care because I am scared of the dog. They do the feed and walk etc. but weekends from around 11am to 11pm it’s all on me.

The dog isn’t super aggressive but he’s had his moments. I’m rambling I’m so sorry I’m just not sure what to do and where I can go. Partner doesn’t listen, my eldest kids like the dogs, youngest 3 are scared but may be because they’ve picked it up from me.
i don’t want the dog to be put to spew he’s only bitten twice within the family. No where will take him when I ask and say theyre full.
please can someone give advice and options I asked on FB groups and got bad things said and even mocking of my account photos and children which were just day to day photos and really unjustified thabjs

Children should not be walking a strong dog with a bite history. Utterly unacceptable - it could lunge and hurt someone else, let alone your kid.

Woman up and take it to the vet to be euthanised. Your partner sounds like he can't be trusted to rehome it responsibly. Pick your kids over your boyfriend.

Of course you can split. The relationship is not fine if he got a dog and didn't speak to you about it first

If you've already tried rehoming and nowhere would take the dog there are very few options left.
I love dogs but in this case I'd get your partner to spend a couple of really happy days with the dog, lots of walks, treats and love, then take it to be euthanised in a calm organised way.
It's shit for the poor dog, but I can't see a good outcome from here.

He’s bitten twice? I’d give him a week to rehome the dog and after that I’d call to get the dog removed the next time your partner is out. Report the bites when you call and they’d take him.

You’re an adult. Start behaving like one. You’ve been given more than enough guidance here on how to get the dog pts. Do it. Because if that dog attacked my kids while breaking free from one of your kids on its walk, I’d be holding you responsible.

It’s seriously fucked up that you’d have that dog in your house. It’s already bitten your kids. What more does it have to do? Scar them? Maim them? Kill them?

Of course it’s got some kind of banned evil in it. Growling and snarling and biting. Get it the fuck out of your house.

Same here - I LOVE dogs, but I don't have one because I'm not up for the expense and the tie, and the responsibility. Lots of people don't seem to worry about those things, though! (Not meaning OP.)

OP, keep looking for a rescue centre.

You need to safeguard your children. This is insane

It's already bitten 2 of your children hard enough to draw blood? You are neglecting your kids OP by having them in a dangerous living situation.

Take the dog to be PTS while your partner is at work. Tell him it growled and lunged at you (seeing as it does this all the time anyway 🙄).

Another option is to call a dog behaviour expert and try to sort out his problems. He should not be guarding a room. Dogs are pack animals, and their psychology is pretty interesting. If you don't let him know that he's a pack member and the family are his pack leaders, he will consider himself top dog and that the family are the pack. I wonder if this is what's happening here. Guarding behaviours are a sign that the dog thinks he's the pack leader.

To show him that he's a pack member, not a pack leader, he should be fed after the family. He should remain on the floor or in his own bed unless specifically invited up to the sofa with a pat. He should not be allowed to sleep on or in anyone's bed, and ideally should stay downstairs. If he is prone to growling at a particular family member, that family member should be the one to feed him, because he needs to learn that the family member is a pack leader and he is a pack member.

With some expert help, you might be able to make a good dog out of him. It sounds as if he hasn't been trained correctly, which isn't his fault.

Please ask The Dogs Trust, and RSPCA. Either of these organisations will take the dog - best wishes, and good luck!

You are neglecting your children by putting thm in this unsafe position
call the rspca and ask what to do

No, your relationship isn't great and the dog is not your problem. Your partner is the problem.

He brought home a large breed dog (and possibly a banned breed or mix, by the sound of it) without consulting you or thinking about the safety and wellbeing of his family. He has then not trained the dog properly and allowed it to become aggressive as an adult, has neglected its needs and then left you to deal with it when he's working away and now refuses to deal with the issue.

He's a shit father, a shit partner, and an animal abuser for putting a dog in this situation where it's in an unsuitable home and its needs can't be met. Your bar for what a good relationship is is seriously fucking low.

You say you aren't scared of him, but you still won't do anything, so the only other conclusion to come to is that you too are choosing not to safeguard your children and other people from an aggressive dog that you cannot look after properly or control. By letting this situation go on, you are both putting the dog at risk of harm as well, if the dog attacks in public someone could harm your dog, or it could get into a nasty fight with another dog and suffer a traumatic death far worse than euthanasia at the vet.

If it is a banned breed, or you suspect it is, call the police and have it removed from your home or at least request for tests to be done to establish it.

And why in the fuck are you letting your 12 year old walk a large, aggressive dog without adult supervision? SMH.

Have you tried calling the RSPCA?

You know as the dog gets older not being given enough attention and not being walked enough that will make the problem behaviour worse.

Contact 101 the non emergency police. Tell them the situation that dog could be a banned breed.

I fucking love dogs but this one must be PTS - it's a large dog with the power to easily kill a human, which has bitten twice drawing blood, and is displaying other aggressive behaviour.

Do you feel confident that your husband will not hurt you if you do this? If you are certain he won't, it's a no brainer and you should do it tomorrow. If you have any worry that he might, you need to speak to Women's Aid and leave with your children, ASAP.

I sorry I am being brutal, I know it's not easy to even contemplate leaving a man you love, but your children are at serious risk of life-altering injury/death. As it is, living with an animal like this must be destroying their mental health, and yours.

And you need to try to understand that there is nothing remotely normal or good about a man who insists his family, including his small children, live with an animal that can and may kill them. Not to mention the untold mental suffering he is happy to inflict on you all on a daily basis by keeping the dog. What was his reaction when the dog drew his children's blood?

He either has extreme cognitive challenges, if he is genuinely unable to comprehend the threat and the damage, both physical and mental. In which case, it's hard to see how he can fulfil the responsibility of being a father in a way that is safe, so you need to protect the children from his dangerous incompetence.

OR, he has an almost psychopathic level of indifference to the suffering of others. And you need to protect the children from his malice.

Either way, you need to somehow find the courage, with support if appropriate, to do what it takes to protect your kids from the dog and the father.

The dog has bitten your children. More than once. Bring him to the vet to have him put down.

Dog has to go. It’s dangerous. If partner refuses to accept this then he has to go too.