Why are people so inconsiderate?!

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I'm sat in the back garden with doggo giving her a massage and enjoying the sun. She can see the road from where we are but it is fenced off and there is a front garden. A neighbour who is passing by starts talking to me from the gate. She starts barking and I shake my head, drop eye contact and try to indicate I can't hear and please be on your way.
Two other neighbours appear and the three of them start chatting right outside my front gate. Dog is barking and clearly wants them to leave. It's a public road but if they'd just walk a couple of yards up the street, all would be fine.
I go in and get her her treat dispenser, they carry on chatting completely oblivious (allegedly - not sure how they missed my dirty looks).
The couple move on and the male neighbour comes in to my front garden, right up to the fence, dog jumps up barking, he asks me a question, I tell him my dog is stressed and I need to look after her.
Happily he goes away but ffs! Are people oblivious, do they just not give a shit, obtuse? Or is it that I have every right to stand wherever I like on a public road type mentality?
The couple in question don't have their own dog but sometimes walk their adult kids' dogs. I call them the bulldozers because they just walk. Don't stop for the dogs to sniff, are totally unaware what is around them. The other day we were walking up a lane and they were behind and i was keeping my dog moving. A woman with two reactive terriers was coming towards us. I took my dog down a side lane a little to let her pass. There was loads of room, it is a wide lane. They bulldozed right into her causing all three dogs to react. Why? Why be so fucking inconsiderate?
I'm moving and can't fucking wait!

Maybe your neighbours don't care about your dog barking. They are in a public place chatting, as they are entitled to be. Maybe you should quieten your dog.

What a lot of fuss you're making about a dog.

Blimey.

If they were bothered by noise they would move. They are not bothered.

It's is a public street isn't it?

I wouldn't enter my head to move either. As long as I could hear the person I was talking to.

Well that's cleared up a mystery for me: it clearly is about entitlement and not giving a shit about anybody else.

It wasn't only in a public place btw, one neighbour came into my garden!

And if you can't show a little consideration to an elderly woman walking two reactive and scared terriers, (as well as her dogs and your own), you shouldn't be walking a dog in the first place.

Youre being a bit precious. Dogs don't just bark because they're stressed, how are people to know?

Next door has a cute little dog, but she's feisty and territorial (but harmless). If she's outside and hears any movement she'll start barking like "who goes there!? Get off my land!" but she's not upset.

You sound rude!

I know my dog and know it was impacting her negatively.
The man who came into the garden has a strange energy and she picks up on it.
She is a Rommie rescue and has witnessed some horrific things I'm sure as well as having had some horrific things done to her.
If wanting the best for your dog is being precious, then i'm happy to be so.

I also want the best for other dogs as my post illustrates.

Rude? How so?
For making space for a lady with two reactive terriers as opposed to bulldozing into them causing all three dogs to react?

That would drive me nuts, I hate dog owners who let their dogs bark in the garden without a thought to the neighbours.

Because someone tried to talk to you, and you blanked her.

The words you were looking for were ‘I’m sorry, the dog means it’s not a good time to talk - see you soon!’.

And then people did something perfectly legitimate, and you gave them dirty looks.

The man should not have come into your garden uninvited but you are being a bit weird about the other stuff

So, one poster says the neighbours don't care about the dog barking.
And now says I've driving people nuts by her barking in the garden.
She barked as a reaction to the man trying to talk to me at my gate.
I went to get her a treat dispenser to distract her.
Are you saying that she should never be in the garden in case someone wants to chat on the street outside my gate?

I would think it best that you don't expose your dog to these situations if you know they are stressful. These are ordinary situations. People passing by. People coming to your house. People chatting nearby... You need to support your dog by gradually exposing her to stresses- not expecting everybody else to somehow know your dog is stressed and expecting them to change their own perfectly acceptable behaviour.

As a dog owner myself, of a dog who barks when people come into the garden, I think you're being ridiculous.

It was a man who tried to talk to me. I didn't blank him. I indicated that I couldn't talk as I was trying to calm my dog. He would not have been able to hear me anyway and shouting would not have been beneficial to the situation.

Chatting outside my gate is legitimate but inconsiderate. I gave a dirty look to try to indicate them that it would be helpful if they moved a couple of yards up the street. They were going that way anyway.

Please explain to me how it is weird to allow a woman with two scared dogs to pass by without incident rather that bulldozing into them causing all three dogs to react.

He came in uninvited! That is not normal or acceptable.
And it is not normal for people to chat right outside my garden gate, it is a quiet street.
Funny how people are concentrating on the one part of my post where they feel they can have a go.

You need to support your dog by gradually exposing her to stresses- not expecting everybody else to somehow know your dog is stressed and expecting them to change their own perfectly acceptable behaviour.

Agree.

Chatting outside my gate is legitimate but inconsiderate. I gave a dirty look to try to indicate them that it would be helpful if they moved a couple of yards up the street. They were going that way anyway.

Tbh this sounds as if you expected them to be telepathic.

She doesn't bark at people going by btw. I was massaging her, she was very calm!

Ok, I think I'll just pop into people's gardens randomly from now on. It's clearly the done thing.
Not telepathic no. Considerate yes. I am clearly stupid for thinking that people have any consideration for dogs or people.

Not telepathic no. Considerate yes. I am clearly stupid for thinking that people have any consideration for dogs or people.

"A dirty look" = it would be helpful to walk on up the street

err🤷‍♀️ not unless the recipients were mind readers

Ok, I think I'll just pop into people's gardens randomly from now on. It's clearly the done thing.

Didn't he ask you a question? Isn't that why he came in🤷‍♀️

Sorry but you are being obtuse, sunglasses, but go you!
Obtuse and I can only surmise that you too are an inconsiderate person. Hey ho.

You sound as stressed as your dog apparently is!

You’re rude. Ignoring people, giving them dirty looks and getting stressed that someone is “inconsiderate” enough to talk outside your gate is not normal behaviour.

Expecting people to prioritise your dogs and other dogs is weird. They haven’t done anything wrong

This... Wtf is this thread about?!

It was a question he could have asked at any time. Or he could have not asked it. It is nothing to do with him. He was just being nosey.

I am happy to chat to him but not if it is having a negative impact on my dog. I want the best for her. Shameful I know.