Why are people so inconsiderate?!

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I'm sat in the back garden with doggo giving her a massage and enjoying the sun. She can see the road from where we are but it is fenced off and there is a front garden. A neighbour who is passing by starts talking to me from the gate. She starts barking and I shake my head, drop eye contact and try to indicate I can't hear and please be on your way.
Two other neighbours appear and the three of them start chatting right outside my front gate. Dog is barking and clearly wants them to leave. It's a public road but if they'd just walk a couple of yards up the street, all would be fine.
I go in and get her her treat dispenser, they carry on chatting completely oblivious (allegedly - not sure how they missed my dirty looks).
The couple move on and the male neighbour comes in to my front garden, right up to the fence, dog jumps up barking, he asks me a question, I tell him my dog is stressed and I need to look after her.
Happily he goes away but ffs! Are people oblivious, do they just not give a shit, obtuse? Or is it that I have every right to stand wherever I like on a public road type mentality?
The couple in question don't have their own dog but sometimes walk their adult kids' dogs. I call them the bulldozers because they just walk. Don't stop for the dogs to sniff, are totally unaware what is around them. The other day we were walking up a lane and they were behind and i was keeping my dog moving. A woman with two reactive terriers was coming towards us. I took my dog down a side lane a little to let her pass. There was loads of room, it is a wide lane. They bulldozed right into her causing all three dogs to react. Why? Why be so fucking inconsiderate?
I'm moving and can't fucking wait!

OP the man wanted to ask you a question. You believe he was inconsiderate. What could he have done differently?

PR, please tell me you haven't got a dog? Pleeease???!!!

I have a dog ,it would not even enter my head to modify my behaviour on a public street just in case there was a dog in the vicinity that I offended .

No not being 'obtuse' it's just called a 'different opinion.'

And if that's your summary from a few lines of innocuous text hey ho.

And it kind of explains why all the other people in your OP are also inconsiderate, obtuse and all the rest. Rather than it being a misunderstanding.

And tbh from your aggressive answers you sound like you're spoiling for a fight.

I think we need a diagram 🤔

You do sound very stressed.

Is it really just because 3 people stood outside chatting and misunderstood your dirty looks?

And I have a dog for the record.

Ok, let's take it down a notch.
I'm genuinely interested as to why you would not Brandnewwoman.
You are presumably a dog lover. You are disturbing a dog and impacting negatively on her. You can stop that at no cost in any way to yourself.
Why would you not?
It's just about being aware surely. Showing others consideration. Isn't this world shit enough already. Can we not make it a little better for everyone?
I've already demonstrated that the couple are inconsiderate/unaware/whatever. How else do you explain the incident with the terriers?

I have a dog. She’s pretty chill. Probably because I’m capable of using my grown up words and actions and don’t rely on “dirty looks” to convey a message that is apparently absolutely critical to the well-being of your dog but which you are unable to articulate in a way that would make your concern understood

I just don't understand what the people did wrong? Why didn't you just put your stressed out dog inside while you spoke to the guy? I am just madly confused

It was on top of the incident with the terriers. The fact that they just bulldoze their way through walks without an ounce of consideration for anyone else.

Not looking for a fight. Just amazed at people's lack of consideration. And yes, I suffer from stress and it's not much fun but I do my very best to not be stressed around my dog or to expose her to stress as it's the least she deserves.

You are presumably a dog lover. You are disturbing a dog and impacting negatively on her. You can stop that at no cost in any way to yourself.
Why would you not?
It's just about being aware surely. Showing others consideration. Isn't this world shit enough already. Can we not make it a little better for everyone?

They didn't understand? They are clueless. ( as you keep pointing out re terriers ) They misunderstood your 'dirty looks' They're not telepathic enough to know what you really wanted.

God alive isn't this world tricky enough without you creating a storm in a tea cup.

All walks btw. Many incidents. Don't take time to introduce their kids' dogs to others and then let them off lead in the park. Two big greyhounds.

The dog got a bad energy from the talking guy though due to being Romanian.

If it's such a storm in a tea cup why are you wasting your time replying?

If your dog was being so negatively impacted surely the kindest thing to do would have been to take your dog indoors. You cannot control who stands outside your house on a public highway.

If it's such a storm in a tea cup why are you wasting your time replying?

I can waste my time how I like.

Sorry OP, but why don't you train your dog to stop barking at people who are not inside the property? And stop barking to people who acknowledges you and you reply?
This should be an obvious sign for your dog to be attentive, but friendly.
And, can you not get your dog to stop barking at command?
It sounds to me like you need further training to be honest.

Look no one knows your dog as well as you.

People will he generally meet lots of dogs in a given period and don’t know (or care) if it’s stressed or happy, wanting to play or tired. They have no clue if it barks all day long, or just at visitors.

So unless you tell someone that they’re causing your dog an issue they won’t know.

Now realistically if you announce that your dog is stressed because they’re chatting on a public pavement that is going to raise an eyebrow. So if that’s the route you’re planning I’d suggest starting from the point that you are being entitled not them.

Anyhow I was asking you sunglasses. You said you wouldn't think to make a simple adjustment if you were upsetting a dog.

PR - you weren't here. You don't understand the situation. As I have said, the man wouldn't have heard. It's really not very nice to call somebody childish just because they got annoyed because other people are inconsiderate.
I had no desire to speak to the man, he was just being nosey.

Anyhow I was asking you sunglasses. You said you wouldn't think to make a simple adjustment if you were upsetting a dog.

No you're confused. I didn't say that.

I was massaging her. We were enjoying the sun. A nosey neighbour and two inconsiderate neighbours annoyed me. My real error was posting here.

PR, if it makes you happy then call me entitled. But bulldozing your way through dog walks is way way more entitled.

You're right. You didn't. A simple mistake for which I apologise.

You sound insane. I wouldn't even consider not standing somewhere for a chat because a dog was barking. It's your responsibility to remove your dog from stressful situations if you really feel it's needed.

Also you are really rude with the 'dirty looks'.

If you are in a situation where people are not behaving as you want them to you either use your words to explain to them what you need, or you remove yourself. Relying on dirty looks and telepathy won’t work.

All it took was for you to say something along the lines of "Sorry my dog's a bit upset and anxious, I'm going to take her inside, we'll talk another time. Bye."
How the hell do you expect other people to know the history and behaviours of your precious dog? Giving dirty looks isn't going to explain anything. Get a grip and understand that your dog isn't the centre of everyone else's world.