Why are people so inconsiderate?!

[coticsouledout]

I'm sat in the back garden with doggo giving her a massage and enjoying the sun. She can see the road from where we are but it is fenced off and there is a front garden. A neighbour who is passing by starts talking to me from the gate. She starts barking and I shake my head, drop eye contact and try to indicate I can't hear and please be on your way.
Two other neighbours appear and the three of them start chatting right outside my front gate. Dog is barking and clearly wants them to leave. It's a public road but if they'd just walk a couple of yards up the street, all would be fine.
I go in and get her her treat dispenser, they carry on chatting completely oblivious (allegedly - not sure how they missed my dirty looks).
The couple move on and the male neighbour comes in to my front garden, right up to the fence, dog jumps up barking, he asks me a question, I tell him my dog is stressed and I need to look after her.
Happily he goes away but ffs! Are people oblivious, do they just not give a shit, obtuse? Or is it that I have every right to stand wherever I like on a public road type mentality?
The couple in question don't have their own dog but sometimes walk their adult kids' dogs. I call them the bulldozers because they just walk. Don't stop for the dogs to sniff, are totally unaware what is around them. The other day we were walking up a lane and they were behind and i was keeping my dog moving. A woman with two reactive terriers was coming towards us. I took my dog down a side lane a little to let her pass. There was loads of room, it is a wide lane. They bulldozed right into her causing all three dogs to react. Why? Why be so fucking inconsiderate?
I'm moving and can't fucking wait!

Entitled. Insane. What a charming bunch of people.

We simply think differently Holly60. I consider you rude.

For the last time - they wouldn't have heard me. That loud enough for you???!!!

I really don't think you should have dog, OP. You are stressed, this makes the dog stressed and you are far too highly strung to manage your own dog appropriately.

You sound very precious , however I suggest that you put a sign outside your house that says ‘please do not stop here as it offends my dog ‘ , that should do the trick .

I think you need to relax a bit OP. There are inconsiderate people everywhere. Maybe they think you’re in the wrong for your dog barking. Two sides to a coin. Hopefully you will never encounter inconsiderate people after you move, but chances are you will. You lost me at the filthy looks part. I don’t give filthy looks to all dog owners who let their dogs jump up/approach me on my push bike even though that’s scary to me. I don’t give filthy looks to everyone whose dog is off the lead even though my son is genuinely terrified of dogs and they shouldn’t be off lead full stop if they approach people. Life is just too short. Not everyone likes dogs, but everyone is entitled to exist together. A dog barking would freak my son the hell out, so we would move. But we shouldn’t have to, in a public space.
I hope your move goes well and you love your new area. :)

For the last time - they wouldn't have heard me. That loud enough for you???!!!

But turns out they weren't telepathic either. But you seem to hold that against them.

The sign sounds a great idea. Clear communication.

I really think you should mention the Romanian aspect on the sign, for context.

Rude? How so?

Erm well this...

She starts barking and I shake my head, drop eye contact and try to indicate I can't hear and please be on your way.

Was really a bit rude, wouldn't it have been easier to go over to the neighbour and say "hi! So sorry we're still training doggo as he's nervous" then ask them what you needed them to do?

Being friendly costs nothing.

Then sitting in the garden shooting them evils because they dared to hold a conversation outside your house.

Such simplistic thinking raspberry. Amazed how you can make such as assessment with so little info. Reported for a personal attack.

Thanks Vallmo47. We think differently but thanks for a nice message.

My next door neighbour has a dog who barks whenever I’m in my garden, should I stay in the house to avoid upsetting it?

Why don't you try speaking to your neighbours instead of expecting them to read your mind.

Your facial expressions are clearly not effectively communicating your wishes.

Talk to them. Explain what the issue is.

Such simplistic thinking raspberry. Amazed how you can make such as assessment with so little info.

That's what I thought when you announced I was inconsiderate and obtuse - after I pointed out the neighbours weren't telepathic. 😁

No islandescape. that would clearly be unreasonable and you have posted to have a go. What a pleasant person you must be.
sunglasses to just in it for the pile on.

Happily, have better things to do. Account about to be deleted. Talk amongst yourselves.

I know I was rude. Do you?

Most batshit crazy thread I have read in a long time .

What a pleasant person you must be.
sunglasses to just in it for the pile on.

Well I have been discussing the situation that you posted the OP about🤷‍♀️ You clearly don't like another opinion.

I can see you like to dish it out though and have been very combative and aggressive from the outset. I stand by my initial feeling that you are spoiling for a fight. And certainly no one agrees with your OP.

Perhaps it works for you to get rid of stress this way - maybe that's the point. And you return to your dog totally chilled out. I hope so.

I can't see giving him a stress free atmosphere if you are buzzing like this around him though.

A big sign saying ‘dog massaging in process do not disturb’ should do the trick in future. No dirty looks or conversion with neighbours you clearly feel are below you required.

Surely this isn't real

What's you be elderly got to do with anything?
Seek help.

I don't think shaking your head and dropping eye contact froma distance really conveyed the message you wanted. From a distance I would have thought it was quite a rude dismissal, not saying you were being rude to not want to talk when you were in your back garden relaxing but it might have come across that way

Maybe you need to put up a proper fence so you can enjoy your back garden without people walking past the front and stopping to talk to you or worrying your dog?

This thread is hilarious!

Oh god it’s always a bloody rescue.

@coticsouledout - if they have greyhounds, it is highly likely that they cannot let them off the lead to play with other dogs. Greyhounds are sight hounds and will see something to chase and take off at warp speed, and won’t bother to stop for roads or any other hazards. Even if they have reasonable recall (in their own garden, for example) that will not help if they see something to chase - instinct takes over, and they head for the wild blue yonder, giving not one single fuck about the owner panting along behind them. Think “Fenton - for God’s sake Fenton” but with a dog that has a much higher turn of speed than a Labrador.

Ds1 and his dw have a retired racing greyhound and a whippet - both sight hounds - and while the whippet can sometimes be let off the lead, with care and in certain circumstances, the greyhound simply can’t.

Popcorn, anyone?

Yes please! I’ll bring and .

The op has a writing style very similar to another poster who usually ends up getting deleted by MN.