Why are people so inconsiderate?!

[coticsouledout]

I'm sat in the back garden with doggo giving her a massage and enjoying the sun. She can see the road from where we are but it is fenced off and there is a front garden. A neighbour who is passing by starts talking to me from the gate. She starts barking and I shake my head, drop eye contact and try to indicate I can't hear and please be on your way.
Two other neighbours appear and the three of them start chatting right outside my front gate. Dog is barking and clearly wants them to leave. It's a public road but if they'd just walk a couple of yards up the street, all would be fine.
I go in and get her her treat dispenser, they carry on chatting completely oblivious (allegedly - not sure how they missed my dirty looks).
The couple move on and the male neighbour comes in to my front garden, right up to the fence, dog jumps up barking, he asks me a question, I tell him my dog is stressed and I need to look after her.
Happily he goes away but ffs! Are people oblivious, do they just not give a shit, obtuse? Or is it that I have every right to stand wherever I like on a public road type mentality?
The couple in question don't have their own dog but sometimes walk their adult kids' dogs. I call them the bulldozers because they just walk. Don't stop for the dogs to sniff, are totally unaware what is around them. The other day we were walking up a lane and they were behind and i was keeping my dog moving. A woman with two reactive terriers was coming towards us. I took my dog down a side lane a little to let her pass. There was loads of room, it is a wide lane. They bulldozed right into her causing all three dogs to react. Why? Why be so fucking inconsiderate?
I'm moving and can't fucking wait!

Yep I'm thinking about the whole ' dog massage' thing. 🤣

Maybe chatting neighbours were over the fence going "WTF! What is ole coticsouledout doing? "

Love this thread 😂

I'm an old timer on mums net.. do we still use the word flounce?? Recently came back after a long MN break

I agree with this.

All sounds completely ridiculous

Well, the fact you give your dog massages makes me think you're a bit OTT in the first place. The world does not resolve around your dog. You and it have to rub along with everyone else. You don't get control where people have public chats! It's up to you to distract and get your dog in the house. Stop being so selfish

They have every rite to chat on whatever public place they want it’s not there problem you can’t control your dog. If your dog was stressed you should have taken it in not expected hun and to leave a public place . You sound nuts & very entitled 🤣

They don't, that's why you don't walk strange dogs right into the space of dogs you don't know.

The dog massage could have been tellington t-touch which is a therapy used to calm and help behaviour in dogs.

I've used it before and it has good results.

I'm sure the responses would be entirely different if someone was posting that neighbors chatting outside their house made their kid meltdown. In that case posters would be telking thr op to go out and request the neighbours don't stop outside her house 🙄🙄🙄

Nonsense! You can walk a normal dog anywhere you like. If you have reactive dogs, it's your responsibility to not let them into a situation where they will react.

Not for me, if my kid was melting down outside no matter the situation, he'd be taken inside to calm down. No one needs to hear that.

Heh heh…what a deliciously bonkers OP. I’d think it was a wind-up but I work with a similarly self-absorbed dog person and know such people exist.
I like dogs and don’t particularly care about them barking. I’d chat on the street and ignore one too.
Love that the OP thinks the onus is on the neighbours to move rather than just putting the dog in or whatever. Get in the sea.

You are extremely bizarre!
people can stop anywhere they like on a public road to chat, they don’t have to move in just because it’s upsetting your dog, how entitled you are!! If it bothers your dog that much, take him inside! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣☹️

😂😂😂

So you'd walk your dogs right into the space of say a chow-chow or sharpai for instance, that you didn't know, because the owner should not let them react? Good luck with that then 👍🏼

I wouldn't walk my dogs into the space of any dog I didn't know. And anyone that would shouldn't have dogs.

Reactive dogs need to be walked in spaces where there are other people and dogs otherwise they won't desensitize or be trained how to behave or gain any confidence.

It's normal consideration not to bring unknown dogs into any other dogs face.

What do you think the yellow lead project is all about?

I'm sure the responses would be entirely different if someone was posting that neighbors chatting outside their house made their kid meltdown. In that case posters would be telking thr op to go out and request the neighbours don't stop outside her house 🙄🙄🙄

Well some posters did suggest that OP did just ask the neighbours to move on a bit. The issue seemed to be expecting the chatters to be reading OP's mind.

I love dogs but your behaviour is nuts.

*The dog massage could have been tellington t-touch which is a therapy used to calm and help behaviour in dogs.

I've used it before and it has good results.*

Excellent. I wonder why OP did it in her front garden?

And without a sign on the gate that said

Move Along Please. Reactive Dog. Massage in Progress.

I thought ‘who goes into the front garden to massage the dog?’ but then considered myself uncharitable, as why not?
It did conjure up a snort-worthy image though.

There is a post every sodding week on MN about reactive dogs, yellow leads, other owners letting their dogs off lead etc.

Me and DH were walking our well trained, non reactive dogs and for a few minutes stood chatting, watching the dogs muck about together, when we heard "Can you move your dogs please?".

Turns out someone with a very reactive dogs was waiting at the edge of the field and wanted to "get past".

We recalled our dogs and went on our way.

It's fucking nuts though. Why wasn't her dog wearing a muzzle? Why was it our responsibility to move?!

One of our dogs is a rescue too before I'm told I don't understand.

I genuinely wonder if it's the owners who should be wearing the yellow lead instead of the dog (who would have just been put in a muzzle before lockdown and got on with it).

Clutching at a straw here, @Minimalme, but at least they asked reasonably politely - and used their words, unlike the OP who expected people to read her mind.